Seeking arrangements success!

[marylander1940]

Come on, man. Chill!

 

Is the hall monitor is back?

 

I'm off to the gym, BRB!

[Kcdave]

Signed up for the site. It’s asking me for a picture. Do I have to use my face or can I use some other picture.

[MikeBiDude]

Signed up for the site. It’s asking me for a picture. Do I have to use my face or can I use some other picture.

I used a face pic blurred, unblurred in private pics

[fedssocr1]

you can use any kind of non-sexual photo you want

 

I think for a lot of the young guys they think they can make a lot of money for nothing. Some of the guys I've met mentioned that the site was recommended to them by female friends who are all apparently meeting lots of rich men who don't want anything from them - or at least they don't tell their friends what they're doing to make money. The expectations on both sides frequently do not line up. There are some guys who genuinely like older men and understand what both sides are typically interested in - money and attention for the baby and sex and intimacy for the daddy. I'm guessing they do well, but I suspect most guys on both sides aren't especially successful in finding what they want. And so many scammers on both ends that it's tough for everyone who's not a scammer.

 

Lots of babies who are not conventionally attractive I would think have a difficult time getting a foot in the door. Although I suppose there are so many different tastes out there it's just a matter of finding the right person.

 

I know I am not the most physically attractive, but that's why I expect to have to pay for some experiences. But being a nice person and a good listener works well for me. There are lots of lonely people out there including some cute boys who appreciate having some one to talk to. I like both the guys who know the score and are more on the escort side of the spectrum and the guys who are a bit more work.

[+ WilliamM]

They can get that without having to put out... from a relative, teacher, neighbor, gay older friend, etc.

 

Especially from a teacher. I stayed in touch with my sixth grade teacher until she died in 2011

[The_Impeccable_G]

Since we have here a 79 pages study on SA, let me add one more dimension. SA is not the only channel to pursue this type of relationship.There are other GTM channels to reach this market. ?

[+ WilliamM]

They can get that without having to put out... from a relative, teacher, neighbor, gay older friend, etc.

 

But, they get both with Seeking arrangements. They "put out" as it were, and get advice and comfort with someone cares about them

[fedssocr1]

Since we have here a 79 pages study on SA, let me add one more dimension. SA is not the only channel to pursue this type of relationship.There are other GTM channels to reach this market. ?

GTM?

[Leyte2019]

GTM?

 

Get Dat Money

[The_Impeccable_G]

GTM?

Go To Market

[Kcdave]

Interesting website seeking. I did sign up for a 90 day trial (they had a 20% off link). Amazed at the number of contacts being made daily. What is even more shocking is that how young most of these contacts are. While it’s nice to talk to a 18-year-old. I would prefer somebody mid 20s. It makes me wonder if some of these 18-year-olds are even legal.

So I probably would not meet up with somebody that young. They are fun to chat with but I would not exchange much more than a back-and-forth dialogue.

 

i’m just shocked how many people there are contacting me. I will take it slow as I really don’t want to expose myself to anything or anybody and less I have a real good comfort level with them.

Edited March 10, 2021 by Kcdave

[Kcdave]

I took an Atlanta SA guy with me on a business trip for 5 days and paid air, expenses, etc., and gave him something in that ballpark for walking-around money since I was in meetings most of the time. I’m far too unpleasant to be around any longer than that.

In Houston I regularly gave guys $100 - $300 for overnights. These were students who had nothing else to do and enjoyed a little taste of luxury.

i still occasionally hear from a few SA guys but haven't met any in a year.

Good information thank you for your comments I was not sure that I would be able to find guys in at $100-$300 range even if it’s for a couple of hours. Overwhelmed by the number of young guys 18 to 23 reaching out.

[Skip]

just asking for a friend....has anyone had a SA-style ongoing relationship with an escort?

Yes, several.

[Kcdave]

there seem to be several college swimmers on SA. And more frat boys than you can count

I wonder how they feel getting together with a daddy who might have a bit of a belly. Do they overcome that. I really love swimmers. But I am afraid they would be turned off.

[marylander1940]

I wonder how they feel getting together with a daddy who might have a bit of a belly. Do they overcome that. I really love swimmers. But I am afraid they would be turned off.

 

What do you mean by a bit?

 

There are plenty of chubby chasers out there.

 

Maybe if you only offer 100-300 they'll get picky and select their client. Not all twinks are into all daddies of course.

[Kcdave]

What do you mean by a bit?

 

There are plenty of chubby chasers out there.

 

Maybe if you only offer 100-300 they'll get picky and select their client. Not all twinks are into all daddies of course.

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

[marylander1940]

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

 

Here in the ?? you have an average body! Tell them you have a temporary beer belly but I would send pics before/after agreeing on rate for their amateurish services

 

I'm sure others who spend days searching on SA might give you the right advice about how to proceed.

[MikeBiDude]

I’m about 230 lbs on a 6’2 frame. 36 waist. But work out 5 days a week. I got the Covid 19 (lbs)

You’re good ??

[+ WilliamM]

Especially from a teacher. I stayed in touch with my sixth grade teacher until she died in 2011

Late in her life, she mentioned her first name wasn't Shirley, rather Kathleen. She and her parents were Catholics.

[fedssocr1]

Good information thank you for your comments I was not sure that I would be able to find guys in at $100-$300 range even if it’s for a couple of hours. Overwhelmed by the number of young guys 18 to 23 reaching out.

 

Good for you. I find that a huge amount of the guys who contact me are not local and many from different countries even. So I don't even bother to interact with most of them...unless they have really good photos or something in their profile piques my interest. Weeding out the scammers can take some work. For sure use the search function and contact the guys who you find interesting

[MidAndy]

Need advice here. I try to video chat with guys before I meet them. At some point, we have a conversation about how much I am ready to pay if we meet them. I tried two scenarios.

 

1. Ask them how much they want. One said a grand per meeting on top of his travel. He lives in a different city and I would say he is average looking. I said that the most I can do is $200. He vanished.

 

2. When a guy asked how much I would pay, I gave them the number. In one case I offered 200, in another case, it was 100. I understand that this is on the lower end, but when there is nothing special (cute face or muscles or great personality and presence) I am not ready to pay more.

 

What's the best way to handle this? Not bring money at all?

[cany10011]

Need advice here. I try to video chat with guys before I meet them. At some point, we have a conversation about how much I am ready to pay if we meet them. I tried two scenarios.

 

1. Ask them how much they want. One said a grand per meeting on top of his travel. He lives in a different city and I would say he is average looking. I said that the most I can do is $200. He vanished.

 

2. When a guy asked how much I would pay, I gave them the number. In one case I offered 200, in another case, it was 100. I understand that this is on the lower end, but when there is nothing special (cute face or muscles or great personality and presence) I am not ready to pay more.

 

What's the best way to handle this? Not bring money at all?

I would imagine these guys on SA know the marketplace. If they are in it for NSA or fun, i presume they will have a dollar figure in mind. Most would probably be similar to escorts in the local area or higher (i would expect). If you look at the local rentmen ads, what are the guys charging there?

 

For the guys in option 2, what happened? Did they take up your offer? I’m not sure i would offer anything for someone that had “nothing special”...

[fedssocr1]

I would imagine these guys on SA know the marketplace. If they are in it for NSA or fun, i presume they will have a dollar figure in mind. Most would probably be similar to escorts in the local area or higher (i would expect). If you look at the local rentmen ads, what are the guys charging there?

 

For the guys in option 2, what happened? Did they take up your offer? I’m not sure i would offer anything for someone that had “nothing special”...

 

Actually my guess is that most of these guys have no idea what the "going rate" happens to be. As we've discussed upthread, few of them would want to consider themselves to be escorts or prostitutes. As I think I said previously the differing expectations between the "baby" and "daddy" can be a real impediment to these relationships working. I think many (most?) of them have a fantasy that the world is full of rich daddies who will pay all of their bills and expect little to nothing in return. These guys are mainly not pros. They just know somebody who mentioned the app to them and they thought it sounded like easy money.

 

The guy I've been getting to know is a total rookie. I actually don't remember us talking about any particular dollar amount at any time. He did ask how I do the arrangement and I told him I pay per meeting which he said seemed sensible. But that was it. We've had a couple of coffee dates and I Venmo'd my typical amount for such a meeting to him. He's not seemed put off by the amount at all. We text each other mostly small talk most days. So it's a bit unusual for me. He even gave me a small gift at our second meeting. So it's like building a friendship. I think he's basically completely sexually inexperienced. So we'll see where things go. But I really like him and he seems to like me so I am happy to see how it all plays out.

 

But I agree that discussing the money aspect can be difficult for both sides. I'd like the be realistic, but I'm not sure I am. I also think it matters what the baby is offering. If there's a physical aspect (like an escort) then certainly I expect to pay somewhere in the neighborhood of escort money for such a meeting. But for a simple coffee date or just spending time together without a physical component I expect to pay much less. I have friends I could spend time with for free, but as part of the "courting" process I am fine with some coffee dates. For that I generally pay $100 for a couple of hours.

[MidAndy]

For the guys in option 2, what happened? Did they take up your offer? I’m not sure i would offer anything for someone that had “nothing special”...

 

They said they are not interested and expected something different. I asked how much they want and they never gave me an answer.

[The_Impeccable_G]

As I mentioned a few pages back, I really enjoy seeking and this type of relationships. In my experience, despite the large numbers of escorts in seeking, most of the guys there are not escorts and do not seek hourly compensation. They are after a true relationship with the ambiguity and fluidity that all relationships have. Some have a clear view of how they want it to shape and how to monetise it, others don't. Some will be insulted and ghost you if you mention money. I remember a first meet with a very nice guy. After dinner I offered him taxi money and he refused. So my advice is don't confuse seeking with rentmen, they are different animals. Start slowly, take him for a drink. Do what you would do with a date, not an escort. And see what happens.