Ever been insulted by somone trying to hit on you?

[+ FreshFluff]

I was walking down the street today heard some a tall, maybe 20-year-old guy next to me saying something. In NYC, the best way to shake off people like this is to ignore them, which is what I did.

 

Him: Walking that fast should be illegal.

Me: Mmm-hmm [keeps walking]

Him: Are you usually this friendly?

Me: [Nothing]

Him: Do you speak English?

Me: [no response, kind of shakes head]

Him: You're old! [He walks away]

 

I know he was trying to make me feel insecure, and it worked.

 

I've been feeling insecure lately anyway, a feeling that comes and goes. When I was in NYC 2 months ago, I got lots of looks but now feel like fewer guys are looking. In late November (and before that), I was sometimes mistaken for a student at the university where I teach. So I wonder if I've aged suddenly over the last month or two. I was going to go in for an acid peel anyway, but this made me decide to do it ASAP.

 

Wondering if anyone else has been insulted by a guy who tried (unsuccessfully) to hit on you?

[bomerrang]

Him: Walking that fast should be illegal.

Me: Mmm-hmm [keeps walking]

Him: Are you usually this friendly?

Me: [Nothing]

Him: Do you speak English?

Me: [no response, kind of shakes head]

Him: You're old! [He walks away]

 

I know he was trying to make me feel insecure, and it worked.

 

Sounds like you are secure, don't let 'hitters' bug you!

[bigvalboy]

I love the line from Him, "Do you speak English?" ....I don't think at that point I could have kept silent, I would have had to say something. Lucky for him that you're a lady. As to feeling insecure, why would you let a stranger make you feel that way? I say after the acid peel, go buy yourself a cute top at Neimans, then go have an early dinner at Per Se, and order a nice glass of merlot. See.....just thinking about doing that probably made you feel better.

[+ poolboy48220]

"You're old" is the best he could muster? He's no Oscar Wilde.

[geoffk]

he would have pissed me off with the " are you usually this friendly?" i met maybe an equally abrasive young guy at a club in tampa last year. Only thing is i didn't totally ignore him. we ended up spending most of the evening talking and drinking together.

[+ Gar1eth]

I'd like to be able to help you out, Fresh. The phrase 'me being hit on' - while the individual words sound like they should be English, when I say them all together, all I get is 'white noise' in my brain. And so I have no comprehension of the phrase at all. Past the 'white noise' I may possibly hear some faint hysterical laughter. But I have no idea what that is about.

 

Gman

[thickornotatall]

A few days ago I had a response from a guy I was curious about...we chatted a bit and I decided he was not for me...he continued to contact me...bombard me with questions..and letting me know what a catch he was...I never responded..the very last comment from him was..."you are old"....my response was "if you live as long as I am old..you will be very fortunate"...

[+ FreshFluff]

I love the line from Him, "Do you speak English?" ....I don't think at that point I could have kept silent, I would have had to say something. Lucky for him that you're a lady. As to feeling insecure, why would you let a stranger make you feel that way? I say after the acid peel, go buy yourself a cute top at Neimans, then go have an early dinner at Per Se, and order a nice glass of merlot. See.....just thinking about doing that probably made you feel better.

 

I felt like saying something like, "Then why the f*** are you hitting on me?" Actually, there was something else I was going to say, but I won't repeat it hear. But it's dangerous to talk back on the streets of NYC; my mom always worries about that.

 

As for being insecure, I've always been that way. I kind of rely on attention for the looks component of my self esteem.

 

"You're old" is the best he could muster? He's no Oscar Wilde.

 

A few days ago I had a response from a guy I was curious about...we chatted a bit and I decided he was not for me...he continued to contact me...bombard me with questions..and letting me know what a catch he was...I never responded..the very last comment from him was..."you are old"....my response was "if you live as long as I am old..you will be very fortunate"...

 

Hmm, looks like this is the default insult these types use. Good insult, but I'm still in my 30s so haven't lived long enough yet to dish that one out!

 

On the first day of classes last fall, I told the students that teaching keeps me young. I was actually serious, but they laughed at me. My TA told me I need another 10 years before that kind of comment is credible.

[+ FreshFluff]

he would have pissed me off with the " are you usually this friendly?" i met maybe an equally abrasive young guy at a club in tampa last year. Only thing is i didn't totally ignore him. we ended up spending most of the evening talking and drinking together.

 

"Are you usually this friendly?" was likely taken from the Game, a book on pick up artistry that was popular a few years ago. Forums that discuss PUA techniques often recommend the opener "Are you friendly?"

 

The book also recommends "Negs," backhanded insults to bring the target down a peg or two. Those are supposed to be used on 9s or 10s only, not on women who are already insecure!

[bigvalboy]

I felt like saying something like, "Then why the f*** are you hitting on me?" Actually, there was something else I was going to say, but I won't repeat it hear. But it's dangerous to talk back on the streets of NYC; my mom always worries about that.

 

As for being insecure, I've always been that way. I kind of rely on attention for the looks component of my self esteem.

 

 

 

 

 

Hmm, looks like this is the default insult these types use. Good insult, but I'm still in my 30s so haven't lived long enough yet to dish that one out!

 

On the first day of classes last fall, I told the students that teaching keeps me young. I was actually serious, but they laughed at me. My TA told me I need another 10 years before that kind of comment is credible.

 

Your mother is a smart woman....

[BaronArtz]

I find it annoying and insulting when women hit on me. Happens all the time in the gym. One of them (I thought she was just a friend) actually emailed me a pic of her shaved p***y. I mean, that was INSULTING.

[jimboivyo]

at the end of it, it was your insecurity about your age that made this thing fester

 

you're going to age and you can't stop that. no acid peel, botox, whatever is going to prevent you getting older. Coming from this 60+ fella, I suggest accepting it within yourself and feeling confident about life ahead

 

there comes a time when folks hit on us less and less. hell, it's a reason I started hiring escorts in the first place

[+ FreshFluff]

I find it annoying and insulting when women hit on me. Happens all the time in the gym. One of them (I thought she was just a friend) actually emailed me a pic of her shaved p***y. I mean, that was INSULTING.

 

Do these women know you are gay? In any case, I'd be insulted if anyone sent me a picture of their genitals.

 

BTW, that's a nice tie you're wearing.

[JT Brooklyn]

I was walking down the street today heard some a tall, maybe 20-year-old guy next to me saying something. In NYC, the best way to shake off people like this is to ignore them, which is what I did.

 

Him: Walking that fast should be illegal.

Me: Mmm-hmm [keeps walking]

Him: Are you usually this friendly?

Me: [Nothing]

Him: Do you speak English?

Me: [no response, kind of shakes head]

Him: You're old! [He walks away]

 

I know he was trying to make me feel insecure, and it worked.

 

I've been feeling insecure lately anyway, a feeling that comes and goes. When I was in NYC 2 months ago, I got lots of looks but now feel like fewer guys are looking. In late November (and before that), I was sometimes mistaken for a student at the university where I teach. So I wonder if I've aged suddenly over the last month or two. I was going to go in for an acid peel anyway, but this made me decide to do it ASAP.

 

Wondering if anyone else has been insulted by a guy who tried (unsuccessfully) to hit on you?

 

"Time Marches On"..ya better get used to it OR it will seem to go even faster!

[Steven_Draker]

Good insult, but I'm still in my 30s ...

 

Don't worry now, when you're REALLY old, nobody will even look at you, forget about hitting on you.

 

[+ FreshFluff]

Good insult' date=' but I'm still in my 30s ...[/quote']

 

Don't worry now, when you're REALLY old, nobody will even look at you, forget about hitting on you.

 

I was referring to thickornotatall's comeback, which only works if someone if someone has lived a long time:

 

A few days ago I had a response from a guy I was curious about...we chatted a bit and I decided he was not for me...he continued to contact me...bombard me with questions..and letting me know what a catch he was...I never responded..the very last comment from him was..."you are old"....my response was "if you live as long as I am old..you will be very fortunate"...

[+ FreshFluff]

there comes a time when folks hit on us less and less. hell, it's a reason I started hiring escorts in the first place

 

You're right, jimbo. It must be tough on escorts too, though less so if they are in demand for topping as well as bottoming.

 

"Time Marches On"

 

And the leaves that are gree-eeen turn to....

[instudiocity]

I love simple replies to stupid insults:

 

You're FAT! -> I can afford to be. or I can LOSE weight, let's start with you!

 

You're too OLD! -> Yep, Sonny, and God willing you won't be!

You're UGLY! -> A take-off on a classic but I still love it, "Ugly is only skin deep, but Asshole runs completely through you."

[bigvalboy]

I love simple replies to stupid insults:

 

You're FAT! -> I can afford to be. or I can LOSE weight, let's start with you!

 

You're too OLD! -> Yep, Sonny, and God willing you won't be!

You're UGLY! -> A take-off on a classic but I still love it, "Ugly is only skin deep, but Asshole runs completely through you."

 

Hilarious stuff ISC....

 

Or: You're FAT, "I know, but I can always lose weight, but YOU...."You can't fix stupid"

 

( "You Can't Fix Stupid" by Ron White)

 

 

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fL6wbsGx9qw

[+ FreshFluff]

Conversation between Churchill and some socialite:

 

Bessie Braddock: “Sir, you are drunk.”

Churchill: “Madam, you are ugly. In the morning, I shall be sober.”

[instudiocity]

Hope you're feeling better, ff...

[nate_sf]

I know he was trying to make me feel insecure, and it worked.

 

Don't forget that this all started with him trying to hit on you, so you should feel the opposite of insecure. He wanted you, so take it as a compliment. His attempts at insults were only because you were not reciprocating, and he was trying to save face.

 

I remember when I was a teenager I was walking through the local Macy's and a handsome young guy selling skin products tried to pull me over to market his products. "Have you considered some skin care products?" he asked. I was shy and intimidated, and insecure about my sexuality, so the best I could do is say "no" and keep walking. "Well you SHOULD!" he called after me in a loud shrill voice. I was mortified, but who knows... he probably had me picked out as family, maybe he was trying to hit on me, or maybe he was just trying to sell skin care products to anyone who was walking past.

 

If you're anything like my older sisters, the older they get the more they get hit on by younger guys. There's something to be said for an older woman who looks smart and well put together.

[+ FreshFluff]

Nate, thanks for the sweet response. As for that jerk at Macys, pretty funny that he was trying to sell anti-aging skin care products to a teenager! As for yoI don't notice that any particular age group hits on me more than another. There are just more youngsters out and about in certain areas.

 

Hope you're feeling better, ff...

 

Yeah, it's just that there's something about random people intruding on my "space" or interacting with me against my will that bothers me. It always happens after I get back to NY from the midwest. I get used to it after a few weeks.

 

But talk about creepy: I was eating at a bar table in a restaurant on Sunday. (It's Restaurant Week.) A straight couple in their 30s is seated in the dining room, facing me. I notice the guy is trying to make eye contact with me while his girlfriend is taking. He's not my type plus he's taken, so I go back to reading my iPad. When the food arrives, I look up and see that he's still making eyes while she's grabbing his hand. Finally, I hear the girlfriend say "a**hole." She then storms out, pushing right past me, nearly knocking my bag off the back of the chair. He stays behind for a few seconds and makes eyes again, while I ignore him. Finally, he follows her out, while she continues to walk a few paces ahead of him.

 

Normally, I'd say women are overly sensitive to men's ogling. Ogling is innate and all men do it. It doesn't mean that they prefer the person they're looking at over the partner. Some men need to learn to be more subtle about it, though.

 

However, this guy was a complete asshole to a woman who clearly liked him. It reminds me that a guy can do the same thing to me.