When is it too late to cancel appointment with escort visiting my city?

[Yankee]

I have a 2 hour appointment 3 days from now to see a very popular escort who is visiting my city for a few days. I set it up 3 weeks ago, and even sent him an extra month membership on Rentmen as a small gift because I knew he was very popular. I know this makes me sound like a Type A, NYC a--hole, but I am a competitive guy who is lucky enough to have the resources to generally buy whatever I want. I stupidly scheduled an appointment with this escort even though I am not sexually attracted to him. He's good looking and stylish, but I'm into beefy, hairy, rougher looking guys, and this is not him. This may sound odd, but I just went after this guy because everyone writes that he's great, and hard to get an appointment with and super popular. I'm sure he's macho, but his pictures and video and postings makes me feel he's just a little too fabulous for me, and I know i'm not going to enjoy this. My regular professional life in NYC is filled with fabulous people, and I hire in order to find just the opposite. I'm so not into this, that my plan B is to go through with it, pay the full price and just ask for a massage. I thought i wanted to be with someone that everybody else is talking about, but Is it too late to cancel if I am only giving him 3 days or 2 1/2 days notice, particularly since he's from out of town ? If you think it's too late, I will just go and get a massage. And I guess I will at least get to later tell myself that I met this famous guy...Has anyone ever done this before?

[bigvalboy]

Yes...In my opinion it's too late to cancel. The escort has already incurred expenses and is most likely counting on bookings to pay for his travel. Your reasons for wanting to cancel are not good ones. There is a good chance you would be impacting the escort financially, and that's unfair. If you have the resources to do whatever you want, then do the massage, pay the fee, and next time just be more sure of your choices...chalk it up to a learning experience.

[loverboy95]

I would cancel now. If you go through with it, you would be lying to him by giving him the idea that you are attracted to him. Why don't you just be honest? Even if it hurts him, you have already deceived him enough.

[gallahadesquire]

In my opinion, and I am unanimous in this:

 

1. I would keep the escorting appointment. If you've got the resources and he's as FABULOUS as his reviews say ... why not? I felt completely overwhelmed by the possibility of meeting Tristan B., and I'm so glad I didn't cancel.
   
2. I don't like fish (Greater Chicagoland born-and-bred), but my favorite restaurant in town is a Seafood restaurant.
   
3. If you convince yourself you won't like it, you won't.
   
4. At least go for the massage; you might want to "extend the time."
   
5. It would be rude and an a--holish thing to do, but if you're going to cancel, cancel early AND often.
   

[big-n-tall]

So you indirectly gave into peer pressure and wanted to be part of the "in crowd"?

 

Do yourself and the escort a favor... Cancel the appointment! If you're already going into this thinking you aren't going to have a good time, why even bother? You have a few days so it's probably good. Just don't cancel like an hour before. That sucks on so many levels if you don't have a reasonable excuse.

 

And for Pete's sake don't ever do something you don't want to do because someone else wants you to or in your, because everyone else is doing him. ;p

 

If you are truly a type A personality... Lead don't follow.

 

Now go find your type of guy and do him damn it! Lol!

[big-n-tall]

In my opinion, and I am unanimous in this:

 

An "Are You Being Served?" reference? Gotta love it, if so.

 

Now back to your regularly scheduled program.

[BabyBoomer]

Cancel ASAP. Send him the money for the 2 hour appointment (you apparently have the financial resources to do so). Tell him you have a business appointment out of town that can't be postponed. Say you're sorry & wish him well.

End of story.

 

~Boomer ~

[cooldemo03]

If its the escort I'm thinking of, he's on this board and may see this. So lying might not be an option. That being said, I don't believe anyone should go through with something they don't wanna do. If he's visiting your city anyway, if he's so in demand as you say, he should have no trouble getting another appointment.

[gallahadesquire]

... My regular professional life in NYC is filled with fabulous people ...

 

Sigh. If only I lived in a place like that. Of course, my "Professional life" bit the dust going on three years ago now, and I've really not looked back.

[BabyBoomer]

If its the escort I'm thinking of, he's on this board and may see this. So lying might not be an option. That being said, I don't believe anyone should go through with something they don't wanna do. If he's visiting your city anyway, if he's so in demand as you say, he should have no trouble getting another appointment.

 

That's the first person I thought of, although I think he only uses the board to post his travel schedule.

 

~Boomer ~

[+ Gar1eth]

I'd say three days is probably enough to cancel on-unless by chance you were the major reason he came to the city.

 

Gman

[+ Gar1eth]

An "Are You Being Served?" reference? Gotta love it, if so.

 

Now back to your regularly scheduled program.

I used to watch it. But I didn't remember this phrase. I do remember, "Are you free, Mr. So and So?"

 

Gman

[Yankee]

In everything I've read about him and in his email encounters with him, he is clearly a real professional, so I will meet up with him and be very glad to see him. I apologize for sounding so jaded and inconsiderate. I guess the business I'm in as an entertainment lawyer in nyc has caused me to be around celebs and wealthy people who just go after what is "hot". I look forward to meeting this escort and look forward to enjoying a great and sexy massage. I will not cancel and I may be surprised by what I find. Thanks for not trashing me here and for being patient with someone who is still new at the game.

[cooldemo03]

In everything I've read about him and in his email encounters with him, he is clearly a real professional, so I will meet up with him and be very glad to see him. I apologize for sounding so jaded and inconsiderate. I guess the business I'm in as an entertainment lawyer in nyc has caused me to be around celebs and wealthy people who just go after what is "hot". I look forward to meeting this escort and look forward to enjoying a great and sexy massage. I will not cancel and I may be surprised by what I find. Thanks for not trashing me here and for being patient with someone who is still new at the game.

 

You will enjoy your time with him. Trust and believe me on this.

[big-n-tall]

I used to watch it. But I didn't remember this phrase. I do remember, "Are you free, Mr. So and So?"

 

Gman

 

It was one of Mrs. Slocomb's (not sure if I spelled that right) catch phrases.

[Guest Starbuck]

Cancellations happen--they just do--for reasons of necessity, or better opportunties, or second thoughts.

 

But so do surprises. If the worst knock against your guy is his fabulousness, you may be in for one. Since you've decided to go ahead with your appointment, why decide now to limit your experience to a massage? Keep your mind and options open and this fellow--who is not exactly your type, but is, in you words, "clearly a real professional"--may have you wanting more than you expect.

 

Enjoy!

[mike carey]

Three days out, you can cancel, no problems, unless he is travelling to meet you. But as others have said, you need a good reason, and you don't have one. Just your pride. If it's the guy I think it is, I would not DREAM of cancelling.

[marylander1940]

Yes...In my opinion it's too late to cancel. The escort has already incurred expenses and is most likely counting on bookings to pay for his travel. Your reasons for wanting to cancel are not good ones. There is a good chance you would be impacting the escort financially, and that's unfair. If you have the resources to do whatever you want, then do the massage, pay the fee, and next time just be more sure of your choices...chalk it up to a learning experience.

 

Exactly, in that case is a good idea to send some cancellation fee to the escort's paypal account.

[mike carey]

In fact if it is the guy I think it is, I've added him to my 'must do' list of escorts. Now, that doesn't mean I will ever meet him, because it's a dream list. Maybe one day I will meet him.

[+ Charlie]

Most clients are concerned about whether the escort will satisfy them sexually. Instead, what I am hearing under your question is worry that you will not satisfy the escort sexually, because he is so fabulous and you can't perform because you are not sexually attracted to him. Believe me, fabulous professional escorts do not need to be sexually satisfied by their clients, and are accustomed to clients who can't perform, because of nerves or physical problems. Your kind of self-consciousness about your own performance is not unusual for men who are new to hiring. If he is coming to your city to keep an appointment that you have initiated, you should go through with it, and do whatever you are comfortable doing sexually when the time comes. Consider it part of your education as a client--and as a person.

[mike carey]

I need to shut up about what I think. It's what you guys out there think that matters.

[sincitymix]

An "Are You Being Served?" reference? Gotta love it, if so.

 

Now back to your regularly scheduled program.

Omg I used to stay up late at night when I was a child watching old old old reruns of "Are you being served". I loved Mrs. Slocombe

[down_to_business]

You probably should have cancelled right away instead of debating it in this forum. Who really cares what I think or others think.

 

Maybe you will get lucky and he will cancel or no-show on you.

 

If neither party cancels, consider going to see a movie like the Avenger's together. 2 hours done without having to have sex or speak.

[bigvalboy]

...Or you could just do a nice dinner and enjoy each other, there's nothing wrong with that.

[HAL9000]

Surprised no one thought of this...