A First Timer Delima

[gchal00]

Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening All:

 

I have been a lurker for the past few months since I joined the forum. It is an invaluable resource IMO. I am coming forth because several Escorts have sent me follow up messages after they have seen that I visited their profile.

 

I always thank and compliment them and let them know I have never done this. I am uncertain and scared. Am I too heavy, too old, undesirable? Rejection is part of my life. I am not a millionaire with money to blow on good looking guys.

 

My question is, what is the proper way to respond? . I am ALL for promoting your business. God bless you. I remember those who reach out.

 

I don't want to offend or discourage someone if I do not take them up on their offer then and there. Personal economics are in the way, I am so embarrassed to say.

[+ purplekow]

Simply say you were window shopping but when the time is right and the money is flowing, he will be right there and your juices will be flowing. In other words, thanks but I am just looking right now but you look mahvelous

[Funcompany]

If you are looking at rentmen, turn off the feature so they don't see you "window shopping".

[+ bashful]

what is the proper way to respond?

 

Personally for me, it's best to respond, or approach with honesty. A few times in the past, I was self conscience, and didn't fully describe myself, and it really was not my best experience. The more honest I became, they would either respond they had limitations, or happily, were very welcoming.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

An escort soliciting without first being directly contacted, merely because you looked at their profile? That's pretty hungry.

My advice is to be direct and straight-forward with these guys: When you're ready to pull the trigger, you will. Don't ever forget that your comfort level is the most important thing in figuring everything out. You shouldn't feel pressure, ever. You're not buying a used car.

[Bayman4Fun]

I didnt know that feature was present on RM.... so thanks for this post

[gchal00]

Thanks men. I have corrected my grammar. Very sorry it was ghastly. Auto correct needs a chunk of flesh occasionally.

[MassageDrew]

I think you're scared to turn someone down. Don't be but be nice about it. Unless they're pushy about it, they're mainly acknowledging your visit and possible interest.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Thanks men. I have corrected my grammar. Very sorry it was ghastly. Auto correct needs a chunk of flesh occasionally.

 

No worries, but your response made me smile, reminding me of...

 

<https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVAc1jICCwE>

[AndreFuture]

An escort soliciting without first being directly contacted, merely because you looked at their profile? That's pretty hungry.

My advice is to be direct and straight-forward with these guys: When you're ready to pull the trigger, you will. Don't ever forget that your comfort level is the most important thing in figuring everything out. You shouldn't feel pressure, ever. You're not buying a used car.

 

I tend to send a message if I'v seen a guy has checked out my profile 4 or 5 times (or more) in a day. I basically say "Hey, I see you checked out my profile. Let me know if you have questions for me." I'm aware that I'm a curiosity. I know for some guys, reaching out is a huge turn off/red flag/thirsty/whatever. For others, they are often too nervous to make the first move, so I try this to break the ice.

[AquaNYC]

I check the same profiles often as well, and am not sure what escorts think. I travel for business often and I am a planner, plus I usually use forums like this to do some background checking. Once I am sure of my interest, I then reach out to the escort. It hasn't always worked out - some of the escorts don't reply (I suspect they think I'm not serious). Still relatively new to this so seeing how it goes.

[+ Funguy]

Personal economics are in the way, I am so embarrassed to say.

 

Why should you be embarrassed re: your "personal economics"? Not everybody can afford this all the time. I am sure that you are certainly not the only one with limited funds . . . Simply save up for a special occassion and treat yourself when you have reached your goal.

 

Be sure to check with a 411 here when you are ready so you can maximize your good time with a gentleman who will fit your desires.

[Bearofdistinction]

I tend to send a message if I'v seen a guy has checked out my profile 4 or 5 times (or more) in a day. I basically say "Hey, I see you checked out my profile. Let me know if you have questions for me." I'm aware that I'm a curiosity. I know for some guys, reaching out is a huge turn off/red flag/thirsty/whatever. For others, they are often too nervous to make the first move, so I try this to break the ice.

 

Very nice - polite business=like open ended response to help build dialogue!

[+ VictorPowers]

An escort soliciting without first being directly contacted, merely because you looked at their profile? That's pretty hungry.

My advice is to be direct and straight-forward with these guys: When you're ready to pull the trigger, you will. Don't ever forget that your comfort level is the most important thing in figuring everything out. You shouldn't feel pressure, ever. You're not buying a used car.

I agree with you! If they are soliciting you, I'd see that as a red flag. Desperate? I'm all for self promotion, but unless you've visited 10+ times on the same profile.. the escort really shouldn't be making the initial contact. I loved the response above stating you're window shopping and will reach out if interested.

[gchal00]

Excellent suggestions and insights! Thanks everyone.

[+ WmClarke]

I just wanted to add my story.

 

I almost didn't make an account on RentMen. I had one on RentBoy and they pretty much had everyone who was on RM.

 

But it's easier to manage your buddy list, and I found some guys listed cheaper prices on one site or the other, so I made an account. Looked at some profiles. and then got a message from a gentleman I had looked at. I freaked.

 

Luckily, I calmed down fairly quickly and responded. We've been texting ever since (for about 2 1/2 years, and not just about sessions) and I schedule time with him 2-3 times a year.

 

So, just because an escort messaged you first is no big deal. It may be the start of something great!

[+ azdr0710]

just want to say that, buried upthread, there was the suggestion to turn off notifications at RM (if you don't want these "hi"-type replies mentioned by the OP).....

 

in rent.men, go to settings > privacy settings, and there is a "Allow members to see if I have checked them out" option.....set it as you please....probably a similar route in rentmen.com

[instudiocity]

dilemma

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

Good Morning/Afternoon/Evening All:

 

I have been a lurker for the past few months since I joined the forum. It is an invaluable resource IMO. I am coming forth because several Escorts have sent me follow up messages after they have seen that I visited their profile.

 

I always thank and compliment them and let them know I have never done this. I am uncertain and scared. Am I too heavy, too old, undesirable? Rejection is part of my life. I am not a millionaire with money to blow on good looking guys.

 

My question is, what is the proper way to respond? . I am ALL for promoting your business. God bless you. I remember those who reach out.

 

I don't want to offend or discourage someone if I do not take them up on their offer then and there. Personal economics are in the way, I am so embarrassed to say.

 

 

You don't owe anybody anything. Maybe that's the NY'er in me talking, but it's not your job to make them feel wanted if they're not your cuppa. You're entitled to look at as many profiles as you want. If people contact you afterwards, you're also entitled to ignore that. I've messaged a handful of guys who have been to my profile many times and have something eye-catching in their own profile. But never more than "hey great jock," or similar. And if they don't followup, they don't followup. No one lost any sleep.

 

It seems easy for clients to forget sometimes that they are customers and should be in command of their entire experience. You're entitled to respect as the customer (including the ability to ignore messages you didn't ask for), and if you're not getting it, don't engage.

 

You're the boss, bro. From beginning to end.

 

 

-t