411 on Escorts into Breath Play?

[+ m_writer]

I'm posting this because it was suggested by an escort I recently visited. And let me say this beforehand, I am a BIG advocate on safety and consent.

 

In my past session, the escort was wonderful and we had a terrific and exciting time where he was willing to try breath play. If he said "no", I would have left it alone, but the fact he agreed was uplifting.

 

After I explained the safety and safe words, I tied the escort spreadeagled to the bed with leather wrist and ankle restraints and gagged him with a towel and made sure he was comfortable with his head resting on a pillow. With my phone on YouTube to a 30 second timer, I held another pillow over his face for 30 seconds, and then removed the pillow to allow him to breathe while I played with his body, cock, and nipples for the next 30 seconds. And I alternated every 30 seconds.

 

Over and over I did this, and it was exciting to have him writhe, struggle, and scream through the gag and pillow pressed over his face while I was on top of him, his muscles and chest heaving and straining as he fought for air. After ten times, he gave the safety signal to stop because not only was his shoulder getting sore from pulling against the ropes, he said he felt tired and exhausted from being smothered.

 

I released him, and we enjoyed the rest of the night, but the escort apologized for not lasting longer (which I told him his comfort and well being was far more important than my enjoyment - I was actually honored he trusted me so much). The escort said he'd be willing to try again (and might take half a Xanax tablet to relax before hand so that he won't thrash as much and might accidentally hit me).

 

And here is the reason for this post: the escort also suggested that perhaps I can go on this forum (he's also a member) and ask around if there are other escorts who would be willing to do pillow breath play (he's only visiting my city)? I definitely do not do plastic bags or anything choking because the neck is fragile, and I won't risk damaging the larynx or windpipe, but pillow smothering is something that definitely get me hot (a muscular and strapping guy helplessly forced to struggle and writhe under a pillow muffling his screams while laying on top of him and feeling him fight underneath you). But, I'm not sure since this escort was the ONLY one who I ever hired in the past who was willing to do it (and I'm glad he'd say he'd do it again).

 

Any thoughts or suggestions? Or am I the only one who finds this erotic? And to reiterate, if an escort said he did not want to do it, then I'd respect his wishes because I will not do anything without consent, even if I am a client.

[caliguy]

Doesn't this belong in the fetish forum?

[Rudynate]

A lot of people seem to find breath play erotic. The last escort I spent time with sort of indicated he would like to do it. I said "no." It's appealing, but just a little to out there.

[+ m_writer]

Doesn't this belong in the fetish forum?

 

Whoops! Sorry! Can I get an admin to change this to the Fetish forum then? Or should I delete this and post a copy on the Fetish section?

 

I'm sorry about the mistake!

[+ José Soplanucas]

I do enjoy breath play, but I have never done it with an escort.

[MPF_1966]

I first learned about breath play from a smoking hot escort in So. Cal.

[+ m_writer]

I first learned about breath play from a smoking hot escort in So. Cal.

 

Any chance the escort advertises? And is he the dominant, submissive, or does both?

[marylander1940]

Doesn't this belong in the fetish forum?

 

It sure does!

[MikeBiDude]

It sure does!

Maybe, maybe not. Message board header for Fetish Forum (italics I added):

 

Fetsish Forum

Discussion of fetishes and stuff, not necesarily things you try or dream of doing with escorts.

[+ m_writer]

Maybe, maybe not. Message board header for Fetish Forum (italics I added):

 

Fetsish Forum

Discussion of fetishes and stuff, not necesarily things you try or dream of doing with escorts.

 

Well, I do want to follow the rules, so since I can't seem to move this topic to whatever is appropriate, I hope an admin can let me know how to or move it for me if its necessary.

 

And as he post says, I did it with an escort, but by his suggestion, I'm asking if there are any escorts anyone knows who specialize or participate as a submissive for this type of breath play?

 

Thank you to everyone for the help.

[marylander1940]

Well, I do want to follow the rules, so since I can't seem to move this topic to whatever is appropriate, I hope an admin can let me know how to or move it for me if its necessary.

 

And as he post says, I did it with an escort, but by his suggestion, I'm asking if there are any escorts anyone knows who specialize or participate as a submissive for this type of breath play?

 

Thank you to everyone for the help.

 

 

 

Don't worry if the MGT thinks it should be on a different forum they'll move it sooner or later but a link to the alleged escort might definitely stick this to The Deli because it would be a discussion specifically about him.

[MikeBiDude]

Don't worry if the MGT thinks it should be on a different forum they'll move it sooner or later.

Or someone hit "report" which I will not for this thread...I do report at times though.

[marylander1940]

Or someone hit "report" which I will not for this thread...I do report at times though.

 

I only click that button when I see a hard cock or a butthole openly displayed in the gallery and not with a link.

[gallahadesquire]

A good friend of mine was found, dead, with a plastic bag over his head and his hands tied behind his back with a plastic tie. His front door was unlocked and the alarm not set. He locked his house whether he was indoors or not. I think it was ruled a suicide, although homicide secondary to asphyxiation erotic play was also considered.

 

Having had a pulmonary embolism and being under incredible hyperoxic therapy for a week--they couldn't intubate, sedate, and ventilate me because they didn't know if I had a patent foramen ovale and would through another clot to my brain--makes me even less interested in this topic.

 

Be careful gentlemen. If you're going to do this kind of thing, please make sure you know how to "rescue breathe" as part of CPR.

[sincitymix]

hmm the only breath play im into, is having a thick cock shoved down my throat and trying to breath around it

[MPF_1966]

Any chance the escort advertises? And is he the dominant, submissive, or does both?

PM me for details

[marylander1940]

A good friend of mine was found, dead, with a plastic bag over his head and his hands tied behind his back with a plastic tie. His front door was unlocked and the alarm not set. He locked his house whether he was indoors or not. I think it was ruled a suicide, although homicide secondary to asphyxiation erotic play was also considered.

 

Having had a pulmonary embolism and being under incredible hyperoxic therapy for a week--they couldn't intubate, sedate, and ventilate me because they didn't know if I had a patent foramen ovale and would through another clot to my brain--makes me even less interested in this topic.

 

Be careful gentlemen. If you're going to do this kind of thing, please make sure you know how to "rescue breathe" as part of CPR.

 

Something similar happened to this young man with a promising future.

 

http://www.pravdareport.com/society/stories/26-12-2011/120079-autoerotic_asphyxiation-0/

[marylander1940]

hmm the only breath play im into, is having a thick cock shoved down my throat and trying to breath around it

 

I guess you don't have gag reflex like me...

[+ m_writer]

Something similar happened to this young man with a promising future.

 

http://www.pravdareport.com/society/stories/26-12-2011/120079-autoerotic_asphyxiation-0/

 

But those are cases when they were (seemingly) alone and had no one else to watch them.

 

In my case, I was watching over the escort (and yes, I know CPR). But I'm not downplaying the danger; I want to be safe, and if the escort says he wants me to stop, I will stop. But since it's hard to find and this escort is the only one who was willing, I wanted to post this to ask if anyone knows other escorts who deal with/specialize in breath play (like MPF_1966's posts) and who wouldn't mind having a pillow pressed over their face.

[marylander1940]

But those are cases when they were (seemingly) alone and had no one else to watch them.

 

In my case, I was watching over the escort (and yes, I know CPR). But I'm not downplaying the danger; I want to be safe, and if the escort says he wants me to stop, I will stop. But since it's hard to find and this escort is the only one who was willing, I wanted to post this to ask if anyone knows other escorts who deal with/specialize in breath play (like MPF_1966's posts) and who wouldn't mind having a pillow pressed over their face.

 

or with a guy they've hired... I'm sorry but that's not my cup of tea and if it was I would only do it with an escort I've met many times and trust or with a friend.

[caliguy]

A good friend of mine was found, dead, with a plastic bag over his head and his hands tied behind his back with a plastic tie. His front door was unlocked and the alarm not set. He locked his house whether he was indoors or not. I think it was ruled a suicide, although homicide secondary to asphyxiation erotic play was also considered.

 

Having had a pulmonary embolism and being under incredible hyperoxic therapy for a week--they couldn't intubate, sedate, and ventilate me because they didn't know if I had a patent foramen ovale and would through another clot to my brain--makes me even less interested in this topic.

 

Be careful gentlemen. If you're going to do this kind of thing, please make sure you know how to "rescue breathe" as part of CPR.

Reminds me of Kung Foo's end.

 

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_4OjHqXBQ1Lg/SigLRQL6dHI/AAAAAAAAAMk/eHq_MrKVLro/s400/eastern+mystic+dies.jpg

[Rudynate]

A good friend of mine was found, dead, with a plastic bag over his head and his hands tied behind his back with a plastic tie. His front door was unlocked and the alarm not set. He locked his house whether he was indoors or not. I think it was ruled a suicide, although homicide secondary to asphyxiation erotic play was also considered.

 

Having had a pulmonary embolism and being under incredible hyperoxic therapy for a week--they couldn't intubate, sedate, and ventilate me because they didn't know if I had a patent foramen ovale and would through another clot to my brain--makes me even less interested in this topic.

 

Be careful gentlemen. If you're going to do this kind of thing, please make sure you know how to "rescue breathe" as part of CPR.

 

 

 

I think it's an interesting practice, and I think the danger of accidental asphyxiation is minimal with another person present. But it appears there is also a significant risk of life-threatening arrhythmia. That would tend to put me off of it.

[whipped guy]

First to @m_writer I like your basic attitude and concern about safely, concent, and comfort. Also, I don't think that you nescrssarily posted things initially in the wrong forum. However, that is not for posters to decide. Plus, it is a very small point.

 

Also kudos for having the type of demeanor such that you were trusted by the escort. Yes, many escorts practice such non-mainstream activities in their personal sex lives and look forward to hooking up with clients who are into similar activities. Still others are curious about such activities and when they connect with a client with whom they feel a special bond are often more than willing to expand their own horizons. You are definitly one of those special clients.

 

For the record, breath control personaly freaks me out and is not something that I would like to experience. Even a hood that minimally restricts breathing freaks me out. I have done things over the years that have made me question my sanity... @Rudynate mentions arrhythmia above and I have developed one. I always wonder if it was due to electrical play above the waist. I mentioned it to my cardiologist (without getting explicit about the details ) and he thinks that it was not the cause, but who knows. So just play safely snd sanely.

 

In any event, it is good to know that you are more concerned about your partner's safety and well being rather than your pleasure. That's the golden rule and especially in fetish play where there is the possibility for injury to occur.

[+ m_writer]

To @whipped guy thank you for your kind words.

 

Yes, I'm glad the escort trusted me enough and in no way did I want to abuse that trust, so his safety and whether or not he wanted to continue was more important. Still, you have to give him credit for enduring five minutes of being smothered with a pillow.

 

The problem is that he's the only escort so far who was willing to do it. I contacted another escort months ago, and he dropped out saying he wasn't interested and didn't feel comfortable even though he advertised as kinky and how he's willing to do anything as a "pig". That's why I made this thread; the escort suggested try asking on this forum if there are other muscular escorts willing to do pillow breath play as the sub, but so far, nada.

 

Although I can understand it; it requires a lot of trust and safety that doesn't occur from a first time client, so a escort being asked to be smothered out of the blue from a stranger would definitely get some red flags warning. So if anything, I'm very grateful to find an escort who is willing to do it with me (even though he comes to my area once or twice a year).

[whipped guy]

To @m_writer... Well, from experience if you exhibit a certain demeanor with escorts they will get to trust you. At times it happens on the first meeting (very rare) but usually over a period of time.

 

Examples: I had hired a now retired escort a number of times where I was the S&M sub. Suddenly at one session he got on his knees, looked up at me and begged me to punish him. Out of the blue there was a role reversal that I never saw coming! With a different escort where again I was always the sub I jokingly said that next time I was going to play the Dom. He said he would think about it and I never gave it much thought of ever happening. However, at our very next get together he said, "Isn't this going to be the session where you work me over?" Surprise surprise!

 

What is ironic is that both guys wanted reviews! Of course they were very carefully written. Heck more than one guy let me do it on our first meeting. However, on two of those occasions one of the escort's clients who was a good friend had previously vouched for me and that other client joined us at one of the sessions. Again they both wanted reviews! It happened another time at a first meeting as well. That guy didn't want me to advertise the fact, but again I said it jokingly and he took me up on the offer.

 

Of course we are into different activities, but they are still fetish related. Perhaps fewer guys are into your type of activity. However, good things cum to those who wait. Plus, you never know when it might happen. Here's wishing you the best of luck and hopefully this thread eventually will help!!!! But then again out of the clear blue something might unexpectedly develop!!!! You never know! Again best of luck!!!!!!