411 Escorts who list as "Straight"

[+ WhamIAm]

I'm pretty much a BFE bottom, look for a lot of passionate kissing, mutual body exploration, a dude who likes foreplay as much as I do. Not into servicing trade, non-reciprocal muscle worship, the mysteries of seducing or being seduced by a straight guy.

 

Seen a number of guys on RM who list as straight (with or without listing BFE). Some state/imply their limits clearly, others not so much. I'm very respectful of how people self-identify, with the caveat that I'm reluctant to waste my or the escort's time to determine whether we're on the same page, and not interested in the disappointment/waste of time and money of finding out what he says in a text and what happens behind closed doors are not the same thing.

 

Yeah, one answer is "call him up and see", but before I do I'd love to hear about the experiences of other forum members:

• If you're looking for the same experience as I am, have you found escorts identifying as straight who fit the bill?
  
• Same situation, have you experienced escorts who give one set of limits during set up and another set at the meet?
  

I'm an east coast guy (NYC, Philadelphia, DC), but travel alot so all recommendations/warnings welcome.

 

Thanks in advance -- Wham

[+ azdr0710]

not entirely into what you are, but one thing I can offer: I've met with a few/several guys who identify as "straight" in their ads and, ultimately, aren't.....I lean more toward "straight" or "bi" guys myself, so, when I meet with them and they turn out to be not so straight, bingo!......and I've met with a few "straight" guys who, I believe, are actually straight and things can be limited, but I knew that going in.....

 

yeah, best thing is to be honest, ask for their honesty, and discuss directly what you're hoping for....may take a couple or three meetings before you get what you really want

[MikeBiDude]

not entirely into what you are, but one thing I can offer: I've met with a few/several guys who identify as "straight" in their ads and, ultimately, aren't.....I lean more toward "straight" or "bi" guys myself, so, when I meet with them and they turn out to be not so straight, bingo!......and I've met with a few "straight" guys who, I believe, are actually straight and things can be limited, but I knew that going in.....

 

yeah, best thing is to be honest, ask for their honesty, and discuss directly what you're hoping for....may take a couple or three meetings before you get what you really want

My experiences dovetail this

[MrMattBig]

I'm pretty much a BFE bottom, look for a lot of passionate kissing, mutual body exploration, a dude who likes foreplay as much as I do. Not into servicing trade, non-reciprocal muscle worship, the mysteries of seducing or being seduced by a straight guy.

 

Seen a number of guys on RM who list as straight (with or without listing BFE). Some state/imply their limits clearly, others not so much. I'm very respectful of how people self-identify, with the caveat that I'm reluctant to waste my or the escort's time to determine whether we're on the same page, and not interested in the disappointment/waste of time and money of finding out what he says in a text and what happens behind closed doors are not the same thing.

 

Yeah, one answer is "call him up and see", but before I do I'd love to hear about the experiences of other forum members:

• If you're looking for the same experience as I am, have you found escorts identifying as straight who fit the bill?
  
• Same situation, have you experienced escorts who give one set of limits during set up and another set at the meet?
  

I'm an east coast guy (NYC, Philadelphia, DC), but travel alot so all recommendations/warnings welcome.

 

Thanks in advance -- Wham

 

Hi Wham! Your best bet is to go with someone who identifies as bi or pansexual, who values more the experience than an attraction level. That may be easier said than done I realize, but if you find someone like that, they will value the act of everything, instead of gender or attraction. I hate to self promote, but I am in DC for the weekend if you feel the urge to reach out. Happy hunting!

[Nvr2Thick]

• If you're looking for the same experience as I am, have you found escorts identifying as straight who fit the bill?
  

No. I have hired a lot of straight-identifying escorts because of their look, masculinity, build, dick size, etc. Most stated outright that they did not offer kissing or that type of affection and they held to that. Others were more ambiguous in the wording of their ads and were either ambiguous or supposedly discreet when I asked about such limits while arranging the session, but they still did not kiss.

 

• Same situation, have you experienced escorts who give one set of limits during set up and another set at the meet?
  

I've met quite a few "strictly top" escorts, some of whom even came across in their ads as trade, who turned out to be very affectionate and versatile. This included men who were obviously versatile bottoms. None of these types advertised as straight though. It's very disappointing to hire a butch total top and have him wrestling to get into 69 and then roll on his back and pull his legs up over his shoulders, isn't it?

 

My experience with escort tops who identify/advertise as "straight" has been that the ones I met not did offer BFE foreplay -- or at least they did not permit it with me. Upon meeting it was easy to determine that some were gay guys who were either very butch tops, and/or they were advertising as straight in order to limit the scene to top-only trade with no kissing. I can think of a couple of straight escorts who I truly believe to be straight, but who were very open, easygoing and friendly; while not necessarily affectionate these guys were not the traditional stand-offish, cold, aloof types. I used to exclusively seek out what you're looking for, but now I've found that some of these personable straight men are a lot of fun too.

[EZEtoGRU]

Such a complicated issue. Escorts are frequently not honest about their sexual orientation on RM. I remember one frequent escort poster from this forum asking this question several years ago: How should I identify my orientation on RB in order to get the most number of customers? Should I select Gay, Bi, or Straight?

 

How about trying honesty dude? Identify your sexuality as it actually is? Novel idea for him apparently.

 

Anyway, I'm not sure if most escorts on RM can be trusted being honest with the sexual orientation they select. Something like 30% of RM escorts identify as bisexual. That number is obviously absurdly high. I think many escorts that are actually gay, classify themselves on RM as bisexual in order to seem more exotic or to try and present a more masculine image.

[escortrod]

Anyway, I'm not sure if most escorts on RM can be trusted being honest with the sexual orientation they select. Something like 30% of RM escorts identify as bisexual. That number is obviously absurdly high. I think many escorts that are actually gay, classify themselves on RM as bisexual in order to seem more exotic or to try and present a more masculine image.

Doesn't seem absurdly high to me. "A 2002 survey in the United States by National Center for Health Statistics found that 1.8 percent of men ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 2.3 percent homosexual, and 3.9 percent as "something else"." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality#Demographics_and_prevalence

[Man Crush Morris]

The best escort experience I have had was with a very straight guy. He did what I asked him to do and he did it very well, though he had limitations that I later found frustrating.

 

It is a case by case thing

 

I don't need to be penetrated so that was never an issue, though he did have rules that while I originally willingly signed on to, it later became frustrating to me since I really wanted to expand the map but his rules were rigid. It was frustrating in that I was very afraid I'd piss him off and alienate him if I pressed. I'd lightly broach it and be rebuffed, which at least made clear I wasn't missing out because I

[MikeyGMin]

The best escort experience I have had was with a very straight guy. He did what I asked him to do and he did it very well, though he had limitations that I later found frustrating.

 

It is a case by case thing

 

I don't need to be penetrated so that was never an issue, though he did have rules that while I originally willingly signed on to, it later became frustrating to me since I really wanted to expand the map but his rules were rigid. It was frustrating in that I was very afraid I'd piss him off and alienate him if I pressed. I'd lightly broach it and be rebuffed, which at least made clear I wasn't missing out because I

 

Sounds more frustrating than fun. He must have been super hot to make it your best experience even with all that frustration.

[+ WhamIAm]

Thanks, all. Sounds like my initial prejudices aren't prejudices after all.

 

Hi Wham! Your best bet is to go with someone who identifies as bi or pansexual, who values more the experience than an attraction level. That may be easier said than done I realize, but if you find someone like that, they will value the act of everything, instead of gender or attraction. I hate to self promote, but I am in DC for the weekend if you feel the urge to reach out. Happy hunting!

 

I've always had great success with guys who advertise as bi. The few "disconnects" I've experienced I attribute to either really bad chemistry or guys who are conflicted enough about the job that they should find a new career.

 

And, I'm a big fan of self promotion!!! But travelling this weekend :-( Enjoy DC!

[Epigonos]

If an escort self identifies as straight -- I'm NOT interested and move on!

[westcoastlad]

these straight are confused ones!

[UpDownUnder]

If an escort self identifies as straight -- I'm NOT interested and move on!

Thank you. With all the guys out there to choose from, there is no way I'm going to hire someone who identifies as straight and therefore, go into the meeting not knowing how comfortable the guy really is with the gay sex. Just knowing that someone identifies as straight would cause me to spend the entire session wondering if he was absolutely repulsed by what he was doing - which would be a huge turnoff for me.

[UpDownUnder]

The best escort experience I have had was with a very straight guy. He did what I asked him to do and he did it very well, though he had limitations that I later found frustrating.

 

It is a case by case thing

 

I don't need to be penetrated so that was never an issue, though he did have rules that while I originally willingly signed on to, it later became frustrating to me since I really wanted to expand the map but his rules were rigid. It was frustrating in that I was very afraid I'd piss him off and alienate him if I pressed. I'd lightly broach it and be rebuffed, which at least made clear I wasn't missing out because I

I honestly can't think of anyone in the world who is hot enough to motivate me to PAY to go through the experience you've described. I can't imagine paying to put myself in a situation where I was afraid my sexual advances might rebuffed by the escort or might even piss him off. I'm actually getting uncomfortable just thinking about being in such a scenario.

[Fyton]

I always ask if they top, no matter what the ad says (well, almost). Indeed, I do not even ask unless it says "top". Many have told me in person that they are straight; including those who told me over the phone that they were bi. I just need to hear that they like to fuck. I also ask on the phone if they like being complimented during the act. I like guys who reluctantly say that it gets their motor running (so to speak). Bottom line: I ask.

[+ nycman]

It's very disappointing to hire a butch total top and have him wrestling to get into 69 and then roll on his back and pull his legs up over his shoulders, isn't it?

 

In my world...that's called "Heaven".....

 

Funny, how two people can have the exact same experience....and yet!

[Man Crush Morris]

I honestly can't think of anyone in the world who is hot enough to motivate me to PAY to go through the experience you've described. I can't imagine paying to put myself in a situation where I was afraid my sexual advances might rebuffed by the escort or might even piss him off. I'm actually getting uncomfortable just thinking about being in such a scenario.

It was actually a pretty awesome thing we had going.

[Man Crush Morris]

Sounds more frustrating than fun. He must have been super hot to make it your best experience even with all that frustration.

To be fair, he was really hot to me, and he did what we agreed to do together very well.

 

His limitation was that he wouldn't allow me to fellate him. Since that's not really my thing, it was no big deal to me. Over time, though, I really wanted to fellate him, but it was not something I pushed for because I didn't want to alienate him.

 

It wasn't like he was rude or nasty to me, and I didn't ever feel threatened or anything. So that's all I meant be frustrated.

 

To be completely fair, that was always our original deal and he wasn't a pro.

[+ nycman]

His limitation was that he wouldn't allow me to fellate him. Since that's not really my thing, it was no big deal to me. Over time, though, I really wanted to fellate him...

 

Ahhh....the slow...constant....yet inevitable allure.....of forbidden fruit!

[topinla]

When I visited Sydney I contacted a guy who advertised in the backpage offering massage. He is straight and very hot. He was okay to be fellated by a guy but that he wouldn't cum. That is as far as he went with guys. I met him 3 times over my 2 week visit in Sydney. First time he didn't cum, the last 2 he came in my mouth. I could tell he really enjoyed that blowjob I gave him.

[+ BigRic]

When I visited Sydney I contacted a guy who advertised in the backpage offering massage. He is straight and very hot. He was okay to be fellated by a guy but that he wouldn't cum. That is as far as he went with guys. I met him 3 times over my 2 week visit in Sydney. First time he didn't cum, the last 2 he came in my mouth. I could tell he really enjoyed that blowjob I gave him.

[gallahadesquire]

Doesn't seem absurdly high to me. "A 2002 survey in the United States by National Center for Health Statistics found that 1.8 percent of men ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 2.3 percent homosexual, and 3.9 percent as "something else"." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality#Demographics_and_prevalence

And what were the other 92%

[Ichabod]

I have had some good experiences here in North Carolina with guys who advertise on BP as straight. One of them was explicit in his ad that he only saw women. But he was so hot that I wrote him anyway, and asked him to let me know if he ever decided to branch out. I have met with him several times now. His limits are clear, but he has a beautiful body and I always have a good time.

[caliguy]

I have had some good experiences here in North Carolina with guys who advertise on BP as straight. One of them was explicit in his ad that he only saw women. But he was so hot that I wrote him anyway, and asked him to let me know if he ever decided to branch out. I have met with him several times now. His limits are clear, but he has a beautiful body and I always have a good time.

I guess it's all good if you understand the limits. I it's like those that get off on muscle worshipping or lap dances. I don't get it but maybe they don't get my desire for hot sloppy mutual bf type sex either. I think your main thing to getting off on something that's taboo or off limits. I used to have those fantasies too but outgrew many years ago.

[gallahadesquire]

Sloppy sex … mmmmmmm!