Escort jealousy

[instudiocity]

I remember once asking a guy for a recommendation to book a 3 way with....He mentioned one, who he said he had been with before & all went great.....what he did not tell me was that the guy he was recommending was his own boyfriend......

(& by the way, I did not go ahead with the 3way.....another different single guy a few days later clued me in to the details about the other guy & his boyfriend.....& how the single guy & I were discussing the other 2 is really too complicated to explain)

I don't see an issue with hiring boyfriends for a three-way. My personal experience was it was extremely hot and on our own board here, we've got the stories of Alex and Ryan... bf's and HOT 3 ways, and still working 3-ways with each other post-relationship.

[+ poolboy48220]

Back in the days when agencies, rather than the internet, was how I hired, I did a three-way for my birthday. One guy from the agency that I'd seen many times, and another I hadn't seen but the agency recommended. The new guy was new to the business, I think, and kind of overwhelmed by the whole thing. Not a bad experience, but not what I'd hoped for.

[+ quoththeraven]

Exactly. And in eight days I'll know if I chose well for my first one.

 

Enjoy! I had a lot of fun at my first.

[wklucas]

I don't see an issue with hiring boyfriends for a three-way. My personal experience was it was extremely hot and on our own board here, we've got the stories of Alex and Ryan... bf's and HOT 3 ways, and still working 3-ways with each other post-relationship.

 

My point was this 1st guy was talking up his boyfriend as really hot, the only guy he really did / enjoyed 3 ways with, yada, yada, yada....he went on & on about how great this other guy would be.....however, all the while keeping it a "secret" from me that the guy he was pushing / recommending was actually his own boyfriend.....my thoughts afterward - he wanted all the money to simply stay in his own "family".......my take on it all might have been wrong but I don't think so.

[+ quoththeraven]

My point was this 1st guy was talking up his boyfriend as really hot, the only guy he really did / enjoyed 3 ways with, yada, yada, yada....he went on & on about how great this other guy would be.....however, all the while keeping it a "secret" from me that the guy he was pushing / recommending was actually his own boyfriend.....my thoughts afterward - he wanted all the money to simply stay in his own "family".......my take on it all might have been wrong but I don't think so.

 

An undisclosed relationship definitely smacks of conflict of interest/attempt to maximize household income or throw work his boyfriend's way. It also means the escort's opinion of the third party is likely to be less objective than is usually the case. Some people worry that the dynamic will be wrong and the boyfriends will focus more on each other than on the client. It's been known to happen.

[wklucas]

An undisclosed relationship definitely smacks of conflict of interest/attempt to maximize household income or throw work his boyfriend's way. It also means the escort's opinion of the third party is likely to be less objective than is usually the case. Some people worry that the dynamic will be wrong and the boyfriends will focus more on each other than on the client. It's been known to happen.

 

I would book Juan & Thor without hesitation.....many others have always reported / reviewed Ross & Munroe as a stellar duo.....but I hold a personal (petty) grudge toward Rick, so those 2 likely ain't in my future.....

[+ quoththeraven]

I would book Juan & Thor without hesitation.....many others have always reported / reviewed Ross & Munroe as a stellar duo.....but I hold a personal (petty) grudge toward Rick, so those 2 likely ain't in my future.....

 

I can't tell if you're supporting my point or responding to it, but they're all known to be couples who do a stellar job of focusing on the client. An undisclosed relationship is a red flag that may be more likely to signify those other problems I mention.

[wklucas]

I can't tell if you're supporting my point or responding to it, but they're all known to be couples who do a stellar job of focusing on the client. An undisclosed relationship is a red flag that may be more likely to signify those other problems I mention.

 

If your original point is that 2 guys who are real-life boyfriends who choose to offer duos together can provide the client an awesome time, I heartily agree......in this singular instance that I originally relayed, I thought the guy was being intentionally secretive (deceptive) with me in the manner which he proposed a 3 way.....you had to be there to hear his words to judge for yourself, perhaps......again I found out several days later from somebody else entirely about the 1 guy who I had seen & that it had been the 1 guy's own boyfriend that he was pushing to be the 3rd.....that all being said, the 1 original guy that I hired (1/2 of the love duo) was actually, for a couple of reasons, 1 of the hottest men I've ever hired...this all went down in Dallas.....long gone from the scene - his stage name was "Kirk" - a great looking, hairy 6'4" / 230 top stud.......(from the "outside" guy, I was also told the BF was not nearly as hot......so no regrets in any case.).....the "outside" guy was turned-on by the fact that he was f*cking me in the same bed where Kirk had done the same (weird)......& yes, I also saw "Kirk" once more solo before I left Dallas that trip with no more talk between us about a 3-way even coming into the conversation......hope this all isn't too confusing.....I need my morning coffee now.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

The only time I've felt jealousy is when a client has told me about something they did with another escort and I've thought: "Well shit, I would have liked to do that with you."

 

But for the most part it's fun to hear about client experiences and what they took from it. IMHO this is supposed to be a learning opportunity—and I'll freely admit I can't teach or offer everything.

[mike carey]

The only time I've felt jealousy is when a client has told me about something they did with another escort and I've thought: "Well shit, I would have liked to do that with you."

That's great Chris, but do you offer to do it with them? Of course you don't need to unless they ask you to. That said, as a client of escorts (or a potential one), to me what you said speaks of an escort who is listening to a client and trying to work out how to provide a better experience. That has to be a good sign to your potential clients!

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

I don't like cookie cutter experiences at all, and I really do try to explore new things with clients when I see them more than once or twice. I mean, I'm not trying to reinvent the wheel per se, but variety is pretty much always a good thing.

 

You have no idea what an ego boost it is to hear someone say: "Wow, I never expected that from you." And likewise—it's really fun when someone comes back to you after a while and says they'd like to try something that is a surprising choice for how they were the first time you met. Take something away from every time you meet with someone. It's going to help you enjoy sex more, and to be a better partner. One particular person comes to mind who was nervous, shy and restrained the first time we met. It was fun and we both had a good time—but it was nothing like the last time we met, a couple of months (and several escorts for him) later.

 

To me this indicates when someone wants to better themselves through these experiences, rather than just get off for the time being. Both approaches are fine, but I much prefer the former.

[instudiocity]

My point was this 1st guy was talking up his boyfriend as really hot, the only guy he really did / enjoyed 3 ways with, yada, yada, yada....he went on & on about how great this other guy would be.....however, all the while keeping it a "secret" from me that the guy he was pushing / recommending was actually his own boyfriend.....my thoughts afterward - he wanted all the money to simply stay in his own "family".......my take on it all might have been wrong but I don't think so.

Ok, now that you expanded on your response with things missing from your first post, I forgive you.

 

But you didn't counter my comments.

[RockyHardon]

Yes, it's rude unless there's some activity your regular isn't interested in doing and you're looking for an escort that is. Your regular might have an emotional attachment to the money. Your hiring of another escort may mean you hire your regular fewer times.

 

This was a great question. Like everything, it depends on the escort/client relationship. The longer the relationship, and the more open the client is with the escort about his needs and wants, then it is easier to talk about these things. Obviously, if you have retained a pro 3 times, and you start asking about the next guy on the list, I'm going to think you are ready to get a new regular. However, some clients like to talk about their fantasies with their providers. It all depends.

 

I had a provider once who was insanely jealous because I was hiring all their friends...I became a regular and they were part of a small network of providers in the local market i was in. I realize they knew I only had a limited budget and even though i was a regular, any date with another escort was one less date with them, and whether they were attached to the money, or attached to the developing confidence in the regular relationship, or attached to me as a person, really didn't make a difference. Providers are people, and all people have natural feelings and emotions.

[BaronArtz]

Along the same lines, I wonder how common 'client jealousy' is? I was a regular client to an escort who would occasionally speak about some of his other regular clients - a VP at a real estate firm, a well known hair colorist at a prominent Madison Ave salon ... While he didn't fully disclose their names, it was fairly easy to find out who these clients really were. And when I did have a fairly good idea about it, and asked the escort about it, he confirmed it. I must admit that I felt a pang of jealousy when these clients appeared young and affluent ... I cannot explain why, but as a client casually hiring an escort, why would I feel 'competitive' so to speak? The feelings of jealousy really were there.

[+ purplekow]

Along the same lines, I wonder how common 'client jealousy' is? I was a regular client to an escort who would occasionally speak about some of his other regular clients - a VP at a real estate firm, a well known hair colorist at a prominent Madison Ave salon ... While he didn't fully disclose their names, it was fairly easy to find out who these clients really were. And when I did have a fairly good idea about it, and asked the escort about it, he confirmed it. I must admit that I felt a pang of jealousy when these clients appeared young and affluent ... I cannot explain why, but as a client casually hiring an escort, why would I feel 'competitive' so to speak? The feelings of jealousy really were there.

I will admit to client jealousy. I have an appointment with an escort next week and a recent review of him sounded so hot that I felt a bit of insecurity that I usually do not have. Most of us who hire are not as young and beautiful as we once were and so insecurity about attractiveness physically is understandable. What really triggers jealousy for me are the escort reviews which include trips to exotics lands or personal retreats. Financial jealousy. Ah, there are always those with more or better, but I just do not want to hear about it.

[TruHart1]

I guess I may be a bit unusual as a regular client with the escorts I see again and again, who continue to be my favorite hires. I have never felt any jealousy as a client. When I read another great review of one of these special men, I always get a sense of pride that they have furnished the reviewer with that special experience I feel lucky enough to have experienced with them each time I've hired them. It somehow seems to support my judgment of the qualities I originally perceived the first time I hired them. After all, I originally hired them at least partly due to the excellent reviews I read about them when I originally vetted them!

 

The truly great escorts do approach being exactly the man a client is hoping/looking for to satisfy whatever he might be seeking. That, to me, is worthy of congratulating that escort for, not being jealous of how wonderful another client found the experience!

 

TruHart1

[sincitymix]

this may not be escort jealousy.. but I remember when I was discovering sex, a straight guy I seduced kept asking me if he was the largest ive ever had.. he was so happy with his peen. its so big.. largest you've ever had huh? bet it is.. etc etc.. at the end when we finished and he kept hounding me about it.. I informed him my first time was with a guy who was 12" (I though bigger was better back then.. isn't that so cute y'all? ).. so no. he was and is not the largest ive been with.

 

He was sooo butt hurt about it. So escorts, clients, and friends .. don't ask questions if you don't want an answer you cant handle

[Nvr2Thick]

It takes all kinds. I've known escorts who were very defensive about competition. I can think of a couple of escorts, when I was much younger, who were enthusiastic about my introduction to gay sex and who made numerous suggestions for guys that they thought I would like, and warned me away from others. One guy offered to forego his fee for a three-way if I arranged one with a particular hung top I had inquired about. The first escort had particularly enjoyed my reaction as an abused bottom, and wanted to see how I'd do with the other guy.

 

In New York in the 90's it seemed common for some escorts to ask who else I had met. Some would offer stories of other escorts that they had hooked up with. I remember one hot little hairy hung muscleboy who treated the Advocate Classifieds escort section like a dating site. He would call every ad for guys he was interested in, and expect that they should hook up for free. After we fucked one time I noticed the magazine open to that ad section with ads circled or crossed out with notes in red ink. We sat on his bed for over an hour as he gave me the rundown on every guy he contacted.

 

When I would ask I'd try to feel things out and first ask questions to see if an escort was really even aware of the other escorts in the scene. Some guys are very low-key, not deep into the a-list gay scene, and trying not to be well known as escorts. Even if an escort appeared open to positive discussion about other escorts I'd try to gauge his enthusiasm for the subject, and not ask about more than one or two other guys regardless.