Am I just over-thinking this.

[Bigginuc]

I’m a mature gay male who is healthy, HWP and gifted in the penis department. However, in the gay world, my age group is often treated with disrespect, so I don’t date and am pretty lonely. I’m totally in the closet because of my job. I’m considering contacting an escort, but am afraid I would be so intimidated by his attractiveness. I would make us both very uncomfortable. Am I just being stupid to worry about how an escort would feel being with me? From what I’ve read in this forum, some of these escorts are unbelievably nice and respectful.

[jjkrkwood]

If you are as "gifted" as you claim, you will do splendidly out in the Gay world... We gay men are shallow and LOVE big dicks... Just dont be a dick about it, and we'll gobble you up !

[big-n-tall]

You’re not being stupid... just overtly cautious and nervous. I understand the shyness in meeting up with an escort for the first time. Many of us have gone through it. It’s ok to be nervous going into something new. Just don’t let nerves prevent you on missing out something you want to do or desire. Also don’t let what you think some other person may be thinking wrongly color what may actually happen. I mean just because a guy is hella attractive doesn’t mean he won’t find you or something about you attractive.

 

There are many escorts who find older men sexy. A good example, is Mike Gaite.

 

Do your research. Find someone or a group of someones that appeal to you. Read his reviews, if he has any. Ask around the forum. It will be ok.

[+ VictorPowers]

Don't be afraid that you'll have a great time! Communicate you're wants/desires ahead of time to see if you're a match to the provider you reach out to.

[Bigginuc]

If you are as "gifted" as you claim, you will do splendidly out in the Gay world... We gay men are shallow and LOVE big dicks... Just dont be a dick about it, and we'll gobble you up !

Thanks man. You made me smile. (And leak a little)

[Bigginuc]

You’re not being stupid... just overtly cautious and nervous. I understand the shyness in meeting up with an escort for the first time. Many of us have gone through it. It’s ok to be nervous going into something new. Just don’t let nerves prevent you on missing out something you want to do or desire. Also don’t let what you think some other person may be thinking wrongly color what may actually happen. I mean just because a guy is hella attractive doesn’t mean he won’t find you or something about you attractive.

 

There are many escorts who find older men sexy. A good example, is Mike Gaite.

 

Do your research. Find someone or a group of someones that appeal to you. Read his reviews, if he has any. Ask around the forum. It will be ok.

Thank you very much. This really helps. I appreciate your taking the time to respond. You’re the best.

[Bigginuc]

Thank you buddy. Appreciate your advise.

Don't be afraid that you'll have a great time! Communicate you're wants/desires ahead of time to see if you're a match to the provider you reach out to.

[+ JEC]

Many providers are good with mature guys. Esp if they list they are into "mature" or "daddies". As someone has already stated, communicate clearly your stats/needs/expectations...I would also rely heavily on this forum as some providers will say "yes' just to get paid (sorry providers...no offense, just my experience). You deserve the full experience you are looking/paying for. And, yes....size helps even in this world (providers may perform better if you are hitting their "spot" LOL).

[Bigginuc]

Thanks man. I’m starting to get my hopes built up along with my confidence.

[jjkrkwood]

Thanks man. I’m starting to get my hopes built up along with my confidence.

 

 

And remember, if your "big dick" needs a little boost..... Dont hesitate! (he'll never Know )

 

[Bigginuc]

LMAO! Actually, I’ve ever had that problem, but who knows, I might be so nervous I’ll get a limp-on (get it?). Trouble is those things are too expensive. I sure would like to find some cheap though just in case.

[mike carey]

@Bigginuc if you are a confirmed top or bottom, look for escorts who are compatible. Ask here about ones you fancy. Check for reviews in the related site ('Reviews' top left of the screen) or threads about them. Most can deal with us older folk, are happy to do so, and do it with aplomb. I've met guys who post here, and I've read enough to know that there are others, who I have chatted to, who would do admirably. It doesn't take long to get an idea of who's who. Go for it.

[jjkrkwood]

LMAO! Actually, I’ve ever had that problem, but who knows, I might be so nervous I’ll get a limp-on (get it?). Trouble is those things are too expensive. I sure would like to find some cheap though just in case.

 

Find a doctor that will prescribe REVATIO slidenafil. they come in 20mg tablets at about $1.00 each. To get the full effect of 100 mg Viagra, take 4-5 at a time. Cost ya $5.00 instead of $40....

[mike carey]

Find a doctor that will prescribe REVATIO slidenafil. they come in 20mg tablets at about $1.00 each. To get the full effect of 100 mg Viagra, take 4-5 at a time. Cost ya $5.00 instead of $40....

But above all else, don't make assumptions. Find a guy, see him, if you want to top him and can't he won't make a scene, he will work out something else to do. If it's just nerves and not ED, he'll help you make it happen. Don't stress. They have seen it all before.

[rvwnsd]

Welcome to the Forum, @Bigginuc.

 

...I’m considering contacting an escort, but am afraid I would be so intimidated by his attractiveness. I would make us both very uncomfortable. Am I just being stupid to worry about how an escort would feel being with me? ...

You are not being stupid for worrying about this, but I think the worry is unfounded. To me, it is grounded in FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.

 

...From what I’ve read in this forum, some of these escorts are unbelievably nice and respectful.

My experience is the overwhelming majority of escorts I've hired are nice and respectful. That's not to say many behave differently, but it seems like the jerks are in the minority. Here are a few ways you can determine whether someone is nice/respectful or not:

• Read and pay attention to his ad. If the tone feels "off" or conveys a less-than-friendly vibe, take a pass.
  
• Pay attention to the tone of his replies. Almost all of the guys I've had great experiences with have taken the time to provide well-written and obviously well thought-out replies to my inquiries. Those who have been more brief have used a professional tone.
  
• Be honest about your situation. If this is your first time with an escort, say so. Likewise, if you have limited man-on-man experience say so. It will help the escort.
  

[Bigginuc]

Find a doctor that will prescribe REVATIO slidenafil. they come in 20mg tablets at about $1.00 each. To get the full effect of 100 mg Viagra, take 4-5 at a time. Cost ya $5.00 instead of $40....

Thanks man. Good info.

[Bigginuc]

Welcome to the Forum, @Bigginuc.

 

 

You are not being stupid for worrying about this, but I think the worry is unfounded. To me, it is grounded in FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real.

 

 

My experience is the overwhelming majority of escorts I've hired are nice and respectful. That's not to say many behave differently, but it seems like the jerks are in the minority. Here are a few ways you can determine whether someone is nice/respectful or not:

• Read and pay attention to his ad. If the tone feels "off" or conveys a less-than-friendly vibe, take a pass.
  
• Pay attention to the tone of his replies. Almost all of the guys I've had great experiences with have taken the time to provide well-written and obviously well thought-out replies to my inquiries. Those who have been more brief have used a professional tone.
  
• Be honest about your situation. If this is your first time with an escort, say so. Likewise, if you have limited man-on-man experience say so. It will help the escort.
  

Thank you so much. What a great find when I stumbled across this site. Everyone is so nice and helpful. And not judgmental.

[jjkrkwood]

Thank you so much. What a great find when I stumbled across this site. Everyone is so nice and helpful. And not judgmental.

 

Oh honey, give it Time !

[+ Travis69]

LMAO! Actually, I’ve ever had that problem, but who knows, I might be so nervous I’ll get a limp-on (get it?). Trouble is those things are too expensive. I sure would like to find some cheap though just in case.

You have a big cock and don't need Viagra!!!! I am VERY jealous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:mad::mad:

[MartyB]

I’m a mature gay male who is healthy, HWP and gifted in the penis department. However, in the gay world, my age group is often treated with disrespect, so I don’t date and am pretty lonely. I’m totally in the closet because of my job. I’m considering contacting an escort, but am afraid I would be so intimidated by his attractiveness. I would make us both very uncomfortable. Am I just being stupid to worry about how an escort would feel being with me? From what I’ve read in this forum, some of these escorts are unbelievably nice and respectful.

Don't be anxious or nervous about reaching out to an escort. I'm a mature guy a d having a blast with escorts or masseurs over the past few years. Just to hour research and ask questions and review both yours and your escorts preferences. Then let it fly. Enjoy yourself. Remember even your mistakes are a learning experience.

[+ GregM]

I really hate it when clients put us hookers on such a high pedestal. Despite what many say or think we aren't g-ds. We put our pants on the same way you do, one leg at a time. Just breathe and do your research before hiring.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Bigginuc]

Greg,

 

Now I feel horrible. I didn’t mean to offend anyone with my post. I was just being honest, which very often gets me in trouble. I’m ignorant to all this and apologize for making you feel uneasy or hurting your feelings. I don’t feel good about myself, and I was probably looking for someone to tell me I was all wet in my thinking. Again, so sorry if my post upset you.

[Chuckball]

Why feel horrible? The advice you were given was good. Just be yourself and communicate what you are expecting. Every escort worth his salt should try to accommdate you and treat you with understanding and respect. You are not there to impress anyone-just have a good time. Every experience is different. You will find some escorts who will become good friends and you will meet others who are total jerks. But that's life- an accumulation of experiences.

[Bigginuc]

P.S. and as for some treating you like Gods, you deserve it. You work very hard to stay in shape and look your best and that takes a lot of work a determination. I respect and admire anyone who does that. Yes, you put your pants on one leg at a time, but oh how great those legs look.

[jjkrkwood]

P.S. and as for some treating you like Gods, you deserve it. You work very hard to stay in shape and look your best and that takes a lot of work a determination. I respect and admire anyone who does that. Yes, you put your pants on one leg at a time, but oh how great those legs look.

 

Biggin, if you scroll thru Daddy's reviews, you will see a multitude of escorts who arent in great shape, or arent the Best looking, yet they have a fan club, and guys that lust after them. The take away is that all it takes is "confidence", and a certain chemistry. With experience you will develop Both. Never make apologies for your feelings or what you are attracted to. The goal of all this is just to have a great time and cum away "fulfilled".. As long as you can comfortably AFFORD the hobby, and DONT fall in love, you'll do just fine.... GOOD LUCK....