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When I finally decided to "explore my sexuality", I had a specific type of guy in mind. 18-22 y/o clean-cut Frat Guy.

 

Guess what? I prefer late 20's-late 30's fit, bearded, trim/fit men. The facial hair thing was a complete surprise. I have met 7 guys and 5 have had beards. And forget perfect bodies. I want to spend time with normal guys, not perfectionists.

 

What about you? What has surprised you the most since you started exploring?

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I'm not bi or bi/curious but I was surprised when I realized that I liked really tall men. I'm attracted to all types of men, but I have a really primal attraction to tall, lean men. My partner is 6'2" and weighs 190, but I like them up to pro basketball player height.

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I was surprised how much I enjoyed being with Latino guys and guys older than 29. Not that I was "against" them or anything. I just started out with a view that the guy I wanted to hire would be a blond-haired, blue-eyed, twenty-something gym rat. That certainly changed. Some of my best experiences have been with mature guys and Latinos. They were physically fit but not what you'd call muscle guys. It's been a delightful discovery. :)

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I also am not bi- and totally gay but I have to admit, after many hook-ups with married men, I was completely surprised by three things when I hired the 1st time!

 

1. From my first hire through my most recent hire, every escort has been squeaky clean. Before escorts, the men I hooked up with, mostly married but some gay, were not clean anally. I would never THINK about going anywhere around that "dirty, stinky" area! Now I find rimming a clean ass one of the hottest acts available to me, something that can get me off faster than almost anything else! This continues to be a very happy and unexpected surprise for me.

 

2. Before hiring, I sometimes felt euphoric after sex with a guy but often, worries about his attitude or feelings for me made me cautious and even afraid that he might never want to see me again. With my client/escort relationships, I always feel amazing, happy and quite satisfied with the best escorts, something I have to admit has become quite addictive about this hobby for me and again a surprise I never even imagined until I started hiring.

 

3. It didn't happen my first hire, but was addressed directly to me by my first escort. As referenced above, my self-esteem was always on the low side when I had hook-ups before I started hiring escorts. Would the man I'd just had sex with like me enough to see me again or even maybe become my friend? I was always insecure about that, no matter what we shared and talked about. My first hire, I kept apologizing for this or that physical imperfection of my body or not doing a very good job of satisfying my escort's sexual needs, etc., etc.

 

After our playtime was over that first session, he sat me down and lectured me (very kindly, but yes, lectured as a loving father might, even though I am years older than him!) about the fact that I needed to discard all of that negative self-perception when/if I hired in the future. He said some very, very nice things about being attracted sexually to certain physical aspects he found in me, that I should NEVER apologize for any aspect of my love-making to any escort if I hire again and basically to "just get over myself and my perceived insecurities!" Since then, I have taken his advice to heart and I am still surprising myself at how much this hobby keeps helping and increasing my self-esteem!

 

Truhart1 :cool:

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I also am not bi- and totally gay but I have to admit, after many hook-ups with married men, I was completely surprised by three things when I hired the 1st time!

 

1. From my first hire through my most recent hire, every escort has been squeaky clean. Before escorts, the men I hooked up with, mostly married but some gay, were not clean anally. I would never THINK about going anywhere around that "dirty, stinky" area! Now I find rimming a clean ass one of the hottest acts available to me, something that can get me off faster than almost anything else! This continues to be a very happy and unexpected surprise for me.

 

2. Before hiring, I sometimes felt euphoric after sex with a guy but often, worries about his attitude or feelings for me made me cautious and even afraid that he might never want to see me again. With my client/escort relationships, I always feel amazing, happy and quite satisfied with the best escorts, something I have to admit has become quite addictive about this hobby for me and again a surprise I never even imagined until I started hiring.

 

3. It didn't happen my first hire, but was addressed directly to me by my first escort. As referenced above, my self-esteem was always on the low side when I had hook-ups before I started hiring escorts. Would the man I'd just had sex with like me enough to see me again or even maybe become my friend? I was always insecure about that, no matter what we shared and talked about. My first hire, I kept apologizing for this or that physical imperfection of my body or not doing a very good job of satisfying my escort's sexual needs, etc., etc.

 

After our playtime was over that first session, he sat me down and lectured me (very kindly, but yes, lectured as a loving father might, even though I am years older than him!) about the fact that I needed to discard all of that negative self-perception when/if I hired in the future. He said some very, very nice things about being attracted sexually to certain physical aspects he found in me, that I should NEVER apologize for any aspect of my love-making to any escort if I hire again and basically to "just get over myself and my perceived insecurities!" Since then, I have taken his advice to heart and I am still surprising myself at how much this hobby keeps helping and increasing my self-esteem!

 

Truhart1 :cool:

Guess it just put a smile on your face and spring in your step. The smile seems perpetual and the spring, well springs are tricky things.

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I'm not bi either. But before my 1st escort experience at 41 years of age I was a total virgin. I had had probably less than 20 dates total with girls (in high school) and women (post high school) with no dates with men. The most I had ever kissed anyone was a quick peck on the lips.

 

So what surprised me was just like PK how much I enjoy Fr Kissing. Before I experienced it with my first escort, I thought the idea of Fr Kissing was gross. Going along with Fr Kissing I was surprised how much I like to have my neck and ears nuzzled. Fr Kissing and nuzzling are almost 100% guaranteed to get my tallywacker extremely excited.

 

Gman

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Thanks, TruHart, I don't know how I forgot rimming. I was never a huge fan of eating pussy, but I was always willing if asked. Same goes for rimming. But, the first time I did it for a guy that really likes it? Damn! The sounds he made, hearing his breathing become ragged as I dug my tongue into his hole, was such a huge turn on. It's one of my favorite things to do now.

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Thanks, TruHart, I don't know how I forgot rimming. I was never a huge fan of eating pussy, but I was always willing if asked. Same goes for rimming. But, the first time I did it for a guy that really likes it? Damn! The sounds he made, hearing his breathing become ragged as I dug my tongue into his hole, was such a huge turn on. It's one of my favorite things to do now.

I think it is nothing short of divine.

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Enjoying rimming another man might be an acquired taste. The first time somebody rimmed me, I couldn't believe it. I wanted more and more. Rimming somebody else was another story. I wasn't wild about it, but I had no difficulty doing it. Then I acquired an incredibly handsome man as a FB who had a very narrow repertoire - all he liked was getting rimmed while jacking off...that was it. At first I thought, "Well, this is kind of one-sided." But I also noticed that the more I rimmed him, the more I liked it. It developed into a perfect synergy - he loved getting rimmed and I loved rimming him.

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Couldn't agree more Rudynate. It is an acquired taste. For me, it was the first time I did something for a guy (orally) that I KNEW he was enjoying. No porn verbalizing, real physical reactions. (Honestly, I got so focused on his responses that I didn't realize he had stopped sucking my cock! GASP! Getting a blowjob is my FAVORITE THING IN THE WORLD!!!) Connecting is awesome

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Couldn't agree more Rudynate. It is an acquired taste. For me, it was the first time I did something for a guy (orally) that I KNEW he was enjoying. No porn verbalizing, real physical reactions. (Honestly, I got so focused on his responses that I didn't realize he had stopped sucking my cock! GASP! Getting a blowjob is my FAVORITE THING IN THE WORLD!!!) Connecting is awesome

 

 

It is a pretty amazing way to connect - mouth to hole.

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Enjoying rimming another man might be an acquired taste. The first time somebody rimmed me, I couldn't believe it. I wanted more and more. Rimming somebody else was another story. I wasn't wild about it, but I had no difficulty doing it. Then I acquired an incredibly handsome man as a FB who had a very narrow repertoire - all he liked was getting rimmed while jacking off...that was it. At first I thought, "Well, this is kind of one-sided." But I also noticed that the more I rimmed him, the more I liked it. It developed into a perfect synergy - he loved getting rimmed and I loved rimming him.

Try rimming a fister its a unique experience

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Try rimming a fister its a unique experience

Oh, I've done that. My tongue felt like it was getting pulled into a velvet tunnel. Nothing short of amazing.

 

Another must-try: rimming someone who has used a pump on his ass. If you can get past the fear he will suck his insides out though his hole you are in for a treat!

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I was surprised by my delight in kissing. I could just kiss for hours on end. If an escort is not a good kisser I find my pleasure is decreased. If an escort does not kiss at all, I find my erection is less than. So, I avoid non=kissers.

 

Much like PK, I'm very oral. Kissing, licking, sucking etc. are my favorite activities. I think for some reason that my mouth is an erogenous zone for me. To the OP's question, I have found that I'm attracted to many different types for many different reasons. It could be facial hair, eyes, physical attributes, or, it could be personality, warmth.. too many to mention here but I think you get the point. The only thing that I've found that is a universal turn-off for me is feminine behavior.

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I don't know whether this is just my perception or not, but I kiss differently with men than with women. With women it's usually slower, gentler, more passionate; whereas with men I'm rougher and more deliberate.

 

Yes, this is probably an overbroad generalization, but I'm going to make it anyway. I think sex between men tends to be different from what occurs between men and women - rougher, more athletic.

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Much like PK, I'm very oral. Kissing, licking, sucking etc. are my favorite activities. I think for some reason that my mouth is an erogenous zone for me. To the OP's question, I have found that I'm attracted to many different types for many different reasons. It could be facial hair, eyes, physical attributes, or, it could be personality, warmth.. too many to mention here but I think you get the point. The only thing that I've found that is a universal turn-off for me is feminine behavior.
I don't know countryboy, talking about your mouth with that avatar is disconcerting, or maybe oxymoronic. But I'm sure I'd find some use for a toothless mouth.;):)
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Yes, this is probably an overbroad generalization, but I'm going to make it anyway. I think sex between men tends to be different from what occurs between men and women - rougher, more athletic.

 

Never having had sex with a woman- I wouldn't know about that. But if athleticism is a sine qua non for male-to-male sex, then I would be left at the starting gate. ( I was always picked last for teams at school too)

 

Gman

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Never having had sex with a woman- I wouldn't know about that. But if athleticism is a sine qua non for male-to-male sex, then I would be left at the starting gate. ( I was always picked last for teams at school too)

 

Gman

 

You noticed I used the weasel word "tends," so that men like you, for example, who appear to like their sex on the tender, sensual side, wouldn't feel excluded. I don't not like tender, sensual sex, but if that's all I ever had, I would soon find it very boring.

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