Is Ultra High End Rent Boy Market Dying Out

[Rudynate]

I must say, Mikey, that your post made me think. As a client, I started seeing a new escort 8 months ago. The appointments grew from twice a week, to 5-6 times a week, for multiple hour appointments each time. I knew he was looking for a sugar daddy but I could not see myself in that role. He has retired as an escort. I am now paying for 1/2 his rent and still see him 5-6 times a week. I helped him get a great job at a high profile gym. I feel I gradually became his sugar daddy without making that decision. I know he occasionally sees a former client and, surprisingly, it gives me feelings of real jealousy - feelings that are real but cannot rationally explain. He is a great looking guy, and the women are just all over him. He has a string of very short-term flings with various women but never a real relationship with them. Somehow, that aspect of him doesn't stress me as much. How do you deal with the jealousy though?

 

I always though that sugar daddy relationships don't work over time because (a) the 'daddy' has in the back of his mind that the 'son' mainly does it for the money and (b) the 'son' always fears that 'daddy' will cut the strings at some point. Yet here I am

 

 

I could see how it could happen almost without you knowing it. Two brothers came to consult with me about a project they are working on a couple of weeks ago. The younger brother was scorching hot, but was not very bright and otherwise not very interesting. The older brother, not quite as scorching hot as the younger brother, but definitely still a looker, was smart, had flawless manners, was generally really charming and looks like he's headed for very good things. He came back a week later by himself, and I was totally bewitched. I could imaging gettine together for lunch, drinks, getting rooms in hotels in the FiDi, mentoring him, taking him with me on business trips, etc., etc. No clue as to his sexual preference - he's one of those that nothing would surprise me - straight, bi, gay, gay for pay, I dunno.

[jimboivyo]

I think some here are confusing a sugar babe with a high end escort. two very different things at play

[+ sf westcoaster]

I think some here are confusing a sugar babe with a high end escort. two very different things at play

 

J, what are you definitions of "sugar babe" and "high end escort". I am not asking this to be controversial, but am asking because I want to know. I have the feeling that among the responders to this thread there is not an agreed to set of definitions.

[BaronArtz]

My take on it would be this: not every high end escort is a sugar boy. The high end escorts I know have a number of clients who are willing to pay high fees, bestow gifts, finance luxury trips and so on. The number of their clients can vary from 3 to 10. They may also have some 'minor' clients - simply guys that they have fun with and whose company they truly enjoy. This can lead to frustration among the top clients - who gets to take him out on New Year's Eve? Why is he not available this weekend? This can lead to jealousy issues and clients cancelling their 'relationship' because of it.

 

A 'sugar boy', on the other hand, may have been a high end escort but not necessarily. It is assumed that the sugar boy will be available to sugar daddy on a more or less exclusive basis. Daddy takes care of the living expenses, and then some. They generally take down their ads and stop advertising as escorts (if they ever did escort). The issue here, as a I mentioned above, is: the sugar boy is financially very dependent on daddy; what happens if daddy is no longer interested or can't pay for this lifestyle anymore? Or, from sugar daddy's perspective, there is the constant worry that the boy is just staying in this arrangement for the money.

 

From the sugar boy's perspective, it may be hard to explain his lifestyle to this family, friends, occasional acquaintances. You are 24 years old, live in a high end condo, have spending money and a Porsche? How come? What is it that you do? It can be tough. One of my friends, a gentleman I met on this board and then in person, said it is like 'robbing a young guy of his youth'. I find that a bit harsh, but there is some truth to it.

[bigvalboy]

Hmmmm...'Sugar Babe', I should have been so lucky.

[RockyHardon]

Mike9Nola,

 

I really like your post and story. Yes, there are few things worse than being a "broke sugar daddy"....I shudder.

 

Also, it seems my Baron Artz got the jitz of my original question. Are there still high end guys who market to and rely on a very small and discrete number of clients (3-10). And I suspect New Year's Eve does become an issue as the the clients probably view the relationship as more substantial than a typical pick up the phone and have a hot guy come over for an hour and give him a couple of benjamins.

 

I really appreciate everyone's responses.

[davidsp]

High-end can mean many things. My closet experience to it is dating celebrities. Being an escort in Los Angeles has given me a few "celeb friends." The celebrity folks are fascinating!!! Always very creative - in and out of bed. Their personalities may or may not match their public image. They demand lots of trust and discretion.