How long does it take you to respond??

[Ohio89]

Hey guys,

 

Extremely new to the scene, and plan to break my escort virginity soon. I've emailed a few reviewed guys, two. They responded with a few days but the 2nd message back from them has been about a week and still waiting. I show interest and even have a date or time frame that works for me for a earlier than later approach and ask about their time respecting it since this may not be their only job, life etc. They seem to appreciate email more than text since I mention that as well.....though the first one was a few days late because it was sent to spam yikes.

 

I guess how long do you guys expect to respond to your potential clients and expect them to respond to you?

 

THANKS!

[Zman]

"sent to spam" hmmm......impossible to prove or disprove.....convenient excuse......I check my spam folders daily.....so it's not like it's hard.....

[Rudynate]

I hold escorts to the same standards I would hold any independent service provider. In my own business, I consider myself remiss if I don't at least acknowledge an email the same day. Internet inquiries especially are so ephemeral that if you don't get on those right away, they're gone. If an escort took a week to respond to my inquiry, I would have completely forgotten about him and moved on by the time he responded.

[Ohio89]

Hmm I see your point. Thanks for your perspective!

[Guest Starbuck]

...If an escort took a week to respond to my inquiry, I would have completely forgotten about him and moved on by the time he responded.

 

I have a special appreciation for the guys who are good communicators, and that begins with a timely response to an initial inquiry. After that, as I see it, there's a shared responsibility to move the communication from inquiry to appointment.

[Rudynate]

That goes without

I have a special appreciation for the guys who are good communicators, and that begins with a timely response to an initial inquiry. After that, as I see it, there's a shared responsibility to move the communication from inquiry to appointment.

 

 

True, but as in any business, it behooves the service provider to eliminate as many obstacles to doing business as possible.

[Amoco]

In my experience the good ones respond in some way, shape or form within a day. Anything beyond that is unacceptable to me and generally predicts other issues - just like the pros will tell you that there are client "tells", there are also escort "tells", and inconsideration with a timely response is a big one. These are the typical things you'll hear:

 

"Sorry, it went to my SPAM folder".

"Sorry, I was with someone and I try to focus only on them when I'm working"

"Sorry, I was diving and had no internet"

"Sorry, my standard is a couple of business days to respond"

 

Just ask yourself if the primary source of your business came through emails, would you check your SPAM folder daily? Leave an automatic message that you're going to be off the grid? And for what it's worth, I've been with 10 different guys for extended appointments and every single one of them took time daily to review their calls and take care of business - without exception. And lastly, if you called a doctor for an appointment on Monday and they didn't get back to you until Thursday or Friday, would you see them professionally?

 

Bottom line is that it's disrespectful, unprofessional and to me, unacceptable to treat clients that way. I wouldn't accept it from a professional physician or attorney, and I wouldn't accept it from an escort.

[+ bigjoey]

I am on my way to NYC. Of the four escorts contacted, only two responded. Never heard from the other four; wonder why they advertise.

[Rudynate]

I have always had good luck when contacting escorts. They nearly always respond, usually within an hour or two. Not long ago, I spent a weekend in San Jose, contacted somebody there weeks in advance and had no response to two inquiries.

[Guest countryboywny]

One thing to bear in mind when contacting an escort is that he may be unable to respond immediately. Some of them may be on extended hires and/or out of the country.

[Amoco]

Extended hires and being out of the country aren't good excuses. First of all, everybody gets service in most parts of the world these days, with the possible exception of Africa. In cases where they know they'll be unavailable, why not indicate that so that people trying to reach you know that it won't be possible? Well, I asked an escort exactly that and what they said is that they don't want to lose the contact and would rather risk having a frustrated potential client who they can win back then lose the content altogether by indicating their unavailability.

[jimboivyo]

I think a lot of these answers come from years of built up rejection, leading to this sense of bitterness

 

Escorts are people too. They have lives and can't always race to respond. Cut em some slack folks

[sincitymix]

Extended hires and being out of the country aren't good excuses. First of all, everybody gets service in most parts of the world these days, with the possible exception of Africa. In cases where they know they'll be unavailable, why not indicate that so that people trying to reach you know that it won't be possible? Well, I asked an escort exactly that and what they said is that they don't want to lose the contact and would rather risk having a frustrated potential client who they can win back then lose the content altogether by indicating their unavailability.

 

I dunno I think that's just silly. If I knew an escort was unavail due to extended stay or an overnight, I would just wait until they are available again. Oh the super hot guy is booked up, that's okay, ill wait until hes free again.

instead of: email.. wait email.. wait.. text wait.. text wait.. call wait .. call wait.. frustration.. anger.. hurt.. loneliness.. (you know the whole spock mind meld pain loss bit) and spend the whole night or weekend waiting for a response that wont come.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Sorry, this thread went to spam for some reason so I'm just now getting around to getting back to you. If you're still looking for responses, I'm available.

[Rudynate]

I think a lot of these answers come from years of built up rejection, leading to this sense of bitterness

 

Escorts are people too. They have lives and can't always race to respond. Cut em some slack folks

 

I'm a person, I have a life, and I consider it my job to respond to prospects/clients as soon as possible, even if it's only to acknowledge receipt of their email.

I think a lot of these answers come from years of built up rejection, leading to this sense of bitterness

 

Escorts are people too. They have lives and can't always race to respond. Cut em some slack folks

 

What rejection? I email the escort, he responds, I hire him, I pay him. Or I email the escort, he doesn't respond in a timely fashion, I forget about him and move on. It's simple. As I said upthread, an escort who's interested in maximizing his income, just as in any other business, will do his best to eliminate impediments to people hiring him. It's not rejection, it's the market doing what the market does.

[bigvalboy]

One thing to bear in mind when contacting an escort is that he may be unable to respond immediately. Some of these may be on extended hires and/or out of the country.

 

I agree with countryboywny. Not all escorts that travel on extended hires or out of the country feel a need to be constantly connected all the time. Many of these top escorts already have an excellent client base, and lucrative second jobs, so they are not always trying to constantly cultivate new business. Being unavailable is not necessarily a detriment depending on their current business plan. I've always believed that there has to be a balance in someones life. It is important sometimes to just disconnect from the world and recharge the batteries.

 

Personally, long before I retired and was quite active in real estate, if I left the country or went on a cruise, I limited my connections to "home base" to two or three calls home. Escorts are no different than everyone else.

 

There have been times recently when I wanted to hire a very popular escort. He did not initially respond, and I found out that he was on an extended hire and traveling. I just waited till he returned to set something up. My choice of course was to move on or wait, and I chose to wait.

[bigvalboy]

I dunno I think that's just silly. If I knew an escort was unavail due to extended stay or an overnight, I would just wait until they are available again. Oh the super hot guy is booked up, that's okay, ill wait until hes free again.

instead of: email.. wait email.. wait.. text wait.. text wait.. call wait .. call wait.. frustration.. anger.. hurt.. loneliness.. (you know the whole spock mind meld pain loss bit) and spend the whole night or weekend waiting for a response that wont come.

 

lol....exactly.

[Amoco]

I think a lot of these answers come from years of built up rejection, leading to this sense of bitterness

 

Escorts are people too. They have lives and can't always race to respond. Cut em some slack folks

 

Jim...Of course they're people, too. But we're not discussing their humanity - we're discussing their business practices on a blog dedicated to understanding and maximizing the experience of hiring men for companionship. nobody said anything about expecting these guys to "race to respond" - the OP wants to know what's reasonable. In my mind, one day is plenty of time for anyone to acknowledge the inquiry and if unavailable for a longer response, advise the emailer when they can get back to them. For you, it doesn't seem to matter how long it takes for them to return your note - good for you that you can be so tolerant. What's curious is the paucity of escort responses...

[instudiocity]

If you send an email to my business email account, you will get a response immediately from my vacation setting: "Hi, I got your email. I'm away from my desk right this minute, but will respond to you before 9 AM tomorrow."

 

Sometimes I respond right away, sometimes I take until 9 AM the next day. Some business needs immediate attention and some business needs to be researched. But I always acknowledge the email immediately.

 

Vacation email settings are mis-named. They should be called Acknowledgment Settings.

[Rudynate]

I agree with countryboywny. Not all escorts that travel on extended hires or out of the country feel a need to be constantly connected all the time. Many of these top escorts already have an excellent client base, and lucrative second jobs, so they are not always trying to constantly cultivate new business. Being unavailable is not necessarily a detriment depending on their current business plan. I've always believed that there has to be a balance in someones life. It is important sometimes to just disconnect from the world and recharge the batteries.

 

Personally, long before I retired and was quite active in real estate, if I left the country or went on a cruise, I limited my connections to "home base" to two or three calls home. Escorts are no different than everyone else.

 

There have been times recently when I wanted to hire a very popular escort. He did not initially respond, and I found out that he was on an extended hire and traveling. I just waited till he returned to set something up. My choice of course was to move on or wait, and I chose to wait.

 

Agree completely with the above. The escort may have all sorts of perfectly valid (to him) reasons for not responding in a timely fashion. It's a fact that he may not need the business and feels completely free to respond to inquiries at his leisure. And there are certainly people who want just THAT escort and are willing to wait the week that it takes for the escort to get back to him.

 

But my own experience is typical. Most of the guys that I have hired, on the first inquiry, have responded very quickly and they got hired. With the one "no response" I got, I lost interest and moved on. I agree that a complete lack of response, such as I got, probably was a good indication that the escort didn't want to be hired and so felt no pressure to respond. But those are all market forces in operation. It isn't personal. Moving on when somebody doesn't appear to be interested in doing business with you doesn't mean you hate them or think they are a bad person. It just means that you prefer to spend your money with somebody who's eager to do business with you.

[bigvalboy]

Agree completely with the above. The escort may have all sorts of perfectly valid (to him) reasons for not responding in a timely fashion. It's a fact that he may not need the business and feels completely free to respond to inquiries at his leisure. And there are certainly people who want just THAT escort and are willing to wait the week that it takes for the escort to get back to him.

 

But my own experience is typical. Most of the guys that I have hired, on the first inquiry, have responded very quickly and they got hired. With the one "no response" I got, I lost interest and moved on. I agree that a complete lack of response, such as I got, probably was a good indication that the escort didn't want to be hired and so felt no pressure to respond. But those are all market forces in operation. It isn't personal. Moving on when somebody doesn't appear to be interested in doing business with you doesn't mean you hate them or think they are a bad person. It just means that you prefer to spend your money with somebody who's eager to do business with you.

 

Exactly....

[Ohio89]

Thanks guys, phenomenal input. I left a message as a follow up.. I found the escort on another site with a review and was able to locate a provided number. No response but it's cool.. perhaps it is a sign from fate to wait for another opportunity or another time. With this thread; it was simply an inquiry due to some, I'm sure, having emails beyond belief and take a while to catch up. I do wish they did put in a number in their initial response to my inquiry to speed it up or secure a time.

 

Lovely input and thanks for helping a newbie, any additional advice or further conversation on this would still be greatly appreciated.

[mike carey]

Sorry, this thread went to spam for some reason so I'm just now getting around to getting back to you. If you're still looking for responses, I'm available.

 

Touché, Chris.

[recency]

I think this is a really difficult subject, for both escorts and prospective clients. I often arrange for an escort's time while I am traveling, with a somewhat restricted time I can agree to an appointment. It would be very helpful if escorts would indicate on Rentboy or Rentmen or wherever that they will be unavailable for a significant period. Absent that, it is important to return a prospective client's call or e-mail or text as quickly as possible, without interrupting a session, of course. I understand completely that escorts have lives outside of their escorting, but a client contact is fragile, and it needs a response. If I do not hear from an escort in 24 hours, I move on. Sometimes less, if my trip is very short. I have tried arranging for escorts in advance of my travels and it just doesn't seem to work. Many escorts regard advance arrangements with a jaundiced attitude (perhaps with justification) and others won't deal with them at all. If an escort finally calls after I have moved on to another, I am always apologetic and explain why I had to do this. Since the first escort is always my first choice it behooves me to be as nice as possible. Every one has always understood. And I try again during my next visit.

[+ WmClarke]

I have tried arranging for escorts in advance of my travels and it just doesn't seem to work. Many escorts regard advance arrangements with a jaundiced attitude (perhaps with justification) and others won't deal with them at all.

 

Interesting. I live in an escorting desert, so I book often when I travel. I also sometimes travel just to book sessions. For these reasons, I need to plan in advance.

 

I usually have success with the advance planning. I have booked sessions one to three months in advance with no problem. One of those was an overnight, so I sent a deposit. That particular escort told me he has some bookings six months in advance.

 

I am guessing that some escorts are very organized and can handle the advance planning and some just aren't organized enough to deal with it.