Tipping

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Starbuck - Welcome to the Forum.

 

I'm regularly a tipper - but not every time. I'm always prepared to tip, but don't make that decision until I'm leaving.

[Guest Starbuck]

Thanks for the welcome, Sam ... and thanks to all of you who shared your opinions and experience. I know I'll be INCLINED to tip if it's a good experience so I'm thinking I'll at least go with Sam's advice and be prepared. I do have the impression from many of you (with experience) who DON'T tip, that there's not that awkward moment of a guy lingering awkwardly (you know, like the movie stereotype of an untipped bellhop). I guess I also should have asked if it is customary to pay at the beginning or at the end ... as when I began the thread, sorry for the novice question. (The good news is that I'm more nervous about these details than I am about doing this for the first time. Just wish I was in at least half as good shape as the guy I'm looking forward to being with.) -- Starbuck

[tom1980]

You'll get lots of different opinions on tipping around here. The important thing is to figure out what makes you feel comfortable. If you need to give a tip to feel happy, then do it. If giving a tip would make you feel cheated because the guy didn't meet your expectations, don't do it.

 

Personally, I usually tip for exceptional service or when the escort is not watching the clock and we go over on time. However, when I'm meeting a guy for the first time, I usually only carry the amount of the fee on me because if it turns out to be a set up of some sort, I don't want to lose any more money that I have to. Overall, I probably tip about 15-20% of the time, and I very rarely tip guys who I haven't seen before. Figure out your own system. Also remember that if the escort is upset about not receiving a tip, he probably isn't a guy you'd want to see again anyway.

[tyro]

Pay at the END. Do not EVER pay in advance. If a guy asks you to pay in advance, he doesn't really want to see you. Even if you end up meeting him, it may not go well. Just my two cents.

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[tom1980]

I do have the impression from many of you (with experience) who DON'T tip, that there's not that awkward moment of a guy lingering awkwardly (you know, like the movie stereotype of an untipped bellhop). I guess I also should have asked if it is customary to pay at the beginning or at the end ... as when I began the thread, sorry for the novice question.

 

I've never had an awkward moment of the guy waiting for a tip. Also, you almost always want to pay at the end. I say almost always because there might be circumstances I haven't thought of when it would be okay to pay at the beginning. I've paid at the beginning before, and it has never been a good experience. My advice (which is supported by many others around here) is to avoid guys who demand payment up front.

[tom1980]

Tyro -- Tried responding to your pm, but I'm told you can't receive any more messages because you've reached your PM quota. Sorry to everyone else for hijacking the thread for a personal note.

[+ azdr0710]

politely tell your guy ahead of time that you'll be paying at the end of the meeting....and that you don't want to talk about money at all during the meeting....he almost certainly will not put his hand out at the end like in the movies!!!....just put the fee in an envelope (beforehand) and then hand it to him at the end with a "thank you for your time".....plus more at the time if you want to tip....if he does the old "let's take care of business" at the beginning of the meet, remind him that you are good for it and you'd said you'll be paying at the end.....if your guy is well-reviewed here and all that, you won't have a problem!!!

[unsub2O17]

Star, I SO know how you feel. I was there just 18 months ago, but look at me now!! I enjoy tipping. It's my way of saying "thank YOU". I tend to leave a fixed amount over the asked-for rate which comes out to between 10 and 20 percent. Also, I quite often go to a lot of time and expense to see an escort that I want to meet or repeat with (I'm about to drive 7 hours each way for one appointment and 8 hours each way for another appointment just a week later--good thing I like driving). I have never been asked for the fee up front. I usually leave it (after I'm dressed and shortly before I or the escort leaves) on a table clearly in sight. Some escorts like it handed to them. Others don't. Have a blast. I sure did (and still do)!

[Epigonos]

Regarding the matter of when to pay an escort I am most definitely the odd man out on this one. Around here it is standard procedure to pay an escort at the end of an encounter and I definitely agree that it is the safest way to operate. Now with that said I must admit that I have always given an escort an envelope with his fee right after we meet. If I am meeting a guy for the first time I even encourage him to count the money to be sure I haven't shorted him. I have NEVER had a problem operating this way but I've probably just been lucky. My only defense is that I ONLY hire guys with multiple outstanding reviews on this site.

[Tighty]

If you pay in advance I assume you don't tip afterwards? And how do you give the, the money? With cash in envelope or just cash (like paying cab driver)?

[Tighty]

And omg why do newbies get such ugly black circle under their name?

[+ bigjoey]

The ugly black circle is to encourage you to post more to get to the next level and a different color!

[JT Brooklyn]

There have been a few occasions over the year's where the Working Guy has just about been out the door and I remembered he hadn't received his "Thank You" Yet! I call those a "Satisfied Time" Working Guy!

 

I have also over the Year's Paid Up Front with No Problems. "Lucky Me" ...

[bigvalboy]

(are the hot pizza delivery men still making passes at you when they arrive with dinner?) - you might consider a further suggestion of maxing out your credit cards and writing a check that won't clear before the last day. And yes i realize that this suggestion requires a bit of luck and reasonably accurate estimating to pull off

 

I am sad to report that I failed miserably in my attempt at seducing the delivery boy. It was Dominos Pizza, and I was gaining weight faster than I was making headway with the seduction. At the rate I was going, I calculated that by the time I got him in bed I would be well over 400 lbs...

 

AND yes FF, as far as my 'last days' are concerned, a plan is essential....lol...there will be a new car, around-the-world cruise, and a blowout pool party with 10 of my favorite escorts, all on the Amex card...but as you say, timing will be everything....

[+ azdr0710]

And omg why do newbies get such ugly black circle under their name?

 

see?....now you're brown already!

[+ azdr0710]

a plan is essential....lol...there will be a new car, around-the-world cruise, and a blowout pool party with 10 of my favorite escorts, all on the Amex card...

 

 

that is exquisite estate planning, BVB.......living trusts and living wills, transfer-on-death accounts, real estate inheritance, medical powers of attorney are SO overrated!

[bigvalboy]

that is exquisite estate planning, BVB.......living trusts and living wills, transfer-on-death accounts, real estate inheritance, medical powers of attorney are SO overrated!

 

lol lol..but azdr, estate planning with living trusts and wills, real estate inheritance, and medical powers of attorney are for people who have people who love them...I on the other hand......so what better way to spend my last days by laying around a pool with 10 of the hottest escorts you can imagine, fondling you and whispering endearing thoughts in your ear.... Actually come to think of it, that would be a good thread: "List 10 escorts you would most likely enjoy spending the last weekend of your life with"

[Jaker27]

I hope the meeting goes well....smile, take it slow and easy, chat him up but don't ramble, offer some water or a beer....keep you eye on the clock and make sure all of A, B, and C get done!.....

 

if the meet was entirely fine, I'll leave a few extra dollars and my trademark Trader Joe's gift card for $25 or so...most love it and it might remind them of me later on when they use it....one bodybuilder I used to see requested a Benihana's gift card so he could go get an all-you-can-eat sushi meal afterwards...he also liked cans of tuna....

I used to get $200 Neiman Marcus gift cards. Then after about 5 cards worth I'd go there and use them to buy a couple nice shirts.

 

FYI this is not a boast but more a dig at Nieman Marcus.

[Tighty]

see?....now you're brown already!

 

Brown, the color of shit. Something I'm afraid would show up unannounced when I finally do it. > <

 

So how do I hand over the tip? Pull out my wallet and hand him the cash? Or do it like tipping the doorman? Shake hand with money in hand?

[smendez1942]

Nieman's has been around for as long as they have for a reason: Quality product, great service.

 

Don't dig at something just because you don't want to (or can't) pay the price. Anyone who's been shopping knows what NM is selling.

 

As for tipping- Do it or don't do it. It's up to you. There's no rule to the act and being cheap just for cheap's sake is idiotic. Then again, being a spendthrift for no other reason than to show off is also pretty douchey.

[Jaker27]

Nieman's has been around for as long as they have for a reason: Quality product, great service.

 

Don't dig at something just because you don't want to (or can't) pay the price. Anyone who's been shopping knows what NM is selling.

 

As for tipping- Do it or don't do it. It's up to you. There's no rule to the act and being cheap just for cheap's sake is idiotic. Then again, being a spendthrift for no other reason than to show off is also pretty douchey.

Yeah, places like Neiman Marcus are one of the few that wasn't effected in the recession but actually saw their profits go up.

 

I've been there (Beverly Hills location) quite a few times but the most entertaining thing for me is watching the other customers and checking out all the luxury vehicles in the valet parking lot that you have to wade through to get to the store entrance.

[+ azdr0710]

So how do I hand over the tip? Pull out my wallet and hand him the cash? Or do it like tipping the doorman? Shake hand with money in hand?

 

 

pre-stuff an envelope with the regular fee so that chore is done before the meet....at the end, if you want to tip, just add it to the envelope while he's in the bathroom or putting his shoes on and then hand it to him with a hearty thanks.....that silly shaking hands thing (!) is only in the movies

[+ azdr0710]

I used to get $200 Neiman Marcus gift cards. Then after about 5 cards worth I'd go there and use them to buy a couple nice shirts.

 

FYI this is not a boast but more a dig at Nieman Marcus.

 

 

you make feel so.....so cheap.....next time it's a $5 In N Out gift card for you, you ungrateful bastard.....(just kidding!!!!)....

[down_to_business]

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So how do I hand over the tip? Pull out my wallet and hand him the cash? Or do it like tipping the doorman? Shake hand with money in hand?

 

I recommend changing the tip into singles and then stuff the 1$ bills into his drawers one at a time.

[MrBigTL]

One only tips when the provider does not receive fair compensation for their work or full compensation. If a massage provider works for a company and is only paid hourly or on a percentage basis then yes tip, hairdressers the same rule applies, one does not tip the owner of the shop as he or she receives the full amount of the payment. We don't tip professionals who set their own prices, thus I do not tip escorts. Now if the escort works for an agency then a tip would be appropriate; however, I personally refuse to use an agency for escorts, so it is never an issue as far as I am concerned.