When an escort says: Ask Me

[kjun]

Are any of you uncomfortable with an escort ad that says "ask me" for their price. I am and suspect it is a come on to get as much as they can squeeze out of you. Why can't they just be straight forward with what they will charge you.

[jawjateck]

Since I don't waste time inquiring into such mysteries, I'm never uncomfortable with their ads.

[Electra 225]

I don't

 

If the ad says "Ask Me", I don't. I never go into a deal, business or otherwise, blind. If the ad does not include ALL of the information I need to make a decision, including rates and fees, I simply pass and move on to the next ad. I will ONLY respond to an ad that includes all information. I hope that our friends, the working boys "out there", take this to heart!!

[+ azdr0710]

though it certainly smacks of the escort feeling you out and picking and choosing clients, there are several well-respected, well-reviewed (on Daddy's) guys who have ads requesting "ask me".....if you're interested, just send him a polite inquiry with full details and "ask" him!.....

[Electra 225]

I'm never, ever that interested. There are too many fish in the sea that provide full disclosure. No time, and no desire, for games.

[rvwnsd]

Are any of you uncomfortable with an escort ad that says "ask me" for their price...

 

No. However, if I need to choose between two guys who I find equally attractive and one states his rate and the other states "Ask Me," I will send a message to the guy who states his rate. I also ask (or confirm) a guy's rate in my inquiry unless he does so himself.

 

...I am and suspect it is a come on to get as much as they can squeeze out of you...

 

Another possibility is they will state their rate when you email or phone them.

 

...Why can't they just be straight forward with what they will charge you.

 

None of us, except for escorts who state "Ask Me" as their rates, can answer that question. If you are interested in an accurate answern, find five different escorts who state "Ask Me" and ask them why they just can't be straightforward with what they will charge you.

[adriano46]

I generally pass on guys who do not state their rate up front. I do not like to play games nor haggle.

 

However, if a guy really intrigues me I check to see if there are any reviews of him (as one part of most reviews concerns the fee).

 

If I still come up with nothing more than "ask me," and I am STILL interested, I write a short note expressing my interest, desires etc... and the time I expect for the encounter, and ask him for a figure. Some are more than happy to give it, and my experience is that rarely is the figure out of the ballpark.

 

However in some states there have been police stings and other problems and so some guys are very shy and reserved about such questions. It is a no-win situation because most clients want to know the FEE up front before they book the guy. He does not want to quote a fee for fear of being stung in a prostitution-ring set-up. Clarke County NV comes to mind in this...

[+ Gar1eth]

I don't usually like the 'Ask Me' guys for several reasons. One of them being that I've noticed that a lot of the scammers seem to use it. Another reason is because I'd rather know ahead of time. But I'm sure in the 11-1/2 years that I've been hiring I've seen a few who had 'Ask Me ' for their fees. But it's not my first choice.

 

But on the dreaded subject of 'haggling', I have a feeling I'm going to get a lot of flack for this. But I don't see what's so wrong with a discussion of fees. That doesn't mean if an escort's fee is 350, I ask for a session for 200. But when talking with guys for a weekend or overnight ( when I was working and could do that)- especially if you are flying them to you- I can remember times where it seemed like the escort might be just over my limit. But if I explained to them how much the plane fare was, the hotel (I usually had overnights away from where I lived in a city with fun things to do), some of the activities I might be planning which might be on the more expensive side, and miscellaneous incidentals. Often if the guy liked what I had planned, he might change his fee a bit. Or even on a local or visiting escort, often they would be willing to work with you if you were interested in a two or three hour session. I mean when you consider that when I first started hiring in 2002, $180 per hour was considered a normal fee - sometimes even down to $150 per hour. And these were good escorts not fly by nights from Craig's List or Backpage. And then when you figure that fees today are routinely 150-160% higher than the fees in 2002- well I'm no economics major or statistician, but I wonder what other fees have increased so much over an 11-1/2 year period. So I think it's fine if people aren't into a give and take on escort fees- and in probably the majority of times for a local hire, I'm not either. On the other hand, in certain situations, I don't see what's wrong with it. Sometimes I wasn't even the one who initiated the discussion. The escort himself would ask what I thought was fair.

 

And I must also point out- the escort always had the last word. If they weren't interested, then that was fine. I thanked them for their time, and said I was sorry we couldn't work things out.

 

Gman

[uwsman2]

After one bad "ask me" experience, I decided never to do it again. I was browsing the ads late on a Sunday morning when I had a free afternoon and a yen for hot cock and muscles, and when calls to my first few choices went unanswered, I decided to call an enticing "ask me" ad. The guy quoted an absurd fee and I said that was too rich for me and we ended the call. Then he called me back a few minutes later and offered a lower fee that was within my limits and I made the appointment. He turned out to be a hot guy, but it was clear that for the fee he quoted me he was going to try to get me off and out of his apartment as fast as possible, and the experience was unsatisfying. So I said to myself "never again."

[+ poolboy48220]

After one bad "ask me" experience, I decided never to do it again. I was browsing the ads late on a Sunday morning when I had a free afternoon and a yen for hot cock and muscles, and when calls to my first few choices went unanswered, I decided to call an enticing "ask me" ad. The guy quoted an absurd fee and I said that was too rich for me and we ended the call. Then he called me back a few minutes later and offered a lower fee that was within my limits and I made the appointment. He turned out to be a hot guy, but it was clear that for the fee he quoted me he was going to try to get me off and out of his apartment as fast as possible, and the experience was unsatisfying. So I said to myself "never again."

That's always been my thoughts about haggling. If I ask for a lower price, I'm going to get less than their best effort.

[Decatur Guy]

I'm not a fan of the "Ask Me." However, I have called up a few escorts before and asked. I keep it simple: "When are you generally available and what is your hourly fee?" They tell me and I thank them. I don't try to negotiate.

 

I will continue the conversation if the price is in my budget, but the "Ask Me" guys are generally too high for me. I think I might have hired an "Ask Me" guy at some point, though. Overall, I much prefer the escorts who provide their rates.

[thickornotatall]

ask me is something like "guess who?" eyes covered....If someone doesn't know what their time is worth..I'm not about to tell them....or we could start at $100 for me....a real waste of time...putting you on the offense is never a good idea...NEXT!

[down_to_business]

Count me among those that find "ask me" a tell-tale sign of a time waster and someone I would rather not deal with to begin with. It's plain and simple, post your damn rates and spare us all the tricks, games, and excuses.

[imrthr]

ask me is something like "guess who?" eyes covered....If someone doesn't know what their time is worth..I'm not about to tell them....or we could start at $100 for me....a real waste of time...putting you on the offense is never a good idea...NEXT!

 

 

I agree with what you wrote.

 

However, if one uses rentboy or planetromeo in Europe, the majority of the escorts have the "ask me" nonsense in their ads. This is odd because, in most parts of Europe where I have seen the ads, there is no entrapment exposure.

 

Thus, I cannot help but wonder why escorts pay to advertise only to lose potential clients solely because of the failure to state the price. Could it be the escorts don't know that they are losing clients because of the ask me thing?

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[Steven_Draker]

It's plain and simple, post your damn rates and spare us all the tricks, games, and excuses.

 

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"Post your damn rates, you nasty escorts!" {emphasis added}

 

 

That looks good on paper, DTB, but in reality we all know that escorts who have decided not to post their rates will carry on with not posting their rates.

 

It's like trying to control something you have no control over.

[marylander1940]

I'm not a fan of the "Ask Me." However, I have called up a few escorts before and asked. I keep it simple: "When are you generally available and what is your hourly fee?" They tell me and I thank them. I don't try to negotiate.

 

I will continue the conversation if the price is in my budget, but the "Ask Me" guys are generally too high for me. I think I might have hired an "Ask Me" guy at some point, though. Overall, I much prefer the escorts who provide their rates.

 

I think they want to see how soon do you ask the rate, there's something about the tone of the voice of the guy that tells an escorts if he's serious or not.

 

Now about "When are you usually available?" It's impossible to predict, every day is different. As it was spoken about on here a few weeks ago, sometimes escorts wonder whether to go out and have dinner with friends because the phone could ring and the evening could change in a second.

[Epigonos]

I would prefer that an escort list his rates in his ad but “ASK ME” is definitely NOT a deal breaker for me. I simply email the escort, inform him that I am interested in getting with him for lunch or dinner and a couple of hours of play time and ask what his fee would be. If the amount he asks is within my range I continue setting up a meeting. If his fee is beyond my range I tell him so, thank him for the information and apologize for wasting his time. If he responds, as some have, with a different fee I DO NOT answer. I DO NOT BARGIN OR HAGGLE WITH ESCORTS.

[JT Brooklyn]

Ask Me.. No Problem

 

If you can't deal with "Ask Me".. don't forget "Working Guys" have to deal with some Fetishes that go beyond Slam Bam/Bye Bye!

 

IF you are that interested in DOING whoever you will ask!

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

Guys,

 

Here's another viewpoint from the escort perspective. Consider that sometimes the website doesn't allow an escort to put multiple rates for multiple services. In this case, "ask me" is the best way to handle it unless you want to pay the same rate for massage, escorting, social events, travel, having your head stroked, etc. Sometimes it's tough out there for a pimp—er, working boy—and all that 99.9% of us are trying to do is to 1) stand out in a crowd, and 2) make it as easy as possible for you to hire us. The vast majority of us aren't trying to be misleading or screw you. Well, not in THAT way.

 

And keep in mind that many of you don't want to meet for an hour. I'm not sure what all the uproar is about posted or unposted rates when many of you will ask what the rate is for 2, 3 and 4-hour (or longer) appointments anyway. Pretty much everyone assumes that an extended appointment is going to be a different rate than x number of hours times the base hourly rate. But unless you ask, you don't know.

 

Seriously, I think everyone in both sides needs to learn to be a little more flexible and patient with each other, myself included. It's far too easy to fall into "they are going to cheat me" mode based on one or two negative experiences. That's not to say you can't or shouldn't hire smart. IMHO, asking an escort about rates and services (even when this information is already posted) allows you to gauge his ability to communicate clearly and to make you feel comfortable and enthusiastic about hiring him for what should be a fun time together.

[cokimstr61]

I contacted an escort off Rentboy over a year ago who advertised twice, as a masseur and an escort. Both ads stated "ask me" I sent him an email stating I was looking for a 2 hour appointments for a massage and a little play time.

He responded that his rate was $300 for the first hour and $250 for every hour after.

I wrote back thanking him for the info but he was out of my budget.

He responded with "what would be affordable to you, how much do you pay for an erotic massage?"

I told him I see 2 guys in my area one charges $110 the other $150 for 90 min, but I'm not trying to negotiate a price. I just know what I can afford.

He asked if we could talk by phone and after briefly discussing my situation he responded asking if a 2 hour appointment for $250 was doable?

I have seen him at least 20 times over the past year...

Maybe that's what some escorts mean when they post "ask me"