Anal Sex, Butt Massage, and I Hope You Wont Make Fun of Me

[+ MasssageGuy]

Hmmm...I had no idea men were capable of a total body orgasm. Maybe that's what I've been experiencing all along and I just didn't have a name for it. Thank you. I learn something new here every day.

 

If you want some training in achieving total body orgasm, Body Electric offers some incredible workshops. Highly recommended.

 

http://www.thebodyelectricschool.com/walt-whitman/

[Juan Vancouver]

what should anal sex or butt play feel like pleasure wise? Can someone please tell me what good anal sex should feel like or does it vary from person to person. I'd like to hear what I should be experiencing or maybe I am.

 

Hey Rocky,

 

I am going a little against the grain here because I think you might be approaching the situation in a way that might be detrimental to your enjoyment.

 

what should anal sex or butt play feel like pleasure wise?

 

How does chocolate taste? And... am I enjoying chocolate well enough?

 

Of course there is absolutely no correct -or possible- way to explain this. Chocolate tastes the way it does, and it is possible that due to a different amount of taste receptors and different olfactory abilities, we all experience chocolate slightly differently.

 

What worries me a little about this thread is not that explaining pleasure is such a subjective process. What I think can be a risk is that others are -no doubt with kind, great intentions- giving you so much information about their sexual exploits and their most amazing -and sometimes personal- abilities and you might succumb to the temptation of comparing your own experience with the salaciously enticing descriptions you are getting here and find your own experience lacking.

 

You are already in your head about this subject, otherwise you would not be asking if the pleasure you are feeling is correct. Compounding other people's sexual feats on top of your intellectualization might take you in the wrong direction and might make your pleasure even harder to achieve.

 

This is what most young people are suffering from because they learn everything they know about sex from porn. When they compare their sexual lives against porn, their dick is never big enough, their partner is never hot enough, their orgasm is never strong enough, their coitus is never long enough, the passion they experience from their partners is never strong enough.

 

When you compare your personal, concrete, verifiable experience with the subjective, exaggerated, made to titillate second hand tale designed to entertain, your experience will ALWAYS fall short.

 

There is no right way to feel pleasure. If you are feeling pleasure, then you are doing well. If it hurts, then you must make changes.

 

If you want to maximize your pleasure, the way to do it is not going further into your head. You have to go precisely the other way. You have to learn to get into your body. You can do this by learning to breathe deeply and pleasurably and focus on the sensations on your body. Where is there pain? Where is there pleasure? Then breathe more and if any thought comes, if any judgment comes, if any temptation to rate your experience comes, all you have to do is breathe again, focus on your physical sensation and let the thought go. Don't fight it, don't discount it, don't judge it, simply re-focus your attention on your physical sensations and breathe pleasurably.

 

At first doing this during sexual intercourse might demand a lot of attention, which is why I would recommend you to practice this during your walking life. Get out of your head by getting -pleasurably- into your body. Once you develop an easeful habit of doing this, try it out when you are kissing, when you are touching, when you are with someone else.

 

You might not all of a sudden experience full body orgasms, whatever they might be, you might not be able to take three cocks in your ass or cum without touching... but I assure you that if you practice this and this becomes the way in which you interact sexually, the pleasure that you feel will be so organic, so intense, and so right for you that you will stop wondering completely if your pleasure is right.

 

Out of your head, man! Get into that beautiful, sensual, loving, luscious body!

[Juan Vancouver]

And I want to clarify I am not belittling or doubting the full body orgasm experience. I am familiar with it. The point I am making is that all that information might be so subjective to someone who doesn't have first hand experience of it, that puts it in the same level as the idea of "enlightenment". You kind of know what it is, you kind of know what it isn't, you know some people have experienced it, but it seems really unlike you will ever get there.

 

May we all experience intense, delicious pleasure in whatever way is right for each of us!

[+ Truereview]

If you want some training in achieving total body orgasm, Body Electric offers some incredible workshops. Highly recommended.

 

http://www.thebodyelectricschool.com/walt-whitman/

Thank you, [uSER=10623]@MassageGuy[/uSER]! I'm all for exploring new things and figuring out if they will work for me. Just on the first page of the link, I started to learn new stuff, like how becoming part of the body electric community...

• Each person gains new awareness. Perhaps it is awareness of ways in which we do, and don’t, allow ourselves to fully experience pleasure. Or it may be awareness of hidden joy that we have the power to unleash. It may be the awareness of how sacred our bodies are. Or a new-found way to enhance our sexual beings.
  

To me, that statement relates to this forum. The beauty of this forum exchange is that when someone like @rocky comes in and asks a question of our community, he gets a spectrum of answers. This forum is not about having one correct answer/perspective that stands head and shoulders above the rest. What is wonderful about our community are the ideas and perspectives that build on each other's experiences. I learned just as much from @BasketBaller 's account of what good bottom sex feels like to what @Jim Corrigan and @jjkrkwood perspectives added. All wonderfully insightful perspectives where each respondent carefully used himself as an instrument based on their own experience, and together those posts built on each other. To me, there is no value in critiquing how people respond or share. The value is in the collection of experiences.

@rocky, to me, the very fact that you are asking this question shows me that you are already formulating your own answer - an answer about pleasure that will work for you and you alone. Ultimately, wisdom is not found bc of the answer, wisdom is found bc of the question. Thank you for asking...and for opening a door for me to learn something new, like total body orgasm.

[+ nycman]

...There is no right way to feel pleasure. If you are feeling pleasure, then you are doing well. If it hurts, then you must make changes....Out of your head, man! Get into that beautiful, sensual, loving, luscious body!

 

As always, Juan is one articulate sexy fucker....

 

There may not be a right way or a wrong way....but damn I wish my business

took me closer to Vancouver so we could try lots of different ways until

we figured it out.

[+ Keith30309]

As always, Juan is one articulate sexy fucker....

 

There may not be a right way or a wrong way....but damn I wish my business

took me closer to Vancouver so we could try lots of different ways until

we figured it out.

+1

 

This is the most constructive, positive and enlightening thread I've seen here in some time.

Thanks to everyone for sharing!

[+ glennnn]

Reference my rave about bottoming above, I should have specified that for me larger is not better. My prostate is only a few inches inside, so any cock over say 6 can give me a lot of pain.

[rocky]

This is the hottest and most erotic thread in a long time. Thanks, Rocky. I'm all sticky/oozy!

May I thank you all, it's a learning experience for me and something I'll remember. I also remember

someone saying that it's the pleasure you're bringing to the top, and you know, the times that I've

had a real bottom experience I wanted to make the top happy and have him enjoy, but I'm still learning.

[RandyC]

I am new to gay sex and so far have not really found anal sex pleasurable although I wish I did. The descriptions here sound amazing.

[+ glennnn]

I am new to gay sex and so far have not really found anal sex pleasurable although I wish I did. The descriptions here sound amazing.

 

 

It took me most of a year to make it work for me. I would always try bottoming, but it was always at least a little painful. I got most of my pleasure from sucking cock and being sucked. It wasn't the fault of my escorts. They were all wonderful.....just way too big for my hole. Now, when I want to be fucked, I hire a guy with a smaller cock, and it is heaven for me. PM me if you would like to know more.

[LADoug1]

Hey Rocky,

 

I am going a little against the grain here because I think you might be approaching the situation in a way that might be detrimental to your enjoyment. Here's to an average sized dick!

 

 

 

How does chocolate taste? And... am I enjoying chocolate well enough?

 

Of course there is absolutely no correct -or possible- way to explain this. Chocolate tastes the way it does, and it is possible that due to a different amount of taste receptors and different olfactory abilities, we all experience chocolate slightly differently.

 

What worries me a little about this thread is not that explaining pleasure is such a subjective process. What I think can be a risk is that others are -no doubt with kind, great intentions- giving you so much information about their sexual exploits and their most amazing -and sometimes personal- abilities and you might succumb to the temptation of comparing your own experience with the salaciously enticing descriptions you are getting here and find your own experience lacking.

 

You are already in your head about this subject, otherwise you would not be asking if the pleasure you are feeling is correct. Compounding other people's sexual feats on top of your intellectualization might take you in the wrong direction and might make your pleasure even harder to achieve.

 

This is what most young people are suffering from because they learn everything they know about sex from porn. When they compare their sexual lives against porn, their dick is never big enough, their partner is never hot enough, their orgasm is never strong enough, their coitus is never long enough, the passion they experience from their partners is never strong enough.

 

When you compare your personal, concrete, verifiable experience with the subjective, exaggerated, made to titillate second hand tale designed to entertain, your experience will ALWAYS fall short.

 

There is no right way to feel pleasure. If you are feeling pleasure, then you are doing well. If it hurts, then you must make changes.

 

If you want to maximize your pleasure, the way to do it is not going further into your head. You have to go precisely the other way. You have to learn to get into your body. You can do this by learning to breathe deeply and pleasurably and focus on the sensations on your body. Where is there pain? Where is there pleasure? Then breathe more and if any thought comes, if any judgment comes, if any temptation to rate your experience comes, all you have to do is breathe again, focus on your physical sensation and let the thought go. Don't fight it, don't discount it, don't judge it, simply re-focus your attention on your physical sensations and breathe pleasurably.

 

At first doing this during sexual intercourse might demand a lot of attention, which is why I would recommend you to practice this during your walking life. Get out of your head by getting -pleasurably- into your body. Once you develop an easeful habit of doing this, try it out when you are kissing, when you are touching, when you are with someone else.

 

You might not all of a sudden experience full body orgasms, whatever they might be, you might not be able to take three cocks in your ass or cum without touching... but I assure you that if you practice this and this becomes the way in which you interact sexually, the pleasure that you feel will be so organic, so intense, and so right for you that you will stop wondering completely if your pleasure is right.

 

Out of your head, man! Get into that beautiful, sensual, loving, luscious body!

 

It doesn't help either that almost all escorts tout and emphasize their big dicks. Makes the sex unpleasant often if not impossible. Here's to an average sized escort.

[Rudynate]

It doesn't help either that almost all escorts tout and emphasize their big dicks.

 

The invisible hand of the marketplace at work.

[+ Funguy]

The invisible hand of the marketplace at work.

 

Is that the right hand or the left hand?

[Rudynate]

Is that the right hand or the left hand?

 

 

A force as formidable as the marketplace is likely to be ambidextrous.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Reference my rave about bottoming above, I should have specified that for me larger is not better. My prostate is only a few inches inside, so any cock over say 6 can give me a lot of pain.

 

For me it is more the thickness than the length - when I finally decided to try bottoming after decades of being a 100% Top -- and wondering what I was missing -- I had my first bottoming experience with a young man who had average length and was as thick (read SLENDER) as a regular hot dog!

 

To this day I want average cocks and average thickness -- no monsters thank you

[rocky]

I understand what you're saying. Look, not that I don't admire well endowed men and like them to visit from time to time (well not as often as I'd like); but if I decide I'm going to bottom I prefer average both ways but know how to start and finish.

[MartyB]

This is a great thread. One of my favorite escorts (Antton Harri) several years ago made it very clear that in anal sex the bottom is in control. If I'm not turned on and excited and the top hasn't worked on my butt and quality lube it ain't happening. That being said once it's right there is such a feeling of connection that I get lost in the experience and my toes always curl. LoL. Depending on the escort certain positions work better. My current escort flip "fucked" with me and that is the ultimate sexual experience. Nothing better. I never thought I could do anal sex but damn I've learned to love it. I've learned also laying on my back with my legs on my partners shoulders and looking in his eyes is fantastic, and laying on my belly with a pillow underneath me with one of my my legs arched it is a great way to feel a man who knows what he's doing. When a dick enters you at first it will hurt but the trust connection and stimulation of a great partner is exhilarating. On the plus side I also get to top but i think I'm a better bottom. It also is a lot of fun when my guy slaps my ass when he's inside me and also squeezes my nips and a man who will rim. I regret starting this journey of great gay sex later in my life but I'm more adventurous horny and into experimenting it all.