Where is my post?

[dixietony]

Did I break some rule? Where is my post about an escort canceling? My alert says it was moved. To where?

[mike carey]

Try holding your curser over your profile name (top right of the forum) and select 'Your Content' in the right column. I tried searching your posts from your profile page but only 7 came up despite it saying you had sent 38 messages.

[+ augustus]

Daddy doesn't like threads that go into too much detail about an escort encounter. That is reserved for the Reviews. That may be the reason your thread is unavailable now.

[rvwnsd]

You might want to ask Daddy or one of the moderators and why the post is unavailable.

[+ Gar1eth]

It's definitely gone because you can't get to Alain's response either.

 

Gman

[dixietony]

How do I find out who the moderators are?

 

I thought it was civil and tame. I didn't say anything terrible or mean about Alain. Odd.

[jgoo]

I don't know if there is a difference or even if moderators exist on this forum, but two administrators that could possibly address your question are Deej and Cooper. You can find their details on the members list if you wish to contact them I am sure.

[ny2222]

This is just my opinion but basically by naming the escort it pretty much amounted to a review on the board (and to be honest I am not totally sure why the poster felt that was necessary). That isn't fair to the escort and yea does violate the primary rule here (see Daddy's post at the beginning of the deli). If you seriously have an issue with the escort and not a general thing then write a review, let the escort respond and then it is done, finished, and doesn't go on forever on the board. On the other hand there was some good general discussion on escorts and PDA which might make an interesting thread with no escort specifics.

NY

[dixietony]

I understand that. But I can't write a review on something that never happened. And Alain himself responded in the thread. Shouldn't the facts about it be public knowledge. I didn't defame him or criticize his decision. I said I was disappointed.

[mattr]

I am disappointed that the post is gone as well. I thought it was a balanced view of a less than successful planned meet. It brought out a lot of good points on communication and limits that could serve as a guide to others planning on hiring. I think both the poster and the escort made some mistakes along the way and I thought it was a relatively balanced discussion. The fact that a review would not be permissible since the meeting never took place leaves the board as the only place to have this valuable discussion. I would like to know the exact reason the post was eliminated, if for nothing else than to help others avoid crossing whatever line was crossed in this case.

[Moondance]

I have no idea if the thread was deleted at the discretion of one of the moderators, or if it was done upon request, but I'll venture a guess as to why.

 

If I remember right, the title of the thread changed a few times ... initially including the escort's name, then eliminating it, then reinstating it. I don't know if that was all at the OP's discretion, or if the removal of the escort's name was an edit by one of the moderators and its reinstatement an edit by the OP.

 

If it was a moderator who removed the escort's name from the title, that would have been a first indication that a line was being crossed.

 

If the OP listed/removed/reinstated the escort's name all on his own initiative, I'd take that to mean that he was a little conflicted about whether it was fair and appropriate to mention it.

 

From the details that were revealed, I didn't think either the OP or the escort was a bad guy. I did think -- just my personal perspective -- that the OP waited too long to mention his interest in PDAs. It may also have been the case that the escort over-reacted and interpreted an "interest" as a "requirement."

 

I'm willing to believe that there was no intent to "defame" the escort, but the initial suggestion of the thread that this was a guy who would cancel after a month's planning for no apparent reason sure wasn't an endorsement. Since his name had been mentioned, the escort felt compelled to respond and explain his decision. He offered what sounded to many of us like a plausible explanation, and his comments were not disputed by the OP.

 

I thought the subsequent suggestion that perhaps the man should not be escorting because he is straight and married was unfortunate and unfair. That's entirely his decision, and it's to his credit that he shares that information in his advertising. Any prospective client who objects can choose someone else.

 

Again ... just my take on things, with no ill will toward either the OP or the escort.

[Nvr2Thick]

Did I break some rule? Where is my post about an escort canceling? My alert says it was moved. To where?

 

Click on the Members tab at the top of the page, then the Staff Members subtab. From there you should be able to find the Admin user and send a PM.

 

On social media forums we're not actually solving anything, and often we don't reach closure. These discussions are impermanent. If a thread gets deleted or locked or if it just dwindles due to lack of interest IMO it's best just to trust the judgment of the people who work to provide this forum for you, and move on.

[+ nycman]

For what it's worth, I thought the original thread was valuable

and shed light on an interesting encounter (or lack thereof).

 

Nonetheless I agree that it was dangerous territory. Although

both the OP and the Escort presented their side of the story in

a clear, simple, and non-defamatory way, we all know full well that

9 times out of 10 it doesn't go that way around here.

 

The evil queens will poke both sides until one side overreacts

and the circus begins...much to the enjoyment of the gawkers

assembled to watch the predictable ensuing drama.

 

So kudos to the OP and the Escort for being exemplary citizens in our

little world, but I unfortunately understand why the thread was removed.

[bigvalboy]

Did I break some rule? Where is my post about an escort canceling? My alert says it was moved. To where?

 

but two administrators that could possibly address your question are Deej and Cooper. if you wish to contact them

 

Whatever you do, don't contact Daddy, he's on vacation...... He was forced back a few days ago over a little fender-bender we all got into, and he was clearly not happy about it.

 

You might take a moment to read Moondance's post #11...it is spot on.

[+ Truereview]

Kinda strange to have moderators remove posts without providing an explanation. Wouldn't it be more courteous/effective to shoot a PM to the OP explaining the rationale instead of the OP just getting an alert that the post was moved? Maybe the volume of such incidents is so high that a more personable approach is not sustainable?

[down_to_business]

Well you kind of got to experience being cancelled on by the escort and by the message forum too in similar fashion

[Paddy]

Well you kind of got to experience being cancelled on by the escort and by the message forum too in similar fashion

 

*snort*

[jawjateck]

Entropy, boys. 2nd law of thermodynamics. Check it out.

[+ Truereview]

Entropy, boys. 2nd law of thermodynamics. Check it out.

I'm all about energy dispersal...orderly or disorderly

[+ Gar1eth]

Whatever you do, don't contact Daddy, he's on vacation...... He was forced back a few days ago over a little fender-bender we all got into, and he was clearly not happy about it.

 

You might take a moment to read Moondance's post #11...it is spot on.

 

Not that my opinion matters a hill of beans in this crazy mixed up Forum we all play in but possibly the only thing that might have been out of line in my opinion was the comment that that escort shouldn't escort. On the other hand it seems to me that we've said similar things before on here. In my opinion again, what's a Forum for if you can't discuss? But it's not my Forum, it's Daddy's. Other than that however, I don't see anything wrong. I don't think anything that dixietony presented was unreasonable. And the escort in question explained his point of view. I understand dixietony's wanting PDA. I also understand the escort not wishing to provide that possibly ever but definitely in his hometown where people he knows outside this life might see him. I also think it's literally impossible to state everything you want of an escort and every restriction an escort has even if you have multiple conversations. We're people, not robots. Situations come up. You can't always remember to mention everything you like or dislike beforehand.

 

Gman

[bigvalboy]

Not that my opinion matters a hill of beans in this crazy mixed up Forum we all play in but possibly the only thing that might have been out of line in my opinion was the comment that that escort shouldn't escort. On the other hand it seems to me that we've said similar things before on here. In my opinion again, what's a Forum for if you can't discuss? But it's not my Forum, it's Daddy's. Other than that however, I don't see anything wrong. I don't think anything that dixietony presented was unreasonable. And the escort in question explained his point of view. I understand dixietony's wanting PDA. I also understand the escort not wishing to provide that possibly ever but definitely in his hometown where people he knows outside this life might see him. I also think it's literally impossible to state everything you want of an escort and every restriction an escort has even if you have multiple conversations. We're people, not robots. Situations come up. You can't always remember to mention everything you like or dislike beforehand.

 

Gman

 

I'm not altogether sure how this pertains to my post, unless I'm missing something.

[AdamSmith]

Entropy, boys. 2nd law of thermodynamics. Check it out.

Also: Whatever hits the fan will not be evenly distributed.

 

Yogi Berra

[+ Gar1eth]

I'm not altogether sure how this pertains to my post, unless I'm missing something.

 

Would you believe .... Actually it did. But I changed what I had to say while writing it.

 

Gman

[Brian Kevin]

Whatever you do, don't contact Daddy, he's on vacation...... He was forced back a few days ago over a little fender-bender we all got into, and he was clearly not happy about it.

 

You might take a moment to read Moondance's post #11...it is spot on.

 

No he was not happy. None of us were. I'm still recieveing phone calls from someone I sure do love a the BlockIt! App very very much !!!

[mike carey]

I'm still recieveing phone calls

Still?