Cancelling an appointment

[dixietony]

I contacted an escort about two weeks ago. Set up an appointment for this coming weekend. After talking to him on the phone several times, emailing, and texting, I came to the conclusion we just weren't going to be compatible. The last thing, which finally convinced me, was that he wanted to go to a strip club. What? I never hinted at that.

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

The question here: what is the proper etiquette for cancelling?

 

And, I thought his response was odd. Not only rude, but just odd.

[tsgarp]

You've done absolutely nothing wrong. Let it go and move on.

[adriano46]

You've done absolutely nothing wrong. Let it go and move on.

 

+1 - not worth responding to him. Let it go.

[Steven_Draker]

In my opinion the escort's reaction was extreme and inappropriate.

 

Sometimes cancellations can be irritating, especially if you have spent a considered amount of time and energy in the setting up process. He may have been under stress, hence the rude response, but name calling has never helped any situation. After his last response, I'm sure you told yourself that you were better off without him and you made the right decision.

 

If you have to cancel: try to be respectful not wasting his time with multiple emails and calls if you don't have real intentions for actual meeting. Also try not to cancel at the last minute, but well ahead of time and always thank him for his time.

[instudiocity]

I contacted an escort about two weeks ago. Set up an appointment for this coming weekend. After talking to him on the phone several times, emailing, and texting, I came to the conclusion we just weren't going to be compatible. The last thing, which finally convinced me, was that he wanted to go to a strip club. What? I never hinted at that.

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

The question here: what is the proper etiquette for cancelling?

 

And, I thought his response was odd. Not only rude, but just odd.

You did nothing wrong. You responded correctly to the situation. Never go where you don't want to go be it a place or with a person.

 

And if you are a mofo, why you wanna be hooking up with guys? LOL!

[+ Funguy]

Initials JB?

 

OK, sorry!

[MiamiLooker]

I contacted an escort about two weeks ago. Set up an appointment for this coming weekend. After talking to him on the phone several times, emailing, and texting, I came to the conclusion we just weren't going to be compatible. The last thing, which finally convinced me, was that he wanted to go to a strip club. What? I never hinted at that.

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

The question here: what is the proper etiquette for cancelling?

 

And, I thought his response was odd. Not only rude, but just odd.

 

Was the appointment to be 1 hour? 2hours? Overnight?

[buckguy]

He probably felt he had invested a lot of time in the appointment, esp. if it was going to be relatively brief. Was this short notice?

 

Regardless, there are better ways to handle this. Very recently, I had made an appointment with someone who had just received a great review and follow-up here on the MB. It was a 2 hr appointment made several days ahead of time. I texted to confirm and give my hotel info. Very quickly, the responses was "Bud, something came up..." Not the best way to intro bad news. He proposed a later time. Against my better judgment I said it could work but no later. No response. Some time passed while I cleaned-up, etc. I texted to confirm and then he had to cancel and explained (a personal matter). He offered the next day, but by this point it was too little too late and I just gave him a businesslike response that I was leaving the next day after my work.

 

Sorry if this too much of a segue, but...good reviews or not, a bad turn deserves a businesslike "no". And problems just lead to more problems if you let good reviews or other "mitigating factors" to get in the way of good judgment.

[armadillo]

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

 

“Realize that if a door closed, it’s because what was behind it wasn’t meant for you.”

― Mandy Hale

[cany10011]

Sounds like you had a big weekend planned with numerous phone calls, etc. I'm sure you will find another guy that would love to spend time with you this weekend.

 

 

“Realize that if a door closed, it’s because what was behind it wasn’t meant for you.”

― Mandy Hale

[Guest]

I contacted an escort about two weeks ago. Set up an appointment for this coming weekend. After talking to him on the phone several times, emailing, and texting, I came to the conclusion we just weren't going to be compatible. The last thing, which finally convinced me, was that he wanted to go to a strip club. What? I never hinted at that.

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

The question here: what is the proper etiquette for cancelling?

 

And, I thought his response was odd. Not only rude, but just odd.

 

Well, certainly the profanity may have been a bit much, but we need to know a little more before giving your actions the "Miss Manners seal of approval"... For what length was your proposed hire? How soon before you were to meet did you cancel? Did he have to alter his plans? I will preface my comments by saying that if this was for a long-term hire (and it sounds like it was), I think it's quite foolish to hire someone for a long period of time unless you've at least done a one-hour and met before. I've said that before and will say it again. The compatibility issues are one potential problem. Another, of course, is that I think you're in a better bargaining position for a long-term hire if the guy knows you. It sounds as if he spent a considerable amount of time with you--several phone calls, emails, texts, etc. I hope that at a minimum, in your note cancelling the appointment you acknowledged and thanked him for the time he spend communicating with you. How was the strip club mentioned. Did he literally just say "I want to go to a strip club!" or did he just ask if that might be something you entertain? I can understand that if he's dictating how you two would be spending your time together, I wouldn't want to hook up either. I think a lesson would be "Don't do a long term hire if you don't know the guy"....

[Okliehomo]

“Realize that if a wh*re cussed, it’s because that behind wasn’t meant for you.”

― Randy Hole

 

A joke. Sorry.Damn tumblr. All that hole talk.

 

Butt... seriously. Doesn't seem to me that you did anything wrong. The more you dealt with him the less you thought it would work, so you walked. Your decision... your money. All this Miss Manners stuff is a code that we hold ourselves to, from real business situations, not this. And frankly, I think that we are way more critical of each other than we are of escorts. At least, on here.

 

From my experience, such as it is, you know. During the hunt, during the contact, you get a sense if it's going to work or not. Anytime that I have ignored that sense and forced the issue, I have gotten fucked and not in the way that I was hoping for. As I have said many, many times... if it don't come easy, walk the fuck away. Find another guy with whom it all.... um.... fits.

 

Now, friend, for the record, I have to know. Are you a broke ass mother fucker?

 

Because if you are, we should form a club.

[rvwnsd]

This (Wednesday) morning was a full three days prior to the weekend. He decided to meet at a strip club, which you do not want to do, and said several other things that caused you to reconsider. I don't think you did anything wrong.

[Guest]

This (Wednesday) morning was a full three days prior to the weekend. He decided to meet at a strip club, which you do not want to do, and said several other things that caused you to reconsider. I don't think you did anything wrong.

 

Wednesday isn't three days prior to a week-end hire, unless you don't know how to count to two. I didn't read that the escort said he wanted to meet at a strip club, just that he wanted to go there. If, after multiple phone calls, e-mails, and texts, the client really broke off a week-end commitment just 2 days before meeting, that seems somewhat rude, especially if it wasn't done quite apologetically. Just because someone is an escort doesn't mean their time is meaningless, they have the right to be yanked around, and be treated without thought to their feelings.

[jawjateck]

Whew! Disaster averted, money saved, health safeguarded....all is well. I love reading success stories, even the non-meetings.

[leanbtm]

Well, certainly the profanity may have been a bit much, but we need to know a little more before giving your actions the "Miss Manners seal of approval"... For what length was your proposed hire? How soon before you were to meet did you cancel? Did he have to alter his plans? I will preface my comments by saying that if this was for a long-term hire (and it sounds like it was), I think it's quite foolish to hire someone for a long period of time unless you've at least done a one-hour and met before. I've said that before and will say it again. The compatibility issues are one potential problem. Another, of course, is that I think you're in a better bargaining position for a long-term hire if the guy knows you. It sounds as if he spent a considerable amount of time with you--several phone calls, emails, texts, etc. I hope that at a minimum, in your note cancelling the appointment you acknowledged and thanked him for the time he spend communicating with you. How was the strip club mentioned. Did he literally just say "I want to go to a strip club!" or did he just ask if that might be something you entertain? I can understand that if he's dictating how you two would be spending your time together, I wouldn't want to hook up either. I think a lesson would be "Don't do a long term hire if you don't know the guy"....

 

 

I would agree with this analysis and would also add to the mix the escort may have turned down other business to accommodate the original poster's appointment and thus was left with zero business for a given period of time that cannot be made u

[Steven_Draker]

My understanding is that the session wasn't going to be weekend long, but rather that it would take place over the coming weekend.

 

It would be helpful if the OP gives some precision about the length of the session.

[+ purplekow]

My understanding is that the session wasn't going to be weekend long, but rather that it would take place over the coming weekend.

 

It would be helpful if the OP gives some precision about the length of the session.

 

Asking a poster to be accurate about length, an interesting concept.

I agree with Unicorn, in that it seems you spoke and communicated with the man quite a bit.

Lesson learned here. Communication is bad for sex. After a sex partner says "Yes" then next thing one should want to hear, except for a few moans and one loud "Oh God", is "Thanks for Coming. See you next time."

 

I can understand his disappointment, after all who would not want to spend time with you (and of course be able to spend the money afterwards.) Still, no reason to suggest that you are a mo' fo when you are more likely a fa' fo.

 

So in conclusion: You harrassed the guy with a barrage of phone calls, texts and e-mails. You took offense at a suggestion about activities and you cancellled. He implied he would rather look at hot guys at a strip joint than to spend time alone with you and he resorted to name calling when you cancelled. Looks like a tie. Bad client. Bad escort.

[MiamiLooker]

I contacted an escort about two weeks ago. Set up an appointment for this coming weekend. After talking to him on the phone several times, emailing, and texting, I came to the conclusion we just weren't going to be compatible. The last thing, which finally convinced me, was that he wanted to go to a strip club. What? I never hinted at that.

 

So, I emailed him today and said as much. I cancelled the appointment. His response was to call me a "broke ass mother fucker." Again, what?

 

The question here: what is the proper etiquette for cancelling?

 

And, I thought his response was odd. Not only rude, but just odd.

 

From an escort's perspective, you're not a client until the two of you have actually met for an appointment. Based on the limited information that you provided, you wasted his time for two weeks with chitchat. How does he know whether or not you were serious about hiring him? If you had concerns about hiring him, you should have addressed them prior to actually scheduling an appointment. The proper etiquette for cancelling is to do your due diligence to avoid having to cancel.

[dixietony]

I just don't have the will to write down all the details. His description of me as broke ... inaccurate. There were plenty of other signs that we were not compatible. One other example. He wanted to call on Tuesday. I said anytime before 10pm. He called at 1130pm.

 

Lesson learned. I feel as if I avoided a disaster.

[daddy-big]

I was recently out of town on business in a major city. My hotel was near the airport and per my company's instruction, I didn't have a rental car. I contacted an escort and arranged for a session. I texted him at his advertised number. He responded from a different number about 9 hours later and seemed annoyed that I didn't know who he was. We "talked" and determined it was a go. About 90 minutes prior to the session, I went to the ATM in the hotel only to discover it was out of cash. There were no other ATMs available so I sent a text and told him of the problem. After 22 text messages from him advising me that I was still liable for the money, calling me everything but human and threatening me with essentially my life, I blocked the number. Fortunately, our agreement was to give him the exact hotel and room number when he confirmed one hour before the session so he really didn't know where I was. I understand the cash flow but sometimes things come up and this was unavoidable. He did offer to drive me to an ATM but I was not comfortable with that. I advised him that his desperation was showing and that perhaps another line of work was needed.

[jimboivyo]

I was recently out of town on business in a major city. My hotel was near the airport and per my company's instruction, I didn't have a rental car. I contacted an escort and arranged for a session. I texted him at his advertised number. He responded from a different number about 9 hours later and seemed annoyed that I didn't know who he was. We "talked" and determined it was a go. About 90 minutes prior to the session, I went to the ATM in the hotel only to discover it was out of cash. There were no other ATMs available so I sent a text and told him of the problem. After 22 text messages from him advising me that I was still liable for the money, calling me everything but human and threatening me with essentially my life, I blocked the number. Fortunately, our agreement was to give him the exact hotel and room number when he confirmed one hour before the session so he really didn't know where I was. I understand the cash flow but sometimes things come up and this was unavoidable. He did offer to drive me to an ATM but I was not comfortable with that. I advised him that his desperation was showing and that perhaps another line of work was needed.

 

 

so, you screw up after knowing you were going to see the escort, can't produce the cash and then add insult to injury by calling the escort desperate.

 

yeah, you're a real gem of a client

[Guest countryboywny]

I always make sure I have the cash WELL ahead of the appointment time. Never rely on an ATM or wait until the last minute to "cash up".

[MiamiLooker]

I just don't have the will to write down all the details. His description of me as broke ... inaccurate. There were plenty of other signs that we were not compatible. One other example. He wanted to call on Tuesday. I said anytime before 10pm. He called at 1130pm.

 

Lesson learned. I feel as if I avoided a disaster.

 

You state you aren't going to provide details, yet proceed to provide more details, just not the important ones. Is there some reason you refuse to say how long the scheduled appointment was to be for? Your original post seems to imply this was a multi-hour appointment.

[daddy-big]

so, you screw up after knowing you were going to see the escort, can't produce the cash and then add insult to injury by calling the escort desperate.

 

yeah, you're a real gem of a client

The issue became 2fold...first, he replied from a different number than I had originally contacted him on and became agitated that I didn't know who he was. Second, I had no other means to physically "produce" the cash as there was no workable ATM nearby. Third, telling me that I owe him still, that he had invested a lot of time an energy into me, that if he were there right now he'd more than likely smash my face in and several other comments over 22 text messages that led me to the desperation comment. Shit happens Blanche...move on!!