R.I.P. Whitney Houston

[Epigonos]

I find all of this talk about what a great tragedy Whitney Huston’s death was for the music world and her fans and how she will be remember forever – bullshit. In a week or in a month or in a year or in five years the music world and her fans will have forgotten her and moved on to the next sensation.

The real tragedy that substance abusers do is to their family. All the wonderful memories she left her adoring public can’t possibly equal the horrible memories she left her teenage daughter. First the child and then the teenager had to watch her mother destroy herself and she will be burdened with those memories the rest of HER life. The sad thing a child quickly learns, in dealing with a substance abusive parent, is that the parent cares far more about his/her next drink, his/her next fix or his/her next pain killer than he/she does about you. Having grown up with an alcoholic parent makes it extremely difficult for me to feel much sympathy for Whitney Huston but I do have an ocean of sympathy for her daughter.

[bigvalboy]

Expertly stated Epigonos...

[+ Axiom2001]

I'm so sorry she couldn't conquer those demons. No judgement here - "there but for the grace of God.."

 

...wonderful words, Glutes!

[TruthBTold]

Okay... I am not exactly a fun hater here... please help me out here... she gave us what example? another blessed talent gone to the grave by crack and meth and whatever~ Amazing talent yes... wasted... I have to cast the vote of yes there too~ Why are our modern day heros those who have had exceptional talent but then gave it all up by destroying their own lives? Judy garland, Michael jackson, Kurt Cobain,

 

Tyger, I certainly know what you mean. Some of the greatest, for whatever reason, just cannot keep their lives in order. But there are plenty that do and ironically these include many around Whitney Houston - Dionne Warwick, Cissy Houston, Aretha Franklin. Of course, it is the same in many families. Why does one sibling descend into addiction while the rest spend happy, unaddicted lives trying to help the sibling. I wish we knew more about addiction and could do more to help.

[maxwellissmart]

Tyger, I certainly know what you mean. Some of the greatest, for whatever reason, just cannot keep their lives in order. But there are plenty that do and ironically these include many around Whitney Houston - Dionne Warwick, Cissy Houston, Aretha Franklin. Of course, it is the same in many families. Why does one sibling descend into addiction while the rest spend happy, unaddicted lives trying to help the sibling. I wish we knew more about addiction and could do more to help.

 

If anything, I think WH is a prime example of how satisfaction and happiness are not found solely in fame, money or performance. Like the Demotivator poster of the ship going down says: "It could be that your life serves as a warning to others." Sure, she made some great music and had a lovely, unreal voice and a singular talent. But what's the more important lesson to be learned from the person WE know as as Whitney Houston? It's probably: don't end up high or drunk in a bathtub full of water—because as unreal as your talent may be, it's not going to save you. And you don't want that as your defining moment.

[JoeBlow]

It's easy to sit and judge; but only God knows what was going thru her mind, the struggles and true circumstances of her life and the matters of her heart... She is gone. All that matters to me now is remembering her musical gift to the world. R.I.P Whitney.

[maxwellissmart]

I find all of this talk about what a great tragedy Whitney Huston’s death was for the music world and her fans and how she will be remember forever – bullshit. In a week or in a month or in a year or in five years the music world and her fans will have forgotten her and moved on to the next sensation.

 

In all honesty I was both surprised and disappointed at the utter lack of radio response to her death. I went through every single radio station expecting there to be either someone talking about her or a song playing—and there was zilch, except for the gay DJ playing a dance version of "I Wanna Dance With Somebody."

[+ Tygerscent]

Here~! Here~! and Bravo Epigonos~ I am all with you on this~ The list of drug dead tragedies in my life is waaaaay to long~ It's painful to see great people with great potential and great talent obliterated by drugs~ It just seems so odd that we idolize these people~ If you have ever had to go thru the scenario of living with, growing up under, burying people like this it's not quite so "beautiful" anymore~

Anyone ever watch "Shameless"? Imagine that being your real daily life and more~ ...and that actually is some people's daily life. It shouldn't be but, it is~

Glorifying it somehow seems wrong to me... kind of enabling the situation~

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I find all of this talk about what a great tragedy Whitney Huston’s death was for the music world and her fans and how she will be remember forever – bullshit. In a week or in a month or in a year or in five years the music world and her fans will have forgotten her and moved on to the next sensation.

The real tragedy that substance abusers do is to their family. All the wonderful memories she left her adoring public can’t possibly equal the horrible memories she left her teenage daughter. First the child and then the teenager had to watch her mother destroy herself and she will be burdened with those memories the rest of HER life. The sad thing a child quickly learns, in dealing with a substance abusive parent, is that the parent cares far more about his/her next drink, his/her next fix or his/her next pain killer than he/she does about you. Having grown up with an alcoholic parent makes it extremely difficult for me to feel much sympathy for Whitney Huston but I do have an ocean of sympathy for her daughter.

[+ Tygerscent]

Yes~ I agree... learning more about addiction might be helpful~ and yes, there are many people who have overcome great obstacles and become so very much more~ (Patty LaBelle, Tony Bennet, Julia Roberts, Red Skelton, Barbara Stanwyck, all kinds of people...). I wonder why we do not immortalize the success stories more then the tragedies~?

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Tyger, I certainly know what you mean. Some of the greatest, for whatever reason, just cannot keep their lives in order. But there are plenty that do and ironically these include many around Whitney Houston - Dionne Warwick, Cissy Houston, Aretha Franklin. Of course, it is the same in many families. Why does one sibling descend into addiction while the rest spend happy, unaddicted lives trying to help the sibling. I wish we knew more about addiction and could do more to help.

[+ Tygerscent]

or others growing up behind us defining their future moments by that defining moment example~

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If anything, I think WH is a prime example of how satisfaction and happiness are not found solely in fame, money or performance. Like the Demotivator poster of the ship going down says: "It could be that your life serves as a warning to others." Sure, she made some great music and had a lovely, unreal voice and a singular talent. But what's the more important lesson to be learned from the person WE know as as Whitney Houston? It's probably: don't end up high or drunk in a bathtub full of water—because as unreal as your talent may be, it's not going to save you. And you don't want that as your defining moment.

[Luv2play]

I was never really a fan of Witney Huston's music. That stated, I recognized she had a very gifted voice and she had some great material to work with. To me she was like Celine Dion, another female vocalist with a great voice and who sold even more albums than Whitney (200 million to 170 million). My favorite female singers over the years were not superstars for the most part but recognizable names who made great pop music, at least to me.

 

It is obvious that drugs played a big part in her premature death, if not the actual cause. I too have witnessed many people succumb to drugs at an early age; it is always tragic. Having lived through the period when powder cocaine was the drug of choice by those with money, I witnessed it first hand in parties in Manhattan and Los Angeles in the '80's when people got absolutely wasted. I always stood apart, like Nick Carraway in The Great Gatsby, observing the follies of the rich and deluded. I stuck to my vodka and tonic.

 

Later on, I saw what crack cocaine did to people that I knew and loved. It was even worse, in a way. One person I was particularly close to became an addict, crossed with alcohol, and he eventually became paranoid delusional, at the age of 31. He went into rehab and he seems to be clean these days;we correspond only by e-mail. He is doing art, which I always encouraged him to do, and is staging shows of his work in Montreal. I must have 25 to thirty of his works, a few of which I have in various rooms in my house, and others hanging in my garage.

 

When someone high profile dies because of drugs, I think of my friends, just ordinary people, who have also struggled with the demon, some successfully, others not. There is no easy answer.