More Tops or More Bottoms?

[Boston Guy]

Yesterday, at dinner, one of the guests asked the rest of us if we thought there were more tops or more bottoms out there. There wasn't much consensus at the table.

 

So what do you guys think? Are there more tops or bottoms? Do you tops have trouble finding bottoms? Or do you bottoms have trouble finding tops?

 

And, to top it off, do you think the ratio changes with age? Do young bottoms become older tops? Or vice versa?

 

BG

[Guest ncm2169]

FYI, the official Minnesota characterization, "Land of 10,000 Lakes" (it appears on our license plates, among many other places) is often revised: "Land of 10,000 bottoms." }(

 

Does a lot for the Viking image, eh? :+

[+ Charlie]

What a topic to discuss over the cherries flambee!

 

I think most guys start out as tops (image anxiety), and evolve into bottoms. The more experienced and relaxed someone is, the more versatile he is likely to become. Undoubtedly some natural bottoms do more topping as they age, to take advantage of the daddy stereotype, but I think the majority of gay men prefer to be bottoms, when they are telling the truth.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Based on my limited experience and observation, a good deal of it gleaned from this message center, it seems to me that bottoms substantially outnumber tops. Yet most escorts seem to advertise as tops, at least those that attract my attention. (And I'm constantly looking for bottoms.) Maybe that is a manifestation of balance dictated by supply and demand? Others more experienced that I have suggested to me that there is a natural tendency with advancing age for more to bottom.

 

Interestingly, most client types that I have met and maintained an association with are tops. I guess it is a case of similar interests.

[+ deej]

(deej bites his tounge)

[JT Brooklyn]

Rentboy Listings at least in NYC Area seem to Advertise more Tops..The working guys I know, say they are asked "Do you Top", before they are asked about Bottoming..The Reviews seem to go more for "He was a great Top" also...We all know Topping is also alot more work! I guess that is why Popular Top's at least in NYC Area.. now charge $250 an hour..AND ARE DEFINITELY getting it.. :+ :+ :+

[CT Dick]

I have two opinions on this:

 

1. I think that more people are uncomfortable saying they are tops. That macho thing. So, a number of guys claim they don't bottom but are versatile when the bedroom door is closed.

 

2. As to escorts, I think there is the added concern with health. A bottom is putting himself at more risk than a top. They may be versatile but stick to topping for safety's sake.

 

As to my personal preference, I think men are missing half the fun if they are not versatile. Some partners/situations call for a top, some for a bottom. :-)

 

Dick

[HotdadENYC]

MY experience has been, at least with escorts, that the willingness to bottom is related to the price paid and/or chemistry.

 

I've had sessions with so-called "only tops" that turned over (no pun intended) and I definitely tipped a bit more for that.

 

Statistically speaking, I can't say if there are more TOPS or more BOTTOMS and I can't even imagine what information collection vehicle would be available.

 

I always mention that I'm a top; if I see an escort that I'm interested in, and he says that he is ALSO a top, I call anyway and talk him up. Something I would have done anyway. Sometimes it works; sometimes it doesn't.

 

I'm NOT so sure if it all has to do with risk; after all, tops are often times at as MUCH risks at bottoms. I'm not referring to unsafe, bareback sex, but if there is kissing and/or oral involved, and one of the guys has an infection, being top OR bottom does little to alleviate the chances of getting infected.

 

Talk to your partner and play safe.

 

hd NYC

[Spida]

Bottoms! Bottoms! Bottoms!

 

I totally think there are more bottoms out there, for sure at the clubs I go to! And who I speak to.. Definitely in my opinion bottoms that works for me though ;-)

[pierrot]

It seems pretty split to me, and often determined by various factors. Most gay men are probably versatile, but might be mostly top, for instance, if they're well hung, because that's what their partners want from them. Conversely, if they have a beautiful, hairless bubble butt, most guys want to get in there.

This also goes for escorts who have to sell themselves based on their best qualities. Of course there are plenty of surprises out there, but generally an escort top with only 6" is probably not going to do great business.

Among non-professionals, I think most of us wait to see what the chemistry is like before deciding on roles. It's one of the fun discoveries about getting a new guy in the sack. Like the big muscle hunk who looks so aggressive, then once you're into it with him, you grab his ankles, spread his legs, and fuck him. Those are hot moments, and the uncertainty of who is on top, the possibilities of versatility at each encounter is unique to gay sex. And maybe a reason it's so intoxicating.

[Guest DickHo]

Today, I'm not looking for bottoms 'cause that's what I am and proud to be one. The more comfortable I became with myself, the easier it was to bottom which is what I always wanted anyway.

[Guest ReturnOfS]

Personally I've always been a top. Unless I come to find that I have some mysterious G-spot thats been hiding somewhere, I don't see that changing. Then again alot can happen in the next 10, 20, or even 30 years.

[jackhammer91406]

What is a number?

 

I dunno what the actual numbers would be, I only know that there never seems to be a bottom around when you really need one. }(

[+ Lucky]

RE: What is a number?

 

Bottoms can be pretty scarce because people always seem to be hitting them.

[jackhammer91406]

RE: What is a number?

 

Hitting or hitting ON?

[+ Lucky]

RE: What is a number?

 

I donno for sure, but it seems like most people have hit one bottom in their life...

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Who Knew

 

>... it seems like most people have hit one

>bottom in their life...

 

All I know is that I keep finding myself, face down, with Lucky's attempting to pin me down on the mattress, while I mumble over and over again:

 

But I'm a top!

 

All of a sudden, light jazz began to play and, when I turned my head away from the pillow, I could hear fingers snapping and what sounded like toes tapping. A short (and I do mean very extremely short) man, wear an ice cream colored suit, waltzed into Lucky's bedroom brandishing a very large, very black latex rubber dildo and started pointing it at Lucky.

 

While he was distracted, and with almost super human strength, I flipped Lucky's glistening, warm, sweaty, muscular body off my back while the Herve Villechaize look-a-like kept spreading Johnson & Johnson baby oil on every surface of the black latex rubber dildo.

 

Lucky hit his head on his collection of video tapes of the entire first season of The Ashlee Simpson Show and I was able to grab his platinum American Express and order myself a nice Chianti for my trouble.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Rub a dub dub...Menage a' trois in a tub.

 

You and Lucky and David Lynch. Now there is a threesome.