Perfect Example of How Communication Can ELIMINATE Potential Escorts!

[+ HornyRetiree]

I heard from a HOT (looking) professional who I had buddy listed as desirable for my trip after the turn of the year.

 

Him: "Hey, Jim! I am just going through messages that I saved and ran across yours! Did we move our conversation to my phone? It seems to have ended..... anyway - hit me up: ___________"

 

Him: "Oh, and the new password to my private gallery is _________. I routinely change the code so that only those genuinely interested in me have access "

 

Me: "will do when closer to my trip after the turn of the year. Can you Top??"

 

Him: "Ok sounds good! And yeah - I can. A better question is can you take it. " (NOTE: He has a nice average penis, uncut and not too thick)

 

Me: "LOL -- will need you to enter carefully and gently:)"

 

Him: "I'm not very good at that.... I prefer a slutty bottom who is hungry for my dick. Maybe you should start practicing with a dildo"

 

Guess who is no longer on the list! I have no intention of paying to be raped! I have other selections/possibilities that will accommodate my desires/preferences.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

This is a personal preference and frankly, there are a LOT of guys out there who fantasize about being slutty bottoms.

 

Where in the world did you get 'rape' from? Nothing read rape scene to me in any of this.

[rvwnsd]

What you described is not "rape." It is aggressive, consensual sex. Millions of rape victims would agree with @Benjamin_Nicholas and me.

 

Words matter.

 

PS: Didn't you say you were giving up on escorts?

[+ HornyRetiree]

This is a personal preference and frankly, there are a LOT of guys out there who fantasize about being slutty bottoms.

 

Where in the world did you get 'rape' from? Nothing read rape scene to me in any of this.

 

LOL -- you miss the entire point!!!! I have no issue with a so called "slutty Bttm" being fucked to death IF THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS!!! The response to me was 180 from my request and showed (to me) an unwillingness to honor my preferences.. ANYONE who ignores my request for a careful/gentle entry and slams their cock home IS raping me. (also @rvwnsd )

 

SO guys, stop taking out of context to create controversy!!!

[+ Gar1eth]

I think it's great. You managed to find out beforehand that there was a fairly good chance y'all weren't compatible. Better now than before you have a painful experience.

 

Gman

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

LOL -- you miss the entire point!!!! I have no issue with a so called "slutty Bttm" being fucked to death IF THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS!!! The response to me was 180 from my request and showed (to me) an unwillingness to honor my preferences.. ANYONE who ignores my request for a careful/gentle entry and slams their cock home IS raping me. (also @rvwnsd )

 

SO guys, stop taking out of context to create controversy!!!

 

Good spin on that reply. *thumbs up*

[+ WilliamM]

I think it's great. You managed to find out beforehand that there was a fairly good chance y'all weren't compatible. Better now than before you have a painful experience.

 

Gman

 

Thanks. As usual you have clarified the situation perfectly.

[+ poolboy48220]

@HornyRetiree, for those of us who ARE willing to do that practice - mind sharing the link? :-)

[Guest]

Yeah one of my pet peeves is guys who just jam their cock in me, without taking a few minutes opening me up at first in the beginning, just because I'm an escort doesnt mean my hole is openly loose and doesn't need some gentleness going in to start lol

 

Doesn't matter if it's small or big. I realized most top clients just shove their cock in me and immediately start pounding away, which isn't a good way to start, at least for me

[Rudynate]

LOL -- you miss the entire point!!!! I have no issue with a so called "slutty Bttm" being fucked to death IF THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS!!! The response to me was 180 from my request and showed (to me) an unwillingness to honor my preferences.. ANYONE who ignores my request for a careful/gentle entry and slams their cock home IS raping me. (also @rvwnsd )

 

SO guys, stop taking out of context to create controversy!!!

 

But he hadn't raped you - he didn't say that he was going to rape you. He just communicated a limitation of his, that he isn't the best guy out there for a BFE that includes a smooth sensual fuck. You realized he wasn't suitable and terminated the communication. Happy ending for everybody. You got to avoid being fucked in a way you didn't want to be and he got to avoid wasting any more time talking to somebody who wasn't going to hire him.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Yeah one of my pet peeves is guys who just jam their cock in me, without taking a few minutes opening me up at first in the beginning, just because I'm an escort doesnt mean my hole is openly loose and doesn't need some gentleness going in to start lol

 

Doesn't matter if it's small or big. I realized most top clients just shove their cock in me and immediately start pounding away, which isn't a good way to start, at least for me

 

Are you educating your clients? You need to find better tops.

[MikeyGMin]

Hmmm... all's well that ends well I guess, but it sounded to me like he was just talking dirty to you and teasing. It sounded playful to me, but what do I know? I almost never bottom, but when I do, I sit on that bad boy and take total control over the first few minutes.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Hmmm... all's well that ends well I guess, but it sounded to me like he was just talking dirty to you and teasing. It sounded playful to me, but what do I know? I almost never bottom, but when I do, I sit on that bad boy and take total control over the first few minutes.

 

I kind of agree. It looks like the thread should be about how MIScommunication can fuck up everything.

[+ oldNbusted]

Are you educating your clients? You need to find better tops.

 

Do you know of any?

[+ FreshFluff]

I think "raped" was meant tongue in cheek.

 

In any case, if he can't be gentle, it's good that he was honest about it. Better to move on than to spend money on an awkward encounter that leaves you in pain.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Do you know of any?

 

C'mon, really, what kind of lover would not notice that your partner is not enjoying what you are doing?

I know there are guys that just suck at sex, I do not mean they do not care about their partners, they just are not good at engaging interactively. It is up to the bottom (in this case) to educate them, I think most of them would stop doing it if they knew they are doing it wrong.

I need to start a school.

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[+ poolboy48220]

C'mon, really, what kind of lover would not notice that your partner is not enjoying what you are doing?

Lots. Many of the guys I've played with at bathhouses. I gently disengage, and if that doesn't work, I forcefully disengage. And for the record, it takes me a LOT to not enjoy it.

[+ Gar1eth]

Yeah one of my pet peeves is guys who just jam their cock in me, without taking a few minutes opening me up at first in the beginning, just because I'm an escort doesnt mean my hole is openly loose and doesn't need some gentleness going in to start lol

 

Doesn't matter if it's small or big. I realized most top clients just shove their cock in me and immediately start pounding away, which isn't a good way to start, at least for me

 

Mea Culpa, Mea Culpa!! I normally try to go slow unless it seems like the bottom wants me to top more forcefully (but even then we arent talking like the energizer bunny or a jackhammer the way I've seen some porn stars or escorts to go at it). But a couple months back, I was with a new partner. And I accidentally entered more forcefully that he was ready for. I backed out immediately. I felt horrible. I apologized to him. He said it was OK at the time. But he hasn't wanted to see me since. I will say it wasn't on the first thrust. We had been playing for a bit. But I became excited, and I misjudged his readiness at the point of play we were at.

 

Gman

[+ José Soplanucas]

Lots. Many of the guys I've played with at bathhouses. I gently disengage, and if that doesn't work, I forcefully disengage. And for the record, it takes me a LOT to not enjoy it.

 

Oh, I know there are many poor lovers. My concern is whether or not [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] is setting the appropriate standard on how he likes to be treated.

[rvwnsd]

LOL -- you miss the entire point!!!! I have no issue with a so called "slutty Bttm" being fucked to death IF THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS!!! The response to me was 180 from my request and showed (to me) an unwillingness to honor my preferences.. ANYONE who ignores my request for a careful/gentle entry and slams their cock home IS raping me. (also @rvwnsd )

 

SO guys, stop taking out of context to create controversy!!!

Nice try. "E" for effort, "D" for dumbass comment. Probably just senility!

[Guest]

Are you educating your clients? You need to find better tops.

 

yea sometimes tell them before we meet, other times i tell them right before their going to enter haha, seems like hornyness takes control and they forget, maybe I should take it as a compliment that they want to pound me away

But I'm not even asking for the whole time to be gentle, I just need the first few minutes to be slow so they can open me up. I wonder escorts and clients of the forum are you guys the same or do you immediately like to get pounded away from the beginning? Maybe its just me

[+ José Soplanucas]

yea sometimes tell them before we meet, other times i tell them right before their going to enter haha, seems like hornyness takes control and they forget, maybe I should take it as a compliment that they want to pound me away

 

It is not a compliment if it is displeasing or harmful for you.

[Becket]

Sigh!!! Arguments I'll never get to have.

[OCClient]

So glad I found this thread. I really appreciate your abilities to dialogue on this one. This is a topic I've thought about starting my own thread. Should I?

 

I want to try my first escort experience, with a goal to try the submissive role. So yes, I worry about pain, and I seek someone that is caring, understanding and knowing about effectively initiating me. I'd like to enjoy the experience.

 

I live in So. Cal. I've had plenty of massages and now am ready to go to the next level.

If you have advice, especially escort recommendations, please PM me, or answer in the thread if that is acceptable.

[TruthBTold]

yea sometimes tell them before we meet, other times i tell them right before their going to enter haha, seems like hornyness takes control and they forget, maybe I should take it as a compliment that they want to pound me away

But I'm not even asking for the whole time to be gentle, I just need the first few minutes to be slow so they can open me up. I wonder escorts and clients of the forum are you guys the same or do you immediately like to get pounded away from the beginning? Maybe its just me

 

I like to open guys up beforehand (or try to) so that entry doesn't hurt, i.e., good long rimming and fingers. Then entry should be slow and easy, unless the guy wants it otherwise and tells me so. I have found that once you take the time most guys want it to progress to a pounding. I have found the extra work builds its own pleasure and actually makes things last longer. Of course, I expect (or hope) that other people will follow that routine when I am on the bottom.