Do you send out one or multiple requests when looking to hire?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have not. But I'm afraid it would have the opposite effect and piss them off. Sadly, I have a lot of guys who don't respond at all. Maybe it's me? Maybe it's something more widespread.

 

It is not you. Not all escorts have the professional habit of checking their messages and responding quickly. Many have multiple outlets and they do not have their alerts properly set up, so they have to actively go to their account to find out. Some are extremely required and a request can easy get lost in the bulk of messages. And the reasons go on and on. It is not you. Just be patient, an if you are especially interested in a provider, insist until he responds.

[KennF]

I don't send out multiple requests. It is bad etiquette and the really popular and professional masseurs and escorts get mad at you if you say you called some other guy. Just like you, they are real people and like to feel special too. How would you feel if you met an escort and said "you are nothing but a number to me"? I always call ahead. Make the appt. Never had a bad experience unlike some of the guys on here who make everything sound so dramatic you can't trust their "reviews" because it is so mired in hate and anger and their own rudeness and stupidity. If you sound decent, masculine, nice and not creepy 100/100 of the times the escort/masseur gets back to you.

 

BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO ATTRACT.

 

If I were looking to "attract" someone, that would be one thing. But engaging the services of an escort is very different.

 

Escorts are people, true. Escorts are in the business of making clients feel special. All service providers (from estheticians to escorts, from barbers to lawyers) should be focused on their clients.

 

It is not the responsibility of the client to stroke the escort's ego in order to get an appointment.

 

Now, I agree that it is inappropriate to make multiple appointments for the same time. But, I see nothing wrong with making multiple contacts and working through the details until you make a single appointment. If you're unsure that the escort is going to show up, then you probably shouldn't have booked the appointment. And, if you are going to double book, be prepared to make BOTH appointments.

[AndyDandy]

Update - I reached out to #4. His RM profile doesn't contain a phone number, only email through RM. I could see that he was actively online so I sent an email. I waited over 2 hrs and went back to check if he responded. Nothing. I can see that he opened the email and he is still active online. It has now been over 8 hrs with no reply! And I even gave him my text number for easier contact.

 

Do I have the worst luck ever??? Maybe I should just forget the whole thing! lol

[Sandlapp]

I decided late on Saturday night that I wanted to have an incall session Sunday 11am. With it being Pride weekend in DC, there was an all-time high of 187 listings on Rentmen. I found 4 guys that I was interested in. I had my preferences, but any of the 4 would do. I sent texts out to all 4 at the same time. First guy (https://rentmen.com/RicoYoung) to get back to me said that he was available. While setting up the appointment, I asked for real pics as I had found at least 3 of his pics to be of different people. Dead silence until two days later when he replied that pics were 100%legit. Second guy said he could not do incall. Third guy was available and I booked him (Best session ever! https://rentmen.com/XLAdventures). Fourth guy (https://rentmen.com/Oliver_mateo) sent me a text Sunday at 3:14 PM (many hours after I was looking for a session) to say that he had just gotten my text and yes he was available. I didn't see his text until later. For discretion, I don't have notifications on when I receive texts. I have to actively check to see if I have texts.

 

Fourth guy:

6:42pm Me: Sorry guy. I had a session with some else this morning

6:43pm Him: Too bad. Your loss

6:44pm Him: Hope you enjoyed throwing your money away with him

6:45pm Him: Rude

6:51pm Him: You can book for tonight to make up for your rudeness

6:52pm Him: ???

6:54pm Him: ?!!??

6:55pm Him: You don't even have the decency to respond??

7:00pm Him: Asshole

I'm a little turned on by fourth guy's attitude.

[InterestingGuy]

Usually, I try to give 24 hours notice.

 

However, I have a different approach if I want to hire someone NOW. Very rarely will any escort respond immediately. So I always assume I am investing at least 3 hours to confirm someone.

 

I use a "one hour window" strategy. If it's 7pm - I send a text that says I'm looking for an appointment soon because I have plans later - so please text me back to let me know by 8pm or I will assume you're not available. Then at 8:01, I contact the next guy asking him to respond with a new window. If Guy #1 responds after 8:01 (They almost always still reply after the window closes), I can then decide which way I'd like to progress with "no guilt" since I set up a deadline.

[tennisjock]

I decided late on Saturday night that I wanted to have an incall session Sunday 11am. With it being Pride weekend in DC, there was an all-time high of 187 listings on Rentmen. I found 4 guys that I was interested in. I had my preferences, but any of the 4 would do. I sent texts out to all 4 at the same time. First guy (https://rentmen.com/RicoYoung) to get back to me said that he was available. While setting up the appointment, I asked for real pics as I had found at least 3 of his pics to be of different people. Dead silence until two days later when he replied that pics were 100%legit. Second guy said he could not do incall. Third guy was available and I booked him (Best session ever! https://rentmen.com/XLAdventures). Fourth guy (https://rentmen.com/Oliver_mateo) sent me a text Sunday at 3:14 PM (many hours after I was looking for a session) to say that he had just gotten my text and yes he was available. I didn't see his text until later. For discretion, I don't have notifications on when I receive texts. I have to actively check to see if I have texts.

 

Fourth guy:

6:42pm Me: Sorry guy. I had a session with some else this morning

6:43pm Him: Too bad. Your loss

6:44pm Him: Hope you enjoyed throwing your money away with him

6:45pm Him: Rude

6:51pm Him: You can book for tonight to make up for your rudeness

6:52pm Him: ???

6:54pm Him: ?!!??

6:55pm Him: You don't even have the decency to respond??

7:00pm Him: Asshole

seems like the OP missed a bullet ..good for him

[+ José Soplanucas]

Usually, I try to give 24 hours notice.

 

However, I have a different approach if I want to hire someone NOW. Very rarely will any escort respond immediately. So I always assume I am investing at least 3 hours to confirm someone.

 

I use a "one hour window" strategy. If it's 7pm - I send a text that says I'm looking for an appointment soon because I have plans later - so please text me back to let me know by 8pm or I will assume you're not available. Then at 8:01, I contact the next guy asking him to respond with a new window. If Guy #1 responds after 8:01 (They almost always still reply after the window closes), I can then decide which way I'd like to progress with "no guilt" since I set up a deadline.

 

What about if, instead of the "one hour window" strategy, we use the "open widow" strategy. You open the window, throw away all the guilt, and start texting to your shopping list.

[+ oldNbusted]

I only send one at a time, but I'm usually looking for something weeks in advance. It would be totally different if I was traveling and someone fell through, then I could see reaching out to a plan b on short notice.

[MikeyGMin]

It is not the responsibility of the client to stroke the escort's ego in order to get an appointment

Of course it's not your responsibility, but this is the type of transaction where nice guys finish first. I enjoy being good to beautiful young men. (And I'm not out there contacting old plain ones. ) For me, that means making them feel unique and desired from start to finish. Not just one of several acceptable holes to plug.

 

I know that may sound very Pollyanna-ish to those who feel that escort services are a commodity, but I want the man showing up feeling good about himself and happy to be there. I think it greatly improves the service delivered, so it's actually kind of self-serving.

[Pepper Young]

I guess I'm not that spontaneous. I initially contact by email through RM (unless the escort specifically says he doesn't check email). If no response, or a slow response, then I move on. It's all part of the vetting process. Fortunately I've been lucky and not subjected to angry texts from prostitutes.

[RyanDean]

I mostly hire when traveling, and often have only a particular window of opportunity.

I have also been mostly disappointed when I've hired on the spur of the moment.

 

So I generally do contact a few gents in quick succession. Usually just a preliminary text/email query to my top 2-3 contenders a week or so in advance asking if they expect to be in town/available on the day/s I'll be hiring. Depending on the nature of the response, things proceed (or don't) from there.

 

And on the one occasion that my top contender's first reply arrived after I had already begun to make plans with another gent, I just thanked him and said that my schedule had shifted (adding a "maybe next time" and a "but if things change, you may be hearing from me again - thanks!")

 

No need to mention one gent to the other.

[KennF]

Of course it's not your responsibility, but this is the type of transaction where nice guys finish first. I enjoy being good to beautiful young men. (And I'm not out there contacting old plain ones. ) For me, that means making them feel unique and desired from start to finish. Not just one of several acceptable holes to plug.

 

I know that may sound very Pollyanna-ish to those who feel that escort services are a commodity, but I want the man showing up feeling good about himself and happy to be there. I think it greatly improves the service delivered, so it's actually kind of self-serving.

 

Totally agree. That's part of the respect that the escort deserves. And, it should make the encounter better. It is a reflection of the person you are when you treat people with kindness, or, see things from their perspective.

 

To lanient's post, though, being nice it isn't about "attract[ing]" a guy. It is about keeping the interaction positive.

[+ WmClarke]

I do not send out multiple "requests" when I hire. I'm a bit of a planner, so there's plenty of time to make others arrangements.

 

The few times I have tried asking "are you available in a couple of hours?" it hasn't worked out, so I stick to more advanced planning.