What are you into?

[Brodney]

When a client contacts you, what is the most polite way to ask them what they are expecting or into?

[big-n-tall]

It's simply... What are you into?

 

I don't say that to be facetious. It's really that cut and dry. I know some people have a hard time responding to certain things because of shyness or they want/need discretion. However, I garner most people wouldn't see, "What are you into?" as impolite or somehow abrasive/shocking.

[LaffingBear]

It's simply... What are you into?

 

I don't say that to be facetious. It's really that cut and dry. I know some people have a hard time responding to certain things because of shyness or they want/need discretion. However, I garner most people wouldn't see, "What are you into?" as impolite or somehow abrasive/shocking.

That wouldnt offend me... Im usually able reply with what Im into.

 

I can recall being hesitant to be specific. Societal, behavioral forces, taboo discussions of sexual details, fear of legal entrapment, and overall nervousness.... all were present when I first hired.

 

A little time and experience can teach clients that the good escorts are reasonably patient through the screening process. And the escorts too impatient for nerves or too many questions... they were unlikely to be a match anyway.

[gallahadesquire]

I read an ad. I respond. I'm almost never asked what I'm into, and I find most experiences wonderful.

 

I guess I'm easy to please.

 

Be open, be genuine, and I'll be there.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

After we have selected a day and time, and therefore I consider us confirmed, the phrasing that I usually use is "Feel free to tell me a little bit about yourself and what you enjoy". While I don't like to plan out a session too much in advance, it's helpful to know a bit about someone's interests, as well as boundaries.

[+ Charlie]

When an unfamiliar client asks, "What are you into?" there are two possible interpretations of the question. He may be asking, "What do you really like to do?" or he may be asking, "What are you willing to do?" I would probe to find out what he means by the question before answering. Some clients are only interested in whether you will do what they want you to do, while others need to feel that you are as sexually excited as they are by some particular act or role. (Some may even be turned on by getting you to do something you don't like to do.)

[LaffingBear]

... while others need to feel that you are as sexually excited as they are by some particular act or role.

Nice to know Im not alone in that.

[KennF]

From my perspective, I would prefer not getting a response "What are you into?" That response sounds like a hook-up request, instead of a services request. I can picture that on some "fuck-me" app. It sounds more like a question you'd expect from picking up someone at a club or street corner.

 

The question is valid, but the technique ... I would prefer "What services can I offer you?" "What type of experience are you looking for?"

[jawjateck]

When a client contacts you, what is the most polite way to ask them what they are expecting or into?

 

Hit me up stud. We can practice some scenarios. Be glad to help out.

[MiamiLooker]

It's simply... What are you into?

 

I don't say that to be facetious. It's really that cut and dry. I know some people have a hard time responding to certain things because of shyness or they want/need discretion. However, I garner most people wouldn't see, "What are you into?" as impolite or somehow abrasive/shocking.

Why would an escort be shy or need discretion about answering this question?

[+ DERRIK]

Hit me up stud. We can practice some scenarios. Be glad to help out.

 

glad to see Jawjateck is willing to lend a hand

[MikeyGMin]

From my perspective, I would prefer not getting a response "What are you into?" That response sounds like a hook-up request, instead of a services request. I can picture that on some "fuck-me" app. It sounds more like a question you'd expect from picking up someone at a club or street corner.

 

The question is valid, but the technique ... I would prefer "What services can I offer you?" "What type of experience are you looking for?"

"What are you into?" is just generally considered more discreet when two strangers are talking to each other. Although I believe stings are very rare, why would an escort want to be so blatant about offering sexual services to a stranger?

[big-n-tall]

Why would an escort be shy or need discretion about answering this question?

 

Read the OP's original post. I think you've misinterpreted what he asked and what I wrote.

 

To answer your question directly... to my knowledge most escorts don't need discretion or are not shy when asked by a client what the escort himself is into. Which was not what the OP asked. @Brodney (who i believe stated in another forum post that he was an escort or masseur) asked what would be the (best) most polite way for an escort/masseur to ask a client, what is he (or she) is into? Not his exact words of course, but that was inferred.

 

I addressed that by saying people (clients) can be shy or need discretion. I implied that an escort asking a client, "what is he is into," won't necessarily garner the response the escort wants/needs for the meet up. However, by no means would asking the question, "What are you into?" should cause anyone shock and alarm.

 

On a slight tangent, I have contacted working guys who refused to talk about what I was into, via text or over the phone. I assume they either thought I was law enforcement. Or maybe someone had access to their phone that they didn't want them knowing what they do. Needless to say, most of those encounters did not lead to meet ups.

[MiamiLooker]

Read the OP's original post. I think you've misinterpreted what he asked and what I wrote.

Oooops. I'm sorry. You're absolutely correct. I misread the OP's post. I would never answer an escort asking me that unless I already knew what he was into.

[big-n-tall]

Oooops. I'm sorry. You're absolutely correct. I misread the OP's post. I would never answer an escort asking me that unless I already knew what he was into.

 

No worries sir.

[+ DickyF]

Some escort ads state they don't want explicit sexual texts or calls. So I try to say my preferences without getting graphic. But you need to be explicit sometimes. I assumed saying "versatile" that the escort would at least be prepared to bottom but I've learned that's not always the case. If it's important than make sure the escort knows.

[desertguy1954]

I have learned from past experiences, to let the escort I am interested in how I would enjoy our time together. I give my age weight, basic stuff. The I in various ways, based on your your profile and pics this what I would enjoy. i do give a fairly specific pic. I then give them my number so if they are interested we can either talk or tex. My first contact is usually unless otherwise stated. That way their choice for how they would like to respond

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I have learned from past experiences, to let the escort I am interested in how I would enjoy our time together. I give my age weight, basic stuff. The I in various ways, based on your your profile and pics this what I would enjoy. i do give a fairly specific pic. I then give them my number so if they are interested we can either talk or tex. My first contact is usually unless otherwise stated. That way their choice for how they would like to respond

You might want to revise this text. There were several sentences whose meaning I could not figure out. Sorry, I don't mean to talk you down, just that, well, I genuinely didn't get it.

[LADoug1]

Why would an escort be shy or need discretion about answering this question?

 

Because they may be concerned it's a sting.

[LADoug1]

I may ask if their ad is vague and not sufficiently detailed. But I keep it on me. "I'm into [fill in the blank]. Are we a good match?"

[KennF]

"What are you into?" is just generally considered more discreet when two strangers are talking to each other. Although I believe stings are very rare, why would an escort want to be so blatant about offering sexual services to a stranger?

Maybe, but I wasn't talking about sexual services.

 

"What type of experience are you looking for" includes a BFE, a dinner event, going to the beach, a massage, and maybe sex.

"What are you into" is great at a hookup place where the service being sought is more or less established as sexual.

[AquaNYC]

Any advice from escorts on what explicitly not to text during the "fact finding" text exchange (aside from clear expressions of "I will pay you to do xxx" or "how much do you charge to do xx")? Or what limits in the spelling out thru texting would you prefer a potential client respect?

[Michael Paul]

When a client contacts you, what is the most polite way to ask them what they are expecting or into?

I like this questions... I have had a few that just want to know what is my availability and that is it. No discussion about they were into or looking for. For me I feel like I need to know something about them and what they are looking for or require before setting up something up. Is it wrong to ask a potential client questions first before setting something up?

[+ Keith30309]

I like this questions... I have had a few that just want to know what is my availability and that is it. No discussion about they were into or looking for. For me I feel like I need to know something about them and what they are looking for or require before setting up something up. Is it wrong to ask a potential client questions first before setting something up?

I appreciate being asked - it tells me that he's interested in more than an assembly-line experience and cares about ensuring that we both have a good time. One of the best guys out there shared with me that he "researched" me before meeting by reading my posted reviews in order to note the things I mentioned enjoying (and not). Granted that's not something which is possible with most clients but it struck me as being extremely professional and client-focused.

 

I think something like "Are there any sorts of things that you've enjoyed in the past?" opens the dialogue and also avoids the "I'll do X for $Y" issue.

[Michael Paul]

I appreciate being asked - it tells me that he's interested in more than an assembly-line experience and cares about ensuring that we both have a good time. One of the best guys out there shared with me that he "researched" me before meeting by reading my posted reviews in order to note the things I mentioned enjoying (and not). Granted that's not something which is possible with most clients but it struck me as being extremely professional and client-focused.

 

I think something like "Are there any sorts of things that you've enjoyed in the past?" opens the dialogue and also avoids the "I'll do X for $Y" issue.

 

Okay ...great to hear.... I feel like by asking in some sort of way , I can at least have a starting point. I'm a bottom escort and for me that kind of changes things just a little.... great advice.