Uber or Parking?

[Pepper Young]

I want to hire a guy who lives in the suburbs of a big city I'm visiting, but if he asks that I pay extra for his uber or parking, should I? I know some of you will say that if I want to see him bad enough, I should. But while he's my first choice, I wonder if commuting time/fees is part of his cost of business, or mine? Any insight is appreciated.

[bigvalboy]

I want to hire a guy who lives in the suburbs of a big city I'm visiting.

 

It sounds like he lives a bit of a distance from where you are staying. If that is the case, then yes, I wouldn't hesitate to pay his uber or his parking. Check the price on uber first, and see which is more cost effective for you. Parking might be less expensive of the two.

 

I used to live the reverse of your situation. I lived in the burbs and would bring in escorts from the city. I would routinely pay either cab fare (post uber) which was heart stopping cost wise sometimes, or pay for their gas and time. Not all escorts asked, but if they did, I would accommodate.

[nsguy45]

I want to hire a guy who lives in the suburbs of a big city I'm visiting, but if he asks that I pay extra for his uber or parking, should I? I know some of you will say that if I want to see him bad enough, I should. But while he's my first choice, I wonder if commuting time/fees is part of his cost of business, or mine? Any insight is appreciated.

Just as another option, I have actually driven to an escort, brought him back to my house and then driven him back home. Done it several times when it seemed the most sensible solution. Plus, it gives me a chance to check him out which was helpful in one instance when the escort in no way matched his profile photos and I just drove away . . . no harm, no foul.

[+ Kman]

Just as another option, I have actually driven to an escort, brought him back to my house and then driven him back home. Done it several times when it seemed the most sensible solution. Plus, it gives me a chance to check him out which was helpful in one instance when the escort in no way matched his profile photos and I just drove away . . . no harm, no foul.

 

I like that idea. I would assume the drive time was figured into the escort’s total time with you?

[BaronArtz]

I wouldn't pay someone $250-300 per hour to sit in a car ...

 

If your guy lives in the burbs, he must be used to commuting. His outcall fee should cover that. Don't get ripped off!

[wklucas]

nsguy45 said: ↑

Just as another option, I have actually driven to an escort, brought him back to my house and then driven him back home. Done it several times when it seemed the most sensible solution. Plus, it gives me a chance to check him out which was helpful in one instance when the escort in no way matched his profile photos and I just drove away . . . no harm, no foul.

 

Kman, 11 minutes ago

I like that idea. I would assume the drive time was figured into the escort’s total time with you? >>>>

 

 

Yeah, well there was one time - I was staying in a suburban Denver hotel....I arranged with the escort to drive into the city to pick him & would bring him back & forth....I show up outside of his place.....He comes downstairs & outside & says something about how his schedule (or something) had changed & let's just do "it" there at his place.....I (honestly) tell him that for one thing I had left his money back in the hotel room.....I didn't "argue" or try to convince the guy to just stick with the original plan for very long before driving off without him......(& I think I just made plans with somebody else later that same night to still come "visit" me at the hotel).

 

[nsguy45]

I like that idea. I would assume the drive time was figured into the escort’s total time with you?

No way. I made it clear up front that my picking him up and returning him home would not infringe on the hour we were to spend together and in each case the escort agreed. If the drIves back and forth were to be considered part of the hour, then I would never have made the offer.

Edited February 20, 2018 by nsguy45

[+ Kman]

No way. I made it clear up front that my picking him up and returning him home would not infringe on the hour we were to spend together and in each case the escort agreed. If the drIves back and forth were to be considered part of the hour, then I would never have made the offer.

 

Oh ok, I suppose it would be the same as paying for their Uber or gas money.

[LaffingBear]

My experiences with this

 

If client picks up and drops off rentguy, they generally feel its part of the time together on the clock.

Ive also had the experience of a rentguy insisting on their own transport from my suburban locale.... I thinks its "freedom to flee just-in-case"

 

Ive never been asked in advance to cover cab or uber costs. I generally tip to cover that, particularly if in-call was an option.

 

I always assumed parking was on me when a guy traveled to my location.

[MiamiLooker]

I want to hire a guy who lives in the suburbs of a big city I'm visiting, but if he asks that I pay extra for his uber or parking, should I? I know some of you will say that if I want to see him bad enough, I should. But while he's my first choice, I wonder if commuting time/fees is part of his cost of business, or mine? Any insight is appreciated.

Let him know where you're staying and ask him what his fee is to come to you.

[+ VictorPowers]

Here's my idea on the subject:

If you're in my home city, I'll drive my ass to you at no charge and pay parking on my own dime. If I'm traveling AND it's a bit far to travel to you, I'd ask for a bit of compensation for the Uber. I never assume I'll be compensated for travel to an Out call, but if I'm wanting that I'll clearly start the dialogue beforehand.

[+ bashful]

He may not mind driving at all. I've hired a guy several times who is 30 miles away (suburb to suburb). When setting up our initial meeting, he said if outcall, he only wanted $20 for gas. Since I don't host, we've only met at his place.

 

The big city you're visiting may have other options than just a car from suburb to city, such as a train.

[MikeBiDude]

I always assumed parking was on me when a guy traveled to my location.

I host at a downtown Westin property on occasion, parking is $28/valet and $20/self park. On those occasions I offer to cover that expense.

[+ azdr0710]

with a nod to the first three rules of real estate, communicate, communicate, communicate

"does that outcall rate include your time getting here?"

"if you're driving yourself here, I'd be glad to cover your parking or valet"

"what is your policy for your time spent getting here?"

[adventurous old guy]

I host at a downtown Westin property on occasion, parking is $28/valet and $20/self park. On those occasions I offer to cover that expense.

This is what I do. When I'm hosting at a hotel, I pick up the parking, garage or valet, because they are often high. When I see an ad that asks for an Uber fee and I'm in a city, I wonder why the service provider didn't just build that into his outcall fee, which I think is the more "professional" way to do it. I guess I don't object in principle to picking up the Uber fee, it just strikes me as more line item than it needs to be unless the distance is farther than usual.

 

I have one client who likes to park me in a suburban MD hotel close to their offices, really feels like the middle of nowhere. I'd gladly arrange for an Uber from Baltimore or DC to there. Guys who have driven out to visit me there earned especially grateful appreciation, both verbally and in tip!

[Epigonos]

I used to see a guy who lived in West Hollywood and insisted on driving to me in North Orange County. He never charged additional for the drive. He repeatedly remarked that he didn't mind the drive, in the least, because I always cooked dinner with enough left over that he went home with tons of food.

If I'm staying at a hotel, and the escort drives to me, I always offer to pay for his parking. Some guys accept while other insist it is part of their fee.

If the escort doesn't have his own transportation and he isn't located a great distance away I offer to pay his Uber cost both ways. Recently I did this for a guy in San Diego who didn't ask me to pay, however, I insisted on doing so.

On one occasion I drove across town and picked up an escort and then returned him home later. He didn't charge for the transportation time. I simply don't want to do that much driving anymore thus if the guy lives too far away and doesn't have transportation we simply don't get together.

On Thursday I'm meeting an escort, at his place, in West Hollywood. We will go out to lunch and return to his apartment for some fun time. Hopefully he will be able to show me where to park as parking in that part of town is a real bitch.

Edited February 20, 2018 by Epigonos

[former lurker]

I want to hire a guy who lives in the suburbs of a big city I'm visiting, but if he asks that I pay extra for his uber or parking, should I? I know some of you will say that if I want to see him bad enough, I should. But while he's my first choice, I wonder if commuting time/fees is part of his cost of business, or mine? Any insight is appreciated.

 

I'd say it's your cost, unless he offers otherwise. In fact, he could reasonably ask you to pay for his commute time.

[+ VictorPowers]

with a nod to the first three rules of real estate, communicate, communicate, communicate

"does that outcall rate include your time getting here?"

"if you're driving yourself here, I'd be glad to cover your parking or valet"

"what is your policy for your time spent getting here?"

Where should I cum? Location, Location, Location.

[DMICS]

I live out in the suburbs so the only efficient way here is with a car. Pretty much all my outcall bookings have cars so they drove to me and didn't ask for anything extra.

 

A little after New Years I saw one of my regulars, his license was suspended. He said he was going to take transit, I offered to pay his round trip Uber instead.

 

This one escort I want to see badly lives in the city and doesn't drive. He mentioned during our convo I'll have to pay for his round trip Uber which I have no problem doing. Even then I get the vibe from him sometimes that he doesn't want to come this "far" (25-min drive from the city to me)

Edited February 21, 2018 by DMICS

[+ JEC]

Agree 100%

[+ SundayZip]

Seems like the answer depends on the numbers. If his rate is on the low end and you're only paying for an hour and his uber/parking expense eats up a large percentage of his profits, it makes sense for you to pay those expenses. If his hourly rate is already high for your market and you're paying for several hours (like an overnight), he should not ask you to also pay for his uber or parking.