What differentiates the paying client from the sugar daddy?

[caliguy]

I've known enough of those situations and they always get treated like shit. I don't understand the psychological motivation to do that. It 100% pathetic and I just laugh.

[Nebost]

I have been enabling a young guy for five years. He doesn't even live in the same state right now. I have bought him vehicles, sent his four figures when he was in trouble, offered him a college scholarship when he gets his act together, paid his rent from time to time.

 

He is no angel, currently on probation for some sort of altercation. He has sold or does sell drugs.

He has been extremely nice to me, is personally very funny, interesting, nice and of course very cute. I believe in him and wish him to do well.

 

Enabling is control, bought friendship; it's ridiculous, self-deprecating; it's part illness, part generosity, part strength, part stupidity. It is exciting, like betting a grand on a horse race. It is dumb, like betting a grand on a horse race. It's a high for me to send him money or buy him a truck. It is one of the most enjoyable things I have ever done.

 

 

Thanks for sharing that. It is not for me to judge what is healthy or rewarding for you, mostly I'm glad that you are honest about it.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

I've known guys who pay for n0-sex companionship, as well. I think its more common than you might think.

I pay a guy to go hiking with me. We never have sex.

 

I also hire guys to go shopping with me. I get whatever I need, and pay for a few extra items. This isn't rich sugar daddy extravagance. I shop at Costco and the mall. (My fantasy is to find an escort for trips to Home Depot.) Man does not live by Hermès alone. Plenty of hot, fun guys would rather go to Bloomingdales. For a full day I pay $300 to $500 plus a few hundred in merchandise. No sex.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

I have been enabling a young guy for five years. He doesn't even live in the same state right now. I have bought him vehicles, sent his four figures when he was in trouble, offered him a college scholarship when he gets his act together, paid his rent from time to time.

 

He is no angel, currently on probation for some sort of altercation. He has sold or does sell drugs.

He has been extremely nice to me, is personally very funny, interesting, nice and of course very cute. I believe in him and wish him to do well.

 

Enabling is control, bought friendship; it's ridiculous, self-deprecating; it's part illness, part generosity, part strength, part stupidity. It is exciting, like betting a grand on a horse race. It is dumb, like betting a grand on a horse race. It's a high for me to send him money or buy him a truck. It is one of the most enjoyable things I have ever done.

You have described my relationship with my baby brother.

[+ Funguy]

I pay a guy to go hiking with me. We never have sex.

 

I also hire guys to go shopping with me. I get whatever I need, and pay for a few extra items. This isn't rich sugar daddy extravagance. I shop at Costco and the mall. (My fantasy is to find an escort for trips to Home Depot.) Man does not live by Hermès alone. Plenty of hot, fun guys would rather go to Bloomingdales. For a full day I pay $300 to $500 plus a few hundred in merchandise. No sex.

 

I'll go with you to Home Depot and I'll throw in the sex when we get back with the power tools!

[Mocha]

I have been enabling a young guy for five years. He doesn't even live in the same state right now. I have bought him vehicles, sent his four figures when he was in trouble, offered him a college scholarship when he gets his act together, paid his rent from time to time.

 

Enabling is control, bought friendship; it's ridiculous, self-deprecating; it's part illness, part generosity, part strength, part stupidity. It is exciting, like betting a grand on a horse race. It is dumb, like betting a grand on a horse race. It's a high for me to send him money or buy him a truck. It is one of the most enjoyable things I have ever done.

 

Thanks for this example. Although I have seen personally, from a former client...how a younger guy can manipulate a man to a depression mentally and financially (in this case, the younger guy was his adopted son), if someone enjoys it, and has the means to do it, do it. BUT, the unfortunent part of it is, as the proverb goes, "don't cast your pearls among swine"...I think these blessings could be going to people truly in need, who would be truly appreciative. I don't believe people who'll trash or crash the things you give them deserve them. But I do believe it's less about being a blessing, and more about making yourself feel better.

 

In the case of my friend...this is not a sweet, innocent kid. He's attractive, but nobody in the gay scene can stay friends with him because he's such an asshole. My friend is a grown man with kids of his own, albeit divorced and everything else that comes with it. So maybe, him and the married guy share some kind of common bond.

 

At one point, he did try to use me in the past when I thought our friendship was more (he's good at doing that, I must admit). But, I figured it out after a few months and started distancing myself. Now, he's learned that I'm not the guy to buy his drinks and offer a place to crash on weekends.

[+ purplekow]

I have been enabling a young guy for five years. He doesn't even live in the same state right now. I have bought him vehicles, sent his four figures when he was in trouble, offered him a college scholarship when he gets his act together, paid his rent from time to time.

 

He is no angel, currently on probation for some sort of altercation. He has sold or does sell drugs.

He has been extremely nice to me, is personally very funny, interesting, nice and of course very cute. I believe in him and wish him to do well.

 

Enabling is control, bought friendship; it's ridiculous, self-deprecating; it's part illness, part generosity, part strength, part stupidity. It is exciting, like betting a grand on a horse race. It is dumb, like betting a grand on a horse race. It's a high for me to send him money or buy him a truck. It is one of the most enjoyable things I have ever done.

 

If this money is a trifle to you and you want to spend what small amounts of discretionary money in this manner on this "hobby" , so be it. You could just a well burn it, but it is your money and so enjoy.

 

If this is hard earned money that you may someday need to take care of yourself, then by all means, look in the mirror and say the following words: "I am good enough, I am smart enough and gosh darn it people like me. But if I keep doing asshole things like this I will be an impoverished old man living on the street and eating from garbage cans."

[+ purplekow]

You've never been a child and listening to Scheherazade and 1001 Nights at bedtime?

 

For me it was Scheherazade and Hans Christian Andersen.

As it turns out due to a rare genetic abnormality, Azdr0710 was born full sized and so his childhood was spent looking at porn and jerking off. Oh wait, that was my childhood.

[+ VeryHappyCustomer]

I'll go with you to Home Depot and I'll throw in the sex when we get back with the power tools!

The tool corral!!!

[AdamSmith]

The tool corral!!!

 

http://i.imgur.com/NVuVex9.jpg

[bigvalboy]

"Scheherazade" a rather fine motor sailer, sixty eight feet of water line, all teak and glass, went down off the coast of Mazatlan in 80 knot winds. All lost save for two. She, and the crew that faithfully sailed her, will long be remembered. That's it...back to aisle 15.

[+ Gar1eth]

"Scheherazade" a rather fine motor sailer, sixty eight feet of water line, all teak and glass, went down off the coast of Matzalan in 80 knot winds. All lost save for two. She, and the crew that faithfully sailed her, will long be remembered. That's it...back to aisle 15.

What year?

 

Gman

[+ FreshFluff]

He is no angel, currently on probation for some sort of altercation. He has sold or does sell drugs.

 

Dammit, Jakelyman, I'm telling you for the last time: Stay away from my man!

[Nebost]

If this money is a trifle to you and you want to spend what small amounts of discretionary money in this manner on this "hobby" , so be it. You could just a well burn it, but it is your money and so enjoy.

 

If this is hard earned money that you may someday need to take care of yourself, then by all means, look in the mirror and say the following words: "I am good enough, I am smart enough and gosh darn it people like me. But if I keep doing asshole things like this I will be an impoverished old man living on the street and eating from garbage cans."

 

I did not know Suze Orman was a purple kow!

[bigvalboy]

Did you mean Mazatlan?

 

LOL...but of course. Thank you. I intended to correct it, but at my age, many things are quickly forgotten, like how do I get home from the store.