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I took a fellow out to dinner on my birthday and he not only surprised me with a pre ordered a special "happy birthday" dessert, he (tried to) pay the check. Just about made my heart burst. Then afterwards.......I felt like we were lovers. Nearly lost my heart big time.

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Little things that turn me off: I don't know. Ten years ago when I started this hobby I was critical about everything. It took me a while to figure out how to treat the escort like a friend and lover rather than a "you know what." Since then I enjoy most every session in one way or another. Took me a while not to be so dam critical all the time. I don't like kissing a heavy smoker. I don't like a top who is not patient. Showing up late without a courtesy text or call is a buzz kill. That's about it, I suppose.

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Turn off: Getting up and going to clean up after he's finished leaving me solo and frustrated.

During our time having an extended texting session then phone call with his roommate.

Not responding to a post-session "thank you" text I send (I'm surprised how often this happens) and in one case not acknowledging a gift I'd picked out for him.

These are examples of not being "present" and focused on the client.

 

 

Turn on: Getting hugely turned on by whatever I'm doing or being a good enough actor to convince me.

Surprises that show that he's thought about our meeting in advance.

Letting me know that he's enjoyed my company.

Man, that's just so rude. But I guess it takes all kinds.

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Reluctant Daddy Rising Star

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Clocker, I'd advise you to avoid hiring that particular escort ever again and any other escort who might be negative enough to make you feel apologetic or hurt your self-confidence. Try to learn a lesson from this experience. Great escorts make the time with their client about building up the client and making him happy and completely satisfied, not just sexually but socially too

 

Actually he's someone I should hire again. He tried his damnedest to make me feel great and build my self-esteem. Compliments throughout the session, and pooh poohing every negative thing and apology I brought up. I've never had anyone do that before, and it really threw me. My self confidence, at least when it comes to my image of myself, is pretty low. He was working against the odds in the short time we were together. I was very happy and satisfied. Just concerned that sexually, I wouldn't be good enough.

 

When I finally build my confidence with him, how do I maintain that with subsequent hires that may not be as accommodating?

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When I finally build my confidence with him, how do I maintain that with subsequent hires that may not be as accommodating?

 

Remember that you're a person too and as a human being you deserve respect and consideration. If someone mistreats you, stop the encounter right then and there, give them a prorated amount and leave after explaining why you're ending the session early.

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I don't consider it petty. Respect for personal boundaries and autonomy is important to me.

'Little things' are so personal, as are boundaries, so it's difficult to anticipate what things may irk either a client or an escort.

But notice how one little change in the fact pattern makes all the difference!

Precisely! It's the "little things." :cool:

In another thread, a client commented on being disappointed by something an escort did, the response to which was mixed in the forum. Indication again that different little things matter to different people, and that neither side is inherently right or wrong.

 

These conversations have made me reflect on little things that companions have done that disconcerted me at the time, and ask why that was the case and whether I was reasonable in my reaction. It also makes me reflect on little things that I have done that now make me wince, regardless of whether the companion had commented or even reacted to them at the time.

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These conversations have made me reflect on little things that companions have done that disconcerted me at the time, and ask why that was the case and whether I was reasonable in my reaction. It also makes me reflect on little things that I have done that now make me wince, regardless of whether the companion had commented or even reacted to them at the time.

 

+1 +1 +1

 

I love that we may be helping each other processing a bit about our reactions or an escort's reactions. Yes, going too far isn't healthy, but understanding our own motivations and behaviors can be very helpful. :cool:

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If someone mistreats you, stop the encounter right then and there

 

It's really not a matter of mistreatment. I mean, if an escort out and out called my ugly to my face then I'm out the door. What was appealing and complimented on by the guy I was with may not be so for the next person I'd hire. Do you stick with a regular who makes you feel good, or do venture into the abyss hoping that the confidence you've built sticks?

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It's really not a matter of mistreatment. I mean, if an escort out and out called my ugly to my face then I'm out the door. What was appealing and complimented on by the guy I was with may not be so for the next person I'd hire. Do you stick with a regular who makes you feel good, or do venture into the abyss hoping that the confidence you've built sticks?

Both. Keep building the confidence and keep using it elsewhere.

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It's really not a matter of mistreatment. I mean, if an escort out and out called my ugly to my face then I'm out the door. What was appealing and complimented on by the guy I was with may not be so for the next person I'd hire. Do you stick with a regular who makes you feel good, or do venture into the abyss hoping that the confidence you've built sticks?

 

 

Although my hiring is minimal, I would venture into unchartered waters, since I am of the mindset, that the compliments, if any, are PAID for, and therefore are not really contributing to my confidence. Compliments can be found with any hire.... Mind you, I'm not calling bullshit on the escorts actions; it's good business and savvy of him to make you feel good and want to repeat the experience... But I get bored easily and like to try NEW things.

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Thanks guys, and sorry for being such a schmuck with all of this. This isn't exactly a subject and dilemma I can process with friends or family. I'm way behind the learning curve with this.

Hey Clocker, that is exactly why this forum continues. Escorts and hiring are not topics most of us can talk over with our families or even most of our friends! So quit apologizing and calling yourself a schmuck already! :):):)

 

Truhart1 :cool:

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Biggest turn off for me....having the escort stop everything in the middle of sex and go open a package from Amazon. Package contained a bag of dog food. Let me know immediately where I stood on his totem pole. Hard to get my head around the fact I'm less important than a bag of dog food..

 

Aww come on, did that really happen? That's right up there with the guy being on the phone while the client is giving him head. As has been correctly (IMHO) been noted before here,

 

"I'm paying $300/hr. Put the phone away."

 

Now let's talk about those expected tips. . .

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Aww come on, did that really happen? That's right up there with the guy being on the phone while the client is giving him head. As has been correctly (IMHO) been noted before here,

 

It absolutely did happen to me. Specifically, it happened on June 10th at 1:30 pm in a hotel off Central Expressway in Dallas, Texas. The escort's name was Chris and he was visiting from Chicago. Of course, after posting a negative review on RentMen (which was subsequently removed) the escort blocked me from viewing his ad.

 

Additionally, I've also had an escort pull out his cell phone to text in the middle of sex. I totally related to that posting as well. One thing I'd never do is lie about an escort encounter. I'm here to pass on reliable information to other Forum members as well as learn from others.

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Beancounter and WmClarke - when I wrote what I did above, I really didn't doubt what either of you had earlier said. I was hoping to convey my sense of incredulity at the chutzpah of some "service providers."

 

Sometimes I find it hard to keep up with the crazy behavior of others.

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