411 Eric Hassan

[youngboldone]

Okay, I'm just going to throw this out there. I've been processing my first encounter from this past Sunday and have come to the conclusion that while I am a tough nut to crack in terms of my relative inexperience and general insecurity, I don't think it was all my fault that the connection/chemistry wasn't there. I think what I was looking for more than anything was a special connection and someone who could "show me the ropes" and guide me - I guess you'd call that the boyfriend experience. What I ended up with was more muscle worship and me pleasing the escort. It wasn't very reciprocal. He didn't seem into my body at all, which has ultimately made me feel even more self conscious.

 

I have thought about trying this guy next time: https://rentmen.eu/thedudenextdoor

 

I have heard stellar things about Eric and read all his glowing reviews. He seems like someone who could offer this type of interaction, but now I'm a little leery. I don't really have the means to do this again so soon, but I could scrimp in other ways to make it happen if I was SURE it was going to be an exceptional experience. I'm on the fence whether to try this again so soon after my first time or just wait. I already passed up an opportunity to meet Mike Gaite back in April and have been kicking myself ever since. If Eric is as good as his reputation, I don't want to be foolhardy and miss out on another great opportunity.

 

Opinions?

[+ WmClarke]

@Mikegaite is amazing--too bad you missed him.

 

@Eric Hassan is also amazing. A very different experience than Mike (at least for me), but exceptional at what he does. With some good communication by you, he can deliver exactly what you want.

[bigvalboy]

I don't really have the means to do this again so soon, but I could scrimp in other ways to make it happen if I was SURE it was going to be an exceptional experience. I'm on the fence whether to try this again so soon after my first time or just wait.

I don't think you should be hiring right now. If you have to "scrimp" to make it happen, what's the point?

[youngboldone]

The point is to have the experience I was looking forward to having this past Sunday and didn't. That was an awfully expensive "lesson learned". I felt like I was pretty thorough in my vetting process, and I still wound up having a lackluster time. The lesson I did learn was that I'm done with this texting only nonsense. I need to talk on the phone with someone to determine if we're going to connect in the way I'm looking for. I should have insisted on that. I will next time. No phone call = I won't be hiring you.

[BaronArtz]

I appreciate you expressing your opinions here, but you should be careful that what you write does not constitute a 'review'. That is sort of frowned upon by the team that manages this website/forum. The escort needs to have a chance to defend himself and write a rebuttal. It's only fair.

[youngboldone]

I didn't feel like what I wrote was a review, but I guess I'm not in the know about the rules of this forum. I felt the need to explain myself after bigvalboy made what I felt was a snarky comment. I think I'll just jump off this forum. It's not doing much for my self esteem. Whatever happened to basic empathy for what others are going through? Doesn't seem to be much of that around anymore.

[+ poolboy48220]

but I could scrimp in other ways to make it happen if I was SURE it was going to be an exceptional experience.

There are no sure things, unfortunately, especially in this biz.

[Rudynate]

As @poolboy48220 said, there are no sure things, but I will tell you from personal experience that Eric Hassan is a wonderful guy in every way. He's bright, considerate, professional and completely there for his client. Oh, and the mere thought of him gives me a boner. Hire with confidence.

[BaronArtz]

@youngboldone - I didn't think BVB's comment was snarky. He was trying to caution you about over-spending. Not over-spending is prudent.

 

I see your point about basic empathy. Could you have basic empathy for the escort? Mr. Hassan makes his living, or part of his living, acting as an escort for men. His reputation, therefore, is important. Which is why, as I understand it, this website/forum has established checks and balances in place so that everybody gets a fair hearing. May I suggest you contact one of the moderators?

[amigomonty]

You did not mention who the escort was who only provided a lackluster experience so no harm no foul. Take a moment to review the threads about first time hires. There is a treasure trove of archived info. Worth doing a search using that function in the forum menu. Patience with yourself and with forum members and providers will serve you well. We've all had the experience that you shared. Good luck in your next!

[BaronArtz]

You did not mention who the escort was who only provided a lackluster experience so no harm no foul.

 

That is not correct. The OP quoted the escort's profile.

[Strafe13]

I didn't feel like what I wrote was a review, but I guess I'm not in the know about the rules of this forum. I felt the need to explain myself after bigvalboy made what I felt was a snarky comment. I think I'll just jump off this forum. It's not doing much for my self esteem. Whatever happened to basic empathy for what others are going through? Doesn't seem to be much of that around anymore.

 

@bigvalboy is actually one of the nicer, more empathetic forum members, @youngboldone, so don't judge too harshly. I don't think he meant to come off that snarky, but his point should be well taken. This is an expensive hobby, and if you have to scrimp that much just to afford a one-hour session, then you may also be putting too much pressure on yourself and the escort to hit a homerun on the first at-bat. Communication is the key, as you've just figured out, and if you don't make it clear that you want a boyfriend experience (and if you don't explain what that means to you), then the escort may not know to give you what you want. If you just look through the reviews and posts on this forum, you'll see that so many clients love the idea of pleasing and/or servicing a dominant, masculine type, that it seems perfectly understandable why this escort would think that you'd want that too, absent clear communication from you to the contrary. It's not at all uncommon for a first hire to not go well. It's not that different from many of our first sexual experiences. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get right back up on that horse.

 

If you're based in New York City, then there's no need to rush, since so many escorts are also based here, including @Eric Hassan, a/k/a dudenextdoor. So, my advice is, while you're saving up, take lots of time over the next several weeks or months to research the guys listed in NYC. Read through the many, many reviews; post 411 threads on the forum; and maybe even initiate private conversations with forum members who are on record as having hired escorts that you're interested in. Then, armed with this knowledge, you can contact and communicate with the prospective escort(s) from a position of strength and confidence. I'm sure you'll do better the next time around. Good luck!

[youngboldone]

That is not correct. The OP quoted the escort's profile.

 

Mr. Hassan is not the escort I had the lackluster experience with, so I was correct. I think you misunderstood the intent of my original post. It was to get feedback on Mr. Hassan to try and figure out if he would be a better fit for me.

[youngboldone]

@bigvalboy is actually one of the nicer, more empathetic forum members, @youngboldone, so don't judge too harshly. I don't think he meant to come off that snarky, but his point should be well taken. This is an expensive hobby, and if you have to scrimp that much just to afford a one-hour session, then you may also be putting too much pressure on yourself and the escort to hit a homerun on the first at-bat. Communication is the key, as you've just figured out, and if you don't make it clear that you want a boyfriend experience (and if you don't explain what that means to you), then the escort may not know to give you what you want. If you just look through the reviews and posts on this forum, you'll see that so many clients love the idea of pleasing and/or servicing a dominant, masculine type, that it seems perfectly understandable why this escort would think that you'd want that too, absent clear communication from you to the contrary. It's not at all uncommon for a first hire to not go well. It's not that different from many of our first sexual experiences. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get right back up on that horse.

 

If you're based in New York City, then there's no need to rush, since so many escorts are also based here, including @Eric Hassan, a/k/a dudenextdoor. So, my advice is, while you're saving up, take lots of time over the next several weeks or months to research the guys listed in NYC. Read through the many, many reviews; post 411 threads on the forum; and maybe even initiate private conversations with forum members who are on record as having hired escorts that you're interested in. Then, armed with this knowledge, you can contact and communicate with the prospective escort(s) from a position of strength and confidence. I'm sure you'll do better the next time around. Good luck!

 

Thank you for the words of encouragement. Unfortunately, I'm not in NYC. I'm in Columbus, Ohio, a veritable wasteland when it comes to escorts. Mr. Hassan is visiting in early September, so I'm trying to get the sense of whether or not to go for it or risk passing up the opportunity.

[Strafe13]

Gotcha. Well, you can try and scrimp and save within the next few weeks, but I'm concerned you'll then be putting a lot of pressure on yourself and Hassan to knock this out of the park. That being said, between his ad, personal website, and Twitter presence, he places a lot of information out there to give prospective clients a pretty good idea of what he provides in his sessions. While I haven't hired him (yet!), he's been very pleasant in our communications. You can contact him and explain what you're looking for without being bound to hire him. Then you'll at least get a sense of whether the two of you are compatible. Again, best of luck to you!

[BaronArtz]

Mr. Hassan is not the escort I had the lackluster experience with, so I was correct. I think you misunderstood the intent of my original post. It was to get feedback on Mr. Hassan to try and figure out if he would be a better fit for me.

 

Then I would say your OP is poorly written. You start out with a link to Mr Hassan's escort page, immediately followed by a description of a lackluster experience. Anyone who reads this will think that the narrative is concerning the escort whose page you just quoted.

[bigvalboy]

Thank you @Strafe13 and @BaronArtz for explaining my position. If my comment came across as snarky, then apologies are in order @youngboldone. I've been known to over spend or stretch the budget a time or two, and I remember regretting it. At the end of the day, knowing that I had pushed the budget too far, created more stress, and the excitement of the hire was greatly diminished. Your financial well-being and piece of mind is more important than a couple of hours of sexual gratification. When it comes time to pay the bills, just remember the escort won't be there to help you out. He will be long gone, and you will be standing there alone, that's the reality of it. As it has been mentioned, this is/can be an expensive hobby. Just try and keep it all in perspective with regards to your life in general. Going forward, I wish you luck, and should you decide on Mr.Hassan, I doubt that you could do better. Good luck.

[Strafe13]

Then I would say your OP is poorly written. You start out with a link to Mr Hassan's escort page, immediately followed by a description of a lackluster experience. Anyone who reads this will think that the narrative is concerning the escort whose page you just quoted.

 

Please don't generalize. I and others read the post and knew he wasn't talking about @Eric Hassan. Yes, the post could have been organized more clearly, but the guy's new to the forum. Cut him some slack.

[Rudynate]

Then I would say your OP is poorly written. You start out with a link to Mr Hassan's escort page, immediately followed by a description of a lackluster experience. Anyone who reads this will think that the narrative is concerning the escort whose page you just quoted.

 

 

For what it's worth, I understood the OP perfectly.

[Good Grief]

Then I would say your OP is poorly written. You start out with a link to Mr Hassan's escort page, immediately followed by a description of a lackluster experience. Anyone who reads this will think that the narrative is concerning the escort whose page you just quoted.

 

I understood what he meant.

[+ sf westcoaster]

I personally feel the it was inappropriate to give the name of the escort. You could have asked the same question without revealing the escort. Your post boards on being a review and had it gone through the review process the escort would have been given the opportunity to respond the review before it was published.

[+ Funguy]

@youngboldone - do not let your first experience preclude you from hiring again.

A number of years ago, I (and everyone on here) was a newby with no idea what this was all about. All I knew was that I was horny. My first try was lackluster like yours probably due to lack of chemistry. My next 2 were not disasters but certainly not what I had hoped they would be. What might have been my last try listed Daddy's Reviews as a source of info about this gentleman and perusal of the reviews and the forum made my next choice simple. I chose based on many outstanding reviews and comments about this man here on the Forum. I was a bit like a kid in a candy store by then but I stuck by my choice and have never looked back. In fact, I have become somewhat of a slut with all of the great men available here.

 

Simply take a deep breath, step back and regroup when you think you are ready again, and read the reviews for outstanding ones not just good ones, and put out the 411 here. Don't let this one experience put you off.

 

Good luck!

[+ poolboy48220]

I got lucky with my first time. Well before Daddy's reviews, well before the internet, I was going off escort services advertising in the gay bar rags. I picked a guy who sounded like my type, he thought it was cute that it was my first time, ever, with a guy. We played around for a while, I topped him (oh, I was SO young ), and when we finished he jumped up & ran to the bathroom. I remember thinking "does it always end like that?" - but he was just washing up. He came back in within a minute, laid down naked on top of me, and we cuddled and talked for a long time. He accidentally let his real name slip.

[MartyB]

Then I would say your OP is poorly written. You start out with a link to Mr Hassan's escort page, immediately followed by a description of a lackluster experience. Anyone who reads this will think that the narrative is concerning the escort whose page you just quoted.

That's exactly how it was presented

[MartyB]

My initial sessions with masseurs/escorts was gradual in what I was comfortable with I doing and what kind of man I was most attracted to. Making mistakes is not a bad thing it actually helps in your selection process in choosing an escort. Each session I explored more of what turned me on and what I was capable of doing. The great part is I chose men who were amazing sexy smart and made me feel special. They all became regulars until they moved or relocated. If my first experience was a bad one I might have stopped but I think I did it the right way.