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Some men who are older may agree to this song by Divine relating to younger men......LOL.....:rolleyes:.

 

Some may agree with Divine's theory - some may not. :p.

 

 

At least the dancers in this video clip are younger and hot. Quite appetizing don't you think? :D.

 

Enjoy!!!

 

 

Oh that song and video is wringing so true due to some recent events.

 

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Greg

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Some men who are older may agree to this song by Divine relating to younger men......LOL.....:rolleyes:.

 

Divine's high school senior yearbook photo:

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He apparently died of obstructive sleep apnea....

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I really don't have patience for Millenials. I wish I did. And Generation Z? Forget about it--Entitled an incurious beyond reason (yes there are (rare) exceptions, there are always exceptions to something that is generally true; that's what "generally true" means)).

 

What I enjoyed about this was the fresh perspective I read into it ... so much for the idea that some guys retire when they think they've gotten too old; the time to call it quits is when the clients get too young!

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So I finally took the plunge and went on Grindr last week. I am thirty and scruffy and I get a LOT of messages from really young guys (think 18-20) and not just to chat either... I was actually taken aback by this, especially with the age difference. Thirty isn't that old of course, but still, the difference between 18 and 30 is that of adolescence and fully grown-up.

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There's an older gentleman I know and love who is frequently singing this song around me, I hope it's not targeted and just an earworm.

 

I can understand how it's hard to break away from this song as it is quite catching. I mean come on, Russ - it's Divine, and the song is a hit(Lifetime classic). LOL. :p:p.

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You wear Gucci suits and shoes, and you're complaining about drawing women? ;)

 

 

 

My (mostly secondhand) impression is that being an out gay man is challenging in some "macho" professions but that a lot depends on the organization.

 

I suspect that that has to do a lot with what one means by "out" -- a word I struggle with myself from time to time. For some, being "out" means talking about being gay ALL THE TIME. These people I can't abide. I had a group of younger men (20s) over to my house in the country for a party not too long ago and no matter the topic being discussed one of the guys brought everything back to sex and penises. Heck, if we had brought up terrorism he would have asked about the penis size of the Boston bombers. It was annoying.

 

There are "professional" gay men and there are gay men who are "professionals." There's a big difference. There's no question that it's easier to be out and work in the theater or fashion or a university rather than an office or in a bank. But if you're not going around wearing a caftan and talking about your latest fuck I wonder how hard it would be to fit in anywhere? Just asking.

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I suspect that that has to do a lot with what one means by "out" -- a word I struggle with myself from time to time. For some, being "out" means talking about being gay ALL THE TIME. These people I can't abide. I had a group of younger men (20s) over to my house in the country for a party not too long ago and no matter the topic being discussed one of the guys brought everything back to sex and penises. Heck, if we had brought up terrorism he would have asked about the penis size of the Boston bombers. It was annoying.

 

There are "professional" gay men and there are gay men who are "professionals." There's a big difference. There's no question that it's easier to be out and work in the theater or fashion or a university rather than an office or in a bank. But if you're not going around wearing a caftan and talking about your latest fuck I wonder how hard it would be to fit in anywhere? Just asking.

I interned and worked in a bank since I was 18 and moved to a consulting firm in my mid 20s. Both industries would be considered difficult to be "out" in. Although I'm not flamboyant, I do not hide my orientation..I speak about it very casually and openly. Things have changed dramatically (in my opinion) within Corporate America. Folks don't even bat an eye anymore when I casually bring myself out. I consult with global companies where the war for top talent is so tough, folks are having to adjust to diversity of all kinds. I'm by no means saying it is nirvana, but it has gotten a lot easier to be a professional who is gay. Btw, I'm also always on the lookout to help any "professional" gay man. I enjoy flamboyant types, I embrace them and although I might find their fixation on sex or queerness annoying, that's part of being inclusive. I like and enjoy the full lgbtq spectrum and expression. I'm particularly supportive of "femme" types in Corp America. I mentor or sponsor at least one LGBT professional every year, and my goal is not to turn them into being less gay, but more proud and integrated professionals (without mainstreaming) while focusing on the strengths & talent they bring to our business. Very rewarding.

 

Back to the OP and my 2 cents: I'm a millennial (by a hair) and I hit on older men all the time. Yes, an older handsome man is very attractive to me, but I'm typically drawn to the life experience, my partner was 10 years older. There is just a certain je ne sais quoi about mature men (given he is mentally, emotionally, and physically mature). I've been dismissed by wonderful older men bc their bias against my age. Kinda unfortunate.

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Generation X here and yes, I do get hit on by younger guys - tho I admit, I'm always thinking "am I reading this right?" worried I've gotten the wrong end of the stick. Believe it or not, I can be pretty clueless about picking up on intent with the mens. :rolleyes:

 

I also have found that when I'm all suited n' booted, the hits tend to happen more. What can I say, when you're a man of a certain stature, a well cut suit and shirt can hide a multitude of sins! :D

 

It is an ego boost for sure but as was said in that little video - I can't really build much with someone I have nothing in common with and/or who can't pay for dinner. There are of course exceptions here, but as a rule I'm not one of the eldergays at the bar cruising the young ones, not that there's anything wrong with that, just not for this bear.

 

I like Mr Miniver's and Truereview's comments - and agree completely.

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I'd be curious to know in what business setting and corporate world (or any world for that matter) would talking about one's sexual orientation be "casual and open." I simply can't imagine why one would talk about one's life in a business setting "very openly and casually." Gay or Straight.

 

"Doesn't your wife get sick of you traveling all the time for meetings?"

"Husband actually, but no he doesn't mind"

 

"That's a great watch"

"It was a gift from my wife/husband for our anniversary last year"

 

I could go on but you get the idea...

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"Doesn't your wife get sick of you traveling all the time for meetings?"

"Husband actually, but no he doesn't mind"

 

"That's a great watch"

"It was a gift from my wife/husband for our anniversary last year"

 

I could go on but you get the idea...

 

Lol...good ones. Here are some others:

 

"We are having a holiday party in appreciation of your services, bring your wife"

"I'd be happy to bring my BF, would that work?"

 

"My wife and the family, had a great weekend, what did you do?"

"My pups and I went to the beach with a guy I met on airplane ride from Miami"

 

@MrMiniver , I very much respect your choices. Nothing wrong with your approach. Different folks, different strokes.

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I think your conflating "sexuality/orientation" and "sexual acts" here @MrMiniver - two entirely different subjects. For the first - sexuality/orientation - as has already been pointed out, one can be open and casual about it in the work place - both gay and straight. I don't think TR or anyone else is waving rainbow flags and throwing glitter about the office, but the examples given show how one can casually be open about one's sexuality. Would you disagree with how they were answered? Also, if you cannot imagine people talking about the other subject - sex - in the workplace, come down to financial district in NYC. The graphic descriptions of sexual encounters I have overheard or been told directly (ugh!) would make Larry Flynt blush. Inappropriate - sure, but it happens -- in the office, at the bar with colleagues -- I don't necessarily want to hear it but I also don't want to be pegged as the prude. I avoid when I can and when I can't - I grin and bear it and somebody usually steers the conversation away from the subject at hand. It is what it is and I don't know an office where it doesn't happen.

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I get hit on by younger guys all the time (at my age, on the apps that's almost everyone). According to my stats they have available on Scruff, about 10% of the guys I chat with are between 18-25 and another 20% are between 25-35. There is a daddy culture out there for a lot of young guys. I don't hit on anyone young enough to be my son (basically anyone under 40). But if they contact me, game on. And so last night I played with a 21 year old college student who has been after me for almost a year. The week before it was a 25 year old. But at MAL, it'll be 50 year old with a daddy fetish. So it covers pretty much all ages. And the shirt in my avatar seems to really draw them in too. One of my escorts first told me I'd be really popular as a daddy. I thought he was nuts. I joined Scruff merely to prove him wrong. He wasn't. And one of the sexiest men I know is a forum member in his early 80s. It is a great time to be a daddy. If you are confident and don't buy into this crap about being sexually dead at 40, it's a great time.

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