Thoughts on an escort dumping you

[NJmusclelover]

I find with most guys if I see them more than

once its because we get along well and they will almost always drop the rate to see me on a steady

Basis , better for them to see a nice safe clean guy who's not bad looking and lives in a good area in NJ , than to mess around with a bunch of people they don't know

[+ Eric Hassan]

Shouldn't he have handled this differently

Aren't I owed a little respect?

 

You may not have liked how he handled this and it might have seemed harsh. I'm guessing, though, from what you've written, that you had some kind of feelings for this guy that went beyond the usual escort-client level. That's OK, and you don't need to analyze it. You asked if you were owed a little respect. I would assert you are not owed anything, but that - as much as it might not seem like it right now - you were given respect. It might not have come in the form you would like, but it seems (to me, at least) like this guy respected you enough to recognize your feelings and set boundaries. He could have continued to exploit your feelings and take your money and possibly caused you more emotional pain than you might be experiencing now.

 

Honor and respect the time you had. Honor and respect your feelings. Then move on.

[NJmusclelover]

I get it but he could have done me better

Than standing me up 3 hours after he said he was coming

Could have just sent short I can't do it anymore text I'm not coming over tonight , he's not an escort I saw 1-2 times but a guy I Was with 25 plus times

[+ Eric Hassan]

I get it but he could have done me better

Than standing me up 3 hours after he said he was coming

Could have just sent short I can't do it anymore text I'm not coming over tonight , he's not an escort I saw 1-2 times but a guy I Was with 25 plus times

 

You can be right or you can be happy.

 

Which would you like to choose?

[marylander1940]

I get it but he could have done me better

Than standing me up 3 hours after he said he was coming

Could have just sent short I can't do it anymore text I'm not coming over tonight , he's not an escort I saw 1-2 times but a guy I Was with 25 plus times

 

Unfortunately there are so many stories out there about escorts flaking on a regular client... just move on, it could have been a worse, he could have taken advantage of you.

 

Just let it go.

 

So many guys making plans with escorts like Ryan Rose the guy not showing up and the guys making plans again?

 

I won't name him but there was a guy who made plans with him 3 times, he even met him in Ft. Lauderdale, made plans again in person and the guy stood him up again for a 4th time...

 

Just move on.

[NJmusclelover]

Your right

[+ sync]

Shouldn't he have handled this differently

Aren't I owed a little respect?

 

It could have/should have been handled differently and more respectfully, but not many 20 year-olds have a command of business etiquette.

[MartyB]

I've grown attached to escorts myself. The difference for me is that they all moved to LA....lol. I thought they were irreplaceable. Guess what they were....I'm now seeing an escort on a regular basis and it's awesome. As good as it gets. Will it end I'm sure it will. Are we friends as well as escort /client yes. I feel for you but as others have stated get back on that horse buddy...trust me it works.

[jawjateck]

I feel for you but as others have stated get back on that horse buddy...trust me it works.

 

Uh huh.....When I'm humping and bumping and grinding with a new guy, I experience amnesia. :D:rolleyes:

[NJmusclelover]

Yeah I'm with a new one now he's great

But just something about the old one

[Mydavid]

Yeah I know your all right

But he was just such a HUGE bodybuilder

Treated me right

Loved hangin out with him

And some things are easier said than done

 

I can really relate to you. When I was young, I often fell for guys after having sex with them. It seemed that they caught my heart after getting my body.

But when I get older, I gradually understand it is nothing after you move on.

 

Time will tell you everything. Good luck and take care of yourself.

[MassageDrew]

Find someone you're not paying for. If he treats you right then he's a keeper. I don't get too attached to anyone under my "payroll" LOL

[NJmusclelover]

I guess but I really wasn't

Looking to marry the guy just have fun with

Him , never asked for anymore than that

[+ purplekow]

Shouldn't he have handled this differently

Aren't I owed a little respect?

Yes, but sometimes being honest leads to discussions we prefer not to have and being inconsiderate avoids that discussion. By the way you mention NJ and huge bodybuilder, PM me if you would like to share the name.

[NJmusclelover]

Yes, but sometimes being honest leads to discussions we prefer not to have and being inconsiderate avoids that discussion. By the way you mention NJ and huge bodybuilder, PM me if you would like to share the name.

Don't really want to out the guy I owe him that respect, I think

[+ purplekow]

Don't really want to out the guy I owe him that respect, I think

 

 

I was suggesting you pass along a recommendation, not suggesting you out the guy. I am always interested in a big bodybuilder in NJ is all.

[NJmusclelover]

I was suggesting you pass along a recommendation, not suggesting you out the guy. I am always interested in a big bodybuilder in NJ is all.

Ok sorry didn't mean it the way it sounded

[YoungAD]

Move on baby.

 

Move on.

 

For whatever reason, this is not the one for you.

 

Don't question it....just move on.

 

And grow up. These long, meandering stories are possibly indicative of why your escort has sought other pastures.

[bigvalboy]

Move on baby.

 

Move on.

 

For whatever reason, this is not the one for you.

 

Don't question it....just move on.

 

+1

Simple and to the point.

[NJmusclelover]

maybe you guys are right

[kewtex]

You can be right or you can be happy.

 

Which would you like to choose?

 

Oh Eric, I'm happy when I'm right.

[NJmusclelover]

I wonder what spooked the escort out like that, I mean the escort was getting paid on a regular basis by the op, I mean isn't that every escort dream client is to have a steady guy to see. I mean the op was seeing this guy a lot, I mean I wouldn't just dump someone if I had it that good lol. Usually its the client that bolts to the next escort, an escort just doesn't dump a client like that if isn't something major. @NJmusclelover were you possibly in love with him and told him you did, but even then I would find it cute if a client told me that Were you possibly going outside the client/escort boundaries, I mean its nothing wrong with that, but some escorts like to just keep it business, I personally always become friends and close to a client when I am seeing them for a while.

Never told him that

[NJmusclelover]

Never once asked him for anything out of normal sessions either

In fact when I asked him to come out extra for

My vacation offered extra $50 a session

Because I wanted him to make a little more $$

[NJmusclelover]

And he would always talk about

His personal stuff with me

But he is young and definitely gay

So who knows what spooks people

[wklucas]

""I mean isn't that every escort dream client is to have a steady guy to see."""

 

 

One guy that I used to have a long term steady arrangement with - every Saturday late afternoon at his place....... he told me that I gave him a reason to do some serious housecleaning every Saturday morning.....I imagine that we both appreciated that.