Cancellations

[+ Reisr30]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

[dcguy20]

That happened to me two weeks ago in Atlanta. I set up the appointment a week before my trip. The guy contacted me early that week to see if I was still coming. I confirmed the day of and he replied. Time of appointment came and went. Didn't return my text or phone call until 4 days later saying he was tired because of finals. It's beyond frustrating as it was too late for plan B.

[tennisjock]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

Always have a backup plan..always.life happens and then things get screwed up. I would be more concern d how the escorts reaction has been to this ...if he just shrugged it off ..he is not professional and you need to move on.their are plenty out there that will be happy to meet. I have learned thru experience that one mishap is understandable but two nope ..delete his info and move on

[MikeyGMin]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

 

Absolutely move on and don't try a third time. One time could be a legitimate "life happens" event. The second time -- with the same client -- means he's a flake. I would never give someone that I didn't have an established relationship with a third chance.

[Kevin Slater]

Absolutely move on and don't try a third time. One time could be a legitimate "life happens" event. The second time -- with the same client -- means he's a flake. I would never give someone that I didn't have an established relationship with a third chance.

 

Yeah, after having missed the first meeting (hey, shit happens), he should have moved heaven and earth not to blow off the second.

 

Kevin Slater

[jawjateck]

I give established, excellent providers plenty of leeway for "stuff happening". Newbies get only 1 or 2 chances, depending on the severity of the breach. A newbie would never get a chance at a third strike.

[+ Reisr30]

I give established, excellent providers plenty of leeway for "stuff happening". Newbies get only 1 or 2 chances, depending on the severity of the breach. A newbie would never get a chance at a third strike.

 

Thanks everyone for their responses. @jawjateck this is a very well reviewed guy and I appreciate your perspective; I think I will give him a 3rd and last chance next time I am out west...

[+ Eric Hassan]

Thanks everyone for their responses. @jawjateck this is a very well reviewed guy and I appreciate your perspective; I think I will give him a 3rd and last chance next time I am out west...

 

I think it's very generous of you to give the guy a third chance, but I think it's a bit foolish. Like @Kevin Slater said above, after missing the first appointment, I would think someone who is committed to working with you would do anything to make sure the second appointment happened. It's 2016 - we have calendars and reminders and apps and programs and all kinds of ways to help you keep your shit together. Not using them and screwing up appointments is just foolish. I hope your third attempt works out and this is just a couple of flukes.

[Kevin Slater]

I think it's very generous of you to give the guy a third chance, but I think it's a bit foolish. Like @Kevin Slater said above, after missing the first appointment, I would think someone who is committed to working with you would do anything to make sure the second appointment happened. It's 2016 - we have calendars and reminders and apps and programs and all kinds of ways to help you keep your shit together. Not using them and screwing up appointments is just foolish. I hope your third attempt works out and this is just a couple of flukes.

 

Also, there's just now so much pressure going into that session, should it actually happen. He'll be stressed that he needs to outperform, you may be wary going into it or have a self-defeating desire to analyze what went wrong the previous two attempts... I say better to start afresh with someone new.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ poolboy48220]

bit off topic, but I'm sitting here waiting for the appliance repairman to call or show - he said I was his first appointment for the day and he'd be here somewhere between 9:00 and 9:30. just past 10:00 now, and his voicemail says it's full. Grrr...

[Kevin Slater]

and his voicemail says it's full.

 

Another huge pet peeve, and a sign of someone who doesn't take your patronage seriously.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ nycman]

Is this normal?

 

No

 

Am I taking this too personally?

 

Yes

 

I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time...

 

Think with your BIG head...drop this loser and move on.

 

But it makes me kind of sad.

 

Seriously? Would you be "sad" if it was your dentist who fucked up two appointments?

 

No....you'd get a NEW dentist!

[jawjateck]

Thanks everyone for their responses. @jawjateck this is a very well reviewed guy and I appreciate your perspective; I think I will give him a 3rd and last chance next time I am out west...

 

Perhaps a bit of clarification on my part. When I speak of "established, excellent" providers, that is of course, from my own personal experience. Others' reviews and accolades are irrelevant to me in this regard. When I speak of a "newbie", I mean he is new to me. He could be EOY-caliber in the annals of Hooville, but if he's flaky, he doesn't get a lot of latitude with me. I'm persnickety.

[Nvr2Thick]

A true professional in any line of business keeps track of client appointments and proactively notifies clients in the event of any cancellation. A masseur or an escort needs to be pretty darn special for me to accept a cancellation without prior notification.

[ncc1701d]

I have a one chance rule, then I move on unless the guy calls/emails voluntarily to try to reschedule. Fortunately I've only had 2 flakes, one many moons ago, and a recent one that I took a chance on (Derek Atlas) with a back up plan. And boy am I glad I had a back up ;-)

[MikeyGMin]

I have a one chance rule, then I move on unless the guy calls/emails voluntarily to try to reschedule. Fortunately I've only had 2 flakes, one many moons ago, and a recent one that I took a chance on (Derek Atlas) with a back up plan. And boy am I glad I had a back up ;-)

 

Derek, Derek, Derek. So damn sexy and so damn unreliable. I have to admit though, Vegas is the place for long shots and I'd have to gamble on him.

[ncc1701d]

Derek, Derek, Derek. So damn sexy and so damn unreliable. I have to admit though, Vegas is the place for long shots and I'd have to gamble on him.

Yes but don't put all your chips in one bet ;-)

[TopTierTop]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

I have never, never, never done this! I would be shocked to learn that it is normal for anyone who has any integrity at all. You absolutely should not take it personally. The problem is him, not you!

[+ Tygerscent]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

Hmmm... It's hard to make any recommendations here as there isn't really much about the Escort's POV or his input and the situation isn't offering details in this thread that clearly indicate what happened~

Was it day of, right before your appointment, he was scheduled and didn't show up, were the details clear when you two negotiated the appointments~? What were his reasons for changing the appointments~?

I'm not saying either one of you is in the wrong... I find myself wondering and wanting to know more of the details and specifics regarding what happened~

I've canceled rarely but, for the following reasons: I was getting sick, the client didn't communicate where we were meeting or what time of day our appointment was, they didn't provide details within five hours of our meeting, dangerous weather, being stranded in the airport for 38 hours after Delta Airlines grounded their entire fleet world wide after computer issues, the Client was doing meth or heroine...

I've also had on several occasions, Clients wanting to meet me but they had health problems that really didn't make meeting and playing together a reasonable, healthy choice for either one of us~ So, I instead encouraged them to seek medical help and reschedule some time later when they were healthy~

I've also had some Clients who text me incorrect dates and times~ I mark my calendar after confirming those dates and times but, they don't realize the error until sometime later, (if at all)~

It happens... I strive to work some decent solution out that is respectable for both of us~

They also tend to make good effort towards resolution~

When Clients blatantly lie about the circumstances, (indicative by conflicting information they provide in phone messages, texts and/or emails), I politely decline to reschedule~

Cancelation forgiveness due to general circumstances and life events~?

Gosh... I do it all the time~

I've had Clients change appointment times and dates many, many times for a single appointment~

Good communication tends to determine the success of resolution~

There was one guy who canceled on me more than ten times, (on short notice or no notice)...

He never explained why...

Regardless, I kept faith with him and after many cancelations finally he confided to me that he had a health issues that he was dealing with over the past year or so~

Eventually, we were able to schedule and from there on developed an ongoing relationship together for more than five years... We have had many great seasons together~

He's an awesome guy and I love to meet with him~

I had faith in him and never gave up on him~

Blatant disregard for Clients/Escorts thru poor business practices isn't acceptable but, I take into consideration the human condition and life events~

Life isn't black and white... These situations are not either~

Tyger~

tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633

[+ WhamIAm]

Flip side, I wish escorts would actually cancel if they're not in the right space to fulfill their side of the deal. I've had one guy show up clearly ill (and a biohazard), one guy high off of painkillers due to a sprained knee, and one guy show up, not engage in conversation and lie there like a dead fish. He then bragged that he was really happy he made it to the appointment -- he'd just driven back from his mother's house 6 hours away, came straight to the appointment b/c he hadn't had time to get home first. Thanks, buddy.

 

If an escort isn't ready or able to work, stay home. Take a mental health day, get yourself physically well or just deal with your life. I don't want to be your bad day at the office.

[LADoug1]

Had an escort cancel on me 1 hour before our appointment saying he had kidney stones. Sent me an email rather than a text or better still a phone call. Not cool. Thank goodness I had another wonderful escort who was available.

[+ VictorPowers]

That happened to me two weeks ago in Atlanta. I set up the appointment a week before my trip. The guy contacted me early that week to see if I was still coming. I confirmed the day of and he replied. Time of appointment came and went. Didn't return my text or phone call until 4 days later saying he was tired because of finals. It's beyond frustrating as it was too late for plan B.

That's just unprofessional to leave you hanging. His loss! Clients that confirm their own appointments are decently rare.

[MassageDrew]

I have made appointments to meet with a well review companion on the west coast twice now. Both times I have reconfirmed but both times he has changed the plans or cancelled due to other work commitments. The last time he actually forgot the time we were supposed to meet when I texted him to reconfirm. Is this normal? Am I taking this too personally?

 

The bummer is I planned my trip around our meeting. I suppose I already know I should just move on and not try for a 3rd time... I know you things come up But it makes me kind of sad.

 

Move on and don't take it personally. My question is how is he well-reviewed? I'm sure you're not the only one that had this kind of experience from him.

[KennF]

If a provider doesn't keep track of appointments, then the provider is not responsible enough to handle the business.

 

You are a customer, and you deserve a bit of respect. You are respecting them and going above board to set an appointment AND reconfirm. It is actually HIS responsibility to reconfirm, BTW.

 

As with any other service provider, if they want to repair the damage they made to the customer relationship, then they should go above board to gain back customer satisfaction.

[Jomo]

I live in a small town in the Deep South. I will fly in to see an escort. And I make overnight appointments. I hate to make a back up appointment. What are u supposed to do when your number one shows up on time? I feel bad about number 2