Cancellation Policies

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[+ José Soplanucas]

It is hard to give good advice when we have only one side of the story. His behavior as you describe it is indeed questionable.

You do not share an important detail: the duration of the cancelled appointment. If you booked a couple of hours, I don't think he has any ground. But if you had booked a multiple hours appointment and cancelled the last minute, you may have cause a substantial loss in his business. In this case, he deserves some compensation, whether or not the policy is in his website.

[MiamiLooker]

You didn’t get the replacement phone until the day of the appointment? Would you have found a way to contact him if you hadn’t gotten the replacement phone in time?

[+ José Soplanucas]

All of this for one hour appointment???

 

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[Mount N Do]

I cancelled an appointment with an escort (I will not disclose his identity here) I found through this website . We had set a date 2 months prior and when the day for our appointment came I cancelled. Shitty but there was an explanation for my last minute cancellation. I had lost my phone a week prior and since the only other phone I have access to is my home phone number (I live with other people) and I wanted to maintain discretion, I opted to wait until I got a replacement phone. After this initial cancellation he continued to text me and send voice messages to reschedule a new date.

 

What followed was admittedly wrong on my part, but I ignored his follow up text inquiries because I was having some financial trouble and could not afford the rates he was asking (even with a discount) was admittedly embarrassed since I had already cancelled the first appointment. He continued to text me and leave voice messages 4 months after I cancelled the initial appointment without zero response on my end (which I found worrisome) until I finally responded about 2 weeks ago, explaining to him that his constant messaging was making me uncomfortable, to which he said that I owe him money for the appointment cancelled. When I told him that I couldn't pay the amount (and I did not feel obligated to pay the amount since there was no written contract with those terms), he said he would blackball me and tell other clients not to do business with me. Fine. I didn't care at that point. I just wanted him out of my life.

 

The last 2 weeks I don't hear anything from him so I assume i'm in the clear until he contacts me again today saying I still owe him. He then brings up a 24 hour cancellation policy. I tried to explain to him that there has obviously a miscommunication regarding the policy since I would never purposely put myself in a position like this in the first place.

 

Since he did not clearly explain the terms of the cancellation policy and the terms on his website are vague (just says 24 hour cancellation policy and does not specify whether the policy is instated with or without a signed contract), does he have grounds?This honestly feels like borderline extortion.

 

I would really appreciate any advice. This whole ordeal has been like a cloud hanging over my head.

I wouldn't worry about it. What's he gonna do, report you to the credit bureau? Or send you to collections? Small claims court? You're actually worried about this? And who schedules an appointment months in advance? He's playing you dude.

[+ MasssageGuy]

Seriously, a "cancellation policy"... What is this a doctor's office... No contract exists... How long was the appointment for? What was the charge?

 

If you intend to see this guy in the future, then yes compensate him for the time you were to be there for. You are not under any obligation to pay the dude other than common courtesy...

[+ Travis69]

I think you owe him the money with the shitty way you treated him. Sorry.

[Joel]

But if they cancel on you the day of, do they owe you a free meeting? Interesting

[+ José Soplanucas]

I would not hurry to make easy judgements on the escort. Remember, we know only one side of the story.

 

I never heard of a client booking a one hour appointment two months in advance.

[rvwnsd]

I wouldn't worry about it. What's he gonna do, report you to the credit bureau? Or send you to collections? Small claims court? You're actually worried about this? And who schedules an appointment months in advance? He's playing you dude.

You forgot about the dreaded

 

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in the prospective client's permanent file.

[MikeyGMin]

It sounds like he is being obsessive and a bit aggressive BUT it also sounds like you have contributed to the problem by not putting on your big-boy pants and dealing with the situation in a straightforward manner.

 

Surely there was some way of getting the message to him prior to the day of the appointment. So by canceling at the last minute you really do owe him the money (in my book), but he probably would have let it go already if you would have just told him you don't have it. End of story. ( Which by the way, you probably shouldn't be hiring escorts if you are cutting things that close. )

 

It wasn't the gentlemanly thing to do but what's done is done. You shafted him and he is taking it way too far. Block his number and move on. And don't do it to another guy!

[+ MasssageGuy]

I never heard of a client booking a one hour appointment two months in advance.

 

Good question.... What was your reasoning for booking two months in advance? Do you always do this??

[MassageDrew]

Sorry but I think you're both in the wrong here. You took your time to cancel and that was rude. I'd like to hear this "valid" excuse that you claim to cancel the last minute.

 

For the escort, he just needs to let it go. All this trouble in trying to contact you for an hour of appointment? Move on, honey. Move on.

[MikeyGMin]

I'm an idiot. I get it.

 

Thanks guys

Don't be so hard on yourself. Live and learn. But I remember your previous posts about your age. It's probably one reason he thinks he can browbeat you into paying him. Also one of the reasons escorts are sometimes uneasy about clients under 30.

[+ Funguy]

Come on guys - you never book in advance????

I have a work schedule which often forces me to book in advance, even with guys here in town, tho mostly with those who travel here.

I have booked several guys in the past up to 6 months in the future which then allows me to schedule my time off. If they tell me they have plans to visit in a "few months" - count me in, I will be your anchor client. And, I am LUCKY to say this involves some of our best-and most popular- gentlemen. 6 weeks ahead is average for me!!!

I have also never, since I've been renting, canceled an appt., let alone a long-scheduled one.

[Mount N Do]

I'm skeptical all around here. In my experience, I don't know of an escort who takes an appointment months in advance, at least with a new client. And based on the OP's timeline, there doesn't appear to have been a confirmation of said meeting. Personally, I won't ever confirm a scheduled meeting farther out than 24hrs. If I had to cancel after I confirmed, I'd typically offer to pay at minimum.

[Mount N Do]

I'm an idiot. I get it.

 

Thanks guys

Chill kid. Get over here, group hug.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

There's nothing wrong with booking months in advance: Some guys have packed schedules (on either end).

 

It's sometimes the best way, depending on the circumstance.

[Mount N Do]

There's nothing wrong with booking months in advance: Some guys have packed schedules (on either end).

 

It's sometimes the best way, depending on the circumstance.

Not really arguing, but I would say it's the exception and rare. Especially in this business.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Not really arguing, but I would say it's the exception and rare. Especially in this business.

 

I would agree with you

[bigvalboy]

See above.

 

I don't 'always' do this. This is my first time.

 

I'm an idiot. I get it.

 

Thanks guys

 

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I fear you boys ran the OP off...

[big-n-tall]

I'm skeptical all around here. In my experience, I don't know of an escort who takes an appointment months in advance, at least with a new client. And based on the OP's timeline, there doesn't appear to have been a confirmation of said meeting. Personally, I won't ever confirm a scheduled meeting farther out than 24hrs. If I had to cancel after I confirmed, I'd typically offer to pay at minimum.

 

Most of the guys I see let me book weeks and months in advance. They'll tell me a general timeframe of when they might be in my area or I'll tell them in advance when I might be in their's.

 

Of course, because I know them and they know my schedule and my usual reliability, they are fine booking that far.

[+ José Soplanucas]

There's nothing wrong with booking months in advance: Some guys have packed schedules (on either end).

 

It's sometimes the best way, depending on the circumstance.

 

I know there are months advanced bookings, but usually they are for at least an overnight, usually a week end or a trip together.

I am a 1-2 hours client, and a few times I have booked an appointment a couple of weeks in advance, when the provider is a demanded star like Sean Xavier.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Most of the guys I see let me book weeks and months in advance. They'll tell me a general timeframe of when they might be in my area or I'll tell them in advance when I might be in their's.

 

Of course, because I know them and they know my schedule and my usual reliability, they are fine booking that far.

 

Have you ever booked 2 months in advance for a one hour meeting with a first time escort?

[+ Keith30309]

I've booked months in advance when I see a travel schedule pop up - both guys I know well and those I've never met.

If something happens in the interim and I'll be unable to meet then I notify the guy ASAP because it may change the income/expense profile of his trip to my town and he may need to change travel plans.

 

Same as my dentist. If there is a segment of time blocked out on his calendar with my name on it then he's not going to be able to backfill my short-notice cancellation and will not receive the income necessary to offset his fixed expenses.

 

I try to treat companions like professionals and I assume they will behave in kind. It's in everyone's best interest to raise the bar on expectations of escorts and clients alike.