Can an escort plan to travel someplace, without specific dates?

[Mocha]

I've been putting a lot of pressure lately to get to different markets...but sometimes that means putting up ads "fishing" for business before planning anything. But then everyone thinks when you have an ad somewhere you're either there right now, or already have a specific date to be there.

 

Sometimes I just want to be like, "I'm not there yet. When? I don't know. When I get ready to come, I'll notify you. Be ready when I arrive". But I realize that's unrealistic.

 

I do a lot of ground travel. So my plans tend to be provisional until I feel good about moving forward. I don't fly as I usually can't sleep the night before my flight, so I've pretty much stopped flying. Everything from baggage worries, to turbulence, to not getting the business I need to make a profit just makes me nauseous. I'd have to fly for a specific reason, to one destination.

 

The hard part is when I plan to go to multiple cities, and make multiple appointments...and the pressure to go to each becomes too much. I'm dealing with that right now, and I just want to go home and start all over. But I'm already halfway thru, and I have 2 important sessions to fulfill...not to mention other responses expecting me to show up.

 

The thing is, sometimes I lose the motivation to go someplace, or holidays pop up (3 day weekend travel can be tricky). It's great that I'm getting the responses, and can pretty much meet a client anywhere...but usually once I get started or say I'm coming, there's no turning back. Most of the time it works out well and I don't regret it. I appreciate the clients who do invite me to come to their city...as it often opens up other opportunities as well (though I always like to keep that client priority).

 

I been discussing with someone that I'm coming to DC this year, which I really want to. But with rentboy down, and most of my clients from DC came from rentboy, I have to reconfigure that.

[+ Keith30309]

I very much like to hear that guys MAY be travelling to my city and, if the tentative dates align with my schedule, will shoot them an introductory note. If the dates change or he decides to go elsewhere, no-harm-no-foul so long as we've not scheduled a concrete time and location.

[+ poolboy48220]

from a client's viewpoint (or, more accurately, this client's viewpoint), it's frustrating when someone I'm interested posts an ad that they'll be in town, we make plans for when they're here, and then they cancel because they didn't get enough people calling to make it worthwhile, or find that they're too busy with other activities while they're in town.

[rvwnsd]

You are in a tough situation. It is one I have found myself in, albeit as the client who is exploring the notion of taking a trip. I always feel a little funny contacting escorts to determine their availability (which can factor into my decision about taking the trip) when I know that I have not yet firmed up travel plans. Conversely, I don't always want to plan a trip without knowing whether I will be able to hire someone while on the trip.

 

My opinion is this: exploratory advertising to determine whether or not you will take a trip is acceptable if you afford prospective clients the opportunity to make exploratory contact with you to determine whether or not they want to hire you without complaining about time-wasters.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Be upfront. Post an ad saying that you are exploring or contemplating a trip to a specific area and that the specific dates will depend on interest shown.

[down_to_business]

Short answer: no

 

you become what you think we are : a time wasting flake

[Mocha]

Haha, I'm well aware of that....and times like this make me a bit more sympathetic to people who cancel, however I think it's all in tact. I try to give a brief explanation (if it's someone who really seemed definite and interested).

 

I think I'm experiencing escort travel burnout. After going to so many cities, and meeting many people who I have a great time with, but since I don't live there...I can't truly build a connection with anyone . Some people don't take seriously someone who travels and is just visiting. Then on the flip side, once they feel you've overstayed your welcome...all the fun is over, or they can't commit to a LDR or even a LDF. It's hard enough finding a connection locally.

 

But you say, shouldn't I be focused on CLIENTS. Well, it's Labor Day weekend and I just want to die (figuratively). Outside of clients, I don't know a single soul here, I'm trying online...but don't wanna do the bars. Yet everywhere I go I see couples, and families and kids. I've never seen so many kids in my LIFE. At the hotel, next to me at dinner, at the mall, here, there, everywhere. if I'd of stayed home I'd be in the company of other single, famililess people I know. Of course I have family too..but I can't run to them every holiday and they live far.