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I was just wondering if anyone else finds this inappropriate. There are a few masseurs who I've booked in the past who now text me about once a month to see if I want to book a massage. It feels like some sort of text blast, they usually begin with "hey guys, I'm in town and available" and then their info. I understand the need to market your services, but I'd rather not receive text messages soliciting my business. I always respond and ask them to take me off their texting list, but there are two guys who I occasionally still get texts from no matter how often I ask them to stop. Does anyone else get this?

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I was just wondering if anyone else finds this inappropriate. There are a few masseurs who I've booked in the past who now text me about once a month to see if I want to book a massage. It feels like some sort of text blast, they usually begin with "hey guys, I'm in town and available" and then their info. I understand the need to market your services, but I'd rather not receive text messages soliciting my business. I always respond and ask them to take me off their texting list, but there are two guys who I occasionally still get texts from no matter how often I ask them to stop. Does anyone else get this?

I suppose it is a cheap way of marketing - most of us now have 'all you can eat' texting plans, so there is no real cost involved. It may even be effective - if it wasn't, they wouldn't do it. I have a few 'regulars' that will reach out to me when it's been a while or if they come into town, but those are personalized, directed at me specifically and I am okay with it - not the big blast 'throw jello against the wall and see if it sticks' approach you mentioned. They should remove you from a mailing list if you request it, if not they can get into a fair amount of trouble (TCPA applies and although I am not a lawyer, I understand that it has teeth to it if they don't have your prior written express consent...) Most mobile phones now have the ability to block numbers - if they won't stop misbehaving, you can try to block the number.

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I think it's bad form....while it's nice to know (if I even want to know as most of the texts I get are from folks I would not repeat with), I've had some occasions where the text pops up on my car nav screen and others are in the car or at other inappropriate times. That's why I switched my massage phone to a Hushed number.

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I think it's inappropriate for a local provider to ping you unsolicited, especially at monthly frequency. I'd hope that it would be a very discreet message, but it's still an intrusion. I do appreciate traveling providers giving me a heads up when they're coming to town. The few that do this for me actually asked my permission at the end of our sessions. Traveling providers book quickly when they come to my city, so I appreciate the opportunity to get first shot at their schedules.

 

I use my iPhone as a GPS, running the Waze app with a dash mount for the phone. I've had to squelch notifications for the iPhone mail app and MS Outlook so that anyone riding in the passenger seat doesn't get a peek at my personal business. I don't want to do that for text messages. I'm thinking of switching all my sensitive communication over to Google Voice so that I can squelch those notifications while maintaining the immediacy for text messages.

 

It's been a while, but I once had an encounter with an escort in San Francisco who used to text me every couple of weeks and ask when I was coming back to town. I got the feeling that he did this to all of his contacts because I was very clear that my visit was a vacation, and I had no future plans to visit the city. He still hit me up all the time, and his texts were explicit. Anyone who read them could quickly comprehend the nature of his inquiry.

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Ok - But it is a service, my dentist reaches out, my hair stylist, my trainer via text - anyway as do regulars on grinder.

 

And everyone knows you go to a dentist, hair stylist, trainer. Not everyone shares their hiring of an escort or masseur with friends and family. I bet some of these people even promise discretion to their clients which is one reason some may hire.

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I was just wondering if anyone else finds this inappropriate. There are a few masseurs who I've booked in the past who now text me about once a month to see if I want to book a massage. It feels like some sort of text blast, they usually begin with "hey guys, I'm in town and available" and then their info. I understand the need to market your services, but I'd rather not receive text messages soliciting my business. I always respond and ask them to take me off their texting list, but there are two guys who I occasionally still get texts from no matter how often I ask them to stop. Does anyone else get this?

 

I think he's just letting you (and others) know that he's visiting. Is up to you to hire him again or not.

Before escorts would contact by email and make plans by phone call or text, now is pretty much all by text.

 

I think it's inappropriate for a local provider to ping you unsolicited, especially at monthly frequency. I'd hope that it would be a very discreet message, but it's still an intrusion. I do appreciate traveling providers giving me a heads up when they're coming to town. The few that do this for me actually asked my permission at the end of our sessions. Traveling providers book quickly when they come to my city, so I appreciate the opportunity to get first shot at their schedules....

 

I couldn't agree more.

 

I don't mind it. I had a local masseur whose ad had disappeared text me, he'd taken his ad down for some discretionary reasons with his work, but wanted to let me know he was still available.

 

I wouldn't be surprised if SESTA pushes some escorts (and possibly even masseurs) off the open advertisement and they start texting their former clients as a way to be hired again.

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I was just wondering if anyone else finds this inappropriate. There are a few masseurs who I've booked in the past who now text me about once a month to see if I want to book a massage. It feels like some sort of text blast, they usually begin with "hey guys, I'm in town and available" and then their info. I understand the need to market your services, but I'd rather not receive text messages soliciting my business. I always respond and ask them to take me off their texting list, but there are two guys who I occasionally still get texts from no matter how often I ask them to stop. Does anyone else get this?

 

I also send out texts in the past becuz my clients will often say "give me a heads up when youre back in town" i am very accomodating not to put people in my contacts if they request i dont. lately i dont send out many "heads up" texts becuz i also feel like it is a little intrusive. I just figure when someone wants a massage they will find me...if im not in their town at that time then better luck next time...so i can relate to both arguments for and against. BUT clearly if someone says "hey dont contact me, i will contact you" then i adhere to their requests.

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Ryan Phillippe’s text messages are fair game in his ex-girlfriend’s assault case.

 

Phillippe, 44, was ordered to hand over text messages between himself and ex-wife Reese Witherspoon regarding Elsie Hewitt, The Blast reports. The judge also sanctioned him $1,580 for not turning the messages in sooner, delaying the case.

 

Hewitt first sued Phillippe for $1 million last year, accusing him of assaulting her at his home. She claimed in her suit that he “grabbed [her] upper arm so tightly that his grip left heavy bruises on her arm hours later. He then braced his body and violently threw her down his staircase as hard as he could.”

 

He denied the 22-year-old’s allegations in his own court filing, and she fired back that he wouldn’t remember the incident because of his drug use. She claimed that he uses “cocaine, ecstasy, psychedelic mushrooms and steroids” among others.

 

Phillippe’s lawyer didn’t immediately return a request for comment.

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I get that traveling masseurs like to let their regulars know when they are in town. But mass texts to clients can be invasive and particularly problematic if others have access to your texts. Discretion is important and a sign of professionalism. There are ways masseurs and regular clients can work out a mutually satisfactory way to communicate discretely.

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