30 Emails and Counting....

[Jock123]

Soooo I have someone Scheduled to meet me In about Two weeks. Great,Right? WELL This guy Has sent me 30 Emails as of Today. They Range from "Have a Good Day!" "I just want You to know You're Sexy!" to more Explicit Emails about a Paragraph long. NORMALLY I would see this as a Red Flag. HOWEVER We do Have a Day Scheduled(I've learned the more they blow up your emails without giving specifics On a Day etc.....It never follows Through). Maybe hes just Excited? He claims I'm the first person hes ever hired. I dont want to be mean....but really Im so busy with School and other clients at the moment...Should I say something? I've had a guy do this In the past....and It turned out being my worst experience...ever....

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/clients-who-post-bogus-reviews.107971/

 

 

He's even asked me to be "Flexible" on my fee. But now agrees to pay it Fully...

[+ azdr0710]

he may be excited......asking you to be flexible on the rate may make this appear serious as somebody yanking your chain wouldn't try to ask that, I'd think.....

 

keep your replies brief and professional.....

 

but how did he ever find you when you're so coy about your ID here??!!

[Jock123]

but how did he ever find you when you're so coy about your ID here??!!

 

 

Funny You ask. I use to use Rentboy until they shut down. Now I'm using another Website and let me tell You...some of the replies I get are....Odd. I'm not on Rentmen just yet but Its looking like Its best at this point. Goodness.

[geminibear]

 

 

but how did he ever find you when you're so coy about your ID here??!!

+1

[jawjateck]

Gosh....I'd also be gushy, goofy, giddy, and silly to meet a jock like you.

[WorldwideTraveler]

He's slamming you with e-mails AND wants a discounted rate? If this is only for an hour, it's pretty ridiculous. There are a lot of escorts on here who collect deposits. If you're of a certain trust worthy reputation I'd do that. Reach out to them on what to do, I'm sure they've encountered something similar. I see an escort in NYC very very regularly who has told me "clients" are really trying to take advantage of what's going on in the current environment. He will not see a new client without a deposit if wanting to book more than 48 hours in advance and only will make an appointment by phone. He's also said that eventually people come back around if you turn them away in a polite fashion. This kid is great at making business come across as sexy. Professional yet not all about the money. They soon find out that no one else will be as professional or desirable at the rate they want to pay. His words not mine. Good luck on making this all work out kiddo.

[+ glennnn]

30 emails is excessive, but..... as a continuing newbie (only two escorts so far), I can relate to him being really excited to spend time with you. Not so much him trying to get you to reduce your rate. (Would you ask a doctor or other professional "to be flexible" on the rate? I think not!)

 

If he continues to deluge you with messages, honestly tell him that he is on the edge of stalking you. He will either get it or go away. He needs the lesson on this forum regarding "love, consideration and professional standards of behavior.

[rvwnsd]

...If he continues to deluge you with messages, honestly tell him that he is on the edge of stalking you. He will either get it or go away...

 

I don't agree with the notion of calling the guy out as a borderline stalker. It is kind of rude and could insult him.

 

Here's a suggestion: Send him a note that says something like "Thank you for your notes. They are very sweet and I'm excited to meet you, but I am drowning in emails. Let's confirm our date on [insert the date when you will confirm with him]. Look forward to receiving an email from me then."

 

This way, you gently explain that the number of emails is excessive and set the expectation for him to receive an email from you on a specific date. If he keeps deluging you with emails you can say something like "Hey, I'm flattered by all the emails but I can't keep up. Let's touch bases on [the date you said you would confirm]."

 

My read is he is overly enthusiastic about your upcoming date and is just clueless about the volume of emails he is sending. One could argue that he should know better, but emotions often trump logic.

[+ quoththeraven]

Please do not mention stalking. Tell him you're glad he's excited and looking forward to your appointment, but he's blowing up your e-mail to the point of making it difficult to transact business because other client e-mail is being buried. And besides, it takes time to read and deal with his e-mail. (Don't mention it's getting deleted, but he should get the picture.)

 

You will devote yourself to his needs and desires when you see him, but in the meantime, you have a business and a life (or school, if you're comfortable mentioning that) you need to deal with and won't be able to read or respond to any further e-mails.

 

Btw, I'd assumed you weren't responding to what's an e-mail version of flirting by text. Responding is encouragement.

 

I am amazed you persevered through 30 e-mails.

 

PS - I was writing this before rvwnsd posted. Great minds think alike, huh?

 

I also wouldn't be surprised if Kevin Slater was right.

[geminibear]

Gosh....I'd also be gushy, goofy, giddy, and silly to meet a jock like you.

+1

[BabyBoomer]

We do Have a Day Scheduled

 

How long is this scheduled appointment?

 

~ Boomer ~

[geminibear]

How long is this scheduled appointment?

 

~ Boomer ~

What I am more curious about is how and where I can schedule an appointment with Jock123

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Soooo I have someone Scheduled to meet me In about Two weeks. Great,Right? WELL This guy Has sent me 30 Emails as of Today. They Range from "Have a Good Day!" "I just want You to know You're Sexy!" to more Explicit Emails about a Paragraph long. NORMALLY I would see this as a Red Flag. HOWEVER We do Have a Day Scheduled(I've learned the more they blow up your emails without giving specifics On a Day etc.....It never follows Through). Maybe hes just Excited? He claims I'm the first person hes ever hired. I dont want to be mean....but really Im so busy with School and other clients at the moment...Should I say something? I've had a guy do this In the past....and It turned out being my worst experience...ever....

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/clients-who-post-bogus-reviews.107971/

 

 

He's even asked me to be "Flexible" on my fee. But now agrees to pay it Fully...

 

Cancel immediately and book someone else.

[marylander1940]

Soooo I have someone Scheduled to meet me In about Two weeks. Great,Right? WELL This guy Has sent me 30 Emails as of Today. They Range from "Have a Good Day!" "I just want You to know You're Sexy!" to more Explicit Emails about a Paragraph long. NORMALLY I would see this as a Red Flag. HOWEVER We do Have a Day Scheduled(I've learned the more they blow up your emails without giving specifics On a Day etc.....It never follows Through). Maybe hes just Excited? He claims I'm the first person hes ever hired. I dont want to be mean....but really Im so busy with School and other clients at the moment...Should I say something? I've had a guy do this In the past....and It turned out being my worst experience...ever....

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/clients-who-post-bogus-reviews.107971/

 

 

He's even asked me to be "Flexible" on my fee. But now agrees to pay it Fully...

 

Why would-be-clients keep saying it's the first time the do it?

 

Why bother lying to an escort about who you are, what you do, where do you live, how much you make, and specially being a virgin? Why?

 

Back to your posting in specific, how old is he? He certainly feels toward you like a teenage girl and that's a little bit out of place considering the circumstances of your encounter if it ever happens.

 

You should ask for a booking fee for trips, overnights and days, just to keep so much time available for him.

 

let us know how it goes, in the meantime don't feed him back replying to his emails right away, take your time and mention you're so busy with school.

 

 

If he continues to deluge you with messages, honestly tell him that he is on the edge of stalking you. He will either get it or go away. He needs the lesson on this forum regarding "love, consideration and professional standards of behavior.

 

yes, but an escort can't give him that kind of lesson, I'm sure he has issues but he might be just playing with the escort feeling powerful and possibly dumping him (cancelling the appointment) at the last minute to feel powerful and get back at life...

 

Jock123: just reply once per day mention how busy you're and he'll get it, but I'm sure he'll cancel on you sooner or later, if he does ask for a last minute cancellation fee.

 

Post his cellphone on www.badboyreport.kr to warn other escorts about this catfish but give him a chance.

[Jock123]

Just reply once per day mention how busy you're and he'll get it, but I'm sure he'll cancel on you sooner or later, if he does ask for a last minute cancellation fee.

 

Your Entire post was about right On Marylander...Not to mention my gut tells me It wont even Happen.(But Im trying to give Him the benefit of the doubt)

 

 

How long is this scheduled appointment?

 

Its for an Overnight. What I failed to mention In my Original post Its also his Birthday. Maybe thats why hes putting so much pressure/emphasis on having a Good night? Heck it could be hes just Worried that I Myself may Flake on him, which is why hes keeping In constant contact. It is his Birthday afterall (At least thats what he says). I really do my best to give EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt. As Escorts AND Clients know...You cant take one bad experience and have it affect Your future ones. Its just the more their is "Talk" in an email...It always turns into a last minute cancelation. Who knows...Ill defiently keep everyone posted.

[+ Gar1eth]

I had a 'misunderstanding' once with an escort. I don't know whether your case is similar. But I once contacted a well-known but now retired escort who was going to be visiting the city I lived in two or three weeks down the road. I emailed him-to arrange an overnight. His reply was very cordial, and we had several emails to set things up. After that I think I wouldn't have emailed very much, but he seemed very friendly and kept responding to my emails. Well every time he responded, I thought to be polite I needed to respond back to him. About a week out from our meeting, I mentioned in an email that it was my birthday week, so he would have to be very nice to me.

 

I meant it as a joke. I had no expectations in the world that he wouldn't treat me right. But as so often in texts or emails, the context can be lacking. The escort took my joke the wrong way. He got upset and mentioned in a reply email how he had spent much more time on me from my emails than any other client-and he was canceling our overnight.

 

I was flabbergasted. The main reason I kept writing emails was because all his response emails seemed to require a reply. If not for that, I wouldn't have written him as many emails.

 

We eventually worked things out, and I had my overnight with him.

 

But Jock-while it probably is mostly the client, make sure your responses to him don't imply that you expect a response to a particular email.

 

Gman

 

PS I wrote this email while Jock was posting his. I didn't know while writing it that it was the client's birthday too. My story-it was not my actual birthday. The overnight was near my birthday.

[BabyBoomer]

Your Entire post was about right On Marylander...Not to mention my gut tells me It wont even Happen.

 

 

 

 

Its for an Overnight..It always turns into a last minute cancelation.

 

Ask him for a deposit or payment in full. Handle it like you did with the guy who canceled 3x.

 

~ Boomer ~

[jawjateck]

I really do my best to give EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt.

Hmmmmm............I would welcome your gifts and benefits.

[+ glennnn]

All excellent suggestions, and I agree my mention of stalking was over the top and I withdraw it. However, when I first joined this jolly band, I was specifically warned about too much chuminess being mistaken for stalking. I think what I was told was that once the 'date" was over, I shouldnt contact the escort until I was ready to set a new appointment., or maybe just once to say thank you.

[rvwnsd]

All excellent suggestions, and I agree my mention of stalking was over the top and I withdraw it....

 

Good idea! Duly noted. We have also erased the mention of stalking from your permanent file. To view the file, simply complete form P987-A in quintuplicate and submit.

 

...However, when I first joined this jolly band, I was specifically warned about too much chuminess being mistaken for stalking. ...

 

That's true, but I'm guessing you would not have taken kindly to a post with the title "How to Avoid Being Construed as a Stalker, glennnn"

 

See the difference?

[+ purplekow]

How long does it take to read an e mail? You did not mention the period of that transpired between e mail 1 and e mail 30. If he is writing 10 times a day, then you have a problem. Less than that, I would ignore. He may be annoying you but he is not stalking you, unless his e mails say stuff like, I like the VPL on your jeans today was you were exiting your apartment. He probably has a bit of man crush on you. Keep your responses to him short, to the point and infrequent and do not find yourself in a game of "NO you hang up first" without intending it to be so.

[+ buddy12]

Hey Jock,

 

I'm thinking that he might be just a little excited, nervous if you are in fact his first hire. Wouldn't go and call the guy a stalker. Gotta disagree with marylander too although I love his posts...no one in this forum knows the guy...it may very well be his first time...he may be a virgin...it might be his birthday and for the 1st time in his life he's treating himself to an experience he's longed for. Is he over the top writing "I just want you to know you're sexy"?...yeah probably so. But this may be his way of alleviating any "jitters" he may have. I'll tell you the truth...my first hire...I did send a lot of emails...not as many as this guy and nothing explicit but I did send quite a few. So my guess is the dude was just like me...nervous, anxious, ecstatic and afraid. Plus he is doing an overnight with someone he has never met before...which is what I did and it was fantastic.

 

In this business you're in, it's always a crap shoot. Sometimes it comes up 7 or 11 and sometimes snake eyes. It's all what you feel in your gut if you go ahead with the appointment or not.

 

You just had a post recently about a guy who kept cancelling but you finally did meet and it was a great time...this could be the same thing??!! Again...7 or 11...or snake eyes.

 

But I really do like how you like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt...and I really like that you treat it as a people connection and not about the money...speaks volumes of your character! Let us know how it goes!

 

Oh yeah one more thing...your writing style with the caps thing is hilarious! Don't stop! Best of luck!

[+ José Soplanucas]

Soooo I have someone Scheduled to meet me In about Two weeks. Great,Right? WELL This guy Has sent me 30 Emails as of Today. They Range from "Have a Good Day!" "I just want You to know You're Sexy!" to more Explicit Emails about a Paragraph long. NORMALLY I would see this as a Red Flag. HOWEVER We do Have a Day Scheduled(I've learned the more they blow up your emails without giving specifics On a Day etc.....It never follows Through). Maybe hes just Excited? He claims I'm the first person hes ever hired. I dont want to be mean....but really Im so busy with School and other clients at the moment...Should I say something? I've had a guy do this In the past....and It turned out being my worst experience...ever....

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/clients-who-post-bogus-reviews.107971/

 

 

He's even asked me to be "Flexible" on my fee. But now agrees to pay it Fully...

 

DANGER. Cancel politely the appointment and block him.

[Jock123]

Oh yeah one more thing...your writing style with the caps thing is hilarious! Don't stop! Best of luck!

 

 

Ahhhh! I Dont know How/Why It started....I cant stop it tho! I feel like I should be on one of those "My Strange Addiction" shows.

 

 

Seriously tho Thank all of You for the advice. It Isnt normal but as mentioned frequently It could just be his nerves. I always tell Clients to not "overthink" it. The more You OverPlan/Overthink etc...It could lead to dissapointment. Just go with the flow and most Importantly have FUN. Afterall thats the whole point of hiring an escort.

[+ newatthis]

Good idea! Duly noted. We have also erased the mention of stalking from your permanent file. To view the file, simply complete form P987-A in quintuplicate and submit....

And please click on this link to confirm.