Being Stood Up, Multiple Times.

[Jock123]

About 6 Months ago I was Contacted by someone whom Originally made plans with me That Week. Long story short He Texted me the Day of Our Meeting to Cancel due to having a Family Emergency. We ReScheduled for a few Weeks later...Again the Day of he had to Cancel. Fast Forward to a few months later. He Emails me Apologizing for the missed Oppurtunites, Swears hell make it up to me...And the Day of...Has to Cancel again.

 

 

Dont get me Wrong I'm very "Street Smart" and know when I am Being Trolled, Or someone Isnt serious about Meeting. We've Spoken On the Phone etc and I really dont get a Sense that this guy Is Intentionally being Rude. NOW He wants to ReSchedule again...I'm a little Cautious granted I could very well Miss out on other Oppurtunites. Thoughts? Is This Normal?

[BabyBoomer]

How long was the appointments for?

 

~ Boomer ~

[rvwnsd]

Quick question: are you an escort and is this the client or are you the client and this is the escort? Either way, it is pretty rude. I've had to cancel on an escort due to an emergency, but not every time we make plans to get together.

[Jock123]

How long was the appointments for?

 

 

The first two were an Hour, Then when Hed "Make it up to me" We planned on an Overnight. Like I said I know "Trolling" when I see it, I have great Intuition, I think He's serious...I'm just not sure If Its worth trying again.

[Jock123]

Quick question: are you an escort and is this the client or are you the client and this is the escort? Either way, it is pretty rude. I've had to cancel on an escort due to an emergency, but not every time we make plans to get together.

 

 

I Totally agree. I'm an Escort, Hence my frustration after the third time.

[+ azdr0710]

well, if it's not utterly inconvenient for you, I'd let him try again!....are you having to plan to drive somewhere or is he coming to your own place?.....he may be very busy and never knows his schedule.....you can "joke" with him about the previous cancellations if you want....hell, you may get a huge tip for your troubles (if he ever meets with you!).....go for it!.....fourth time's a charm!???!!

[BabyBoomer]

I know "Trolling" when I see it, I have great Intuition, I think He's serious...I'm just not sure If Its worth trying again.

 

I'm feeling benevolent tonight. I say give him ONE more chance.

 

Normally, I would say 3 strikes you're out.

 

~ Boomer ~

[stop]

first time is an accident, I could see making a second appointment but when he canceled that I would say thanks anyway.

[body2body]

After three strikes if you reschedule with him you will be a volunteer, not a victim.

[+ purplekow]

I would make the appointment and then cancel on him and offer to reschedule. If is willing, I would indeed reschedule, if not well you were not planning to meet anyway.

[geminibear]

I say try it again as long as you aren't inconvenienced. Life does happen to people.

 

I had to cancel for the first time ever a few months ago which I really felt bad about. I was able to give more than 24 hours notice but still I felt like I wasn't believed and probably wouldn't be able to reschedule with that individual.

[Guest]

If you're a client, the "make it up to you" should be an offer for a free meeting. If you're an escort, the "make it up to you" should be an offer to pay in advance, with the money being for the time whether he shows up or not. If you make an appointment under any other circumstance, you're behaving like a fool and a human doormat.

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[Guy Fawkes]

Burn me once shame on you; Burn me twice shame on me; 3rd time should be a rarity.

 

About 6 Months ago I was Contacted by someone whom Originally made plans with me That Week. Long story short He Texted me the Day of Our Meeting to Cancel due to having a Family Emergency. We ReScheduled for a few Weeks later...Again the Day of he had to Cancel. Fast Forward to a few months later. He Emails me Apologizing for the missed Oppurtunites, Swears hell make it up to me...And the Day of...Has to Cancel again.

 

 

Dont get me Wrong I'm very "Street Smart" and know when I am Being Trolled, Or someone Isnt serious about Meeting. We've Spoken On the Phone etc and I really dont get a Sense that this guy Is Intentionally being Rude. NOW He wants to ReSchedule again...I'm a little Cautious granted I could very well Miss out on other Oppurtunites. Thoughts? Is This Normal?

[seaboy4hire]

Don't do a 3rd time redo. I know this is gonna sound mean but tell him to pound sand. He's burned you 3 times now. That's time you set aside for him and was maybe wasted. You could had scheduled someone who would had shown up. Nope nope nope. Put him on block.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[bigvalboy]

....Perhaps it's time for, "Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we will be a good fit"

[+ Truereview]

Am I the only one who is going to call out the obvious?

 

Jock123...really....seriously...what's up with your keyboard and the use of a capital letter every other word?

 

Joking aside, tell him you will need a deposit. It's a win-win. He will pay it and show up OR he will keep repeating the behavior and at least you can be compensated for playing his game.

[craigville beach]

It is time to move on.

[AdamSmith]

The client is bullshit. How many of us have ever cancelled even once, never mind three times! With the same escort!

[jimboivyo]

cut him off. the more you give in and keep saying yes, the more he'll screw with you

[Jock123]

Am I the only one who is going to call out the obvious?

 

Jock123...really....seriously...what's up with your keyboard and the use of a capital letter every other word?

 

Haha! I've always Typed like this,Drives some people nuts. I'm sure if I looked hard Enough there's Probably a Personality Assessment online that deals with Writing.

 

 

If you're a client, the "make it up to you" should be an offer for a free meeting. If you're an escort, the "make it up to you" should be an offer to pay in advance, with the money being for the time whether he shows up or not

 

 

Thank You for all of the Input guys. Unicorn mentioned something I hadnt really thought about which is If we are scheduling for a fourth time...Its only fair to ask for Payment(Or at least half) upfront. If hes serious he shouldnt have a problem. I just found the whole thing Odd as I've never heard(nor had) anyone canceling/rescheduling more than once. Hopefully we can actually meet this time and laugh it off with a Drink...or 4.

[+ Travis69]

Is this his first time with an escort? Maybe he is really nervous. A friend did almost the same thing as he was very nervous about seeing an escort. He finally went though with the appointment after a few cancellations and has been a weekly regular for years now.

[+ friendofsheila]

....Perhaps it's time for, "Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we will be a good fit"

 

or "It's not you, it's me."

[+ friendofsheila]

This is another one of those threads where the originator MUST let us know how it works out, so we're not wondering for the rest of our lives.

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[Guest]

I feel a song coming on....