Do you send out one or multiple requests when looking to hire?

[niceandthick]

I decided late on Saturday night that I wanted to have an incall session Sunday 11am. With it being Pride weekend in DC, there was an all-time high of 187 listings on Rentmen. I found 4 guys that I was interested in. I had my preferences, but any of the 4 would do. I sent texts out to all 4 at the same time. First guy (https://rentmen.com/RicoYoung) to get back to me said that he was available. While setting up the appointment, I asked for real pics as I had found at least 3 of his pics to be of different people. Dead silence until two days later when he replied that pics were 100%legit. Second guy said he could not do incall. Third guy was available and I booked him (Best session ever! https://rentmen.com/XLAdventures). Fourth guy (https://rentmen.com/Oliver_mateo) sent me a text Sunday at 3:14 PM (many hours after I was looking for a session) to say that he had just gotten my text and yes he was available. I didn't see his text until later. For discretion, I don't have notifications on when I receive texts. I have to actively check to see if I have texts.

 

Fourth guy:

6:42pm Me: Sorry guy. I had a session with some else this morning

6:43pm Him: Too bad. Your loss

6:44pm Him: Hope you enjoyed throwing your money away with him

6:45pm Him: Rude

6:51pm Him: You can book for tonight to make up for your rudeness

6:52pm Him: ???

6:54pm Him: ?!!??

6:55pm Him: You don't even have the decency to respond??

7:00pm Him: Asshole

[marylander1940]

I decided late on Saturday night that I wanted to have an incall session Sunday 11am. With it being Pride weekend in DC, there was an all-time high of 187 listings on Rentmen. I found 4 guys that I was interested in. I had my preferences, but any of the 4 would do. I sent texts out to all 4 at the same time. First guy (https://rentmen.com/RicoYoung) to get back to me said that he was available. While setting up the appointment, I asked for real pics as I had found at least 3 of his pics to be of different people. Dead silence until two days later when he replied that pics were 100%legit. Second guy said he could not do incall. Third guy was available and I booked him (Best session ever! https://rentmen.com/XLAdventures). Fourth guy (https://rentmen.com/Oliver_mateo) sent me a text Sunday at 3:14 PM (many hours after I was looking for a session) to say that he had just gotten my text and yes he was available. I didn't see his text until later. For discretion, I don't have notifications on when I receive texts. I have to actively check to see if I have texts.

 

Fourth guy:

6:42pm Me: Sorry guy. I had a session with some else this morning

6:43pm Him: Too bad. Your loss

6:44pm Him: Hope you enjoyed throwing your money away with him

6:45pm Him: Rude

6:51pm Him: You can book for tonight to make up for your rudeness

6:52pm Him: ???

6:54pm Him: ?!!??

6:55pm Him: You don't even have the decency to respond??

7:00pm Him: Asshole

 

You had bad luck, that's all!

[niceandthick]

You had bad luck, that's all!

 

Actually, the 3rd guy to respond I did hire and it was great. The fourth guy...looks like I dodged a bullet on that one.

[LaffingBear]

I cant recall ever sending out multiple inquiries simultaneously. I have lost patience quicky and moved onto an alternate only 1-2 hours after CALLING (not emailing), and only when looking for tonight.

 

Most of my second or third choice, aka settle for this, turned out to be the most disappointing.

[+ azdr0710]

glad you met XL....he has always seemed good-looking, well-equipped, and in great shape to me......

 

is your main question/concern the one in the subject title?.....if so, I may've done it once??....dunno....I'm sure you were anxious and wanted to see who'd reply and how those replies sounded.....

 

I suppose a quick and polite "thank you for your time" reply might've been appropriate for #4 at or before 6:45pm, but, since you don't get notifications, it became too late for that!!.....but you did say "sorry" and that's probably adequate....yes, bad responses from him.....

[niceandthick]

glad you met XL....he has always seemed good-looking, well-equipped, and in great shape to me.......

 

As good-looking as he was, he never made me (54yo and overweight with a belly) feel inadequate. Quite the opposite.

 

is your main question/concern the one in the subject title?.....if so, I may've done it once??....dunno....I'm sure you were anxious and wanted to see who'd reply and how those replies sounded.....

 

Main agenda was to see if it unusual to send out a blast and then accept the first to commit. Because of the timing (late Saturday night for a Sunday morning session), I thought it appropriate to out multiples at the same time.

 

Secondary agenda was to share my interactions with these providers.

 

I suppose a quick and polite "thank you for your time" reply might've been appropriate for #4 at or before 6:45pm, but, since you don't get notifications, it became too late for that!!.....but you did say "sorry" and that's probably adequate....yes, bad responses from him.....

 

I guess I could have circled back to number 4 after I had my session with XL...but I hadn't heard from him anyway.

[marylander1940]

Actually, the 3rd guy to respond I did hire and it was great. The fourth guy...looks like I dodged a bullet on that one.

 

I know... I read it.

 

I meant you had bad luck contacting 4 guys and getting into a fight with the 4th one.

[sincitymix]

As good-looking as he was, he never made me (54yo and overweight with a belly) feel inadequate. Quite the opposite.

 

 

 

Main agenda was to see if it unusual to send out a blast and then accept the first to commit. Because of the timing (late Saturday night for a Sunday morning session), I thought it appropriate to out multiples at the same time.

 

Secondary agenda was to share my interactions with these providers.

 

 

 

I guess I could have circled back to number 4 after I had my session with XL...but I hadn't heard from him anyway.

ive done that once. When i hire its last minute ala.. NOW.. not 2 hours or 3 hours from now.. but NOW.

So i send out 1 msg.. wait 30 minutes send out another to someone else.. wait 30 minutes send out another to a 3rd.. first one that responds gets me

[lainent]

I don't send out multiple requests. It is bad etiquette and the really popular and professional masseurs and escorts get mad at you if you say you called some other guy. Just like you, they are real people and like to feel special too. How would you feel if you met an escort and said "you are nothing but a number to me"? I always call ahead. Make the appt. Never had a bad experience unlike some of the guys on here who make everything sound so dramatic you can't trust their "reviews" because it is so mired in hate and anger and their own rudeness and stupidity. If you sound decent, masculine, nice and not creepy 100/100 of the times the escort/masseur gets back to you.

 

BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.

[MikeyGMin]

BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.

I like that. I think it sums up so much in one simple statement.

[TennDan99]

I usually wait 30 min or so. If I'm truly on short notice I explain that to the escort with my apologies.

[LoveNDino]

I like that. I think it sums up so much in one simple statement.

Crap...there goes my love life. I cannot grow hair on this body, no matter how hard I try

[+ OliverSaks]

I don't send out multiple requests. It is bad etiquette and the really popular and professional masseurs and escorts get mad at you if you say you called some other guy. Just like you, they are real people and like to feel special too. How would you feel if you met an escort and said "you are nothing but a number to me"? I always call ahead. Make the appt. Never had a bad experience unlike some of the guys on here who make everything sound so dramatic you can't trust their "reviews" because it is so mired in hate and anger and their own rudeness and stupidity. If you sound decent, masculine, nice and not creepy 100/100 of the times the escort/masseur gets back to you.

 

BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.

I disagree with a lot of your statements.

 

Guys who get mad because a client has called someone else are pretty damn insecure, if you ask me. It would shock me if any of these types lasted very long...

[+ José Soplanucas]

I don't send out multiple requests. It is bad etiquette and the really popular and professional masseurs and escorts get mad at you if you say you called some other guy. Just like you, they are real people and like to feel special too. How would you feel if you met an escort and said "you are nothing but a number to me"? I always call ahead. Make the appt. Never had a bad experience unlike some of the guys on here who make everything sound so dramatic you can't trust their "reviews" because it is so mired in hate and anger and their own rudeness and stupidity. If you sound decent, masculine, nice and not creepy 100/100 of the times the escort/masseur gets back to you.

 

BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.

 

I disagree, respectfully. Of course they are human beings, but they are not vulnerable flowers that will be offended if you treat them as a commodity. Because they know they are a commodity. They are playing in a very competitive market, and just as they use all the power they have to squeeze our pockets, we should use all the power we have as consumers, and we should make sure they know we have options. This has nothing to do with disrespect or with belittling. I know is easy to get confused because you are absolutely correct, they are beautiful, intelligent, sensible human beings. They are putting themselves in the market, they are the businessman and the product at the same time. They are prostitutes, not your boyfriend, not a piece of meet, they are a human commodity that must be treated as such. For an escort, we are pretty much the same. From this honest and clear contract, a healthy relationship can be built, and perhaps transcends market laws.

 

When I am planning a hire in the long term, I do not do multiple requests. As you say, when planning in the long term we are looking for someone special. But if you are horny and want to set an appointment right now or in no more than 24/48 hrs, I think it is legit to try several plans. Your need is to secure an appointment asap, it is a fact that many professionals do not respond quick enough when you try to contact them for a booty call, because of legitimate or not so legitimate reasons. You do not care. You want a good fuck, so you send several lines. The fastest guy to reply, has the first chance. If you were not fast enough, someone else took your business, market laws. After all, many boys are special.

[handiacefailure]

The guy was definitely a Douche with his responses seeing he waited so long to respond.

 

But I don't send out multiple requests at once either. If I know I'll be in an area I usually contact an escort a couple days ahead of time but I wll keep my word with an appointment if they are interested. If I don't hear back after the first email I just move on to someone else.

[+ nycman]

To answer the question....no, I don't send out multiple requests.

 

Of course, the problems arises when you're trying to hire and the

person to whom you have reached out....doesn't respond. How long

are you "supposed" to wait before reaching out to "#2" on the list.

 

There is no right answer....but in my head I give them 4 hours to

respond. After that I don't feel guilty if they finally respond, and I've

hired someone else in the mean time. That's what my "gut" tells me,

so that's what I use.

 

For the record, I've found that if I don't wait until the last minute

to hire....I don't end up in this predicament as often.

[rvwnsd]

Like others, I don't contact multiple guys when I only intend to hire one of them. I learned that lesson by experience - both guys responded and both were available. Fortunately, I had the funds to make two appointments a day apart.

[The Dude]

I always send out a blast of texts to multiple guys. I don't have hours to wait for one guy to respond... if at all.

[+ José Soplanucas]

This is another example of the lack of standards in our industry, but it is really no different to any "legitimate" business. When you need a provider or a server, so research the market, compare estimations, recommendations, etc., and then you make your decision. I am sure a plumber will not get offended if you ask for n estimate and let him know you are also talking to other 2 plumbing companies. Rather the opposite, you want them to know that you are reaching out to the competition, comparing services, and making a decision based on the best interest for your company. It is the same here.

[AndyDandy]

So here's my story. I often send out multiple requests (a few) if I am visiting another city because I want to make sure I actually find someone.

 

Case at hand. Tuesday night I sent texts to 3 escorts trying to set up something for Sun/Mon. One responded immediately and the interaction was not what I hoped for or expected. No big deal. #2 responded at 4pm yesterday (Wednesday). I immediately replied and as of 6am today (Thursday) I have not received a response. #3 still hasn't responded!

 

So now I move on to #4?

[+ José Soplanucas]

So here's my story. I often send out multiple requests (a few) if I am visiting another city because I want to make sure I actually find someone.

 

Case at hand. Tuesday night I sent texts to 3 escorts trying to set up something for Sun/Mon. One responded immediately and the interaction was not what I hoped for or expected. No big deal. #2 responded at 4pm yesterday (Wednesday). I immediately replied and as of 6am today (Thursday) I have not received a response. #3 still hasn't responded!

 

So now I move on to #4?

 

Do not hesitate, in your case I would send as many requests as interesting guys I find. You do not have time.

[AndyDandy]

Do not hesitate, in your case I would send as many requests as interesting guys I find. You do not have time.

 

Exactly!! My time is just as important.

[BaronArtz]

If you don't have time, then of course you got to reach out to multiple providers. Not something I have done, but I see the point.

 

It really makes me miss the days of the pick-up bars in NYC, 'Cats', 'Rounds', 'Stella' where you walked in on any evening, had multiple boys to choose from, had a drink and took one out for a ride. It was just so much easier and simpler.

[MikeyGMin]

So here's my story. I often send out multiple requests (a few) if I am visiting another city because I want to make sure I actually find someone.

 

Case at hand. Tuesday night I sent texts to 3 escorts trying to set up something for Sun/Mon. One responded immediately and the interaction was not what I hoped for or expected. No big deal. #2 responded at 4pm yesterday (Wednesday). I immediately replied and as of 6am today (Thursday) I have not received a response. #3 still hasn't responded!

 

So now I move on to #4?

Your approach seems reasonable, but I'm curious as to whether you tell them you are reaching out to multiple providers. It seems like it might help motivate them to respond promptly and also understand better if they do contact you and you have already made plans with someone else.

[AndyDandy]

Your approach seems reasonable, but I'm curious as to whether you tell them you are reaching out to multiple providers. It seems like it might help motivate them to respond promptly and also understand better if they do contact you and you have already made plans with someone else.

 

 

I have not. But I'm afraid it would have the opposite effect and piss them off. Sadly, I have a lot of guys who don't respond at all. Maybe it's me? Maybe it's something more widespread.