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HornyRetiree Mentor

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I always send pic and stats - I have seen and selected then from their ad presenation with their pictures. Why wouldn't I provide the same courtesy?

 

PLUS, if they feel they wouldn’t be comfortable spending time w/ me, WHY would I ever want to be w/ them.

 

FYI, I am 70, 5’ 10, (age shrink from younger 6’1”) 240# with some decorative abdominal scars:) average cut

 

Those I select are young and slender and they have all been able to perform exactly as if I was the dreamboat they successfully cruised and connected with.

 

WHY WOULD I EVER want to spend time with someone who couldn’t or didn’t want to interact with me? As others have said, providers are human too - not machines - everyone is not for everyone!

 

There are still a few members here that I am waiting for schedules and physical locations to allow our meeting. Enough communication has already happened so “vetting” LOL is done.

 

And yes, they are decades younger than I am and slender and HOT:)

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LAdude424 Experienced

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Read about 65% of this thread. For me it's simple. Both parties in any interaction get to set the terms theyre comfortable with.

If a provider asks for stats and pics - that's their terms. If those terms don't work for you, say "Sorry that doesnt work for me" and move on. Done.

I'm a bit surprised at the number of people here who feel the provider doesn't have the right to decide for himself how he'll choose to meet clients.

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Read about 65% of this thread. For me it's simple. Both parties in any interaction get to set the terms theyre comfortable with.

If a provider asks for stats and pics - that's their terms. If those terms don't work for you, say "Sorry that doesnt work for me" and move on. Done.

I'm a bit surprised at the number of people here who feel the provider doesn't have the right to decide for himself how he'll choose to meet clients.

I am not sure that anyone is questioning the rights of a provider. I would agree with you 100%. My understanding of what I read was that providers who do not asked for stats have provided most excellent service and that some people do not want to provide stats and pictures for reasons of their own. Therefore, they skip over those providers. Providers who do require stats and or pictures have a niche of their own and do well. I think the general consensus is to each their own. If a provider wants stats and or pictures, the client should comply or move on and most importantly respect the wishes of the provider.

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I can only remember being asked to send a photo once. Straight identified male requested it. Location was NYC. Made me super, super uncomfortable for a variety of reasons. Regardless of my concerns, I chose to send them. My choice to comply. I really wanted to meet him. Insanely beautiful man. Definitely not a cheap date. Would very much like to spend time with him again. Simply hasn’t worked out that way. Glad this thread came up. Caused me to remember him. Hope I can track him down. Doesn’t advertise.

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This is a living for these guys,their source of income,they are their own bosses and they get to do this how they want,I don't really want to send a face pic to someone I never met before,but I just give up and move on if it doesn't seem like a good match,its probably best to find someone where you both feel comfortable around each other anyway,so if you don't like someone's screening methods,you probably weren't going to have a good time with them anyway

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Yes, @

 

Yes, [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] but your age criteria for younger is far different that asking for a picture, limiting clients by weight, limiting clients by look, limiting clients over a certain age. You except all and do not discriminate by physical appearance. I think this OP is directing this post to those type of escorts. If a client hires you, you provide the exact same service no matter their physical characteristics. I tend to find that escorts who do not discriminate based on physical characteristics provide the best service. You a prime example. You may limit youngers to reduce fakers but you do not create the atmosphere of uncomfortability by discriminating by physical characteristics.

I guess if clients make choice as to which escorts they go for then to an extent escorts can make choice for whom they want to meet. For better experience it is must that to an extent mutual compatibility is good. What if the client meet and the escort doesn't deliver. Now whom to blame? To prevent bad reviews, escorts may excercise their ability to choose clients. Well there are many many boys to meet!

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Do you have a link or research on “cops” collecting and using client info like this? First I’ve ever heard of cops asking for a picture first.

No- just saying if it was cops running a sting operation - which there IS lots of evidence occurs- you are volunteering your photo as a first thing.

 

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youngboldone Rising Star

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There was just a big sting in Columbus a few days ago. They busted 27 local men through an ad posted in Backpage. Who's to say they won't start employing those tactics on RM?

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No @MikeBiDude I think maybe you missed the point. I was saying- responding to a random escort ad with your face photo (unsolicited at that) seems like it may not be a smart tactic in the off chance you are walking into something like a sting. The same logic follows that texting from your actual phone number, providing your real name, or paying with a credit card are also very bad ideas. But I'm pretty sure you get the concept which is why YOUR face pic isn't your avatar here.

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Do you have a link or research on “cops” collecting and using client info like this? First I’ve ever heard of cops asking for a picture first.

Also- nobody said the cops were asking- my message was in response to someone who VOLUNTARILY just sends his face photo to an escort he's never met. Keep up, dude.

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sexymonk Mentor

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The police thing might be a valid point. Even escorts wanting to make sure the John is not a fake or scam. But the idea that this should be like tinder or grinder is what vexes me.

Goosh, I understand your concern. However, it is all about supply of clients, financial goal, popularity of these boys. Just how a popular actor makes choice for films and can reject a script, so are these boys too who make choice for their clients! However, there are plenty of men and so pass on if you don't get good response.

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I was screened for the first time today, and honestly I was glad that it happened. Normally I go for the straight guy muscle worship thing (which, if you've read any of my posts about my experiences, you know so far, the gay for pay thing has been a TOTALLY lame experience for me) and the pic request has never come up. Today I was chatting with a gay escort about a scenario that's not just stand, flex, and get felt up like the MW scenes (trying to mix it up! LOL) and at first when he asked for a pic, I was taken back. Then I thought it over and realized that actually I DO want to make sure there's mutual interest, because for a more interactive scenario, I think it's important for both of us to be into it. I totally understand what other's have said about feeling insecure and not wanting to be rejected. I have issues with that too, but I'd rather be turned down and have to deal with nursing my ego than contend with another lame ass meet-up that's a waste of time and money. Turns out there's mutual interest by both of us, and if we end up meeting, I'll share the Cliff's Notes version here.

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When I hired someone for the first time, I arranged to meet up with the guy in a bar in my Vegas hotel before bringing him upstairs. After agreeing on the time, I’d texted him a face pic. Sure, I could’ve found him since I knew what he looked like, but thought it was nice to send mine so he knew who he was meeting. He later told me that sending my face pic signaled to him that I probably thought I was hot and that the escort should be grateful I’d hired him and that I would be full of myself and possibly trouble. Ha! That was surprising to me, as none of those things was at all my intention. I’ve never done it again, and I’ve also never been asked to. :)

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Okay, so I reached out to a newbie in my city after doing some research and getting positive feedback from someone who had met him. He wanted to know if I had Venmo, which means he was wanting payment upfront. I feigned ignorance about Venmo. He didn't pursue advance payment, but then he wanted me to send him pics of myself. What the hell? This is the second time this has happened that an escort wanted me to send pics and stats of myself. These guys are in the wrong business!! They need to be on Grindr, not Rentmen! Pisses me off. A shame, too, because he was hot.

 

This hiring thing is becoming more difficult by the day. Just seems like there aren't any authentically skilled escorts out there - just scammers and fakes who only want your money. It's becoming just as much of a hassle as trying to find some action on the apps.

 

We all have our different views on this. I can see both sides. But I tend to err on the side of @youngboldone . I think if you are in the escort business you sign up to be open to all. The first thing that comes to my mind is if the escort is white. He asks for a pic and you send it. (and you are black.) He answers you back and says he is not into black guys, and you are not welcome to avail of his services. (?) This is flat out discrimination. And it can apply to Asians, Mexicans, etc. Then it goes a step further to overweight guys, unattractive guys, etc. Discrimination is a slippery slope. If you sign up to be an escort, all should be welcome. Escorts are not machines, and if the attraction is not there, you just do the best you can. I think the client will appreciate just being with you, and your effort. I think he will be MORE offended and unhappy if you start asking for photos and he feels you are vetting him, and he is being screened for your "stamp" of approval. We all need to be realistic.....most guys that hire escorts are not supermodels. Reality check. So escorts need to be realistic also and not ask for photos to approve of the appearance of the client. Bottom line is that discrimination in ANY form sucks.

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