Size Matters!

[Atlantagaguy]

How important is the size of your companion’s penis! What if you found someone that you totally enjoyed being with socially, he was your perfect match, and when you’re with him you know you want to be with him for a life time? The only problem is his penis is either too small or too large for you to have a complete sexual experience? Do you move on or do you find a way to make it work?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I would hope I would find a way to make it work. As an example, I look to a close friend who is a total bottom. He fell in love two years ago with another bottom and have been living together quite happily the last year. While he admits that there are activities he tries to convince his partner to do without success, the sexual activities they do engage in are fantastic.

[maxwellissmart]

How important is the size of your companion’s penis! What if you found someone that you totally enjoyed being with socially, he was your perfect match, and when you’re with him you know you want to be with him for a life time? The only problem is his penis is either too small or too large for you to have a complete sexual experience? Do you move on or do you find a way to make it work?

 

A complete sexual experience for some is an incomplete sexual experience for others. If these questions are coming up early in a relationship and you're wondering if you're going to have to "settle" for less than you want—be prepared to make some difficult decisions later.

[Atlantagaguy]

A complete sexual experience for some is an incomplete sexual experience for others. If these questions are coming up early in a relationship and you're wondering if you're going to have to "settle" for less than you want—be prepared to make some difficult decisions later.

 

Max, the answer I am looking for is how important is sex to a relationship that would be solid otherwise. I personally would be totally happy just sucking cock, kissing, foreplay, rimming as far as cock size it would not matter. I would not care if I had anal sex if I met the right person. I was wondering if others agreed.

[tyro]

If you are totally happy, then you are totally happy. Period. We all have sex acts that others do that don't interest us at all. Problems happen when people's sexual tastes change, though. Bigger problems arise when sex acts that you DO want aren't happening, or aren't happening well enough or frequently enough. Then, as Max said, the difficult decisions happen.

T

[bigvalboy]

Max, the answer I am looking for is how important is sex to a relationship that would be solid otherwise. I personally would be totally happy just sucking cock, kissing, foreplay, rimming as far as cock size it would not matter. I would not care if I had anal sex if I met the right person. I was wondering if others agreed.

 

I agree 100 percent. Excellent thought for a thread...As I age I realize that for me, finding the right companion and partner is more important than hiring for the perfect sex partner. Which is why, despite the several decades I have spent hiring, I suddenly realize that it is not the sex that is my priority anymore, but rather my priority is now finding the right person. I would gladly give up aspects of sex that I have enjoyed in the past for the right person...

[orbital sander]

In all honesty, I have always been more interested in the person, so the equipment really does not matter...unless it is just recreation and nothing else.

[maxwellissmart]

I would gladly give up aspects of sex that I have enjoyed in the past for the right person...

 

In all honesty, I have always been more interested in the person, so the equipment really does not matter...unless it is just recreation and nothing else.

 

I've tried both of these attitudes and it not realistic for me. I'd rather be single than in a relationship that I don't find sexually satisfying or fulfilling. Honestly, I can't imagine even getting past the first time or two with someone who is a bad kisser or doesn't like oral or anal sex, because it directly influences how I view that person in romantic/sexual possibilities. One of the absolute best things about escorting is I get to try on all sorts of clients to see what I like and explore what I find exciting. Ten years ago I was solely into daddy-types and bottoming and never would have considered someone with a smaller body-type than me, or someone who is younger. Now I'm finding that's exactly what I want sexually, and it's awesome—client or otherwise. I've had three clients in the past 3 months who just brought every ounce of sexual enjoyment out of me, and all three were similar body types and all three did everything I wanted to do. A huge plus was that they were excited to do it.

 

I think it's great if someone can find another person who is "right" in enough ways to overlook what's not available. But again, this is one of the biggest reasons I see clients.

[bigvalboy]

How important is the size of your companion’s penis! What if you found someone that you totally enjoyed being with socially, he was your perfect match, and when you’re with him you know you want to be with him for a life time? The only problem is his penis is either too small or too large for you to have a complete sexual experience? Do you move on or do you find a way to make it work?

 

Excellent thread Atlanta...It's beautiful outside and I just got back from a long walk...your thread got me thinking about my life. It is an interesting thought, and one that needs serious consideration. Years ago I decided against a relationship with someone. He didn't bottom and at the time it was a deal breaker. Thinking about him this morning, it might have been the biggest mistake of my life. It was a nice time for reflection this morning, and for perhaps a peek into the future of years to come, and what I really want out of the rest of my life. I think once and awhile it is good to step back and reflect quietly on questions like the one you put forth.

[tyro]

No more PM's, B?

T

[bigvalboy]

No more PM's, B?

T

 

LOL LOL....Not a good idea for now. I am in a foul mood, I am not good company right now and I am all pissy and shit. I just don't think you want to hear this ol queen bitch and complain about every little thing that goes on...You are young and full of life, there are plenty here to talk to...me? I got nothin to give! Luv ya tho "T" seriously, your the best. It's rare to find someone of your quality....someday after my next jaunt perhaps, but just don't see a need to bring you down with my silly BS For now, just remember, keep it real girl...Hugs OOOXXX BVB

[tyro]

OK sweets. I will NOT absorb your funk! Promise!

T

[Edward]

Size matters. I dated a great guy. He was totally into me. Personalities were a great match. Problem: He was really small. It just did not work for me. I could not be totally commited to him. He was just not satisfying in that bedroom. If he would have been average we would be together today.

[instudiocity]

I suddenly realize that it is not the sex that is my priority anymore, but rather my priority is now finding the right person. I would gladly give up aspects of sex that I have enjoyed in the past for the right person...

Presence is the greatest PRESENT.

[bigvalboy]

Presence is the greatest PRESENT.

 

So true. Amazing how much can be said with so few words....

[robberbaron4u]

Size is a secondary consideration for me after perfection of proportion; some of the "big ones", in my opinion, are "freak show" material.

[instudiocity]

So true. Amazing how much can be said with so few words....

 

Thanks! BVB - It has become my motto. I also like to say, "I'm more concerned with what's between your ears and what's behind your tits, than what's between your legs, we can figure the bottom half out if you the top half set-up right."

[down_to_business]

If it's big enough to have been in JJ's mouth... ewwwww!

[bigvalboy]

Thanks! BVB - It has become my motto. I also like to say, "I'm more concerned with what's between your ears and what's behind your tits, than what's between your legs, we can figure the bottom half out if you the top half set-up right."

 

I just wrote that one down. I think I always really felt that way, but often it takes someone else saying it, to remind us of what is really important in this world.

[EZEtoGRU]

What a fascinating thread. Like some others have mentioned, it really does cause one to think. I'm not going to lie, I greatly prefer "size" in the bedroom. I believe strongly in monogamous romantic relationships. If i commit to someone, i expect the bedroom activity to be just he and me.....for as long as the relationship exists. I don't think I could commit myself to a 1:1 emotional/sexual relationship with someone that wasn't at least larger than average. I don't require huge (although that is nice), but less than 6 inches just doesn't work for me. My eye would start wandering pretty quickly. Perhaps not a nice thing to admit, but at least I am being honest. I know myself too well.

[instudiocity]

What a fascinating thread. Like some others have mentioned, it really does cause one to think. I'm not going to lie, I greatly prefer "size" in the bedroom. I believe strongly in monogamous romantic relationships. If i commit to someone, i expect the bedroom activity to be just he and me.....for as long as the relationship exists. I don't think I could commit myself to a 1:1 emotional/sexual relationship with someone that wasn't at least larger than average. I don't require huge (although that is nice), but less than 6 inches just doesn't work for me. My eye would start wandering pretty quickly. Perhaps not a nice thing to admit, but at least I am being honest. I know myself too well.

A nice thing to admit before you start, a horrible thing to admit during the divorce. ;-)

[jjkrkwood]

Size is a secondary consideration for me after perfection of proportion; some of the "big ones", in my opinion, are "freak show" material.

 

Hell YEAH !!!!!!

[EZEtoGRU]

A nice thing to admit before you start, a horrible thing to admit during the divorce. ;-)

 

I agree 100%. I wouldn't go past the first fuck without confronting the situation. There was an episode from Sex and the City where Samantha was in a relationship with a very hot guy. Very handsome. Treated her really well. They totally connected on an emotional level. She liked him a lot. There was only one "small" problem which she did not speak openly with him about. They finally went to counseling (he felt she couldnt totally commit to him) and she eventually blurted out: "I need a big dick". Ok this was a fictional TV show but I think it likely rings true for some people....like me. Well for me I would blurt out "I need a larger than average dick!!"

[jjkrkwood]

If it's big enough to have been in JJ's mouth... ewwwww!

 

My condolences that you are not MAN enough OR equipped enough to handle it .... BIG is "da bomb"....

[Samai139]

How important is the size of your companion’s penis! What if you found someone that you totally enjoyed being with socially, he was your perfect match, and when you’re with him you know you want to be with him for a life time? The only problem is his penis is either too small or too large for you to have a complete sexual experience? Do you move on or do you find a way to make it work?

 

I think the key phrase in your question is: " to have a complete sexual experience." Doesn't this vary with each individual?

I suspect that what would be a complete sexual experience for me would not satisfy many posters on this forum. If size is a deal maker or deal killer in your complete sexual experience, then be honest with yourself and potential life-partners, and try to find the right guy with the right size.

If your question is purely theoretical, then my answer above is enough. But if you are asking because you find yourself in that position, then you might consider this:

After reading your question again and again, I wonder if you will ever find the right, or rather perfect, guy? Is it possible you have the romantic notion that there is that ONE perfect guy out there, and all you have to do is find him? You might just have to compromise---and after all isn't that what relationships (long-term, or life-long) are all about?