Thoughts on an escort dumping you

[Mydavid]

And he would always talk about

His personal stuff with me

But he is young and definitely gay

So who knows what spooks people

I guess he might fall for you and was too scared to keep in contact with you.

[NJmusclelover]

I guess he might fall for you and was too scared to keep in contact with you.

Don't think it was that

[BaronArtz]

@NJmusclelover - did this guy stop escorting altogether? Or did he just stop seeing you? That makes a big difference ...

[NJmusclelover]

Stood me up one night and really never

Heard back from him

He is still escorting now

[Mydavid]

Stood me up one night and really never

Heard back from him

He is still escorting now

Is it possible that he just found something about your secret and couldn't stand it? Maybe it was only a misunderstanding, but he didn't want to face or discuss with you for some reasons.

[NJmusclelover]

Not sure what ur asking

Secret?

[rvwnsd]

...Were you possibly going outside the client/escort boundaries...

The following post

Yeah I'm with a new one now he's great

But just something about the old one

leads me to believe @NJmusclelover did, in fact, go (or start to go) outside the client/escort boundaries. Being "with" someone usually refers to dating them, not hiring them. The escort's text indicates he felt like @NJmusclelover was falling in love with him or (as others have pointed out) was reacting to his falling for @NJmusclelover. That said, the escort could have been a little more tactful, but not many

[NJmusclelover]

The following post

 

leads me to believe @NJmusclelover did, in fact, go (or start to go) outside the client/escort boundaries. Being "with" someone usually refers to dating them, not hiring them. The escort's text indicates he felt like @NJmusclelover was falling in love with him or (as others have pointed out) was reacting to his falling for @NJmusclelover. That said, the escort could have been a little more tactful, but not many

Not sure what the boundaries are

But really didn't ask for anything more than our sessions, never asked him to do anything

Extra as in doing more than the sessions

Only to meet up every night during my week off if he could ... of course I would pay him

He also only charged me $100 if I saw him more than once a week

i.e. $200 first time more than that $100

And i said I felt bad and wanted to give him

$150 for the each time that week

[NJmusclelover]

Not sure what the boundaries are

But really didn't ask for anything more than our sessions, never asked him to do anything

Extra as in doing more than the sessions

Only to meet up every night during my week off if he could ... of course I would pay him

He also only charged me $100 if I saw him more than once a week

i.e. $200 first time more than that $100

And i said I felt bad and wanted to give him

$150 for the each time that week

 

Maybe I'm wrong but if I client is seeing

U that much they must like u and

Ur company right ?

[MikeBiDude]

@NJmusclelover there is a lot of good advice in this thread. However, I think everyone prolonging this thread is starting to get less helpful in your actually moving on? Your replies lead me to believe this thread isn't helping in the "moving on" regard...you keep asking "but if....right??"

 

Sorry, if it's helpful or somehow cathartic for you then keep it up, but you've received solid advice here from both sides.

[NJmusclelover]

I have and I'm moving on best I can

Advice is good both what you want to hear

And don't

Anyway pretty happy with the new guy I'm

Hangin with

He is more about treating you great in bed

Which he does

Not so much like the last guy that would talk a lot about his day and would act like your friend

And lay there with you talking

[LivingnLA]

I have and I'm moving on best I can

Advice is good both what you want to hear

And don't

Anyway pretty happy with the new guy I'm

Hangin with

He is more about treating you great in bed

Which he does

Not so much like the last guy that would talk a lot about his day and would act like your friend

And lay there with you talking

 

Good. The old guy is history. Learn whatever you can from the opportunities you were offered and move on.

 

The new guy sounds more professional with better boundaries. Respect him and his boundaries and I wish you all the best.

[Mydavid]

Not sure what ur asking

Secret?

I don't know which word I should use. But I mean something you didn't tell him, for example, your opinions about some controversial things, you complained to your friends about him, or whatever.

[NJmusclelover]

Nothing like that

He didn't just stop seeing me but stood me up

A few hours after texting he was coming

[tennisjock]

We always want the one that got away. Just move on.. maybe in a few months send a text arranging a session..seems like some time distance would be good for you both.. there are always two sides to every story. He is young and fresh..part of the charm.

[NJmusclelover]

And huge 20 yo 511 and 265lb

[MikeBiDude]

Yeah trying for some reason it's really

Hard find my self looking at his instagram

A lot

And stop doing this...

[NJmusclelover]

Yeah I know

[TUOT89]

So you don't think after seeing him

So often the escort owes the client

Anything?

In so far as an explanation or a goodbye

Talk ?

I really thought we were kind of like buddy's

 

If I may, the thing is that when these relations go bad they become socially awkward almost instantly. (They might have been so already.)

 

In my case, if we were really buddies, I would have called him after I found his stuff in my hotel room when I checked out 3 days later. Or, he would have called me when he realized a few hours later that they were missing.

 

Two other things to consider:

 

Were you expecting too much too soon? Recently, I had an escort that I've been seeing for more than a year tell me that "he thought I was unfriendly when he first met me." He also wanted to know what I thought of him when I first met him. It took us more than a year and a number of meetings and text conversations to get to that point. Would I explain my actions with respect to him now? You bet. But I am not sure I would have felt obligated to explain myself after our first two meetings over three months. I am sure he would have felt the same.

 

How much professionalism can you expect from every escort you meet? Sometimes, the relations between the client and the escort become confusing, somewhat unprofessional. Take, for example, the escort who left his stuff. When we met the first time, it was really great. So I called him and we arranged to meet again the next day for one hour. He ended up staying the night, but there was no agreement to do so. The next morning, it didn't seem to bother him, but it bothered me because I was not sure anymore what we were doing. When I tried to clarify the situation, he told me not to worry about it, to pay him for just the one hour. For whatever reason, it may be the case that the escort you were seeing became confused about the situation.

[NJmusclelover]

If I may, the thing is that when these relations go bad they become socially awkward almost instantly. (They might have been so already.)

 

In my case, if we were really buddies, I would have called him after I found his stuff in my hotel room when I checked out 3 days later. Or, he would have called me when he realized a few hours later that they were missing.

 

Two other things to consider:

 

Were you expecting too much too soon? Recently, I had an escort that I've been seeing for more than a year tell me that "he thought I was unfriendly when he first met me." He also wanted to know what I thought of him when I first met him. It took us more than a year and a number of meetings and text conversations to get to that point. Would I explain my actions with respect to him now? You bet. But I am not sure I would have felt obligated to explain myself after our first two meetings over three months. I am sure he would have felt the same.

 

How much professionalism can you expect from every escort you meet? Sometimes, the relations between the client and the escort become confusing, somewhat unprofessional. Take, for example, the escort who left his stuff. When we met the first time, it was really great. So I called him and we arranged to meet again the next day for one hour. He ended up staying the night, but there was no agreement to do so. The next morning, it didn't seem to bother him, but it bothered me because I was not sure anymore what we were doing. When I tried to clarify the situation, he told me not to worry about it, to pay him for just the one hour. For whatever reason, it may be the case that the escort you were seeing became confused about the situation.

That actually makes sense especially with his age etc...

Even though I really liked him a lot

I knew it would never be more than what we were doing , maybe he didn't know that