PDA with an escort: holding hands, caressing, kissing

[Diverdan]

I agree with corndog and BVB.. it depends on the location, the situation and the individuals involved. There are a lot of things I would do in SF, LA, Hollywood, Chicago, Fort Lauderdale or NYC, that I would definitely not do in central Texas, Mississippi or Alabama. Even in those cities that I mentioned, there are areas where I would not show intense affection. I find that such displays among straights can be as offensive as with gays, but maybe it is my age that is showing !!

[AdamSmith]

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[TruHart1]

I come from a family of huggers and kissers (the men, the women, the kids). I kiss my son lightly on the lips when my love for him overwhelms me. Now, 90 percent of this display takes place in private, but there are times when we might gather in a public park or restaurant, and there will be some PDA going on. I never thought about what outsiders might think. I hope no one is offended and jumps to the conclusion that my uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, close friends, etc are sexually attracted to each other, but. ..... fuck em if they can't take a joke!

 

Sorry Glennn, couldn't help thinking of this:

 

TruHart1

[+ glennnn]

Bang! Right thru the heart. You got me Truhart. (I didn't say it isn't weird. It is what it is )9

[curiousnomore]

I recently had an extended weekend vacation with my favorite guy. I told him that my expectation was total discretion, like usual; but, since we were both out of town, he could hug or hold hands, at his discretion. I left it up to his comfort level.

[TruHart1]

I recently had an extended weekend vacation with my favorite guy. I told him that my expectation was total discretion, like usual; but, since we were both out of town, he could hug or hold hands, at his discretion. I left it up to his comfort level.

...and?!!!

 

TruHart1

[samandtham]

The most I'd do (and for him, too) is to put my arms around his shoulders for maybe 10 seconds or so. Even in my relationships, I am not one to show PDA.

[+ purplekow]

I am not a PDA person in the making out in a Wawa while waiting to pay for snacks and stumbling and landing in the fruit cooler stand. Oh wait, I am that person. Nevermind.

[+ poolboy48220]

Sorry Glennn, couldn't help thinking of this:

 

TruHart1

Or the scene in Ferris Bueller where Ferris, masquerading as Sloane's father, picks her up from school and gives her a long kiss. The principal watches and says "Oh, so THAT'S how it is in their family..."

[SteelFan]

I'm not a big fan of PDA. Call me old-fashioned but when it comes to public touching, I give handshakes, not hugs.

[markpaul]

You have had guys in Provo, UT'; Salina, KS; Gatlinburg, TN?

 

Just saw this thread. One of the hottest mature men I have seen is from SLC. He is an incredibly skilled working man.

[geminibear]

Just saw this thread. One of the hottest mature men I have seen is from SLC. He is an incredibly skilled working man.

 

You can't keep that info to yourself markpaul.

[Epigonos]

One of my all-time favorite escorts, Todd/L.A., now unfortunately, retired was an actor. He was out as to being gay but not as to being an escort. Thus near his home he did not want to appear in public with "older" gentlemen who might be suspected of being a client. He gladly drove from West Hollywood to my home in Orange County for our meetings. He would come for dinner and I thoroughly enjoyed cooking large meals for the two of us. There was always a large quantity left- overs which I would pack up and send home with him. Damn was he hot and did he love sex – I still miss him.

[gilbert]

The first time I was in New York City I took Overnight John to a Broadway show. Walking to the theater John grabbed my hand and we held hands walking down the street. This was a very new experience for me, but, you know, it was kind of nice. During the show John reached over and grabbed my hand and held it most of the show. It was such a simple gesture, but to me it was wonderful and heartwarming for someone like me who wasn't used to this kind of physical contact with another man in public, though it was dark and no one else probably even noticed it. I used to be a little self-conscious about me being a 60 year old man hanging around with a young guy in public, until I realized there were lots of different aged guys hanging together in public who were just friends, colleagues, boyfriends, related, whatever. In big cities no one really notices or cares. In August, I was with JockBrad in Las Vegas. He's young and I'm old and we were kidding about what we should say if someone would ask us about our relationship. I told just to call me his uncle. When he was leaving the hotel for the airport I walked him to the taxi where we hugged, and as he turned away he made sure everyone could hear him say "Good bye Uncle Gilbert!" I just gave him a big smile. I am very comfortable hanging with my escorts in public. It's just like hanging with any friend of mine, which, in most cases, when I hang with my escort I am hanging with a friend. Now PDA? I don't think I'd be comfortable with kissing, but who knows? Given the right guy , the right moment, and the right place? Maybe. I didn't think I'd ever be walking down the street holding hands with a man, either.

[+ pdxleo]

PDA was never much of an issue for me in my romantic life, but never really came up at all as part of practicing this hobby until my last extended hire in Ft Lauderdale- the guy (younger, Eastern European) seemed to want to have constant contact, wasn't at all shy about holding hands or asking for a kiss while out at a restaurant, grocery store, even the bowling lanes!! Kinda different, but very refreshing in its own way, very much a BF experience unlike others before. Guess it worked too, have booked for another long weekend after the New Year.

[curiousnomore]

...and?!!!

 

TruHart1

We were casual in public, intimate in private.

[mattr]

I find being seduced in public highly arousing... the look, the intimate touch, the kiss... but as many have said, where you are determines how far you go.

[Moondance]

... for many clients, I think that hiring an escort is partly about their personal development and coming out process. If a client is pushing their own boundaries and a PDA is a step toward accepting their own sexual identity, it can be a healthy step forward.

 

I am in general agreement with those inclined to some reserve about how they interact in public.

 

However, I guess I'm alright with the semi-public display of affection, because this thread reminded me of a recent elevator ride with a handsome fellow. The doors closed and we resumed the kissing that had started in our room (why were we going out!?) and I remember thinking that if we were slow to pull apart when the elevator doors opened, I wouldn't mind a bit if people saw us kissing.

 

In particular, I've been thinking about corndog's post; I think he's hit on something interesting. It made me think that there may well be men who are alone, or married to women, or closeted, who don't often have a chance to express their attraction to men. And even for a closeted man--if he is out of his own neighborhood, someplace where be feels safe (or bold)--there might be a real thrill just to hold hands publicly, to indulge a rare chance to be who he is.

[+ Keith30309]

In particular, I've been thinking about corndog's post; I think he's hit on something interesting. It made me think that there may well be men who are alone, or married to women, or closeted, who don't often have a chance to express their attraction to men. And even for a closeted man--if he is out of his own neighborhood, someplace where be feels safe (or bold)--there might be a real thrill just to hold hands publicly, to indulge a rare chance to be who he is.

 

+1 well said Moondance and Corndog

[+ Truereview]

I am in general agreement with those inclined to some reserve about how they interact in public.

 

However, I guess I'm alright with the semi-public display of affection, because this thread reminded me of a recent elevator ride with a handsome fellow. The doors closed and we resumed the kissing that had started in our room (why were we going out!?) and I remember thinking that if we were slow to pull apart when the elevator doors opened, I wouldn't mind a bit if people saw us kissing.

 

In particular, I've been thinking about corndog's post; I think he's hit on something interesting. It made me think that there may well be men who are alone, or married to women, or closeted, who don't often have a chance to express their attraction to men. And even for a closeted man--if he is out of his own neighborhood, someplace where be feels safe (or bold)--there might be a real thrill just to hold hands publicly, to indulge a rare chance to be who he is.

 

I've always wondered about elevator security cameras and what kind of entertainment we've provided to security folks bored to tears with tedious video of folks adjusting their hair, picking their noses, counting floors...

 

Two guys smooching sounds like a public service activity to keep our security guys awake! Actually, 3 guys smooching in the lift sounds even better! Anyway, I digress...I can see the campaign slogan now: PDA, an act of public service!

[+ glennnn]

I think that PDAs are naturally a part of any physical relationship at the onset. One is just exploring the body and sexuality of a new person in great depth in private, and sometimes the physical memory becomes so intense that one just has to touch the new partner in a more public setting to relive, for an instant, the remembered thrill. It can be a touch, a kiss, a stroke or a grope. But one just has to do it, whatever genders are involved.

[+ purplekow]

I really do not need, PDA Public Display of Affection as long as there is hot, intense, PDAS, Private Displays of Animal Sex

[+ Truereview]

I really do not need, PDA Public Display of Affection as long as there is hot, intense, PDAS, Private Displays of Animal Sex

Ah there you have it...Bovine humor.

[seaboy4hire]

I've always wondered about elevator security cameras and what kind of entertainment we've provided to security folks bored to tears with tedious video of folks adjusting their hair, picking their noses, counting floors...

 

Two guys smooching sounds like a public service activity to keep our security guys awake! Actually, 3 guys smooching in the lift sounds even better! Anyway, I digress...I can see the campaign slogan now: PDA, an act of public service!

 

I used to work for a large hotel in Chicago and the rare occasion I had to use the public elevators I always enjoyed doing a lil dance for the security cameras. I of course was alone and kept it pg.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ Truereview]

I used to work for a large hotel in Chicago and the rare occasion I had to use the public elevators I always enjoyed doing a lil dance for the security cameras. I of course was alone and kept it pg.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

I can picture you doing the sprinkler, seaboy