What's the reason for getting bored?

[Mydavid]

I meet an escort regularly. We always have a great time. But recently, I feel a little bit bored or something else. I cannot express clearly with words, it is like, I still have great orgasms, but it seems not as content as before.

 

I wonder what's the reason. It is because I am familiar with him? I have a friend who marries a man, and he told me he still loved his husband each other very much but lost the interest in having sex with him.

 

We did almost totally same things for several recent meetings. Should we try something new? I really have no idea what I should try, and I don't know what I should talk to him. I always told him I had a very great time, and I'm too shy to discuss detail about sex and always let him lead the session.

[escortrod]

It may be a cliché, but it's often true that familiarity breeds contempt. Most people enjoy novelty.

[big-n-tall]

And to hook on to what @escortrod said, it may also be good to not see him as much. Absence does indeed makes the heart grow fonder.

 

So try some new things and don't see him as much and your meet ups will probably improve. If not, it's ok to meet someone else... or do a three way. LOL!

[+ purplekow]

Try something new. Perhaps a new escort. But if your imagination does not take you on a flight of fancy, then tell the escort: "Listen, I am game for anything ,but I want something new" As long as you have a safe word and an adventurous spirit, let him take you to someplace you had no idea you wanted go.

[MikeyGMin]

First you need to figure out what's going on in your own head. If you're shy, talking to him will be hard, but much more difficult if you weren't sure what you were trying to communicate.

 

You should be able to figure out whether you are bored with the person or the things you are doing. Just be honest with yourself and know there is no right or wrong answer. If it's the person, it's an easy fix by choosing someone else. If it's the things you are doing, you can still let him take charge but send him different signals. Most escorts are excellent at picking up on these signals. Position yourself differently or guide his hands differently. Switch up the routine.

 

Just coming out and clearly stating what you desire is always best and easiest on the escort, but if you're shy you're shy.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I meet an escort regularly. We always have a great time. But recently, I feel a little bit bored or something else. I cannot express clearly with words, it is like, I still have great orgasms, but it seems not as content as before.

 

I wonder what's the reason. It is because I am familiar with him? I have a friend who marries a man, and he told me he still loved his husband each other very much but lost the interest in having sex with him.

 

We did almost totally same things for several recent meetings. Should we try something new? I really have no idea what I should try, and I don't know what I should talk to him. I always told him I had a very great time, and I'm too shy to discuss detail about sex and always let him lead the session.

 

Are you a Hunter or a Shepard? Maybe you need a new prey-man.

[JayCeeKy]

I wonder what's the reason. It is because I am familiar with him?

 

Ever hear of the "Coolidge Effect?"

 

The President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental government farm. When Mrs.. Coolidge came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said, "Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being told, the President asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time." President: "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge."

 

The "Coolidge Effect" (getting bored with the same partner) has been supported in various experiments. If you put a male rat in a box with a female rat in heat he will go at it with her for several days. After that, he apparently becomes bored and stops having sex. Put a brand new female rat in the box and he'll go at it again.... until he gets bored again. The Coolidge Effect has been documented to some degree in human men as well. So, the feelings you have described are perfectly normal.

 

Sex therapists say that the key to maintaining a "stimulating" relationship with the same partner over time is to provide that relationship with a certain amount of novelty, as escortrod et al. have suggested. That novelty could take the form of role plays, use of sex toys, reversal of roles, or changing the physical environment (e.g. having your rendezvous in a totally different place), adding a third partner. Or, there's the obvious alternative of agreeing not to see each other for a while - as others have suggested, absence makes the heart (and peen) grow fonder.