Unusal request

[starman05]

Please don't freak and flame me, I enjoy sex as much as anyone else -- but not always.

 

Which has led me to ask the question has anyone ever hired a guy just to do guy stuff with him?

 

I'm talking throwing a football around or playing air hockey or going bowling or to a ball game just doing dumb guy stuff -- I'm not always up for sex, but I do desire intimacy, roughhousing and playfulness.

 

Most of my gay friends aren't into any of the stuff I mentioned.

 

And if anyone has hired someone for something like this, can you recommend them/him?

 

TIA!

[gallahadesquire]

Just a point of clarification: when you hire, you hire for time only. "Anything that happens is between two consenting adults." I cannot speak for the escorts among us, but given this paradigm, it would be unlikely to get a "discount" if that's what you're looking for. Somehow, paying $200 to go toss the football seems a little strange.

 

Maybe what you really need to do is find a new set of friends? You could go down to the local ballfield and see if there's a pick up game baseball or football or whatever. I don't know what area you're in; I wouldn't know where to find this in my own town, but then again it's kind of a weird place.

 

Welcome aboard! Please do not think that we are so harsh as would criticize in recreations. And best of luck in your endeavors!

[Rudynate]

That sounds pretty sexy - some guy time together with the right man - high fives, fist bumps, guy hugs.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Please don't freak and flame me, I enjoy sex as much as anyone else -- but not always.

 

Which has led me to ask the question has anyone ever hired a guy just to do guy stuff with him?

 

I'm talking throwing a football around or playing air hockey or going bowling or to a ball game just doing dumb guy stuff -- I'm not always up for sex, but I do desire intimacy, roughhousing and playfulness.

 

Most of my gay friends aren't into any of the stuff I mentioned.

 

And if anyone has hired someone for something like this, can you recommend them/him?

 

TIA!

 

I personally would LOVE if I were hired for some good bonding time. Being outside and being active are particularly appealing to me, and they happen to work me up in other ways, too.

[mike carey]

... and they happen to work me up in other ways, too.

I can't imagine what.

[Rudynate]

No personal experience with him, but I was wondering just recently if this guy might not be good for that kind of experience:

 

https://rentmen.com/JasonDeAngelo.

[mattr]

I personally would LOVE if I were hired for some good bonding time. Being outside and being active are particularly appealing to me, and they happen to work me up in other ways, too.

 

I hope you're not PDA shy because I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off you!

[MiamiLooker]

Just a point of clarification: when you hire, you hire for time only.

That sounds good, but it's not necessarily true.

[Guest davebk]

Is it unusual? Not at all.

 

If you really want to do it - go spend an afternoon in Central Park with @Eric Hassan - I'm sure he'd negotiate a fair price that includes an afternoon of outdoor time, stopping in to a sports bar, and possibly but not necessarily ending with a good hearty fuck. If he's watching the boards and volunteers it as something that would turn him on, I'm sure you'd have a great time.

 

But - as I looked at your profile to see what city you are located in (didn't see), based on your other posts, it seems obvious that you are looking for a deeper connection with a man than just the paid hook up scene. It might be time to join a gay rec league or be bold with a dating site and try to find a whole group of guys you click with so that you can experience the connection more frequently and with a wider base of guys.

 

And then save the cash for when you do want to get physical.

[DonaldTramp]

Place an ad on Craigslist under Strictly Platonic section.

[starman05]

Thanks everyone; not really looking for a discount - just looking to connect, albeit in a different way.

 

I think if my mom had signed me up for Big Brothers when I was a kid all this would have been taken care of.

 

Will consider the Craigslist under Strictly Platonic section.

[feldersteve]

And there are several gay/jock/sports sites with personals section. There are escorts who will accommodate you, but it will take some research. I used to "see" a grad student for "fun" and we often went to ball games together, a couple of runs, and gym time. The younger escorts would the ones to approach.

[bostonman]

That sounds pretty sexy - some guy time together with the right man - high fives, fist bumps, guy hugs.

 

I know I'd enjoy that kind of behavior if it led to sex - maybe even some sort of roleplay where it would seem to start off in all innocence and slowly go from male-bonding type stuff to play that got more and more sexual - the boundaries melting as we go.

 

But I think if I wanted a strictly platonic thing, I wouldn't look for an escort. Unless perhaps it was someone I had hired before who would enjoy that different kind of male/male experience. (I tend to think it might be more emotionally satisfying with someone you already had some sort of familiarity with - though of course many people obviously feel that way about sex too, lol.)

 

I did pose a question recently about boundaries with someone who advertises as a masseur - as to whether or not they'd be open to a session that was more about the emotional intimacy of sensual shared touch - not literally a massage, and not going as far as sex. But I'm not sure I'd ask someone like that to just do regular "guy stuff" either lol.

 

My only escort experiences have been for sex. I certainly know that social activities like dinner, movies, concerts, shows, etc, are frequently part of the experience as well. But I assume it almost always leads to sex, lol.

[starman05]

I'm not opposed -- by any means -- to something leading to sex; this site is jam-packed with options.

 

I wish there'd be like a buddys for rent, sigh; like wanting sex, it's an itch that just needs to be scratched.

 

thanks again, all

[mike carey]

@starman05 you haven't said where you are, but that's a detail. If you are, or could be in NYC, @Eric Hassan has said he would like the sort of scene you suggested. Depending on where you are, no doubt there are other men who would step up to the plate. Up to you how you work all this out.

[Rudynate]

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But I think if I wanted a strictly platonic thing, I wouldn't look for an escort.

 

I don't know that I would either. But escorts often say that it isn't unusual to be hired to provide company with no expectation of anything further. If you stop to think about it . . . a client-centered escort who is committed to you having the experience you're looking for? It could be a really amazing time.

[philly cheese]

I don't know that I would either. But escorts often say that it isn't unusual to be hired to provide company with no expectation of anything further. If you stop to think about it . . . a client-centered escort who is committed to you having the experience you're looking for? It could be a really amazing time.

 

It could be an amazing time especially if you didn't think well enough of yourself (myself) to go elsewhere like c'list "strictly platonic."

 

I'm not a good marketer of me. That said, I've hired guys for extracurriculars aside from sex and it's been good for me.

 

Guess I don't see it as so odd. Depends on the hire though.

[Lab12]

Pretty sure a lot of escorts would not have any qualms doing some playful, bonding stuff with you and the 'straight' ones would definitely be grateful to be paid for their time doing that.

[Fyton]

Please don't freak and flame me, I enjoy sex as much as anyone else -- but not always.

 

Which has led me to ask the question has anyone ever hired a guy just to do guy stuff with him?

 

I'm talking throwing a football around or playing air hockey or going bowling or to a ball game just doing dumb guy stuff -- I'm not always up for sex, but I do desire intimacy, roughhousing and playfulness.

 

Most of my gay friends aren't into any of the stuff I mentioned.

 

And if anyone has hired someone for something like this, can you recommend them/him?

 

TIA!

 

I handle that by dating 18-25 year olds. They always want to "do" something. Moreover, 99 percent of those guys I date are better looking than 99% of the talent on RM, but I suppose that is a matter of taste.

[dlee02]

Slightly off topic... one of my regulars said one time he got hired for an hour just to sit there. There was no interaction, he wasn't a model being drawn, just an hour of sitting in a chair with the client watching...

 

To each his own...

[Todd99]

I don't think it's strange at all. Some hire escorts for a date that includes going to dinner or the theater. What's the difference if you spend the time throwing a football around or hanging at the beach?

 

I've hired escorts for a full day, weekend, and a week. Some type of athletic activity (outside the bedroom) is usually involved. For me it's just part of the particular experience I happen to be seeking with that escort. With others, its 1 hour and done.

 

I'm sure many escorts would be happy to spend your money just doing guy things. Find an escort that you like and ask. Have fun.

[Samfoslom]

http://rentafriend.com/

 

There is this site I have seen before rentafriend.com It seems to fit the bill, but I don't know anything about it.

[starman05]

thanks everyone and especially Samfolsom; I did check out rent a friend and the varied (!) folks at Strictly Platonic on CL; much to explore.

 

I'll keep looking; I do think 200 bucks to throw the football around for an hour isn't the right way to go; though if I found the right guy and could swing that, I probably would.

[samandtham]

Yes, your request is unusual, but I don't think it's necessarily weird. I can't bring myself to pay full escort prices just to hang out though.

 

starman05, try Meetup.com too. It's not a dating site, rather it's a site where you can look for groups with similar interests as you.

[philly cheese]

http://rentafriend.com/

 

There is this site I have seen before rentafriend.com It seems to fit the bill, but I don't know anything about it.

 

Pain in the ass website.

 

I'd rather hire a recommended, good-looking man to spend my time with than a random dolt.

 

IMHO