How long do I wait?

[unsub2O17]

I have now tried three times to hook up with this very popular and desirable (to me) escort. The first two times he got back to me with, what I thought, were appropriate and honest reasons why we couldn't get together right then. I wrote him again a week ago stating that I would drive to his home city at a time when his calendar said that he would be there. I specified a 2 hour appointment. I gave a suggested time and offered three possible dates. As of this posting, I have not heard back from him. It really is OK if he doesn't want to meet me. But I would like to know so I can move on. So, the question is: how long do I wait before I give up on this guy?

[maxwellissmart]

I have now tried three times to hook up with this very popular and desirable (to me) escort. The first two times he got back to me with, what I thought, were appropriate and honest reasons why we couldn't get together right then. I wrote him again a week ago stating that I would drive to his home city at a time when his calendar said that he would be there. I specified a 2 hour appointment. I gave a suggested time and offered three possible dates. As of this posting, I have not heard back from him. It really is OK if he doesn't want to meet me. But I would like to know so I can move on. So, the question is: how long do I wait before I give up on this guy?

 

Who is it? You never know—his press agent may be on here and give you a lengthy and detailed explanation about how he's überbusy and super-focused right now on his hamster, Miss Sasha.

[josephga]

I say pick up the phone don't text or email. pick up the phone call him, have a time in mind when you call to set up something. if he has nothing available ask when will he? if he doesn't answer when you call leave a voice mail if he doesn't contact you back in a few days move on

[RockHard]

Life is too short and the clock is ticking.

 

Since you're on your third attempt, maybe the escort has branded you a flake, a liar, or a time waster. It happens. And some escorts don't realize that premature judgments will never feed the bottom line.

 

Maybe I've been running a business too many years, but I do not understand the patience of the horny-focused-on-one-person. I cannot, will not tolerate slow people. I don't wait for return calls or stand in lines.

 

The first sign in business that you are dealing with an unprofessional: FAILURE TO FOLLOW UP in a timely fashion. Too many escorts think that money should roll in simply by snapping fingers. Some never realize that sometimes you have to dance with a customer to sell a high-priced item. (Ever see "Say Yes To The Dress?)

 

Many escorts are too lazy and have a limited work ethic. Or they do escorting on the side, which means the details suffer.

 

How long should you wait for this guy? I would have been long gone before you took the time to write this post.

[Steven_Draker]

Unsub2O17,

Follow Joseph's advice -- pick up the phone and give this escort a call. There might be different reasons to why he hasn't returned your third inquiry ... and we can speculate about it till tomorrow.

 

Show some interest but not too much. Escorts don't like stalkers or enamored/obsessed clients.

 

If you think he has flagged you as such, you don't have to tell him on the phone that you tried to hook with him three times already.

 

Good luck.

[rguer]

Follow Joseph's advice -- pick up the phone and give this escort a call. There might be different reasons to why he hasn't returned your third inquiry ... and we can speculate about it till tomorrow.

 

When you go on vacation or are otherwise off work for a few days, what do you do? Do you check voicemail and email and text messages, or do you let them wait until you get back? Do you normally put vacation messages on your voicemail, and autoreplies on email and text?

[jjkrkwood]

Review the tone and content of your initial contact, and then the subsequent ones. Be objective and see it they could be perceived by HIM as obsessive or insincere or flakey. I dont blame escorts for being "cautious" in their responses. I believe an initial contact should merely be that, a neutral short intro as to who you are and what you want. No need to say too much at this point. When he replies, then you can get into "particulars"

[gcursor]

It sounds like how I was only a year ago. Maybe this is me from a year ago that I'm talking to! OH NO!

 

If it were me Unsub then it would be time to move on but it's understandably difficult. As this is a service industry, you need to think about what you would do if a car mechanic wouldn't call you back or a doctor, etc. The escort may be very busy or on vacation or a million other things and he will get back to you if he wants the business. If he does eventually respond and you've already done the date then maybe see if you can set up a time with him for the next time.

 

Right now, you are pursuing the escort which puts people in a difficult position. I would either relax and see if he gets back to you in a week or so or seek out somebody new.

[+ sf westcoaster]

Move on! The escort is in a service business and apparently is not interested in providing the service.

[+ purplekow]

Three strikes and he is out of there. Move on to the next big dick or hot ass or muscular body. Variety is the spice of our lives so no sense waiting for Godot. SPOILER ALERT .................Godot is a no show. ..............................................

[unsub2O17]

Thank you all so much for your different takes on what, I suspect, is a fairly common issue. The problem I see with phoning him is that he responded so quickly to an email the first two times that, if it were me, I would then be "sure" that I was being stalked (he already knows my phone # and email address). I did do what JJ recommended and, you know what? I did give way too many particulars for a first contact. So, he's either on vacation or he just doesn't want anything to do with me. So, gcursor, seems to have a good plan of action to me. Thank you all again.

[rvwnsd]

I have now tried three times to hook up with this very popular and desirable (to me) escort. The first two times he got back to me with, what I thought, were appropriate and honest reasons why we couldn't get together right then...

 

I would move on. He has told you twice he "couldn't get together right then." If he has not suggested an alternate time, he might not wish to take you on as a client.

[unsub2O17]

Like Steven said. At this point, I could guess at his motives forever. If he ever does contact me, I'll let you all know.

[GuntherCory]

Like Steven said. At this point, I could guess at his motives forever. If he ever does contact me, I'll let you all know.

 

I'd give him one more chance, via the phone. Be friendly and forthcoming about your interest in seeing him, and if he is unavailable AGAIN, punch and delete. There are too many cuties out there to wait on one difficult-to-hire escort, forever.