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Are you for or against it? :rolleyes::cool:

 

I was watching the video below, and it got me thinking. I see straight couples making out in public (street, subway station) often, maybe once every 3 days.

 

Yet, with all the talk about people's reactions to affection between men, I can't remember the last time I saw two men making out in public. I spend most of my nighttime fun hours in Chelsea, which is the most accepting places on earth for gay people. And I see men holding hands every day.

 

So do gay men just not kiss in public as much? Or is there still some fear of homophobia, even here?

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/02/gay-kiss-what-would-you-do-_n_5432599.html

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And on Pentecost, to boot! [no, I see no connection]

 

Personally, and I am unanimous in this, I don't like PDA from anyone, at least more than holding hands.

Call it my Calvinistic upbringing [Presbyterian, then RC, then Lutheran, then (and now) Anglocatholic].

 

Some of the responses are surprising!

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Personally, and I am unanimous in this, I don't like PDA from anyone, at least more than holding hands...

 

Some of the responses are surprising!

 

I think we need opinions from our younger members on this. Since I am older, my upbringing instilled an aversion to all PDA (gay or straight) except holding hands, much like gallahadesquire expressed! Sometimes I find that I am not even comfortable around two men holding hands in public unless I am in a major metropolis such as NYC or San Francisco. I do wonder if it might be a generational thing. Of course, it seems Europeans (even straight European men) are much more comfortable showing public affection than Americans.

 

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Kissing and other displays of affection such as demonstrated in the video don't bother me as long as others are not being inconvenienced (as opposed to offending them) -- blocking the sidewalk while doing it would be an example -- and those engaged in it don't turn it into an all-out makeout session.

 

I'm in my late 50s, so it's not an age thing.

 

There are times with straight couples when their PDA seems more designed to prove to those around them how passionate they are than anything else. That kind of PDA annoys me. And even in Chelsea, gay men have every reason to fear the consequences of engaging in PDA. Wasn't more than one gay man shot (and in at least one case killed) in Chelsea within the past year for that very reason? If it can happen in Chelsea, it can happen anywhere.

 

Whatever the social standard is, it should be the same for everyone, straight, gay, or whatever.

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Are you for or against it? :rolleyes::cool:

 

I was watching the video below, and it got me thinking. I see straight couples making out in public (street, subway station) often, maybe once every 3 days.

 

Yet, with all the talk about people's reactions to affection between men, I can't remember the last time I saw two men making out in public. I spend most of my nighttime fun hours in Chelsea, which is the most accepting places on earth for gay people. And I see men holding hands every day.

 

So do gay men just not kiss in public as much? Or is there still some fear of homophobia, even here?

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/02/gay-kiss-what-would-you-do-_n_5432599.html

 

From my experience I see more PDA's from gay men on the west coast than I do the east coast even New York. I have observed a stark contrast in the way non normative behavior is processed on the east coast, people tolerate your differences rather than embrace them. I see couples kissing quite often in San Francisco, Portland and Seattle all of which are incredibly liberal cities. There is a level of emotional safety in these cities I don't see any where else, you can be who you want and people either don't care or think its great. I think its wonderful that people can be there authentic self out in public without fear of ridicule.

 

Anyways thats my nugget of wisdom for the day

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I agree with Charlie Rich

 

If you cannot keep your hands and mouth off each other in public, then GET A ROOM. Hand holding, fine. A peck on the cheek or a brief mouth kiss, is fine. Once passion starts to rear its head, head for a private place. Now I have been intoxicated enough, in my youth, that I stepped over my own boundaries and indulged in passionate behavior in supermarkets, convenience stores and once at a professional baseball game. So I understand that passion may spring forth and erupt and that one may not be able to control it, but sober adults should interact in public as sober adults.

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If you really cannot keep your hands or your mouth off of each other, then GET A ROOM or at least a dark alley. I do not care what the sexual orientation is. Now I have been intoxicated to the point of public displays, in my youth. So I understand that passion may spring upon you and from you in a moment's notice, but in general, sober people should limit their private behavior in public. I agree with the song which says: No one Knows what goes on behind closed doors. Sorry for the double post, I went to get the connection to the song and this was gone and then I wound up finding it and posting it after redoing it.

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This is both an evolutionary and generational situation. And, it's a matter of degree with ANY individual and their life choices. If you can't keep your hands out of each others pants, take it inside. If it's a matter of a hug and a parting kiss, so be it with anyone. To force the general public, in public, to except what borders on making out on the public venues, will only set the cause of being accepted as a gay person back over and over.

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These responses kind of surprise me. I'm 54 now, and when I lived in NYC in 2010-2012, my favorite hangout was a straight bar in Hell's Kitchen, frequented by lots of big handsome construction workers, etc. Once I got established as a regular, no one cared the least bit about me sitting there making out like mad with whatever little (usually underage-looking Hispanic) twink I had found for the evening. I even got a couple of the big Irish construction-worker regulars drunk enough to go home with me and fuck me.

 

Never found that kind of thing anywhere else in the U.S. But seems fairly common in Manhattan.

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Are you for or against it? :rolleyes::cool:

 

I was watching the video below, and it got me thinking. I see straight couples making out in public (street, subway station) often, maybe once every 3 days.

 

Yet, with all the talk about people's reactions to affection between men, I can't remember the last time I saw two men making out in public. I spend most of my nighttime fun hours in Chelsea, which is the most accepting places on earth for gay people. And I see men holding hands every day.

 

So do gay men just not kiss in public as much? Or is there still some fear of homophobia, even here?

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/02/gay-kiss-what-would-you-do-_n_5432599.html

 

I am for it one hundred per cent.

 

But, I am really posting to say that Berlin is the most accepting place on earth for gay people, and several other cities in Europe are equal to Chelsea.

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Having travelled to several middle eastern countries, not exactly known for being sexually liberated, it's not unusual to see straight men walking along the street holding hands.

 

Whilst Middle Eastern men may be holding hands when walking in the street, even straight couples who kiss in public are JAILED.

 

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2013/08/07/dubai-kissing-couple-jail-sentences_n_3721980.html

 

and

 

http://www.reuters.com/article/2010/03/14/us-emirates-kissing-idUSTRE62D14E20100314

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