Escort jealousy

[kaboom35]

What is the general consensus of escorts getting jealous of clients talking about other escorts they want to be with or have been with?

 

I have a regular escort I see but I have asked him about other escorts and getting his opinion. He didn't seem annoyed but is that rude to talk about meeting up with other escorts with the escort you are with?

 

I'm one of his regulars so wasn't sure if he thought I was trying to replace him. I guess I think he wouldn't really care because there isn't any emotional attachment. Please correct me if i'm wrong.

[+ DickyF]

Well, he might suggest you get a 3way!

 

I guess it depends on the individual. One smart escort asked what I liked about his ad, who I liked to hire, etc. Market research!

[corndog]

...there isn't any emotional attachment...

Escorts and clients strive for this goal, but that doesn't mean it is always achieved, even if the escort doesn't show it.

 

And, even if there isn't emotional attachment, per se, a lot of gorgeous people have a lot of self esteem tied up in being the hottest, most attractive, best thing ever. This guy is a human being, after all, and who wants to feel "replaceable?"

[MiamiLooker]

...is that rude to talk about meeting up with other escorts with the escort you are with?

Yes, it's rude unless there's some activity your regular isn't interested in doing and you're looking for an escort that is. Your regular might have an emotional attachment to the money. Your hiring of another escort may mean you hire your regular fewer times.

[Guest Starbuck]

Interesting question. I've never talked to an escort about another escort I might like to be with in the future, but a guy in NYC spoke very highly of a fellow who happened to be a friend of his. It wasn't a recommendation, per se--just friendly banter about a buddy--but my understanding is that he did encourage another client (a friend of mine) to hire the guy-- which worked out well and led to a positive review.

 

What I have occasionally done is mention guys I've previously been with and the reactions have been a mixed bag--from high praise, to "that's a strange choice," to lack of interest. The most memorable discussion was with a well-known escort (who we'll call "D"), early in my hiring experience. I knew (or thought I knew) that he was pretty good friends with another escort based on the opposite coast. I thought I knew it because I'd been with that other escort (who we'll call "T") and "T" had told me so--mentioning, in fact, that "D" had stayed in his apartment.

 

Just before seeing "D" for my one and only time with him (it was great; the "one and only" is just a matter of geography), I was rewatching one of his videos and suddenly recognized that it had been filmed in "T's" apartment. As a novice client, I got a silly little thrill out of having had sex in the very bed in which a sex video was shot. So after a dandy two hours with "D," I mentioned that I knew "T." (No reaction.) And that I had just recognized that one of "D's" videos had been shot in "T's" apartment. ("Yeah, he was so worried about that.") And then I said that my one (BIG!) regret about "T," who I otherwise liked so much, was that he wouldn't kiss.

 

And "D" said, "He won't?! ... Well... he's not very good at it."

[Rudynate]

I don't mention other escorts or other experiences with escorts when I am with an escort. I do it for him as well as for me. I have never asked an escort how he feels about it, but I have always assumed that the most courteous thing it not to talk too much about adventures with other escorts. I do it for me also because, even though I have no illusions about an encounter with an escort, I still like to treat it as though it were encounter where we chose to be together because of a mutual attraction. When I'm having unpaid sex, I don't talk much about other men or other sexual adventures because it muddies the space that the guy I am with and I have created. Sure, many gay men have long, colorful sexual histories, and we love entertaining each other with our stories, but there is a time and a place.

[Kevin Slater]

I'm perfectly happy to discuss escorts (and escorting) with clients, if they so desire. Sometimes I'm able to make a recommendation either based on my experience with other working guys or with the client at hand. If those two go on to have a hot session (or several), mazel tov. I'm just as likely to learn about other escorts with whom I should be working too. And flushing out what turns the client's crank never hurts, either.

 

Kevin Slater

[ZhenXBear]

I think it's relevant only if there was something specific that you felt was missing from a previous experience(s) and you were disheartened or dissatisfied. Even then I'd never mentioned the person by name, but that's just me.

 

I've spoken at length of events that transpired regarding my first hire but only to give my current companion greater understanding about myself as an individual and the types of interaction I enjoy. It gives him greater insight into me; I view it as an investment in success.

 

If you're doing it specifically to invoke jealousy in the other person that seems somewhat petty and likely being done to feed someone's self esteem.

 

How would you like it if your escort friend always discussed a client who had more or better (money, power,abs, dick, facial features, job) than you did?

[sincitymix]

I personally wont discuss another escort with the escort, unless they bring it up. its just bad form.

[+ purplekow]

 

How would you like it if your escort friend always discussed a client who had more or better (money, power,abs, dick, facial features, job) than you did?

If an escort were limited to talking about clients who did not have more or better than me, it would be a dull conversation with an escort who fucks really fat ugly poor bald guys with tiny dicks and practically no personality.

[sincitymix]

If an escort were limited to talking about clients who did not have more or better than me, it would be a dull conversation with an escort who fucks really fat ugly poor bald guys with tiny dicks and practically no personality.

*stares at PK*

My goodness.. was that a sharp stick poke at a certain someone?

[+ purplekow]

*stares at PK*

My goodness.. was that a sharp stick poke at a certain someone?

Yes I believe it was a poke at me unless you interpreted differently.

[+ Robster]

If an escort were limited to talking about clients who did not have more or better than me, it would be a dull conversation with an escort who fucks really fat ugly poor bald guys with tiny dicks and practically no personality.

I don't know anything about your financial situation, but I happen to know for a fact that none of the other things you said about yourself are true.

 

Rob

[+ dutchmuch]

How about escorts telling you (unsolicited) about their other clients, their professions and how they pay?

[recency]

Every once in a great while I might tell a benign story about another escort I have spent time with. But no names. Ever. And I always keep it complimentary toward the escort who is the subject of the story. And vague. And nothing that could remotely get anybody in trouble or even be embarrassing. As you can imagine, this severely limits my story-telling, which is just fine. The Golden Rule prevents me from going further.

[thickornotatall]

Mr Slater helped me contact Marek after he removed his ad...I can't thank him enough...One of the better times I have had...with an escort or with a BF...Above and beyond the call of duty....Thanks again Kevin...

[ZhenXBear]

If an escort were limited to talking about clients who did not have more or better than me, it would be a dull conversation with an escort who fucks really fat ugly poor bald guys with tiny dicks and practically no personality.

 

Purple cows need love just like anyone else *hugs*

[ZhenXBear]

How about escorts telling you (unsolicited) about their other clients, their professions and how they pay?

 

How they pay? Like AMEX, Apple pay, $2 bills, all nickels? Lol

[wklucas]

I remember once asking a guy for a recommendation to book a 3 way with....He mentioned one, who he said he had been with before & all went great.....what he did not tell me was that the guy he was recommending was his own boyfriend......

(& by the way, I did not go ahead with the 3way.....another different single guy a few days later clued me in to the details about the other guy & his boyfriend.....& how the single guy & I were discussing the other 2 is really too complicated to explain)

[+ DickyF]

This brings to mind an interesting question: when hiring two escorts for a threeway, how important to the client is it that the escorts are hot for each other? Personally I think it would really help! As long as they don't forget about me ...

[+ dutchmuch]

How they pay? Like AMEX, Apple pay, $2 bills, all nickels? Lol

 

 

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[dannyboynyc]

This brings to mind an interesting question: when hiring two escorts for a threeway, how important to the client is it that the escorts are hot for each other? Personally I think it would really help! As long as they don't forget about me ...

 

I've hired two escorts at one time on many occasions. My usual rule is that I've met both of them separately and we click. When arranging a three way I mention the name of the second escort to the first escort, and vice versa to avoid a situation where the two have some negative history. On other occasions, with escorts with whom I have a history, I may ask for a recommendation for a third escort. This works for me and what I like - in a three way I want to be the center of attention. I'm not looking for them to put on a show for me.

[+ WmClarke]

This brings to mind an interesting question: when hiring two escorts for a threeway, how important to the client is it that the escorts are hot for each other? Personally I think it would really help! As long as they don't forget about me ...

 

... what I like - in a three way I want to be the center of attention. I'm not looking for them to put on a show for me.

 

Exactly. And in eight days I'll know if I chose well for my first one.

[ZhenXBear]

Exactly. And in eight days I'll know if I chose well for my first one.

 

Heh, may the Force be with you! I've never done that either.

[instudiocity]

This brings to mind an interesting question: when hiring two escorts for a threeway, how important to the client is it that the escorts are hot for each other? Personally I think it would really help! As long as they don't forget about me ...

The only way I would do a three-way is if my trusted frequent hire escort brought another escort into the play. He should know with whom both he and I are compatible. I wouldn't attempt a three-way without verifying the escorts knew, knew of, or had previously worked together.