traveling with a professional

[P Gren]

What works and what doesn't? Interested in experiences with this aspect of the business.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Allow time apart if the travel is more than 24 hours. Exercise, reading email, checking in at home are often independent activities for me and a traveling companion.

[liubit]

Allow time apart if the travel is more than 24 hours. Exercise, reading email, checking in at home are often independent activities for me and a traveling companion.

That is excellent advice, excellent. You will both need time apart from each other, otherwise the trip can become a nightmare.

[P Gren]

Why would it become a nightmare? Am I missing something here?

[+ purplekow]

Why would it become a nightmare? Am I missing something here?

Have you ever travelled with anyone? It always has nightmarish aspects to it, even if you know and like the person. Talk to any newlywed about their honeymoon and they will tell you all the wonderful things they did. Ask them if they fought, most will say yes, the rest lie. Traveling with anyone is difficult. Different body schedules. Different preferences for what to eat, where to eat, what to wear when you go where you eat. Plan time away from each other because at some point you are going to need it and so is he

[+ oldNbusted]

I can't have have someone all up in my grill 24/7, every little thing would start to get on my nerves.

[P Gren]

Lots of experience traveling with people - from weekends to six weeks overseas. I'm wondering in a professional situation what is reasonable for a professional to expect and maybe which situations work best.

[+ oldNbusted]

Traveling with anyone is difficult.

 

So true. When I used to travel for weekend partying with friends, after we got back, we usually wouldn't speak for the week, not because there was a fight, but just because even with good friends, we were saturated with each other and needed time to decompress.

[P Gren]

Does anyone have specific experience to share?

I went here .... with (client or professional) .... and it worked because .....

I went here .... with .... and it didn't work because .....

That sort of thing. Thanks.

[Good Grief]

So true. When I used to travel for weekend partying with friends, after we got back, we usually wouldn't speak for the week, not because there was a fight, but just because even with good friends, we were saturated with each other and needed time to decompress.

 

Being saturated with a traveling partner is not a bad thing! I've been traveling with a fellow for 3 or 4-day weekends for over a year now. It's been fine and oh so good!

 

We enjoy each other's company on the town and back at home-base.

 

Time apart is good. He visits the hotel or local gym, we both have phone and message time. It can and does work.

[+ Kufrol]

Does anyone have specific experience to share?

I went here .... with (client or professional) .... and it worked because .....

I went here .... with .... and it didn't work because .....

That sort of thing. Thanks.

Here's a thread from The Lounge. Abel Rey's video addresses a specific time he had with a client when they went on a cruise (I realize you're not necessarily asking about going on a cruise with an escort, but Abel's observations address some of your questions.):

 

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/atlantis-cruise.123934/#post-1275909

[+ oldNbusted]

Being saturated with a traveling partner is not a bad thing! I've been traveling with a fellow for 3 or 4-day weekends for over a year now. It's been fine and oh so good!

 

We enjoy each other's company on the town and back at home-base.

 

Time apart is good. He visits the hotel or local gym, we both have phone and message time. It can and does work.

 

It can be great when it works, and it sounds like you found a good match.

 

Not directed at you, I'm reminded of this

 

"If you don't like someone, the way he holds his spoon will make you furious. If you do like him, he can turn his plate over into your lap and you won't mind." - Oscar Wilde

[Good Grief]

 

"If you don't like someone, the way he holds his spoon will make you furious. If you do like him, he can turn his plate over into your lap and you won't mind." - Oscar Wilde

 

Thanks @oldNbusted. Working so far and, damn, enjoying myself.

 

No plate in my lap, yet. Unless Mister Wilde had other things in mind...

[MikeyGMin]

This may not help because it was such a unique situation.

 

I spent a week in Costa Rica with a young man that I had never met. It was set up by a mutual friend. It was a risk because we had never met each other, but there was not a lot of money at stake. (Very different than a high end situation where you're paying a hefty daily rate.) We all agreed that if it didn't work out -- for either of us -- he would grab a bus home with whatever was due him at the time.

 

It worked out well because:

• We are both easygoing people (my friend knew this) and didn't have a long list of expectations.
  
• We had other people along on the trip so it wasn't just the two of us. Even with breaks that's a lot of time to spend with someone one-on-one.
  
• I did not treat him like my personal sex slave.
  
• I wasn't clingy and gave him plenty of space. Especially in gay situations where he would be perceived as a boy toy.
  
• In return he gave me the respect of not flirting back when he got attention -- which was frequent.
  

That was more than a year ago and we still stay in touch.

[P Gren]

Any professionals on here (escorts/dancers etc.) that have recommendations about what situations have worked?

[P Gren]

Any recommendations/experiences from professionals that worked - if you can share them. thanks

[Bayman4Fun]

Assess yourself and your expectations. Just what level of togetherness are you seeking?

 

Here are some examples where I was part of the problem... all arising from unclear expectations about "separate time"

 

I spent a long weekend with a guy, in a coastal community. Went walking/light hiking, he became more fascinated with the scenery than me. Not wanting to be clingy, I suggested he could go a little further, explore on his own. Over two hours later, I was sitting and fuming. Remote, no cell service area. Tempted to drive away, just leave him there.

 

I went out in a city with a guy... he turned heads as we walked into a bar known for muscle-patrons. I enjoyed watching the scene for a few minutes, decided I'd let him enjoy himself, and went to a neighboring bar, more "my crowd". Returned to the first bar, said I was ready to go. He asked if I minded if he stay a bit. Not wanting to be possessive, I said yes. I was furious when he rolled into our hotel room 5 hours later, 3 am.

 

Visiting a museum once, my guy said he needed a few minutes to look for something in the gift shop. I sat on a bench waiting. 90 minutes later, he wasn't answering his phone, a quick look in the the gift shop and I couldn't find him. I got wound up, and was outside the entrance to the museum, walking towards the car, when he came running up. Then he got angry, that i would consider just leaving him there. It passed quickly and all was fine.

 

I could blame the other guy, and some of it is inconsiderate behavior. But i share the responsibility.

 

We learn from our experiences. I'd be no less inclined to give an escort his personal time today... I'd encourage it as I need a little private time too. But I'd be a little more proactive in clarifying timelines. Today, I'd follow-up "have a good workout" with "see you at the pool at 3"

[+ quoththeraven]

Allow time apart if the travel is more than 24 hours. Exercise, reading email, checking in at home are often independent activities for me and a traveling companion.

Some escorts have policies to that effect - that they need an hour a day to themselves to exercise, check messages and email, etc.

[+ VictorPowers]

Allow time apart if the travel is more than 24 hours. Exercise, reading email, checking in at home are often independent activities for me and a traveling companion.

100% true! Every trip I've taken had some time apart. It's much needed just to reset and do what you need. It would be exhausting "working" for 24/7.