I'm thinking of going to a bath house / sex club

[bigvalboy]

Went there a few times. Still open?

Oh no...long gone, but it was the gold standard for a long time. I remember when they connected the deli next door and added a take out window on the lower level. Those days still bring a smile, and I'm blessed that I survived that decade.

Edited October 18, 2017 by bigvalboy

[longtime lurker]

I only went to a bath house one time last year, but it was a very nice experience and I will certainly go back if the prices are low enough. Often there are discount days. Everybody I talked to was willing to talk back. Of course, best times for socialization are when food is served on special days, Sundays often, and parties like the "drop the towels" red light ones held one Friday per month at some places. No, I did not go the "back end" route with anybody in my one visit, but there was plenty of free "protection" if I did. Nobody will do anything with you that you do not want to do; everybody was respectful of boundaries with me at least. Generally there is no booze or drugs allowed to make people disrespectful.

 

Like the nude beach, the bath house is a great place to get over your inhibitions regarding your body image, due to the wide variety of types. There will always be somebody there who shares the same "statistics" you have: muscular, over-weight, scrawny, tattooed, handicapped, over 80, just reached acceptable 18, etc.

 

Chances are, the more attracted you are to somebody, the less attracted they will be with you since they likely spend as much time in the mirror checking themselves out as they do looking at others. I know... I am being stereotypical here. Don't take me literally. There are plenty of friendly Adonis types who will be willing to bro-bond with you, as long you make the polite attempt and approach them. Don't rule anybody out. If somebody isn't attractive to you, but finds you attractive, always be polite and at least talk to them or accept some mutual touching. You don't have to do much to indicate how far things go. Remember that only the blessed few will be able to maintain their sexy looks forever.

 

Bottom line: both the bath house and the gay "club" are far easier hook up places than Craigslist or any other online site. Also everybody showers at the bath house and they provide plenty of mouth wash and, of course, "protection".

[jjkrkwood]

Chances are, the more attracted you are to somebody, the less attracted they will be with you since they likely spend as much time in the mirror checking themselves out as they do looking at others. I know... I am being stereotypical here. Don't take me literally. There are plenty of friendly Adonis types who will be willing to bro-bond with you, as long you make the polite attempt and approach them. Don't rule anybody out.

 

There have been countless times when my jaw has dropped by the "type" of person" that has cruised and pursued" me.... Often I would think "he's outta my league. ill never get that", and bingo, he's the guy going after me. There's no rationale for someones taste, and ya never know. How many times have you seen 2 guys together and said "what is he doing with HIM"? But at least "its a bird in the hand" situation.... you SEE what you are getting and can do your own "vetting" from there , if you are so inclined. Just remember, too much vetting can kill the deal. Save the vetting for AFTER you've done the deed.

[Phil_musc]

I started reading this thread with some trepidation, since I figured there would be a lot of negative comments about unattractive clientele, old trolls, rampant unsafe sex, etc. Thank you, fellow posters, for your positive spin on this possibly controversial topic.

 

I used to go to these places a lot in my younger years and I had many great times. Now it's been about a year since I've been to one of the spots in Philly. My experience is that things have definitely changed and it isn't like it used to be. For that I had to discover for myself Chicago's Steamworks. Wow and then some! It was like a time warp - seemed like the old days at the Everard in NYC or the Club when it was still open there. Now I think things are pretty hit-or-miss here in Philly, but it's better to be optimistic about these things. Perhaps it's time to dust off my old shower sandals and take the plunge. . . I do wish they would install elevators though - my knees are getting tired of going up and down those steps.

[LookingAround]

If you like the idea of having sex with someone who is not interested in exchanging one single word with you, then a bathhouse in the USA is for you.

 

(I'm told that men in bathhouses in other countries actually talk to each other.)

Where the hell are you getting this information and these stereotypes lol. Not a word of truth in your post.

[caliguy]

Los Angeles

I had a friend visit Flex recently and was raving about it. He liked that heated pool and the large rooms for entertaining. They give you different sized rooms. Food from the bar was decent too.

 

He liked that they had a no drug/bareback policy. I told him they just put that out for he authorities. They know if they strictly enforced that they'd lose half their business.

Edited October 18, 2017 by caliguy

[marylander1940]

What's it like? Good experiences? Bad experiences? I heard you have to give them your drivers license? Could that be true? That's what it says in this "How to" bathhouse video

 

You forgot to add... I'm asking for a friend.

[+ Charlie]

I grew up in bath houses in New York City. In the 1970s they were seething hotbeds of orgiastic sex. A good night was 4 or 5 hot encounters. Then I was introduced to the Mine Shaft! This thread seems really quaint.

 

When I moved from NYC to LA in 1990, I found the LA scene to be really tame and quite prudish. The bath house there would confiscate your poppers! No drug policy. Give me a break. Most of the guys there were high on coke.

+1

[caliguy]

If you like the idea of having sex with someone who is not interested in exchanging one single word with you, then a bathhouse in the USA is for you.

 

(I'm told that men in bathhouses in other countries actually talk to each other.)

I think you're talking about a sex club like Slammer which we have in LA. No amenities other then slings and holes in the wall. Bathouses are more like spa's.

[jjkrkwood]

I think you're talking about a sex club like Slammer which we have in LA. No amenities other then slings and holes in the wall. Bathouses are more like spa's.

 

Regardless of what type of venue FoS was speaking of, his comment lacked knowledge and truth.

[caliguy]

I do wish they would install elevators though - my knees are getting tired of going up and down those steps.

At the old Hollywood spa (closed now) it was 3 levels and the stairs were steep and long. Weird set up and great if your a fit twenty something. I can't imagine being older and dealing with it.

 

The basement level was pitch black and mirrored. One time I scared the shit out of myself coming around the corner because all I saw was some dude coming at me out of the dark. Yeah, it was me.

[Phil_musc]

I had that experience at the old Continental. I wasn't wearing my glasses and as I approached this young guy, I thought, hey man, looking pretty good there, As nearsighted as I was, I was only about 10 feet away when I realized it was a mirror. Then I felt ridiculous and broke up laughing at the absurdity of it.

[masonguy]

I've had some fun at Club Columbus

[phildallas]

The crowd isn't just different day to day, but varies based on the time of day. The clubs I'm familiar with have an older crowd along with a few younger guys who are into older men during the day. Late night after the bars close can be a crazy, crowded free for all with a good bit of group public play.

 

And you never can tell what kind of guy is going to be interested. I'm quite middle aged with extra weight, but not ugly (at least with cloths on) and sometimes I get lucky and have a guy who's really into my type. Doesn't happen all the time, most of the time I end up playing with someone more my age and type, but happens often enough that it's really a treat.

 

Best not to have expectations of making out with a hot, hot guy. Best to be ready to get it on and off with what you find there and not be picky. You never can tell when a guy you just find OK really knows how to kiss, fuck, suck or rim in ways you've not experienced.

 

For me, group play makes me much less worried about what the participants look like.

[Ghadd]

I've been to a bath house several times in recent years. It's been a great experience overall, but can be extremely hit or miss.

 

I'm overweight, but was otherwise young and cute enough, so I attracted mostly older men, which was fine with me. I was chased by a lot of Asians too. Every time was different. One time, nobody was very interested in me, so I ended up jerking off while watching two guys make out.

 

The key, as was said, is to not have expectations. You're going there to get off. But how entirely depends on who's there when you go.

Edited October 18, 2017 by Ghadd

[Bearofdistinction]

As for when baths are busy = I will quote myself from a questioner about the baths in Philly

 

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"Everyday is a surprise - Never know if it will be full of hot horny college bois - trolls - daddys - cubs - bears - chubs or all of the above -- It is easier to predict the will of the tides than it is to predict the hornificational migratory patterns of the rutting urban homosexual."

Edited October 18, 2017 by Bearofdistinction

[+ Travis69]

For personal safety bathhouses and sex clubs are great. You don't have to worry about going to a stranger's place or having a stranger in your place which for many is a concern. I have noticed over the years that on weekdays they are busier between 7 and 10 pm. Many will be gone by 10pm as they have to get up early for the next day.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I always chuckle when younger guys 'ewwww' at a bathhouse discussion. As if them being on Grindr for 4 hours a night is any better or different.

 

At least in a bath, you can directly see what you want, skip (some) of the bullshit and just have some fun.

[longtime lurker]

You see plenty of young guys in both bath houses and beaches, but I do agree that there is lot more focus on "apps" and phones when you are younger than older and, yes, a lot of time is wasted.

 

Again, I tend to view the bath house experience much like a nudist beach experience, with all of the bodies on display and everybody is pretty much equal. The key difference with the latter is that everybody is on their best behavior. There are parts of a beach where mostly men hang out and some activity goes on, usually in dune areas or in tents/large umbrellas. Yet there is always plenty of caution, just like a restroom or public park. Nobody wants to get into trouble for public indecency. The bath house and the "club" are safe areas where you won't be judged for doing anything... or nothing. If you spend the extra amount on a room instead of a locker, you and your buddy won't have a potential audience even though whatever you do has probably been seen there before. Many, many times before. Probably the most common thing guys do is fondle themselves rather than each other. One advantage over the online stuff is that you have to talk to people regardless or at least make facial expressions.

 

I have to laugh when I entered the sauna at a bath house and one guy was getting "orally" serviced. He was so nice. "Care to join me? This guy is very talented at what he does." I didn't because I was too gosh-darn-shy, but I started talking with him anyway. Everything seemed so... well... natural. Obviously something you won't see happening at the grocery in front of the produce, but still...

[s1conrad]

I live in SF, but occasionally make the trek down to the Watergarden in San Jose. The weather is always better in the South Bay and the club has a great outdoor pool. I go to relax in the jacuzzi, work on my tan, and partake in the steamy activities in the steamroom. It's a nice, clean, drug-free facility and there's always something worthwhile to look at.

 

I haven't been to any sex clubs in SF or Berkeley. I prefer the outdoor aspect of the WG; you can see what you're getting.

[Drained Empty]

We have quite a few bathhouse options in Los Angeles, as well as some very cruisy day and Korean spas.

 

One KSpa in particular is known for its outrageously hot guys, I've seen porn stars and male models there, as well as great-looking "regular" guys.

 

The bathhouses tend to attract an older and or minority crowd; once in awhile the more "desirable" white or Latino younger guy will come in.

 

I joke with my friend that I visited this one local bathhouse so often without getting and action I singlehandedly paid for the bathroom renovation there lol.

[LongIslandGuy]

I'm in NYC... Most of my sexual life takes place in sex clubs. Love em. Always variety, low cost, and you can always find something satisfying. If there's nothing you like, you can always WATCH others...

 

Initially, as a new client, they may ask for ID, but once they know you, they wont require it anymore.

 

While many on this site have a passion for HIRING, my passion exists for the CLUB.....

NY here as well. Never been to a sex club or bathhouse. Can you give me some places? Are any of them places that you don’t have to get naked to walk around? Appreciate your help

[jjkrkwood]

NY here as well. Never been to a sex club or bathhouse. Can you give me some places? Are any of them places that you don’t have to get naked to walk around? Appreciate your help

 

send me a pvt msg and ill reply... Total nudity is usually NOT required..... Thank God ! anyway I find a jockstrap or sexy undies much Hotter anyway.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

FYI: Don't confuse the Kspas as places to openly fuck around... They are usually known for allowing local PD to run sting operations.

 

The Spa Castle brand (in Dallas and NY) is awesome, but they openly patrol their locker rooms and wet areas. Sure, you can go and look at all the naked men you want, but it's pretty tough to hook up.

 

Love the Korean spa culture: You gotta be naked in the wet areas. It's incredibly relaxing and I'd recommend a visit to anyone who hasn't tried one.

[+ poolboy48220]

NY here as well. Never been to a sex club or bathhouse. Can you give me some places? Are any of them places that you don’t have to get naked to walk around? Appreciate your help

Bathhouses I've been in, guys normally walk around in just a towel. it's not universal, a few walk around naked or in underwear/jock, some have shirts on, some have shirts & shorts. But it's mostly the club-provided towel.