23 Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt

[+ Avalon]

http://aplus.com/a/23-behaviors-of-a-gentleman-for-2015?so=38ae-706c-d9-38e5&ref=fb

 

 

Life is so much easier been gay! ;-)))

[Electra225]

Gay or straight, all of these "behaviors" are essential to success in life (social, business, everything). I am glad to say that I have always followed these behaviors ever since I was a toddler (I was raised in a proper Victorian/Edwardian household).

[+ Avalon]

Gay or straight, all of these "behaviors" are essential to success in life (social, business, everything). I am glad to say that I have always followed these behaviors ever since I was a toddler (I was raised in a proper Victorian/Edwardian household).

 

But many do not apply to male male encounters.

[Electra225]

Actually, if you think about it, they do.

[+ Avalon]

Actually, if you think about it, they do.

 

Who walks closest to the curb?

 

Btw that's a pet peeve of mine when I see an opposite sex couple where the man doesn't walk on the outside. Years back I knew this couple and he usually didn't but I kept reminding / scolding them. So one day when I was driving I saw them out walking and when they saw me he switched positions. ;-)))

 

Regarding saying please I had always thought if the request was put in the conditional then please was not necessary. "Please hand me the pencil?" but "Would you hand me the pencil?" it wasn't needed.

[+ FreshFluff]

Yoo hoo, @quoththeraven .

 

 

Who walks closest to the curb?

 

Btw that's a pet peeve of mine when I see an opposite sex couple where the man doesn't walk on the outside. Years back I knew this couple and he usually didn't but I kept reminding / scolding them. So one day when I was driving I saw them out walking and when they saw me he switched positions. ;-)))

 

This gets tricky during a long walk along city blocks because the couple have to keep switching positions.

 

I was told that in pre-1993 NYC, men started walking on the side away from the curb so as to protect the woman from muggers who lay in wait in the alleys.

Edited March 11, 2018 by FreshFluff

[+ FreshFluff]

9. A gentleman gives up his seat.

Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the DMV. It doesn't hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.

 

I find myself doing this--for older men (and women), families, pregnant women, and those who just look like they've had a long day.

[rvwnsd]

But many do not apply to male male encounters.

 

Actually, if you think about it, they do.

 

And you don't have to think very hard.

 

Numbers 2 and 8 might be tricky, because the two guys would be jockeying for position. 14 is simple - the gentleman offers to pay. If they both offer, they are both gentlemen. If one doesn't offer, then he doesn't get a next date. If neither offers, we have a match made in, well, I'm not sure where.

 

Who walks closest to the curb?...

 

...I was told that in pre-1993 NYC, men started walking on the side away from the curb so as to protect the woman from muggers who lay in wait in the alleys.

 

I was told the same.

[+ FreshFluff]

BTW, this is the video that the article's screencaps were drawn from. It's a 1966 military video called "How to Succeed with Brunettes."

 

The video starts with a Goofus and Gallant style clip on what not to do:

Narrator: (sarcastically) Why open the door? Sure, treat her as an equal. Women like that.

 

[bigvalboy]

I've got a problem with #14...

[liubit]

Regarding saying please I had always thought if the request was put in the conditional then please was not necessary. "Please hand me the pencil?" but "Would you hand me the pencil?" it wasn't needed.

You are probably half-right. My mother taught me to say “would you PLEASE hand me the pencil?”

[+ quoththeraven]

Yoo hoo, @quoththeraven .

 

 

 

 

This gets tricky during a long walk along city blocks because the couple have to keep switching positions.

 

I was told that in pre-1993 NYC, men started walking on the side away from the curb so as to protect the woman from muggers who lay in wait in the alleys.

Alleys? What alleys? (I've usually been in midtown by myself anyway.)

 

As someone who took the subway by myself from Grand Central to mid-Bronx at midnight during the mid-70s, I haven't really thought about this. But I am always grateful when someone gives me their seat.

[+ Avalon]

You are probably half-right. My mother taught me to say “would you PLEASE hand me the pencil?”

 

What your mother taught you is better than what I had; it combines both.

[+ Avalon]

I've got a problem with #14...

 

14. A gentleman pays.

 

 

How should it be determined who pays?

[+ Avalon]

I understand when it comes to same-sex dancing, the old fashioned kind where they hold one another, that the taller one leads?

[+ poolboy48220]

14. A gentleman pays.

 

How should it be determined who pays?

According to Miss Manners, the person who issues the invitation pays. I first read that in one of her books sometime in the 80's, it's not a new thing.

[bigvalboy]

14. A gentleman pays.

 

 

How should it be determined who pays?

 

The inviter pays...but in casual situations, where dinner is a mutual agreed upon event, then the bill should be split.

Edited March 11, 2018 by bigvalboy

[+ Avalon]

Makes sense for the one who does the inviting should pay.

 

Then the next time the other pays.

[bigvalboy]

Then the next time the other pays.

 

Not necessarily. Every situation is different. A friend of mine, who is a multi-millionaire said one day that "We should have dinner." To me that is a casual invitation. I was expecting to split the bill even though dinner was her suggestion. After we arrived at the restaurant she insisted on paying, which she does, more often than not, and I allowed her to do it. I feel under no obligation to automatically reciprocate the next time, nor would she expect me to. We are friends, and neither of us are keeping count.

 

It was a fun post, and I took it mostly tongue-n-cheek, as was my response to #14, but most of the examples are archaic. There are so many variables, that it would be impossible to establish 'hard and fast' rules...

[+ Avalon]

I don't remember the book's title now, it was back in the 80s. It was about gay couples in San Diego. And there was one former couple. One was financially better off than the other and paid for everything. He broke up because his partner never volunteered to pay for any entertainment when they went out, not even movie tickets.

[alkan]

I understand when it comes to same-sex dancing, the old fashioned kind where they hold one another, that the taller one leads?

Even if the taller one is the bottom?

[+ Avalon]

Even if the taller one is the bottom?

 

lol

[+ FreshFluff]

Alleys? What alleys? (I've usually been in midtown by myself anyway.)

 

As someone who took the subway by myself from Grand Central to mid-Bronx at midnight during the mid-70s, I haven't really thought about this. But I am always grateful when someone gives me their seat.

 

Look at who’s taken to traditional gender norms while I was looking the other way. (I kid, of course. )

[+ purplekow]

Even if there is a vast discrepancy in financial means, both parties should pay sometimes. The more financially endowed one pays for dinner, the less flush one pays for coffee and bagel. For me anyway, it is not so much how much is spent, just that an effort is made to reciprocate. I have a friend who is not well off and each time we go out I pay for the meal. However, just about each time he does something such as this:

"I was feeling lucky to know you, so I bought you a lottery ticket." Five dollar winner and an all around winner of a friend.

[+ FreshFluff]

Even if there is a vast discrepancy in financial means, both parties should pay sometimes. The more financially endowed one pays for dinner, the less flush one pays for coffee and bagel.

 

The more physically endowed one pays in a different way.