Escort Suitability

[Newly]

Just looking for tips on how to select a new escort. I live in a small town and almost always hire for at least an overnight. This means that there is a good chance that at least a portion of the time will be spent in restaurants, bars, or so forth where there is an excellent chance that I will run into people I know, so it is really important that the escort can be introduced as a business acquaintance or friend. Regardless of any particular traits that I'm looking for in an escort for other reasons, this obviously rules out anyone who is over muscled, has visible tattoos, is too much of a twink and so forth. I guess it's somewhat like a straight guy hiring a female escort - there are definitely some who you don't want to be seen in public with and others who fit right in. Most of this I can guess from looking at the pictures in their ads, but other things like their ability to maintain a conversation are not easy to judge. For example, I have run into this situation with Jake Raleigh when we ran into some work colleagues and he fit right in - and I didn't have to deal with people at work knowing or guessing about the situation. Besides sticking to the few well reviewed escorts where reviewers happen to talk about this (and it normally is not mentioned) are there any tips for things I should be looking for in an ad to make sure that I am selecting the right guy?

[+ Funguy]

You don't say where your small town is near but…

I'm not sure looking in the ad is going to help much except appearance (and, yes, sometimes even that is suspect). But with well-reviewed gentlemen you will be pretty well covered if you speak to them and get a feeling from the conversation you have. You should speak to any prospective hire regardless of any previous emails, texts, etc. There is no substitute for hearing the voice and being honest about your situation. These guys are professionals and they know discretion is important. Hence, good reviews which talk about things other than the sexual experience.

 

Good luck….

 

 

Funguy

[LouieD]

Talking to the guy at length over the telephone is really important. He should be willing to do this for a hire of an overnight or longer. Ask him questions and generally try to get a feel of how he is likely to handle himself in bed and out of bed.

[+ Funguy]

Talking to the guy at length over the telephone is really important. He should be willing to do this for a hire of an overnight or longer. Ask him questions and generally try to get a feel of how he is likely to handle himself in bed and out of bed.

 

Not just an overnight/longer. You should make it a rule to speak to any prospective hire.

[bigvalboy]

Just looking for tips on how to select a new escort. I live in a small town and almost always hire for at least an overnight. This means that there is a good chance that at least a portion of the time will be spent in restaurants, bars, or so forth where there is an excellent chance that I will run into people I know, so it is really important that the escort can be introduced as a business acquaintance or friend. Regardless of any particular traits that I'm looking for in an escort for other reasons, this obviously rules out anyone who is over muscled, has visible tattoos, is too much of a twink and so forth. I guess it's somewhat like a straight guy hiring a female escort - there are definitely some who you don't want to be seen in public with and others who fit right in. Most of this I can guess from looking at the pictures in their ads, but other things like their ability to maintain a conversation are not easy to judge. For example, I have run into this situation with Jake Raleigh when we ran into some work colleagues and he fit right in - and I didn't have to deal with people at work knowing or guessing about the situation. Besides sticking to the few well reviewed escorts where reviewers happen to talk about this (and it normally is not mentioned) are there any tips for things I should be looking for in an ad to make sure that I am selecting the right guy?

 

Newtothis, I would say the answer to that is no. Many escorts, often routinely will say buzz phrases like "well traveled" "well educated" or "I am comfortable in any social situation"...and of course that is not necessarily true. If you are looking for someone that will fit right in if you were to meet colleagues, then a meet and greet would be the only way that I can imagine you would know for sure. Hiring someone that will have to carry themselves properly in delicate social situations, is not something that I would leave to chance. Stick with those that are a little more mature in their appearance, so they are closer to your age, and already have an established reputation for for their abilities socially.

[+ azdr0710]

can you travel to the escort's town and, therefore, not have to worry about running into people you know?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I've been in this situation, and in fact even attended a sporting event knowing I would bump into co-workers. It was easy to say, "this is friend Joe; he's visiting from Florida." If anyone asked how we know each other, I used the truthful (albeit incomplete) response, "we met online." One friend asked which site, and the "I don't remember," reply ended the line of questioning.

[seaboy4hire]

New, if you call an escort to get a feel if there is some compatibility I would like to suggest to email first and set up a time to chat. I can't speak for others but I know during late spring and into fall on my off days from the day job I am running all around the city doing farmers markets, movies in the park or a festival and sometimes all three within a day. So picking up random calls and talking about sexy time in public I am not ok with. Sexy time talk when I am at home and not within ear shot of kids or families is perfect for me.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Michael Wayne]

I find that the site @ http://www.rentmen.com offers an interview with the escort and videos of the escort which give you a better idea of what he will be like. I try to blog on my site alot as well . I also encourage all new clients to call instead of just email or text. Finally, hiring an older escort such as The Legendary Dave or Chris Eisenhower or myself ( or a dozen or so others who are well reviewed here on daddies) who has actually been around corporate America and actually would be believable as a business associate would seem to curtail 99% of potenital problems. http://www.rentmen.com/mikeyusatop

[adriano46]

newtothis... I understand what you are facing and have found myself in the same predicament often enough BUT I have a different approach.

 

1) Since I would be hiring a guy for an overnight, I try to plan the time (usually from early evening until the next morning) so that we can either do some activity outside (and perhaps that might mean away from prying eyes, but there are many possibilities such as a hike, long walk, visiting a museum (if such exists), going to an out-of-the-way but interesting tourist spot. I lived in a very big international capital but knew enough parts of the city that I could find a place to walk, talk, have a coffee or drink outdoors and never really run in to colleagues.

 

2) For meals, I found the most interesting meals were ones I prepared AT HOME. I am a fairly good amateur chef and can please most palates. I ask the escort in advance his preference (especially these days with people who are vegans, eat only gluten-free, etc...). I then work around a nice 3- or 4-course meal in the continental style (decent but not BIG portions, served individually over 90 minutes or so, accompanied by good wine), and by then it is already 9.30 or 10 p.m. and so either we watch a movie on cable, listen to music or simply sit and chat comfortably, take time to shower, and then let the games begin....!!!

 

3) Morning starts with a hot cup of freshly ground coffee served in bed (unless he prefers tea or juice), a little morning play, showers and a nice breakfast before he heads out.

 

By doing all the meals IN I save quite a bit of money and no worries about being seen. It is also more intimate and fun (I have done this in small apartments as well as in a home so the space is not essentially an issue as long as it is comfortable).

 

AND - definitely what others have said, I would NEVER invite a guy for an overnight that I have not already previously met, spoken with, and checked for compatibility.

[Newly]

Guys thank you, this has really helped. The problem with this town is that although it is extremely blue-liberal, it maintains all the class divisions of the South, so none of my friends or colleagues could care less about me being gay, but being with someone outside your social class is a real scandal - which sucks for me because I love being with people as different from me as possible, I learn a lot from that unlike being with a clone. My take away is to make sure I have a phone call first. The 2 hour thing isn't going to work for me, I've done 2 of those and it's just not my thing. However, when I do weekends or overnights I really haven't bothered with phone calls. I don't tend to have a "type" and part of the fun for me was not knowing what to expect. Honestly I don't care much about looks, age, weight, tats, etc. and I guess I've been lucky, I normally find something to like in just about anyone so all of the escorts I have been with have been great people, but in the future unless I am away from home I'll be sure to do a phone call first. I know it seems obvious to you guys but I never really thought about it. That won't do much about knowing if they are too muscled, have their head shaved, etc. but it will help with the other things.

[+ Funguy]

Sometimes we all over-think things. Do whatever works for you and enjoy it. Ahhhhhhhhh, shaved head you say?

 

Ever a Funguy!

[Steven_Draker]

Just looking for tips on how to select a new escort. I live in a small town and almost always hire for at least an overnight. This means that there is a good chance that at least a portion of the time will be spent in restaurants, bars, or so forth where there is an excellent chance that I will run into people I know, so it is really important that the escort can be introduced as a business acquaintance or friend. Regardless of any particular traits that I'm looking for in an escort for other reasons, this obviously rules out anyone who is over muscled, has visible tattoos, is too much of a twink and so forth. I guess it's somewhat like a straight guy hiring a female escort - there are definitely some who you don't want to be seen in public with and others who fit right in. Most of this I can guess from looking at the pictures in their ads, but other things like their ability to maintain a conversation are not easy to judge. For example, I have run into this situation with Jake Raleigh when we ran into some work colleagues and he fit right in - and I didn't have to deal with people at work knowing or guessing about the situation. Besides sticking to the few well reviewed escorts where reviewers happen to talk about this (and it normally is not mentioned) are there any tips for things I should be looking for in an ad to make sure that I am selecting the right guy?

 

If you don't want to be seen in public with an escort: don't hire one, or stick to the comfort of your home.

 

You cannot control what others might think: if you have a problem being seen in public and you can't deal with it; the answer is simple: don't do it.

[Newly]

A bit passive agressive today aren't we? Some people have a social position to maintain and can be seen with an educated well mannered escort but not a trashy one. Is that simple enough for you to understand?

[Steven_Draker]

can be seen with an educated well mannered escort but not with a trashy one

 

Define a "trashy escort", please.

[rvwnsd]

If you don't want to be seen in public with an escort: don't hire one, or stick to the comfort of your home.

 

You cannot control what others might think: if you have a problem being seen in public and you can't deal with it; the answer is simple: don't do it.

 

Steven, you said was I was thinking.

 

A bit passive agressive [sic] today aren't we?...

 

I can't tell whether you are being sarcastic or simply do not know the meaning of the phrase "passive aggressive." Steven's comment was very direct, not passive-aggressive.

 

...Some people have a social position to maintain and can be seen with an educated well mannered escort but not a trashy one. Is that simple enough for you to understand?

 

Exactly how does one determine whether a person walking down the street is educated? I hire a guy on a fairly frequent basis. He is an artist and a writer. He has walked into my home wearing a suit and tie and on other occasions wearing a tank top cut such that his nipples and chest hair were showing. How would you classify this escort?

[jimboivyo]

If you don't want to be seen in public with an escort: don't hire one, or stick to the comfort of your home.

 

You cannot control what others might think: if you have a problem being seen in public and you can't deal with it; the answer is simple: don't do it.

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spoken like the class act that Draker is. a very on point post

 

you can't have it both ways: either man up and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks or make it clear to the escort that you're hiding him away due to whatever issues you have with identity

 

I've got a 'social position' in a couple of cities I live in but don't give two shits about what folks think if I'm seen with younger, muscular men