Peculiar? Desperate? Effective?

[Bayman4Fun]

I occasionally see the posts go by online.... these days, its craigslist... but it happened on other boards in the past.

 

"I saw you on the bus. You are wearing a Daffy Duck T-shirt. We exchanged smiles... hit me back."

 

Here's a little fantasy moment from a guy who liked the looks of another patron at the muffler shop. https://sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/mis/6125844136.html

 

Sometimes I think it's just a risk free way for guys to fantasize and convince themselves they're out there looking

 

Has this behavior ever produced results for anyone?

[+ poolboy48220]

I've never posted one, but the few that I have seen give a bit more clues so that the person might recognize the encounter.

[Bearofdistinction]

I tried it once to pickup the HOT Summer Temp Mail Carrier! No Luck

[+ OliverSaks]

I used to look through these regularly - I don't think it is desperate or peculiar.

 

Shyness / fear of rejection seem more appropriate.

[Bayman4Fun]

Has anyone here ever had success trying this? Know someone (other than urban myth) whose had success?

[Mydavid]

Has this behavior ever produced results for anyone?

I guess it is too difficult to make it.

[MikeBiDude]

Doesn't Craigslist have a whole "missed connection" section like this? About 8 years ago I was involved with a young man who reached out like that a couple times and was rewarded with a date. Rare, but happened

[+ Eric Hassan]

I was on the train one day and a very attractive guy got on. We made immediate eye contact and he approached me to stand near me. I was in the doorway with my left hand up on the bar to steady myself. He placed his hand next to mine. The doors closed and the train left the station. We exchanged lingering glances and sly smiles. Slowly, his hand moved towards mine until they were touching. I didn't move my hand - I just wanted that little bit of touch from this dude. By the next stop, his hand had made it on top of mine and our fingers were intertwined. When we pulled into my stop, I squeezed my fingers against his, smiled at him, and turned around and got off the train.

 

We didn't talk. I don't even remember what he looked like (though I do remember he had sexy hands). It was a beautiful moment that put a big smile on my face and (even more) bounce in my step.

 

I didn't place a "missed connection" ad or search for one he may have posted. To me, the encounter was complete. I held hands with a random, nameless, sexy stranger on the train. To me, it was incredible chemistry and a magical moment and that was enough for me. I wouldn't want to ruin my memory of him and our time together by knowing his name.

[mike carey]

I didn't place a "missed connection" ad or search for one he may have posted. To me, the encounter was complete. I held hands with a random, nameless, sexy stranger on the train. To me, it was incredible chemistry and a magical moment and that was enough for me. I wouldn't want to ruin my memory of him and our time together by knowing his name.

That account is both sweet and powerful. I'm not sure that I could either deal with the brief intimacy or cope with walking away from the encounter, such as it was. It gives me something profound to contemplate.

[+ Eric Hassan]

That account is both sweet and powerful. I'm not sure that I could either deal with the brief intimacy or cope with walking away from the encounter, such as it was. It gives me something profound to contemplate.

 

Consumerism can convince that more is better. Sometimes, enough is enough.

[Bearofdistinction]

I was on the train one day and a very attractive guy got on. We made immediate eye contact and he approached me to stand near me. I was in the doorway with my left hand up on the bar to steady myself. He placed his hand next to mine. The doors closed and the train left the station. We exchanged lingering glances and sly smiles. Slowly, his hand moved towards mine until they were touching. I didn't move my hand - I just wanted that little bit of touch from this dude. By the next stop, his hand had made it on top of mine and our fingers were intertwined. When we pulled into my stop, I squeezed my fingers against his, smiled at him, and turned around and got off the train.

 

We didn't talk. I don't even remember what he looked like (though I do remember he had sexy hands). It was a beautiful moment that put a big smile on my face and (even more) bounce in my step.

 

I didn't place a "missed connection" ad or search for one he may have posted. To me, the encounter was complete. I held hands with a random, nameless, sexy stranger on the train. To me, it was incredible chemistry and a magical moment and that was enough for me. I wouldn't want to ruin my memory of him and our time together by knowing his name.

 

That is a lovely encounter -- I had something similar but more intimate on the AMTRAK Regional Rail -- I was cruising the hot lil furry man about 40 -- 5'7 Beard/Stache/Hari piling out the top of his white pressed dress shirt --- I got up to go to the bathroom --- and after one last long look and a knod

of the head he followed ---- I was standing at the toilet -- he slid the door open and locked it behind him -- got on his knees teased a load of piss out of me and after a good long drink - he worked a load of cum out of me ----- as we finished the train pulled into Baltimore and he scurried out picked up his back pack and was gone . . . . . BUT WAIT I TAKE THIS TRAIN ALOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[+ Kufrol]

This scene from Citizen Kane comes to mind:

 

[RandyC]

I was on the train one day and a very attractive guy got on. We made immediate eye contact and he approached me to stand near me. I was in the doorway with my left hand up on the bar to steady myself. He placed his hand next to mine. The doors closed and the train left the station. We exchanged lingering glances and sly smiles. Slowly, his hand moved towards mine until they were touching. I didn't move my hand - I just wanted that little bit of touch from this dude. By the next stop, his hand had made it on top of mine and our fingers were intertwined. When we pulled into my stop, I squeezed my fingers against his, smiled at him, and turned around and got off the train.

 

We didn't talk. I don't even remember what he looked like (though I do remember he had sexy hands). It was a beautiful moment that put a big smile on my face and (even more) bounce in my step.

 

I didn't place a "missed connection" ad or search for one he may have posted. To me, the encounter was complete. I held hands with a random, nameless, sexy stranger on the train. To me, it was incredible chemistry and a magical moment and that was enough for me. I wouldn't want to ruin my memory of him and our time together by knowing his name.

 

Damn, you can make a casual encounter sound more erotic as porn... One day I hope to meet you on a train... but we will leave together...

[+ José Soplanucas]

Consumerism can convince that more is better. Sometimes, enough is enough.

 

I hate you (love you) for being so wise. When we talk about sex, it is never enough for me.

[SuenosAmor]

Craiglist MCs is for people with low self-esteem, too timid to make a move in person. I used to be that person and you don't want to be with that hot mess.

[+ OliverSaks]

Craiglist MCs is for people with low self-esteem, too timid to make a move in person. I used to be that person and you don't want to be with that hot mess.

I think you're thinking much too narrowly (and cynically).

 

Many times, the post is from someone who is afraid to approach someone else because they don't know if the co-worker/plumber/etc is even into same-sex partners at all.

[Bayman4Fun]

So, based on my original question, I'm going to interpret all the responses as, while casual encounters may happen.... trolling the Craigslist casual encounters section is unlikely to succeed.

[+ quoththeraven]

So, based on my original question, I'm going to interpret all the responses as, while casual encounters may happen.... trolling the Craigslist casual encounters section is unlikely to succeed.

So in other words none of the above - neither peculiar, desperate or effective.

[+ José Soplanucas]

So in other words none of the above - neither peculiar, desperate or effective.

 

No. We keep the desperation. Goodbye to the two good things.

[AndreFuture]

So, based on my original question, I'm going to interpret all the responses as, while casual encounters may happen.... trolling the Craigslist casual encounters section is unlikely to succeed.

I guess for it to be successful, both parties would have to scour CL to see if the other person posted about their encounter (or lack thereof).

[+ quoththeraven]

No. We keep the desperation. Goodbye to the two good things.

Eh, if you don't act on it - just think about it - where is the desperation?

[MikeBiDude]

Eh, if you don't act on it - just think about it - where is the desperation?

Desperation? Hmmmm...good friend of mine sits in orchestra seating like 3rd row at symphony. He and 3rd violin eye each other, winks, nods smiles. My friend posts in missed connections that night, violin replies, they fiddle together for a few weeks and had fun.

[SuenosAmor]

I think you're thinking much too narrowly (and cynically).

 

Many times, the post is from someone who is afraid to approach someone else because they don't know if the co-worker/plumber/etc is even into same-sex partners at all.

 

You must frequent these pages, often.

 

Not narrow thinking nor cynicism. I just look for real connections, and CL MC is the last place you'd find those.

[+ quoththeraven]

You must frequent these pages, often.

 

Not narrow thinking nor cynicism. I just look for real connections, and CL MC is the last place you'd find those.

It's not my thing either, but as long as one doesn't go all creepy stalker about it, what's the harm?

[+ nycman]

To me, the encounter was complete.

I held hands with a random, nameless, sexy stranger on the train.

To me, it was incredible chemistry and a magical moment and that was enough for me.

 

Dear god...can I hire you for the "hand holding with a random stranger on the train experience"?

 

That was hotter than 99% of the porn in this world.

 

Congratulations on being open to the experience and being able to let it just be that....and incredible experience.