What do I bring for an escort I'm about to meet for the first time?

[gallahadesquire]

From Beuty and the Beast:

"I've lost her. What can I do?"

"Oh, the usual things. FLowers. Chocolates.

Promises you DON'T intent to keep."

 

What flowers do you think are the least intrusive?

Roses are trite, and overwrought with connotations.

Tulips are idiosyncradic

Lillies are forever, but ya gotta get the right colour.

Carnivorous plants tend to send odd messages.

Daisies and Chrysanthemums are plotting, but cute.

Lillies of the Valley - lovely.

[RM]

I didn't Know

 

I didn't know you were supposed to bring him anything.

[+ FreshFluff]

Gallahad, I assume you're bringing flowers because you're a romantic who enjoys spoiling people he likes. It's hard to know what he prefers, so I'd just bring whatever flower you would like. This appointment is, after all, for you rather than for him. And it's doubtful that one type of flower would make him a lot happier than another.

 

That said, daisies are sweet and down to earth. They worked for the big shot in the Material Girl video.

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[TruHart1]

I didn't know you were supposed to bring him anything.

 

If he is really a great escort, he will be happy if you bring him enthusiastic energy (and of course his fee! ) the first time you meat!

 

TruHart1

[AdamSmith]

If he is really a great escort, he will be happy if you bring him enthusiastic energy (and of course his fee! ) the first time you meat!

 

+1

 

On a first meeting, before knowing anything (much) about each other, instead of blooms you can't go wrong with greenery.

 

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[bigvalboy]

+1

 

on a first meeting, before knowing anything (much) about each other, instead of blooms you can't go wrong with greenery.

 

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Ha! Clever AS...+1

[bobchitown]

If its an evening session I tend to bring a bottle of decent wine - sometimes we open it and have a glass, other times we don't. Flowers just don't seem right to me, seems like you're picking up a date to go to the prom.

 

I skip the wine if the guy's as says he doesn't drink, although I'm sure a bottle he could serve to others would still be welcome.

[AdamSmith]

If its an evening session I tend to bring a bottle of decent wine - sometimes we open it and have a glass, other times we don't. Flowers just don't seem right to me, seems like you're picking up a date to go to the prom.

 

Seems very appropriate. One time on a first meeting (an overnight, with dinner out), I asked the guy beforehand what he particularly liked to drink, don't be shy, and he said, Well, since you ask, Johnny Walker Green Label.

 

A fifth of that was very well received! And used.

[Rudynate]

He's a service provider. If anybody should be giving presents, it should be him, to build the relationship and increase the likelihood that you will become a regular client. The only thing you need to bring is your wallet.

[Guest countryboywny]

He's a service provider. If anybody should be giving presents, it should be him, to build the relationship and increase the likelihood that you will become a regular client. The only thing you need to bring is your wallet.

 

You speak the truth. However, I get the feeling that gallahadesquire gets pleasure out of bringing flowers or whatever to the meeting so it's for HIS pleasure to bring a treat. I think it's a cool idea on a first meeting. A little surprise gift can go a long way in breaking the ice and lets the escort know that you're a thoughtful person.

[Guest Starbuck]

Sometimes you can find a clue about an appropriate gift. If the escort has done The RENTMEN Interview, one of the questions is about the five things he can't live without; things like chocolate are mentioned. Or if the guy has a blog, a website or a Twitter account, those can also be sources of information. I can't say I've ever brought a gift to a first time meeting -- unless you count the Starbucks gift card I picked up as part of my potential tip for a guy who met me at a Starbucks (but only to look me over and decide I was "safe" to take back to his apartment. He didn't buy anything there, so who really knows if he's a coffee-drinker.) On the other hand, I've given some thoughtfully-chosen gifts to guys I've seen for a second time ... a good bottle of olive oil to a fellow who thinks it helps his cocksuckers do a better job deep-throating; a book of erotic illustrations for a man who is an artist ... and I've enjoyed having something appropriate to give to these men I liked.

[adriano46]

In certain cases where I knew something about the escort ahead of our meeting, usually through e-mails, texts and phone conversations, and if there was an inkling that the encounter may go better than expected, then I would consider bringing a small gift. When seeing guys in Central and Eastern Europe, a pair of decent jeans used to be considered even better than cash; for guys in other European capitals, a nice Dolce & Gabbana sweater or nice leather belt would be considered great.

 

I enjoy wine but find that this is not an across-the-board great idea as a gift as many escorts these days are not wine drinkers (among the ones I meet), and prefer just juice or water. And I would not have more than a single glass if inviting them in for sex... So I don't offer that much anymore.

 

The clues that Starbuck mentions from the Rentmen ads help. I also have given small ($25 - $50) gift cards as "tips" that I place in the envelope with the cash fee (sometimes for a meal, or coffee, or other times for Amazon or some other place where they can buy their own gifts). In fact I find these gift cards of various prices as the best portable idea for a tip.

 

That said... there is a LOT of wisdom in what Rudynate said -- we are paying already for a service that they are providing. Tips are - IMHO - for an exceptional encounter, not the ordinary every-day type.

[rvwnsd]

From Beuty and the Beast:

"I've lost her. What can I do?"

"Oh, the usual things. FLowers. Chocolates.

Promises you DON'T intent to keep."

 

What flowers do you think are the least intrusive?

Roses are trite, and overwrought with connotations.

Tulips are idiosyncradic

Lillies are forever, but ya gotta get the right colour.

Carnivorous plants tend to send odd messages.

Daisies and Chrysanthemums are plotting, but cute.

Lillies of the Valley - lovely.

 

Although it was not our first date, a certain escort surprised me with some beautiful cala lillies when he arrived at my hotel on Saturday. He selected them because they were an unusual color and thought I would like and appreciate their uniqueness. He was right.

 

I would follow his lead and select the flowers that strike your fancy.

[Becket]

BBQ sauce. Always works for me, don't know why.

[Rudynate]

You speak the truth. However, I get the feeling that gallahadesquire gets pleasure out of bringing flowers or whatever to the meeting so it's for HIS pleasure to bring a treat. I think it's a cool idea on a first meeting. A little surprise gift can go a long way in breaking the ice and lets the escort know that you're a thoughtful person.

 

That's true. I always enjoy and respect my hires, but to me, its engaging a professional who provides a personal service, very similar to a bodyworker, a personal trainer, or a psychotherapist. Escorts deserve to be highly paid because providing that service requires so much from them. I do enjoy showing my appreciation by treating a guy to breakfast or lunch. But I don't have any desire to impose a romantic veneer on it.

[+ azdr0710]

I bring cheap beer and a Trader Joe's gift card

[rvwnsd]

Although it was not our first date, a certain escort surprised me with some beautiful cala lillies when he arrived at my hotel on Saturday. He selected them because they were an unusual color and thought I would like and appreciate their uniqueness. He was right.

 

I would follow his lead and select the flowers that strike your fancy.

 

... However, I get the feeling that gallahadesquire gets pleasure out of bringing flowers or whatever to the meeting so it's for HIS pleasure to bring a treat... A little surprise gift can go a long way.. lets [him] know that you're a thoughtful person.

 

Somehow, I missed countryboywny's post until after I posted my two cents.

 

I think he hits the nail on the head.

 

When my guy pulled the flowers out from his bag, the smile on his face said it all: he derived as much pleasure from selecting and giving the gift as I derived from receiving it. Isn't this all about deriving pleasure?

[ajirons09]

Just bring yourself and a positive and friendly attitude and warm smile...if the escort is a "real" person they'll all go a long way!