PDA with an escort: holding hands, caressing, kissing

[marylander1940]

There was a thread last week about an escort who was closeted, he refused to go out in public with a client who was flamboyant (effeminate) and would set off the gaydar of his straight friends if they see were to see them together.

 

Obviously 90% of the time all the action happens at a private place: home or hotel room.

In longer appointments, that include dinner or a trip, do you expect PDA (Public Display of Affection) from an escort as if the two of you were dating?

[+ Truereview]

I don't mind it if others engage in PDA, but personally, I save all my DA for behind doors - keeping the tiger caged in until meal time. Maybe it is the introvert in me. If my companion wanted to touch me or hold my hand or give me a peck,I would not refuse it, but not my preference. Now, FLIRTING with each other in public is delicious

[big-n-tall]

There was a thread last week about an escort who was closeted, he refused to go out in public with a client who was flamboyant (effeminate) and would set off the gaydar of his straight friends if they see were to see them together.

 

Obviously 90% of the time all the action happens at a private place: home or hotel room.

In longer appointments, that include dinner or a trip, do you expect PDA (Public Display of Affection) from an escort as if the two of you were dating?

 

No, I don't expect the guy to act like my boyfriend. I know it's a controversial subject, but a number of the guys I have seen (on a regular basis) for overnights are friends now. We usually clown and joke around like school kids in public. Some working guys have showed public displays of affection toward me. It usually was a lengthy hug, with maybe a hand placed in a provocative area. That is mainly the extent of it.

 

However, Vin Marco has probably showed me the most PDA than any working guy. He has more than once hugged and kissed me (on the cheek) in very public places. The look we once got while we where in an airport was priceless. Even more so that it wasn't even remotely salacious.

[geminibear]

I have enjoyed the company of escorts outside of the room. I do not expect PDA. Not opposed to something simple but not expected or required.

[bigvalboy]

The short answer is no. I don't expect the escort to act like my boyfriend, because he's not. Now I have had dinner with escorts, often before an appointment in say an area like WEHO, were almost everyone in the restaurant was gay, and some times they would show some PDA, but it's their choice to initiate. I would never initiate, or presume that they would be comfortable with PDA.

 

On longer appointment, were the escort is spending the day with me, I leave it up to him how he wants to interact with me in public. I'm good either way, so I make it his choice.

[+ WmClarke]

Does giving road head count as a PDA?

[+ azdr0710]

as BVB says, depends on the city and depends on the mood between the two.....

 

West Hollywood, the Castro, South Beach, N Halsted St - no problem

 

Provo, UT, Salina, KS, Gatlinburg, TN - not so much

[marylander1940]

Does giving road head count as a PDA?

 

nope, but holding hands at the subway does count as PDA. Strange scale of values, isn't it?

[geminibear]

as BVB says, depends on the city and depends on the mood between the two.....

 

West Hollywood, the Castro, South Beach, N Halsted St - no problem

 

Provo, UT, Salina, KS, Gatlinburg, TN - not so much

 

You have had guys in Provo, UT'; Salina, KS; Gatlinburg, TN?

[+ azdr0710]

You have had guys in Provo, UT'; Salina, KS; Gatlinburg, TN?

 

LDS dudes can be insatiable....and so clean-cut!.....(I make them see God!)

[gallahadesquire]

It's the Puritan in me. I've never liked PDA. Not gay, not straight. Hugging your dog or your cat, I'm good with.

Mind you, I love kisssing / hugging / holding hands but behind closed door.

 

Oh, the youth of a middle-classed, Chicagoland suburb.

[+ azdr0710]

agree with Gallahad.....PDA always seemed too show-offy, pretentious, even like an attempt to validate themselves ("look at me, I have a boyfriend/girlfriend").....

[+ WmClarke]

nope, but holding hands at the subway does count as PDA. Strange scale of values, isn't it?

Very.

[Wolfer]

Yes, I would like it very much. Not very open, necessarily, because even with my ex I never held hands in public. But I would imagine wanting to lay my head on his shoulder or chest when on a long flight or train ride.

And when walking, throw my arm around his shoulder or hips.

[craigville beach]

if the escort is ok with it, than I'm ok with it. I leave it up to them to make the first move

[seaboy4hire]

I hope it's ok I chime in here and toss around my half cents worth. Simple pda like what wolfer talked of is totally fine in my book and welcomed. Let those from small America gasp, clutch their pearls and drop their jaw. I don't care. We all need some human affection and positive contact from our fellow humans. But I would suggest talking this out with the other person to find out their boundaries. Like some of the responses peoples boundaries vary. For me a hug, a friendly kiss (no tongue. Thats for private), a lil pat on the bum or arm around my waist are a ok!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Rudynate]

as BVB says, depends on the city and depends on the mood between the two.....

 

West Hollywood, the Castro, South Beach, N Halsted St - no problem

 

Provo, UT, Salina, KS, Gatlinburg, TN - not so much

 

 

So true. My partner and I were in a convenience store on an interstate in rural Mississippi. We momentarily forgot where we were. We weren't touching or showing obvious affection but were standing a little close together for that part of the country and we drew hostile looks.

[Guest]

No smooching or anything like that, but I wouldn't mind holding hands on the plane or at a show.

[jackjackjack]

Wondering how it looks to people when the client is sooo much older than the escort when in public. Sadly, I'm very reserve in public with others.

[+ Truereview]

Wondering how it looks to people when the client is sooo much older than the escort when in public. Sadly, I'm very reserve in public with others.

 

J3, great question, and to me, there is a fine line to distinguish first before addressing your question. Some of us don't like PDA b/c we prefer that level of intimacy for behind closed doors - I'm in that camp. Call me whatever, I'm just wired that way and I like it. Some of us don't mind PDA, some actually like it more - for whatever their reasons are.

 

Now to your point, I could care less how any age difference looks to others...if I continued to live my life by what others might think, I would have bypassed choices that today I would regret not having taken. Dance like no one is watching, baby!

[+ glennnn]

I come from a family of huggers and kissers (the men, the women, the kids). I kiss my son lightly on the lips when my love for him overwhelms me. Now, 90 percent of this display takes place in private, but there are times when we might gather in a public park or restaurant, and there will be some PDA going on. I never thought about what outsiders might think. I hope no one is offended and jumps to the conclusion that my uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, close friends, etc are sexually attracted to each other, but. ..... fuck em if they can't take a joke!

[+ Keith30309]

I'm generally a non-PDA person as well but I have to admit that one of the more exhilarating moments I've had was taking the hand of an escort with whom I had developed a strong connection and walking across a restaurant parking lot. It seems so minor and adolescent but really felt great.

[+ WmClarke]

I'm generally a non-PDA person as well but I have to admit that one of the more exhilarating moments I've had was taking the hand of an escort with whom I had developed a strong connection and walking across a restaurant parking lot. It seems so minor and adolescent but really felt great.

I had a similar experience--the escort I was with kissed me in the car right before we left. Dark parking lot, no one around--but it was still exhilarating.

[corndog]

I think that there are many possible different motivations for PDAs, and whether it's appropriate or not depends on both individual's comfort level as well as their true reason behind the act. If it's all about showing off or shocking onlookers, that's pretty childish and probably inappropriate.

 

However, for many clients, I think that hiring an escort is partly about their personal development and coming out process. If a client is pushing their own boundaries and a PDA is a step toward accepting their own sexual identity, it can be a healthy step forward.

[bigvalboy]

I think that there are many possible different motivations for PDAs, and whether it's appropriate or not depends on both individual's comfort level as well as their true reason behind the act. If it's all about showing off or shocking onlookers, that's pretty childish and probably inappropriate.

 

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